Squirting, gushing, female ejaculation, whatever you call it, it’s a RedHot topic that never seems to go out of fashion! Is squirting – fact or fiction?

Here at RedHotPie our sex doctors are constantly inundated with questions about it, not to mention the Hot Forums going crazy with chat about it: women wanting to know what it is and how to do it, men wanting to know how to make women do it, whether or not it’s real, what the mythical g-spot is, whether it’s just urine or not, and on and on! So, we’ve decided to create an article that answers all of your squirting questions, in no particular order. Whether, you’re a believer or not in squirting, you’re sure to have fun (either on your own or with a partner) trying!

Is there a difference between squirting when you orgasm and peeing?

The fluid that is released during squirting is not urine, so yes, there is a big difference. Don’t believe us? A simple taste and smell test will prove it! There has been debate raging on for years about whether squirting is just a woman completely letting go and peeing as a result. Some people will argue till the cows come home that squirting doesn’t exist. Research into female ejaculation is a relatively new field so it’s seen as debatable. We happen to think that the non-believers just haven’t experienced it!

Some very sexy-minded scientists have done research into the phenomena and discovered that the fluid released when a female squirts has a similar chemical composition to male ejaculate, minus sperm of course. The fluid that is released during female ejaculation has been found to come from the Skene’s glands, which are a part of the g-spot. What is this g-spot you’ve been hearing so much about? The g-spot is sometimes known as the female prostate, as it’s in the same position (whilst on a different wall, of course) to the male prostate and is similar in size, shape and function.

Are you able to teach yourself how to squirt?

Yes, although the jury’s still out on whether it’s better to practice on your own first or with a partner. Ladies, we’d suggest practicing on your own at first if you sometimes have difficulty relaxing and feel pressure to squirt. If you have a partner that wants to learn – or already has an idea of how to make women squirt – and that you feel completely comfortable with, even better! That means you can lie back, relax and have them do the hard work for you!

Do all women squirt?

We’re going to open up a potential can of worms with this controversial statement – all women can squirt. In saying that, it may be extremely difficult for some women: weak pelvic floor (PC) muscles and an inability to relax can make it damn near impossible for some women. However, you don’t have to envy those women that can ‘squirt on command,’ there is hope for you yet if this is something that you really want to achieve.

Do your Kegel exercises regularly to strengthen your PC muscles, as these can help you not only learn to squirt, but also to reach orgasm more easily. To identify the muscles that you need to strengthen, practice stopping urinating midstream. The muscles that you clench to stop the flow are your pelvic floor muscles. To do your Kegels, squeeze these muscles tight and clench for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Aim to repeat this process three times a day, for around thirty repetitions each time and soon you’ll be cracking walnuts with your….Well, maybe not, but it can make a huge difference, trust us.

When it comes to an inability to relax, there is no magic cure. if you visit the bathroom beforehand, you’ll be able to let go of any fears of urinating, making your chances of squirting more likely. Remember that squirting is natural and that most men find it a turn on, knowing that you are getting incredibly turned on! Mentally focus on the sensations, rather than worrying about the mess.

What is the best way to stimulate a woman’s g-spot to make her squirt?

Just as any woman can learn how to squirt, any man can learn how to make a woman squirt, or, as mentioned previously, a woman can take matters into her owns hands and teach herself! It will take a lot of practice and the use of a certain technique, but if you’re patient, it will pay off big time! Begin by learning your way around the female g-spot, as it’s the main player in the squirting game and whilst some women can squirt via other methods of stimulation, the g-spot is key. Feel your way around and get to know this spot well!

If you are working with a partner, begin by getting blood flowing all through your body. Try to relax by getting your partner to give you a sensual all over body massage. If you are working on your own, take a soak in a tub and stroke your body all over. Once you are really relaxed and aroused, it’s time to seek out that elusive g-spot! It is better to try and find the sweet spot when you’re really turned on, as it will be more pronounced.

Lie on your back and spread your legs, firstly making sure that you are well-lubricated (naturally or otherwise). Insert one or two fingers completely inside your vagina and curl them to feel around for a spot on the front wall that has a different texture to the surrounding skin – it might feel spongy, rough and raised. Use a ‘come hither’ motion to stroke and if you’re having trouble finding it, press your other palm flat on the outside of your pubic area.

To stimulate the g-spot, start by pushing against it using either your fingers, or a toy (preferably curved and specifically designed for g-spot stimulation). You can then start to rigorously rub the area. You will probably find that you’ll need to be quite vigorous. Through constant stimulation of the spot, you’ll begin to feel like you need to pee. Just relax and continue; fight through the sensation and you’ll start to feel an intense build up before squirting. Flexing the PC muscles can help push you over the edge. Once you’ve mastered the art of squirting digitally or with toys, you can move on to trying through intercourse. Some positions that encourage squirting are doggy style, woman on top grinding against him, man on top but with her ankles up around her ears or knees to chest.

Should women who are squirters warn new partners ASAP once it looks as though the action is headed that way?

It might not be such a bad idea to give a heads up to any partners when playing if you gush more than Niagra Falls! As a courtesy we’d suggest that you do, as it will at least allow them to lay down some towels, which is especially important if you are playing where you are going to be sleeping. No one likes sleeping in the mother of all wet patches.

So that’s pretty much it. It’s simple in theory, yes, but bear in mind that it can be much more difficult in practice. Persist though and you’ll experience some of the most intense orgasms ever. It is well worth the effort. Therefore, don’t be deterred if it doesn’t happen right away. Don’t look at it as a failed experience and get frustrated, as this will just end up in repeating the pattern as next time you try you’ll be tense and anticipating failure. Look at it as a learning experience. In short, relax, explore and enjoy it for the sensations…even if you don’t squirt. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and if you really want to squirt, you’ve gotta be prepared to put in the hard work. So go forth brave sexplorer and have some wet and wild RedHot times…then be sure to share all the juicy details with us afterwards!