When you first meet someone; they are usually on their very best behaviour. If you notice faults in their personality right from the start; do not ignore them. If you know what to look for, you can weed out an unsuitable partner on the first date.
These faults can be a sign of things to come. What we are talking about here are things that will cause you to be unhappy in a relationship. True that some people are good at hiding their faults, but sometimes little hints escape them.
Here are 5 signs not to ignore on your first date.
- They are rude to service staff
Being disrespectful to waiters, for example, tells you a lot about someone. Decent people are respectful of others regardless of what they do and are never unnecessarily mean. Service staff are trying to make an honest living.
Look out for things like constantly complaining about little things, belittling, being demanding and saying hurtful things. This could be how they will treat you at a later stage in the relationship. It’s likely they will someday turn this behaviour on you. If this is not your type, then is time to not get this relationship started.
2. Deflecting answers in an attempt to hide something.
The number one reason anyone avoids answering questions is that they have something to hide. There is a number of reasons they could be doing this. They are married and do not want you to find out, they are pretending to be someone else or they are overly cautious because they don’t know you well yet.
To really know whether they are hesitating because they do not know you well enough, is to ask the same questions at a later stage and if they continue to not answer you then you have a problem.
3. They talk more than they listen
This is a common trait of selfish people. It’s ok to talk about yourself but you have to reciprocate when it’s the other person’s time to speak about themselves and to actually listen. The whole point of dating is to get to know each other. You might be in the presence of a self-centred or even narcissist, they are unlikely to prioritise you in a relationship.
If the conversation becomes all about an ex, be weary because you are looking at someone who isn’t emotionally available yet and therefore are not a good relationship candidate.
4. They complain about everything
Be wary of someone who complains about their whole world; family, friends and job. You do not want to date a negative person. They will drag you down and what is worse you will be likely to be the next thing they complain about.
5. They make offensive jokes
If your date’s jokes upset you because they are rude or offensive; if they tell you not to be so sensitive, time to dodge the bullet. This type of person has no regard for your feelings and opinions; continuing to date them will lead to misery.
First dates are nerve-racking, if you noticed one or two signs of concern but you still had a good time, you might want to go on a second date. However, if you felt uncomfortable and didn’t enjoy their company, trust your gut feeling and move on.
Leave you this good quote:
“The best dating advice I’ve gotten was: The signs you ignore in the beginning just end up being the reason you leave later. You know right away who’s good and who’s bad for you. Don’t ignore that.”
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