5 Ways to Get Rid Of Your Breakup Blues

Breakups suck. They are both emotionally and psychologically demanding. It’s the reason why many people endure a bad relationship even though they know splitting up is the right call. All the signs are there that the relationship is over but we delude ourselves a little longer just because breaking up is the worse.

When you do break up, what is the best self-care routine? We came up with 5 ways to get rid of your breakup blues and navigate the post-breakup blues.

1. Cut all contact

Even if you are planning to be friends with your ex, it’s a great idea, at least in the beginning, to keep your distance. It will give you the space to re-order your thoughts and organise your fresh start.

Explain to them that you are going to block them from your social media for a while. Do not call them or text them during this vulnerable time. Once you have your new start sorted then if all parties are happy you can work on your new friendship.

If you ever feel tempted to call your ex;  have a list of friends you can call instead. Oh yeah, delete your ex’s number from your phone. Write it somewhere and the very action to look for your ex’s phone gives you enough time to think and stop yourself from calling.

2. Let your emotions out

When you split up, is perfectly normal to be sad, disappointed and heartbroken. It is important to grieve a breakup; allow yourself to feel all the emotions that come with it, it’s part of the healing process.

Have a ‘cleansing party’ with your friends. Call them over and watch some sad movie, pour out your heart to your friends and then enlist their help with getting rid of things that belong to your ex. This certainly will help you with your post-breakup blues. These little deflecting acts are key to pushing past the break-up blues.

3. Focus on you

After a relationship breakup is natural to feel lost. Rediscover yourself and start doing what you couldn’t while you were in the relationship. Take up painting, standup paddle or hiking. Focus on your passions without compromising. Do the things you always wanted to try. Create new experiences that make you feel alive and happy.

4. Take your time before getting into another relationship

When you get out of a relationship, it feels like getting into a new one will soothe the pain away. It rarely works. Give yourself time to reflect on the lessons learned and allow yourself to heal from your breakup. Think about the kind of partner you want to seek out next. What priorities and boundaries are important to you in your new relationships. 

5. Put yourself first

Breakups are hard. Do not feel guilty about being selfish and taking time for yourself. Use this time to do things that bring you joy and in time the breakup blues will dissipate and you will be ready to take on the world again. 

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