1. A new experience

A man in his 30s who dates an older woman will go through an enriching life changing experience. Your average 20something woman is energetic, ambitious and out to get things done. Now you take a woman in her 40s, 50s, chances are she’s lived a little more. She’s learned that the world is not all it was cracked to be. She has more time to teach you about your own and women’s pleasures. You waste no time and effort to learn what a woman really wants. You are more likely to come out of this relationship as a great lover.

2. Looking for a good time

Older women got their own life; friends, career, and money and they are not looking for a new suitor. They aren’t out to play mind games to figure the man out. Majority of these women have been married before and have come to realise that the fairy tale “Happy forever” doesn’t live up to the hype and reality is very different. Dating for an older woman is often more about enjoying their independence, discovering their sexuality, their freedom and newfound confidence, having fun and good times.

3. Fifty is the new 30s

A fifty-year-old woman in the 1960s era was often seen as a matronly woman, whose sense of being was expressed through her power and control of the household. They perceived themselves as being too old to wear bikinis, mini skirts, high heels, and hitting the club scene. Times have changed.

Women in their 40s and 50s today don’t look like women from previous eras at the same age. Just look at Elle MacPherson who can sport a bikini better than most 20something can. Look at Halle Berry (48), Sandra Bullock (50), Jennifer Lopez (45), Vanessa Williams (51) and Christie Brinkley (60) and Raquel Welch (74) is still turning men’s heads! And it’s not just celebrities who look good! At your local gym you’ve seen women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and more working out.

Today looking old is a choice and lots of women are choosing not to. There have been dramatic breakthroughs in plastic surgery options, Botox injections, spider vein/varicose vein treatments, and chemical peels. There is awareness for better health and fitness. Women are looking younger as a result of maintaining a better healthier lifestyle and choosing to fine tune their bodies and appearance through their own efforts and some help from technology and scientific advances. Admittedly, we live in a great era.

4. Uncomplicated sex

Often older women are more sexually confident and open-minded than their younger counterparts. They are not going to use sex as a bargaining tool to influence the course of a relationship. They also don’t confuse sex with love. Older women have sex because they want to give and receive pleasure. A large number of women report becoming more orgasmic with age.

Women at this age are ready and willing to be ravaged, to give and receive pleasure without any hidden agenda, therefore, making this match, a match made in heaven. They are not afraid to ask for what they want in the bedroom. Go ahead try and shock her. Bondage? Bisexual encounters? Role-play? If she hasn’t already tried it she certainly has considered it.

Older women may find it stimulating to be with a younger man who can go more than once in a night. Chances are he’ll also be open to listening to how she likes things done and in return she’ll return the favour.

5. Hassle free breakups

Last, older women know from the onset that this is not a long-term relationship and this young duckling is going to want to move on at some stage and that this type of relationship is temporary. It’s not unusual for these women to recognise the relationship has run it’s course and let things move on hassle free.

Obviously, this is not for everybody. Dating someone who is significantly younger or older requires a mindset of focusing on your own personal choices, and your own happiness. You have to be ready to live your life on your own terms.

Lonely hearts across the country are finding ever more innovative ways to discover the Romeo to their Juliet, the Kim to their Kanye.

Now newly elected Palmer United Party senator Jacqui Lambie has taken the trend to a new level by using talkback radio to search for a potential suitor – preferably one “well-hung” and loaded with cash.

Here’s how it went down. Lambie was appearing on Hobart’s Heart 107.3 breakfast show with Kim and Dave.

The chat started predictably enough. Should Tom Jones sing at the AFL grand final? Should there be a weekday public holiday when Anzac Day falls on a Saturday?

So far, so PG.

Then Kim asked Lambie about her bikini line and it was full steam ahead on the Oversharing Express.

“Right now the state I’m in, you’d want to bring out that whipper snipper first,” replied Lambie. “It’s a very scary area to talk about this morning.”

It’s the stuff one could only dream of: an Apple Isle senator waxing lyrical about her map of Tasmania on live radio.

Suddenly, the Prime Minister winking at a radio talkback call from a sex line worker seemed utterly banal.

And then it got better.

Lambie – a mother-of-two who says she has been single for 11 years – outlined what she’s looking for in a man.

“They must have heaps of cash and they’ve got to have a package between their legs,” she said.

“They don’t even need to speak.”

Then Jamie, a 22-year-old listener, rang in to say he’d be happy to go out with the 43-year-old.

So was Lambie willing to be a cougar – as well as a pup?

After establishing that Jamie had inherited a “small fortune” and had experience with older women, Lambie inquired: “You don’t have any diseases do you?”

No, Jamie assured her, before adding that he is “hung like a donkey”.

Lambie wasn’t convinced.

“I’ve got a 24-year-old son and he says that as well,” she said, before reluctantly agreeing to go on a breakfast date.

“I can see my 24-year-old son now, he’d be cringing by now.”

By mid afternoon, after Lambie’s interview had gone viral, she released a statement saying: ”I apologise to any radio listeners who may be offended by my comments on Kim and Dave’s show.

”Of course my political enemies will make a big deal out of my comments, but the reality is I was talking with Kim and Dave on Heart FM – not Sarah Ferguson on the ABC.

What do we think, people of the Pie? Would you take Senator Lambie out for a night to remember?! Let us know in the comments section below.

Source: smh.com.au

Labels like; ‘cougar’, ‘sugar daddy’, ‘cradle snatcher’, ‘pervert’; are all scornful and hurtful terms sucking away all the joy of living.

Are you going to let this colourful words affect your happiness?

You’re a fool if you do. You alone and only you can decide whether outsiders, who know nothing about you, should censure what you’re experiencing in your life.

Bottom line dating has no written rules, we have to experiment and judge for ourselves.

If the person you’re with, whether older or younger than yourself, makes you feel happy and is great in the sack, who gives a hoot? You’re left with a big smile across your face and look younger than any of them, because sex after all makes ‘you look 7 years younger’ and is great for your health.

People connect with people of all sorts of ages for a variety of reasons. Don’t think that you’re supposed to be with someone your age. If you know the relationship is right, then stick with it. Like any relationship, if it’s sincere and you’re both committed to making an effort, it can work.

Ironically, interests, beliefs and values have nothing to do with age. The concept of ‘sameness’ almost in any dimension of society or societies as such are bonding qualities, which will either draw or repel people from each other. Let’s reiterate, “What’s age got to do with it?”
Like any other relationship, age gap relationships, will have their own set of challenges. All relationships, irrespective need work to be successful.

Don’t hide your newfound fling/love because society disagrees. As Mark Twain once said: “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain

Do you have an “ideal” age difference? What is it? What is the biggest age difference that you think can work long term?

Sunburn, too much alcohol and noisy fellow hotel guests will be the least of your holiday worries.

The idyllic spot has just been voted the top destination in Australian and New Zealand for cougars seeking some much-needed time out – and some ‘prey’.

More than a fifth of those surveyed picked Lizard Island as their favourite getaway, followed by the Crown Metropol in Perth (17.5 per cent).

Blanket Bay in New Zealand came in at third place with 16.7 per cent, while the Louise Lodge in Marananga, South Australia was the next choice at 15.3 per cent.

Three quarters of respondents plan to hook up during their break, and more than half have their sights set on the hotel staff.

Popular activities include heading to the spa for a sensual massage – and requesting a male attendant in the hopes he’s ‘young, buff and good with his hands’ (33 per cent of respondents). Many also confessed to having an affinity for cabana boys (50 per cent), while a risqué 13.8 per cent admitting to spicing things up by inviting a third person to the mix.

When contacted by news.com.au most resorts were surprised by their nomination.

Top 10 cougar holiday spots:

1. Lizard Island Resort

2. Crown Metropol Perth

3. Blanket Bay, New Zealand

4. The Louise Lodge, Marananga

5. Berkeley River Resort, the Kimberley

6. The Byron at Byron Resort and Spa

7. Pinnacles Resort &Spa, Airlie Beach

8. Wyndham, Surfers Paradise

9. Kauri Cliffs, New Zealand

10. Qualia Resort, Whitsundays

Source: news.com.au

Independent:
She’s financially independent. She doesn’t care how much you earn either. She doesn’t expect you to pay for everything. All she wants from you is a fun time – She just wants you!!

Confidence:
She knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to let you know it. She is confident about her sexuality, has overcome a lot of biased and hang-ups and she has sex when and if she wants to.

No Drama:
She won’t have a temper tantrum or cry easily and has no insecurities. She won’t freak out if she doesn’t hear from you for a few days. She’s busy with her own life too.

Life Experience:
She is socially and sexually savvy. You will become a man and a better lover as a result of being with her.

She is Interesting:
She can hold a conversation; she’s lived, travelled and experienced life. She has a lot to talk about. She has ideas, opinions and passion. Not a dull moment whether you’re talking her or making out with her.

No Pressure:
She’s generally not interested in settling down, having a family, she has done that already. She’s into having fun.

Responsible:
She’s not into wasting her time or yours. She’s not into games. No more guessing games and wondering if you getting ‘some’ tonight.

Understanding:
She understands men. Need we say more!!!

Ideal woman:
She is hassle free, she has her act together, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically and sexually balanced. She’s the ideal woman.

Interested in what others think about cougars? Read the forums!
‘Cougars.’ Read it here
‘Another topic about cougars but with a twist.’ Read it here
‘Mature Myth.’ Read it here

Watch the video below for plenty of laugh-out-loud reasons why the lads should date an older female.

For a start, a lot of women are now looking for a ‘booty call’, once purely the domain of men. But we are asserting ourselves, and looking out for number one for a change. We have realized that if we don’t want all the crap that comes with looking after a man and his ego, we’re happy to just get a bit on the side.  It all started a few years ago, when glamour women of New York started dating younger guys, nicknamed ‘toy boys’. Men have always gotten the ‘tick of approval’ when it comes to dating gorgeous younger women, and it’s about time the tables turned. The growing acceptance of older women dating younger men may have something to do with the rising status of women in today’s society.

Many women are now completely independent of men, and so we are slowly starting to advance on men’s terrain. For years it has been more socially acceptable for older men to hook up with younger women but not vice versa. Well it seems things are finally starting to change with the improvement in gender equality. So women are realizing that they don’t need men that are older, have more life experience and are more financially stable, like they traditionally did. If a woman has all these attributes herself, well, what does she need a man for? That’s where the purity of love comes in, regardless of what a man earns or where he’s at in life. You could learn to love in the simplest form, without unnecessary complications.

This is where women have learnt to fall in love with the toy boys, and things that used to matter, such as financial status of the men, have either taken a back seat or been thrown out of the car altogether. Celebrity couples such as Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins, Madonna and Guy Ritchie, and Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have all paved the way for the acceptance of younger male lovers. These kinds of relationships simply weren’t feasible in the past, as women needed the men to earn the bread and help them move out of the family home. Therefore it simply wasn’t practical to be with a younger man as they couldn’t provide for the needs of their women.

Thankfully nowadays women are earning money and respect in their own right and should be rewarded accordingly! Haven’t women always looked after the men anyway?? It would be very liberating to break down the walls of societal condemnation and accept the love of a young soul. So the next time you are confronted with a situation where you are approached by a younger man, take the plunge and you may find you are pleasantly surprised. After all, it opens up a whole new world of possibilities not limited by parameters such as age.