We are all too familiar with the usual New Year’s resolutions such as; lose weight, eat healthier, make or save more money, quit smoking, travel more, exercise more, you get the idea.

What do people really want for 2014? To find out we ran a poll ‘What do you want more of this year?’and it comes as no surprise that what the vast majority of us, 63% to be exact, want more of is – sex.

Nicely done! Sex is good for your health, counts as a decent exercise, and is also one of the most fun stress relievers. The latest scientific research also claims that sex makes you smarter too. Wanting more sex as it turns out is and should be everyone’s new year’s resolution this year.

Unlike any other new year’s resolution this one is easy to adhere to and designed to improve your health and life in the best possible way.

This is your year for love and sex, so let’s revamp our love and sex lives.

What can we do then to improve things between the sheets? How can you kick start your sex life and learn a few things in the process. The strategy? Well, keep it simple.

• Figure out where to push the boundaries.

• Do something different.

• Improve on good sex and make it great sex.

BOUNDARIES:

Go slowly don’t go overboard too quickly. Talk about your desires openly and then make decisions based on the conversations. Through open and honest communication you’ll find things that turn you both on. Take small steps to start with and have sex that is about the both of you.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT:

Exploring turn-ons will probably lead to a variety of sexual activities that never made it from imagination or fantasy to the bedroom. Bring some of them to life this year. Some things will stick and others vanish quickly but trying and playing around with sex will strengthen your relationship.

Don’t be afraid to talk dirty – use crude language in between the sheets- it creates an honest sexual energy. Bottom line the focus is on reigniting the sensuality and playfulness as a way to reconnect, a way for both of you to be the top of each other’s list.So whether it’s buying sex toys, heading to a swingers club, doing it in a park, in the back of your car, or just organising regular sex dates, the point is make it fresh.

IMPROVE ON SEX:

Now back to the question – how to get to have more sex? Sometimes the answer is pretty simple and uncomplicated.

Talk more about sex specifically about the kind of sex you want to have. Talking is the greatest aphrodisiac for a woman because it establishes a bond of sharing and therefore intimacy. Try sharing your fantasies with her during a nonsexual time where she won’t feel the pressure to perform right away and slowly breaking her barriers.

Take something that works and improve on it so that the experience is exquisitely rewarding and a lot more fun. Improve your sex routine and use continuous caressing, kissing and breast play throughout sex, because women’s mouth and neck are the third most erogenous zones on her body. So pay attention to these spots during sex.

Sex is by definition ‘adult play’ and therefore should be fun and for that a sense of humor is an essential ingredient in great sex. Laugh, play and experiment with sex and there is no way of getting it wrong.

Novelty is good for sex; try being unpredictable from time to time. Change the place you usually have sex from your bedroom to the kitchen bench. Go for a ride and park by the side of an isolated beach, take a walk on the beach and ravage each other in the moonlight.

Use this year to try new maneuvers in bed to vary from the old missionary and doggy positions.

Get some sex toys and try them out on each other. Why not get a bit kinky? Get some rope; blindfolds and maybe some whips and who knows you might find a natural incline to BDSM.

Try out some role-plays and dress up for the part and take turns in domination. Finally, if time and finance permits go on a sex vacation.

Step outside your comfort zone and improve on what probably is already a fantastic sex life making this year a sexually rewarding year that will last for years to come.

What do you want more of this year? Is it more sex? How are you then going to improve your chances for more sex this year?