You have matched, sexted and chatted at length. Now you want to take it to the next level. What do you want to know beforehand? Before you go out and meet. 

Hooking up is made easy in the age of technology and often we assume too much and do not ask the right questions. Here are 5 questions to ask before you hook up to make sure you enjoy the experience.

1. Can you host?

The point is you want a little information about whether they live alone or not. It’d be a little awkward on the date to find out that your hook up still lives with their parents. It could mean that they can only meet at your place, which means letting a stranger into your home, which might make you uncomfortable. Without asking this question and no planning; things could turn sour. If they simply avoid hosting you without explaining why; you could be lead to believe that they are hiding something. Which brings us to the next questions.

2. Are you in a relationship?

Whether this is important to you or not, you deserve to know what you are dealing with. Honesty is always important, even in a casual encounter. If one is cheating, this could open doors to all kinds of unwanted drama. You want some uncomplicated fun.  If your match invites you over to their place, look out for little hints that they might have a partner and are lying to you about it. Things like an extra toothbrush in the bathroom.

3. What are you into?

This is important. You need to know if you are sexually compatible. The hook up is about both your pleasure. It’s important to know each other’s kinks and preferences beforehand. If their turn-ons align with yours then it’s worth pursuing. Meet up and if you are both in the same wave-length, then go all out.

4. Health check

Ask when their last STI check was and even if they lie, it’s a great opportunity to let them know you practice safe sex. If that is an issue for them – move on. 

5. Ask to agree on a safe-word

Using a safe-word is usually thought to be in relations to BDSM play, but it’s also essential even in vanilla play. You need an ‘out’ if you need to withdraw consent. The ability to tap out at any time should be something everyone should be able to do and safe-word is an ideal way to do it with. 

You can change your mind at any time you feel uncomfortable. It might be that sex is too rough. Or you are just not feeling it. Whatever the reason, a safe-word will give both parties clarity and transparency. No blurred lines, once the word is used agree to have a break, Have a coffee or a juice maybe a snack. You can agree on another date or just leave it altogether.

These 5 questions are important to ensure hookups are fun and safe, without them, you could be open to some nasty experiences. Let us know if you have any other questions that are important to have a mutually safe and fun hook up.

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