5 things that are keeping you single
Want to change your status from single to in a relationship? Then quit these 5 things that are keeping you single.
Sure we all enjoy some time alone, to be the master of the boat and not to answer to anyone. But there comes a time when it all feels old and you are ready for a change.
Are you choosing to be single without even realising it? If you are doing any or all of these 5 things that are keeping you single but want to change it, read on.
Have you had anyone say to you How come you’re single, you’re so pretty/handsome?
When friends ask you this question you don’t know if you should take it as a compliment or be straight offended. What’s more is you just don’t know how to answer this question. ANNOYING right?
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It might be because of these 5 things that are keeping you single and you do not even realise it you’re doing them.
1. You’re not letting anyone in
You’re very careful to just let your heart been broken, you’re protective of it. Don’t blame you because breakups suck. However, to be in a relationship you need to be vulnerable and let someone in at the risk of them breaking your heart. But if you do find the right person then it’s all worth it. Meanwhile, that’s the way dating rolls, much like a roller coaster there’ll ups and downs but at each point, you’ll learn something new that hopefully make you make better choices.
2. Don’t overthink the “what ifs”
Love is a gamble sometimes it goes your way and other time (majority) of times it just doesn’t. If you overthink any relationship before it even starts, “what if he cheats on me?”, “What if we break up?” You never have fun in the relationship and worse you ensure the worse will happen. Staying distance and closed will send the wrong message to the other person, leading them to think you are not willing to commit to them. This is a sure way to lead them away from you and never to be happy.
3. Run from opportunities
Give people a chance. You are both nervous and the first meeting is not really a good time to judge someone. Everyone seems intimidating and full of flaws, give it some time and drop the defences. We get it, it all is so much safer at a distance but for anything to become real and meaningful, you have to get in there and go over the bumps. If after a while you’re gut feeling still tells you to run, then maybe you should.
4. You don’t want to get hurt
We all hate to get hurt and it’s natural that we avoid potential situations that might end with you getting hurt.
Avoiding dating your crush because of fear of getting hurt sounds like a good plan. Until of course, they date someone and you suffer watching your crush with someone else. You are going to get hurt, it’s inevitable but at least you’ll experience happiness, joy, love and fun for a while or maybe forever, rather than sitting on the sidelines and watching while hurting anyway.
5. You are scared
Love is a scary thing. Trusting someone with your heart is scary. You don’t want your poor heart to be torn into pieces because of a careless lover. Maybe your last relationship left you scared of love and you are hesitant but you can’t let love and life scare you. Live and take risks and yes occasionally you are going to get hurt but at least you have experienced love, lust, and the ups and downs of love.
Before you leave you might totally relate to this vid from BuzzFeed ’11 signs your “single” is showing’
