Why not err on the side of caution and give your date another go?

Here are 6 reasons why you should go on a second date, even if the first date was meh.

1. It might have been an off day 

We all have off days, where we are just not your true selves. Give your date the benefit of the doubt, they might have not been their best for whatever the reason. Or maybe it was their day off. A stressful day at work, an argument with a friend or family member could have thrown them off their ‘game’. We are not talking about rude or concerning behaviour; trust your instincts.

Sometimes it takes more than one date to know if you are compatible with someone, so a second date is not a bad idea.

2. Nerves could have been the culprit

Everyone, no matter how confident, feels nervous on their first date. Nerves can cause shyness, awkwardness which can throw off the chemistry between two people

3. Second dates are more relaxing

The pressure is off and now you can relax and enjoy your date; letting your true self transpire.

4. You have the chance to dig deeper

Second dates allow you to ask more meaningful questions and get a feel for your date’s personality. Typically, on a second date, you drop off your guard, open up and are more vulnerable. Which will lead to a more deep and meaningful conversation.

5. Second dates will avoid the “what if”

6. How do you know if you should have a second date

You need to go on a second date if you answer these questions with a ‘yes’:

• Was there a little chemistry ?

• Did the conversation flow?

• Did your date focus on you?

If you answer ‘yes’ to all three, a second date might be a good idea. 

H/T Hellogiggles

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First dates are really important, it’s all about making the right impression and it’s really scary because things could go wrong or not. First dates are probably one of the most terrifying things we do. Do you know what is even more important on a first date? Is to find out as much as you can about the person you’re out with. It might seem awkward at first and this is why we’re thought of 6 questions that might get you started. 6 questions you should ask on your first date…

What do you ask someone you are dating for the first time? Here are 6 questions you should ask on your first date because the answers to them can be quite revealing.

1. Ask about their beliefs/values and priorities

It doesn’t have to be anything too serious. It could be questions on the line of; ‘ What do you like to do, how do you spend your time, what makes you happy?’ If you like, they can be more in-depth questions but maybe save them for another date.

The answers to these questions should tell you quite a lot about the person you’re on a date with. True compatibility comes in matching values, beliefs and priorities mixed with chemistry.

2. Ask them how they spend their weekend

Finding out how they spend their free time or busy time, will help you find out about their interests, priorities and socialisation habits. All are important to find out about to decide whether you are compatible or not. If they are an outdoor type of person who likes to spend time fishing, surfing and kayaking. You, on the other hand, like to chill and binge-watch Netflix. This could become a problem…

3. Ask about their regrets

By sharing embarrassing moments and regrets, the other person becomes more vulnerable and this is a way to build intimacy. Intimacy is a key player in a long and lasting relationship.

4. Ask them if they make their bed every morning

If you are a neat freak this is going to matter because nobody wants to be picking up after the other person. How they answer will give you insight into their need to have order, organisation. It also tells you whether they are a morning person or not.

5. Ask about their worse date 

Hopefully, you won’t hear- “This is the worst date I’ve been on”. Otherwise, this question can lead to a few laughs and it’ll give you an indication whether they have a good sense of humour. Being able to laugh at life and its many awkward moments is really important. We have all experienced a terrible first date and on the hindsight, they are hilarious when you re-tell them. They make for great ice-breakers too.

6. Ask about their family

This question will tell who they are closets within their family or if they are close at all. It might reveal whether relationships are important to them or not.

Hopefully, these questions will give you enough o work with on your next first date and maybe help you find your perfect match. Good luck.

Featured photo by Korney Violin on Unsplash

H/T HelloGiggles

We are nearing the end of the year and there’s no better time to prepare for next year than now. Most of us are well versed with dating terms like ghosting, stashing or catfishing. However, there are a whole lot of new dating terms daters need to know for 2020.

If you want to know what to look out for on the dating scene in 2020, including what to avoid. You need to read POF ‘s new dating trends list for the upcoming year they unveiled to the MailOnline, from ‘Yellow Carding’ to ‘White Clawing’. Here are 10 new dating terms you’ll be seeing in 2020 dating scene. Following are the 10 dating trends you need to know for 2020.

1.“White Clawing”

Is the act of staying with someone you find basic and boring just because you find them attractive.

2.“Yellow Carding”

Have you ever called someone for their bad behaviour or dating etiquette? This is called “yellow-carding” just like in a soccer game a player is cautioned or given a yellow card as a warning.

3.“Type-casting”

If you are someone who chooses someone to date based only on their personality type, love languages, or horoscope sign then you are guilty of ‘type-casting’.

4.“Dial toning”

It’s very similar to ghosting, where someone gives you their number, then ignores every text, call you ever send them. When you dial-tone someone, you give them your phone number, but you never reply.

5.“Cause-playing”

Where a casual relationship ends, but the person circles back to ask you a favour, like using a good cause like a charity or GofundMe link to get back in touch. A really annoying thing to do.

6.“Eclipsing”

Where you take on the interests and hobbies of the person you’re dating and pretend you’ve always liked them too.

7.“Glamboozed”

Getting all made up to go out on a date only to be cancelled on or stood up at the last minute. If you’ve glammed up only to be cancelled on at the last minute, you’ve been ‘glamboozled’.

8.“Kanye’d”

When your date spends the whole time talking about themselves. If that happens you got Kanye’d.

9. “Fleabagging”

This dating term is for anyone who consistently pics the wrong person.

10. “Falshpanning”

When trouble arises in a relationship a flashpanner will jump ship as things get tough.

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You probably heard of ‘Ghosting’, right? When a person you know falls off the face of the earth without any explanation. Odds are that if you are still dating, you have probably been ghosted and it is totally awful.

Since we are way into 2019, here is a list of the new dating trends you need to know. Let’s list of dating terms in no particular order, but one thing is for sure they all suck.

Trickle Ghosting

Trickle Ghosting got its name on a Reddit thread and describes the situation when you think everything is going great. Slowly but surely, you watch the person in question slowly and gently retreat. They’re progressively less and less available. They don’t text you back for days working slowly their way towards ghosting you. This is also known as the Slow Fade. It’s less aggressive than the other awful dating trends, it still hurts. This gif describes this behaviour well.

FLEXING

Showing off and bragging about “coolness” and wealth is called Flexing, and as you already know, it’s never a good look. Steer away from these types.

POCKETING

This is when your partner doesn’t want you around their family and other important people in their life. Which means they don’t see a future with you. They are obviously wasting your time. Unless you, too, are just in it for the thrill. Literally another term for stashing. When your love interest appears to be in no hurry to seriously commit.

CLOAKING

Cloaking is when your date stands you up, and then proceeds to block you on all communication platforms with no explanation whatsoever. You’ve been blocked.  What sleazy move.

COOKIE JARRING

When you discover your love interest has been dating someone else the whole time and you were the backup option.  If you notice that your date surfaces once in a while – you’re the cookie they keep around for when they want something a little different.

YOU-TURNING

Everyone has had a moment in a relationship or while simply seeing someone new when something unpleasant happens or you realize there’s a massive red flag, and you get the hell out of there real fast. That’s a You-Turn, just like the car maneuver. This is probably not a bad dating skill to have, really.

PAPER-CLIPPING

 

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Remember the annoying Microsoft assistant “Clippy” that would pop up out of nowhere around your screen?

Brooklyn-based illustrator linked Clippy, the ‘not so helpful’ virtual assistant who would randomly pop up in older versions of Microsoft Office, to people who just won’t disappear after a breakup, with an animated paper clip saying things like “The truth is, I’m damaged, flaky and not particularly interested in you,” and “But I don’t want you to forget I exist.” That’s how the act of disappearing and then reappearing out of nowhere months later got its name.

GHOSTING

Oh, yeah ghosting. This cowardly move involves having the person you’ve been dating suddenly stop talking to you with no explanation whatsoever. No text, no call, nothing. Much like a magician’s disappearing act, poof. They’re gone. Assuming Ghosters disappear for the sole purpose of avoiding the “This isn’t working out” talk. This is pretty low, everyone needs closure and communicating that you don’t think this is a relationship for you is hard but a necessary part of dating.

HAUNTING

This is a creepy one. Haunting is when someone from your romantic past lingers in your digital present by occasionally watching your Instagram or Snapchat story, or sporadically liking your posts. They act like a ghost that keeps coming back to haunt you. So creepy and absolutely stupid.

BENCHING

This is when your romantic interest leads you on for a while but doesn’t really do much to take the relationship anywhere. However, they lead you on. They keep you on the bench until or unless you’re needed in desperate times. Almost like you’re second best and case something goes wrong with their main interest then you’re in.

BREAD-CRUMBING

Breadcrumbing is when someone shows you just enough interest to string you along by making you feel like they might be interested, and that’s it. A flirty text every now and then or a cute Snapchat, but it never leads anywhere. It’s pretty deceiving and dishonest to string someone on when they fully know nothing will come out of it.

STASHING

Have you ever dated someone where you saw them regularly, texted all the time, and had a great time together, but never met their friends or were otherwise never a visible part of their life?

That’s called Stashing. It’s when the person doesn’t introduce you to friends or family, doesn’t post pictures of you on social media. They keep you separate from their life in order to date other people as well? Or worse keep you and their spouse from finding out about one another. Not good, very deceitful.

ZOMBIE-ING

Basically, your love interest comes back from the dead to haunt you. They might blame something happening in their personal life or work to explain their absence.  They suddenly rise from the dead and texts you with a “Hey, how have you been??” like nothing’s wrong. We suggest deleting the texts and ignoring their calls immediately because someone who ghosted you once will probably do it again.

H/T Maxim

When it comes to dating, confidence is one of the sexiest traits a person can have. Keeping that confidence up is sometimes a struggle. Especially, after going on several dates where nothing panned out. It can do a number on your self-esteem.

Failed dates can result in some negative beliefs to crop up and often people start believing them. Don’t!  Beliefs such as, “I’ll never find my soulmate.”, “Nobody is going to ever love me”, “I’m destined to be alone”, are soul destroying and confidence killers.

These beliefs are dangerous because they become embedded in our psychic and will translate in how we see yourselves, even in the way we present ourselves and that’s how we shut down new possibilities.

Be confident in projecting who you really are and believe that there is someone who wants you and who deserves you.

That’s why confidence is so very important. When you are confident in yourself and your ability to attract the right person for you, dating becomes more fun.

So, here are 5 scientific backed up ways to become more confident in your dating life.

1. Wear a colour that you love and makes you feel sexy

You must have heard by now that wearing the colour red can make you look more attractive and increase your sex appeal. In a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, found that wearing the colour red can influence how you feel about yourself. In this study, participants who wore red felt more “physically attractive and sexually receptive” than those who wore blue. The explanation is engrained in psychology. Since people typically associate red with passion and desire, those who wore red felt more attractive because they subconsciously “knew” they would be perceived as more attractive.

Simple, invest in a red dress or top or bring out that red dress or top hiding in your wardrobe and put it on. Be a confident and sexy person other people perceive you to be.

2. Wear perfume on your date

There’s nothing more seductive than catching that beautiful aroma from your date. When you smell good, you feel good and your body language will display confidence.

Perfume is confidence in a bottle. In a study published by journal Neurobiology of Sensation and Reward, 90% of women in a study reported feeling more confident when they wore perfume.

Put on your favourite perfume before you head out on a date because you’ll feel confident and your date will pick up on your vibes.

3. Listen to music as you get ready for your date

A study in 2014 in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science found that listening to music can increase your confidence levels and make you feel well more ‘powerful’. What is interesting is that songs that were bass-heavy left participants feeling and acting more confident.

Play some tunes before your date and feel and act more confident as a result.

4. Strike a pose in front of your mirror before you go out

Sounds silly, but according to a study by social psychologist, Amy Cuddy, body language can shape your mind, fundamentally how you perceive yourself.

Participants, in the study, were asked to hold a ‘high-power pose’, which is more open and wider, while others were asked to do a ‘low-power pose’, which involved leaning in with legs crossed. Everyone was told to hold these poses for a couple of minutes.

Interesting to see is that high-power posers saw an increase in their testosterone levels and decrease in their cortisol levels. There you have it, holding a high-power pose for two minutes will help you focus on your strengths, which then leads to a boost in your confidence.

5. Think back to an occasion when you felt good about yourself

A study published in the Journal of Experimental Society Psychology found that ‘power-priming’ yourself before an important date or event can help you feel and act confident.

All you have to think about a time when you felt confident and really good about yourself before an important event. Think about that time when you felt powerful and bring back those feelings to the present. This is a useful strategy for first dates, job interviews or a presentation.

Try out some of these tips to build your confidence and keeping it up while making dating fun again.

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H/T: Bustle

It’s actually great that you are single at this very moment. It’s only the beginning of 2019 and a lot is going to happen, especially in the love department. Seriously, now it’s a great time for you to give yourself time to reflect on what went wrong in 2018 and the lessons you learned. So, here are 10 indisputable reasons why it’s great to be single in 2019. Seriously, you should feel legit happy to not be romantically tied down to someone. Prepare to be totally validated for ridin’ solo.

1. Tidy up your home/apartment.

You can use all the time you want to “Marie Kondo” the shit out of your apartment. Watch her magic, she is absolutely amazing if you want to get your shit organised.

2. You can blast your Spotify collection to your heart’s content.

You can blast “Shallow” on repeat at home without having to justify your choice of Spotify bops.

3. Getting your beauty sleep

You probably are getting more sleep. It’s way easier to go nighty-night without tussling over who is hogging the comforter or blanket.

4. Going to the gym more

You can get those feel-good hormones-  endorphins in other ways besides sex. More time for the gym and spontaneous walks, increase endorphin production.

5. Do more of the things you enjoy

You can actually start that book, Netflix series or song, or whatever you haven’t had time to do, and just because you want to.

6. You can eat your ice cream

You can eat your ice-cream straight from the container without being roasted.

7. You can indulge in some solo-play

You have time to spend on solo pleasure and also sample that amazing sex toy you had your eye on for a while.

8. Don’t have to fight what show you’re going to watch

You don’t have to fight with anyone over your next Netflix binge, at all. Win!

9.  No guilt about flirting randoms

No guilt flirting. Now that’s real freedom. Never to have to look over your shoulder.

10. You got your bed all to yourself

You can sprawl across your bed and don’t need to worry about someone stealing the covers. Eat in bed and not have to wear your sexy underwear. Simple pleasures!

There’s no hurry, the year has just started. You need time to look back at last year and see where things didn’t go so well and learn from previous mistakes. Plus there are things you can enjoy while you are single that you can’t when you are in a relationship.

1.Get over the panic motions

Better before rather than during your date. Yes, you are going to panic because ‘brains’. You are going to second guess yourself at every step, ‘what if’… Once you realise that you just can’t preempt everything then you become more practical and start going through the steps you need to make yourself look irresistible.

2. Check your date on social media

A bit of research or stalking, depending on how you look at it, will help you get a bit of an idea of what your date is into. It’ll give you a good grasp of what they like to talk about, the movies they like to watch and the food they like to eat. Or you could leave it to the element of surprise.

3. Wear your best underwear

Not saying that you’re going to get lucky, but if you do, you were prepared. If not, knowing that you have great underwear on will make you feel good and boost your confidence.

4. Groom yourself

Turn up looking your best. Don’t show up with unsightly bodily hair, bleeding scab, shirt stain or smudged makeup making you feel self-conscious. Shave areas that you want to be shaven, deodorise and brush your hair. This is a date and for better chances at acing it, smell good and look good.

5. Brush your teeth

Shouldn’t even need mentioning. Your smile can win hearts. You never know you might score a pash but if you have a residue of garlic or yellow grimy teeth, your date is going to RUN.

6.  Wear something sexy

Word of caution, sexy absolutely, but not too tight or risk suffering a wardrobe malfunction and watch your bum crack pop.  Yeah, hopefully, you have something that can cover that up. Wear something sexy but also comfortable.

7. Social lubrication – have a little to loosen up

Your nerves need a little soothing, so have a drink before your date. Think how much better conversation flows when you’ve had a drink, skip the awkwardness and start strong. But keep to one drink because you don’t want to come across as a drunk-slob.

8. Get everything out of your system

Sometimes nerves just get you so wind up that your whole system gets blocked up. Then is best that you get everything out of your system before your date. Yeah, yeah, it’s all natural but it still remains awkward to be absent for longer than 10 minutes while your date waits. If you can, get matters sorted before you leave to your date.

9. Turn off notification alerts on your phone

Aside from it being distracting, it is plain rude to keep looking at your phone. Answer a call or worse get caught swiping right on your phone. Want to impress your date give them your undivided attention.

10. Keep some hard cash on you

Be prepared for anything. Really anything, even paying with cold, hard cash. Do not utter “I’ve only got my card’  you are going to look like an a-hole.

Now have a wonderful Valentine’s Day.

Let’s look at why the older men make you experience sex at a new level and you’ll be back for more….

Are you thinking in dipping your toes into dating more mature men? It might just be exactly what you have been looking for….

There are things that get better with age, and men are one of them. Like older women, older men are the best for a naughty date.

Although dating younger men can be fun and exciting, their sexual journey has just started. It takes time, practice and knowledge to perfect the technique of lovemaking, and the older men sure have had enough time to perfect their technique. They understand the female pleasure and care to please their partners.

With an experience man or older man, women will have the cake and eat it too. Older men will focus on you in bed, selflessly ensuring you have an orgasm. They are firm believers that sex should be pleasurable for both.

Let’s look at the little things that older men do that sets them apart from the younger lovers and why older men are the best for a naughty date.

1. Your pleasure comes first and often

With an older man, your pleasure is top priority. He’s not in a hurry, he wants to please you. After years of practice, he knows his way around the female anatomy. He may help you discover parts you didn’t even know you had and achieve orgasms you haven’t experienced yet. He’ll have a dance with you without feeling he has lost his masculinity.

2. Appreciate the varied form of women

Older men have been around. They have learned that women come in many different packages, and they love all of the varied tastes and they appreciate the curves of a woman’s body.  Older men are not looking for perfection but are looking for a perfect encounter with a perfect pleasurable outcome to all involved.  They allow women to feel more relaxed and feel sexier.

3. He knows how to go down on a woman

They’ve had enough time to practice that’s all. Practice makes orgasms, or however the saying goes…..wink, wink

Women learn to master blow jobs early in their sexual lives but guys typically don’t figure out till much later that women enjoy oral sex too. Older man, are more attentive lovers because they’ve learned to listen and know that each and every woman is different when it comes to experiencing pleasure.

4. Sex is amazing with older men

Whilst sex might not last quite as long as it would  with a younger man, when it comes to experience, older men know where it’s at.

5. Open to experiment

Older gents know that sex is not confined to missionary only. They have a broader view of what sex entails. Whether you want to try a bit of kink, a new toy, a threesome or some light BDSM, or new positions that work best for you he will indulge you. More likely than not, he has had some experience in some of the fantasies you want to try out. He also understands that trying new things in bed are just a fun way to enhance everyone’s pleasure.

6. He paces himself

He is well aware of the orgasm gap and actively tries to pace himself so he can finish either with or after you. If he does finish before you,  he’s sure to spend time pleasuring you before calling it quits or rolls over.

The hot silver fox who is ready, willing and able to hold a woman in full, is possibly your next adventure. It’s not a stretch to say that there are many women out there who wouldn’t trade a silver fox for a young bench pressed surfer boy. As with all things sexual, desiring an older man comes down to personal taste and at the stage you are in life, it’s very relative.

No man is perfect but those of us who prefer a mature man know they offer something younger men can’t, not yet anyway. our contemporaries just don’t have.

Would you snag yourself a ‘sliver fox’?

Share your comments why older men are more desirable …

They are often referred to as Cougars, silly nicknames aside, dating an older woman, could be the best dating decision you ever make.

There are plenty of solid reasons to date older women that have nothing to do with just how fabulous they look. Here are all the reasons why she’s the best woman to date:

1. She knows what she wants

With age, women understand themselves better. They understand their emotions, their bodies and what they want better. They have had plenty of time to figure out what’s most important to her.

She knows what, how and when she wants something. She has no time for games, if she’s interested in some bedroom play and you are her lucky pick, it’s on for sure. She does not second guess herself. She will tell you, clearly, what she wants in the bedroom, how she’s going to get it. There’s nothing sexier than a woman who is confident and fearless.

2. She’s sexy

This is a woman who knows her body, her desires and when she fancies to try out a fantasy, she’s serious about it. Sexiness isn’t defined by the body alone. Sexiness comes with age. Older women know how to be sexier. Celebrities who prove older women are sexy as hell are; Sharon Stone, Kelly Preston, Kathy Ireland, Nigella Lawson, Elle MacPherson, Vanessa Williams, Michelle Pfeiffer, Elizabeth Hurley and the list goes on.

3. She’s confident in herself and who she is

Older women are not hangup on body issues, they understand that their flaws are just signs of a life well-lived.  Jane Fonda, once said: “It’s impossible to be truly intimate with someone if you don’t like yourself.” Words well spoken.

At a certain age, you come to appreciate your body and sexual appeal. You’re sexually confident with what you like and open to experiment with fantasies without hangups.

4. She knows what she wants in bed and will ask for it 

They’ve not only lost their inhibitions, they feel freed from the awkward sexual encounters of their youth. Older women like sex because it’s not only about fulfilling their partner, it’s about their own fulfilment and during their lovemaking, they do not stress about how their body looks. They focus on the experience and the sensation along the way. They focus on their sexual urges and desires.

5. She’s experienced

Experience in the field of work is important, as it is in your sex life too. Older women know what turns them on, what and how they like to be pleasured. Most important they are not shy in asking what they like. They have tried a few things out and they can teach a younger partner a thing or two. What else can a young man ask for?

6. She’s independent

She knows the importance of not losing yourself in the other person. Instead, it’s better to love each other while giving each other the room to grow and flourish. Younger women and men get so possessive of each other unwittingly suffocating their chance to grow as individuals and as a couple together.

Older women want you, but she doesn’t need you.

7. She’s truly free to be herself

She seeks out relationships for no other reason other than pleasure. She is not worried about commitment/marriage, kids and stability, she has been through all of these and they are not a priority to her any longer. She has all her attention to fulfilling her fantasies, her desires and indulging in her pleasures, to have fun with you.

8. She wants to make you a better lover for her and your future lovers

She will make you a better man. She will teach you that women are exquisite creatures who are so much more than their visual bodies. They have desires and sexual cravings, that once divulged can make your life a hell of a ride. They will teach you to become the best lovers, to listen and to pay attention to your woman’s bodies and minds. Your sex life with her will be unforgettable but the lessons you take from her will be forever.

Guys, there are so many sexy older women on RHP, ask them out before someone else beats you to it.

“Oh god, not another first date article. This is the 20th one I’ve read online this week.”

I’m right there with you. I’m tired of seeing generic first date tips such as “be positive, be yourself, and be nice to the wait staff.”

You met on RHP, so what you’re most likely looking for is how to set the mood for what’s to come next … How to nail your first date is not as hard as you think, but is all about small detail.

Let’s talk about some actually useful tips for a first date.

Get closer

There are different levels of personal space. As you get physically closer to someone, it feels more and more intimate for the both of you. When a woman accepts you being in her close, personal space, she will subconsciously feel more comfortable around you. That comfort then paves the way for attraction.
Sit next to her at dinner or drinks rather than across the table. Whenever you’re sitting together (on a bench, on the ground, in a cab) position yourself so that your bodies are touching or nearly touching.
The worst thing you can do is maintain an awkward distance from her. This can actually cause feelings of unfamiliarity and defensiveness.

If you treat her like a stranger, she’s going to feel like a stranger.

Stop trying to prove yourself

So you’ve got a date with a beautiful woman. You’re thinking, “How do I win her over? How do I convince her I’m good enough? How do I not fuck this up?”

If that’s your thought process, you’ve already lost. Your desperate mindset will be painfully obvious: you’ll be timid, put her on a pedestal, and pay her excessive compliments.

Keep in mind that she’s also on RHP, and she chose to go on a date with you, so she’s already open to being romantic.

Your mindset should be:

“Who is she? What does she like? What are her fantasies? Is she worth my time, energy, and investment?”

This involves speaking less and listening more. Slow down. Let her do most of the talking and take the pressure off of yourself. Ask more direct questions that help you screen for the qualities you desire in a woman.

Use the environment to your advantage

Don’t just go for dinner or coffee because it’s “what people do”. In fact, those venues can be a sure way to put you in the friend zone.

Do something you’ll actually enjoy and that helps the date go smoothly. Bonus points if it’s a shared commonality.
You should pick something that creates a sense of fun or adventure. Anything that makes you laugh or generates positive emotions will alleviate nervous tension.

Examples: arcade, go-karts, dancing, comedy show

Move with her

You want to lead a woman on an experience with you throughout the date. Don’t start and end the date in the same venue.

There are three important reasons for changing venues. It…

1. Creates a memorable adventure. Different settings and activities makes it feel like you spent more time together than you actually did. She’s also more likely to remember this special journey with you.

2. Gets her to invest in you. We place a higher value on things we invest in. If she accepts your lead, she’ll feel more trusting and comfortable with you.

3. Allows for more privacy and intimacy. You’re probably not going to kiss her or talk about personal subjects at the coffee club with 20 people around.

Have her accept her feelings for you

You’re on a DATE with a girl and you want a romantic connection, right? For that to happen, the girl needs to accept you as a potential intimate partner. She needs to admit to you and to herself that she sees you that way.

Do this by getting her to show interest in you or return your flirtatious advances. This can be though spoken or non-spoken cues. But you need to lead it there by flirting first.

• Give her a seductive look. Prolonged eye contact, devilish smirks, and biting your lip show your intentions. If she returns these non-verbal cues, it’s on.

• Pay her a bold compliment. Saying something like, “Are you always this cute?” or “I think it’s sexy you’re so dedicated to your career.”  If she accepts them or returns a compliment, “Yeah, are you always that handsome in a polo?” or “Well I think it’s sexy you just said that.”, she’s returning that interest.

• Roleplaying and discussing the future (playfully). Making lighthearted statements about you two being together after the date can cement things in her mind. This also removes the feeling of you as strangers. You can jokingly talk about your upcoming vacation plans together, her being your new legal secretary, or even getting married in Vegas.

• Get into more intimate topics. When she’s talking about sex with you, that means she’s thinking about sex – maybe with you. Don’t be afraid to ask more forward questions.

You can segue into it with, “Now that we’ve been getting to know each other, tell me something I don’t know…” Or “It may be the drinks but I want to ask you something personal.” Then you go into, “So what do you find most attractive in a man?” or “What’s something that secretly turns you on?”

• Accuse her of liking you. “Aww, you must really like me…” Or “You’re definitely hitting on me right now.” She’s into you if she responds with something like, “Maybe I do ;)” Or “Only a little.”

However, one of the most concrete ways to secure her interest in you is…

Go for a kiss, damn it — sometimes twice

This one point will greatly influence your success rate. The kiss is the gateway for a wild night. Check out my article about how to be a great kisser.

Create physical contact early and often. If she’s receptive (positive, smiling, still engaged in conversation) increase the intimacy of the touches.

If you’ve made it at least halfway through a date and she’s still having fun – assume she’s ready for a kiss. You don’t need to wait for a blatant signal because most women will never give it to you. And please don’t wait until the very last minute, it will spoil the surprise.

You can do this anywhere. While sitting next to her, while standing together, or even while walking. Here’s how…
Wherever you are, stop talking. You can even get her attention by softly saying, “Come here” or “Sshhh…” Look her deep in the eyes for a few seconds. You want her to gaze back into yours.

Then either step towards her or bring her into you. Pull her in by the hand or by the waist. Move in slowly and kiss her.

Don’t rush any of this. Take your time. Looking into her eyes and moving in slowly lets her realize you’re going in for a kiss. It gives her a chance to accept or deny your advance.

If you get a positive response, the romantic barrier is broken. You can keep kissing her periodically throughout the date and see where things go. With a strong negative response, you shouldn’t try to kiss her again – at least on this date.

Follow these tips and you have high chance of nailing your first DateFinder date, and any future dates you make on RHP.