The encounter between the two colleagues at Christchurch insurance company Marsh Ltd was photographed and filmed by scores of people at the busy Carlton Bar, who then posted the images online.

Stuff.co.nz reported today the man was a manager at the company and was married with children. His devastated wife was no longer speaking to him and had been crying “non-stop”, a source said.

Neither the man or the woman were at work today. Calls to their office lines were answered by colleagues and the man wasn’t answering his cellphone.

The woman has deleted her Facebook page.

A Marsh Ltd spokesman said it was “an internal” matter and wouldn’t comment.

The images of the steamy affair quickly went viral.

“Opposite the Carlton bar where the whole pub knew about it and was watching, while they were totally oblivious to it. And afterwards celebrating with wine,” Alex Wilton wrote on Facebook, alongside photos of the man and woman.

Marsh Ltd said on Monday that an investigation had been launched.

“Marsh is very disappointed by the conduct of two colleagues at our Christchurch premises,” company chief Grant Milne said in a statement.

“The inappropriate actions of those two individuals are not representative of the many professional colleagues we have at Marsh.”

It is understood that the pair thought the tinted windows in the office would stop anyone from looking in, TVNZ reported.

“Everyone knew about it,” Mr Wilton told 3 News. “The band that was playing at the time stopped because everyone else was more interested in watching them … We all had a good laugh. It was the highlight of the night.”

The fate of the unnamed lovers is not yet known.

Source: news.com.au

A 46-year-old woman from Lipetsk, Russia was found naked outside her apartment by a neighbour with her head stuck in a staircase handrail, Digital Spy reports.

She was stranded there during a voyeuristic romp with her boyfriend. Quite the gentleman, this guy. He fled the scene, leaving his lover to free herself, and was nowhere to be found when the police arrived.

“In all my time working as a rescuer, I don’t recall an incident like this one,” emergency worker Alexei Dotsenko said.

No kidding.

Source: news.com.au

So are rules a turn-off or do they come as a welcome relief to those who don’t want to play guessing games? Most likely it will depend on the nature of the rules and how strictly or loosely they are to be followed. Some rules may well be common sense and goes without saying but others have been known to leave some couples dazed and confused as they make a run for it out the door. We’ll take a look at some of the more common rules and how to tackle each one if you get hit up with them.

Same room/Same partner interaction

This is probably the one rule that most couples have followed at one point or another. It certainly is one that newbies should consider having in place before meeting people. Same room (and/or same partner) sexual interaction is ideal for those who like the security of knowing that their partner is close by (not that anything weird is likely to happen of course!). If you don’t feel comfortable or confident in saying no to relative strangers, then having your partner to lean on can save you all from having a full on freak-out.
For other couples, it’s just plain old voyeurism that calls for the same room rule. Many people enjoy watching their partners pleasure or be pleasured by others so keeping play in the same area is a must. It’s unlikely most couples will have a problem with same room fun but if it’s a fairly strict rule on part of the other couple, it’s probably not a good idea to try and separate the pair, even if it’s suddenly OK with one partner. If both partners seem keen to try but you’re worried about repercussions, suggest a semi-detached encounter at the doorway of the bedroom. You can be voyeurs as well as hear all the sexy sounds but be in relative proximity. Just in case.

Separate room play

Just as some couples insist on same room play, some couples prefer or even demand separate room play. While it’s probably uncommon for a couple to only ever play separately, those that do should ideally mention it in their RHP profiles so as to avoid same room players contacting them. That’s just one combo that will never work!
If the separate room thing gets dropped on you at the last minute, but you and your partner are fairly flexible, then go with the flow. If you feel the need to ask why, then you may do so but only if you’re prepared to deal with whatever answer you get back. Without getting too dramatic, most couples who enjoy playing separately simply do so because they’re into one-on-one sex. They like building up some intimacy with just one other person rather than a gaggle of giggling swingers. Some people find it more relaxing not worrying about their partner. All good and valid reasons.
The only time you may wish to tread carefully is if the reason for separate play is very obviously grounded in emotional problems shared by the couple. The couple may enjoy having sex with other people but experience jealousy if they see or hear their partner having fun with someone else. This is probably a rare occurrence but if they seem a little too insistent on separating and it makes you and your partner uncomfortable, then politely explain that you’d at least like to start foreplay in the same room and gauge their reaction to that. Deciding to stay or leave can be based on that.

No Kissing (except between girls)

We’ve all read that many people view kissing as a far more intimate act than oral sex so it may come as no surprise that some couples don’t exchange kissing between the male and female partners. Nonetheless, for some couples who have enjoyed the full gamut of swinging experiences, the no-kiss rule quite possibly ends up being the most disappointing (except for girls as most couples seem OK with girl/girl kissing!). This is a personal choice that some couples make. They may really cherish kissing each other so much that the thought of kissing someone else seems strange or wrong. Other couples simply wish to keep something special between the two of them but are happy to do everything else imaginable sexually.
If a couple is adamant that no kisses are to be exchanged then you need to decide if that will impinge on your sexual enjoyment. If you feel the encounter will end up feeling impersonal or mechanical then you may need to explain that you require kissing in order to enjoy the sex. With any luck, non-kissing couples will have specified their preferences in their profile or mentioned at the socialising stage.

Rules Are Meant To Be Broken

Quite often a couple will have a number of rules they’ll rattle off to their potential playmates which is a good thing except when every one of those rules gets broken (by the rule makers) during the throes of sexual passion. It’s confusing but at the same time very exciting. Perhaps that’s the point?
It may feel quite naughty to break rules but couples who do this should understand that it’s also messing with other people’s minds. It might seem fun to tell someone something is off-limits and then spend the whole night teasing them with the forbidden fruit but you can only play that game so far and so often.
If this is the sort of thing you enjoy doing then it may be best to do it with a couple you’ve gotten to know fairly well so that they know this is your ‘thing’. Those who don’t know you that well will either feel terrible for breaking your rule (when all along you’ve wanted them to), or angry that they’re being toyed with. Rules should be taken reasonably seriously in the swinging scene. If you’re going to have them, make sure you have ones that are relevant and genuine and ensure that the rules are upheld by all concerned.

Miscellaneous Rules

The less obvious rules are the ones you need to explicitly state sometimes. While safe sex should be a must with swinging couples and swingles, you may from time to time encounter couples who assume barebacking is OK. If your stance on safe sex is written in stone then you must make this clear well before you get to the critical moment. In the heat of passion many people easily forget about condoms so the safe sex talk should be had as soon as intercourse is imminent. If the other party suggests that they don’t practice safe sex or the male partner says he can’t perform with a condom, it may be time to go back to your own partner or wind the night up. If you are pro-safe sex, then stick to this rule!
You may also have some strict rules on alcohol consumption and recreational drugs, as well as rules related to where you choose to play (ie – only at hotels etc.) and sexual orientation. If these are important to you and you don’t believe that your views are shared as common sense by a couple you’re considering playing with, ensure that you discuss those matters well before booking a room.

Are We Weird For Not Having Rules?

If you’re a fairly easy going couple with a good deal of swinging common sense, you probably won’t need to have any specific rules. You’ll no doubt be able to deal with minor issues on the fly and continue on to have a fun night.
However, while you don’t want to cloud your swinging experiences with a list of dos and don’ts, it wouldn’t hurt to be mindful of discussing things with your partner before any issues come up. If your otherwise straight male partner had an unexpected bisexual experience one night, which you aren’t comfortable with for one reason or another, it is better to discuss those feelings and putting some rules in place before something similar happens again. It may be as simple as giving your partner some warning that you’d like to try something new or knowing you have to have clear permission beforehand. It may take some spontaneity out of your encounters but once new rules becomes a part of your swinging common sense, you probably won’t even think of them as rules. It’s just the way you roll!

The excitement of catching someone or being caught by someone in a saucy situation can get your blood pumping to hot new levels so much so that there are heaps of sexual adventurers out there who have created a lifestyle from it. We all have a sexy performer lurking inside of us and it’s time to get this show on the road with our Top Ten Guide to Voyeurism and Exhibitionism.

Whether it’s a quick flash of your breasts, rubbing chocolate sauce on your body while on webcam, or video taping a lusty romp with a hottie – we have a little exhibitionism within us waiting to be exposed to the world.

10. Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the sexiest of them all?

So simple yet so arousing, placing a mirror above, beside, or at either end of the bed can heighten your sexual jaunt in a sultry second. Better yet, you get the best of both worlds as you get a thrill out of watching and being watched.

9. Catch each other out

Watching each other masturbate may be a regular stint on your sexual repertoire and if not then we strongly suggest it’s the first thing that you do as soon as you switch off your computer. You may even want to mix things up a little by pretending not to know that anyone is watching you.

8. Strike a pose

Another day, another celebrity sex tape being leaked to the media – certainly the best trend that Paris Hilton ever set off, if it’s not teen hottie Vanessa Hudgens’ nude pics ending up the internet then it’s saucy Lindsay Lohan taking it all off for a magazine. But why should the celebs be the only one’s having so much fun? This is one Hollywood bandwagon you want to jump on it’s as simple as getting your hands on a camera or video recorder and then letting your imagination run wild.

7. Making more than sandcastles…

There are some people who enjoy nude beaches because they like the freedom of not wearing clothes, and then there are others who like nude beaches because there are just so many good things you can do when you don’t have tricky zips and buttons to navigate through. If you like to show of your bits then a nude beach is a great place to start because it’s a welcome place to get your kit off without any judgment – but if you’re really daring, there are many things you can get up to under the cover of the ocean – while all those people may or may not notice from the beach shores…which brings me to my next point…

6. Location, location, location

It’s not just the real estate market that touts this as an important point to keep in mind. If you have sex in the right location you could increase your chances of getting caught, or of having a stranger set up camp and watch as you enjoy each other’s company. Anywhere that increases you chances of getting caught will give you more than just an adrenalin rush.

5. Show off your good bits

You don’t want to give anyone a heart attack (or worse yet end up in goal) so we don’t recommend flashing your favourite body parts to complete strangers, but keep in mind that a little leg and a little cleavage can go a long way for some blokes. Take things up a notch by playing flasher with your partner and maybe reveal a nipple, lift a skirt, or unzip those pants – it’ll only take a second but the thrill will last long after that.

4. Dogging on you

It’s a craze that’s sweeping the globe. Dogging is a term used for having sex in a public place (usually in a car) and encouraging others to watch. You’re guaranteed an exhilarating experience heightened by the idea of watching, being watched or even being caught out. With nifty inventions such as the internet and text messaging, these events have become highly organised, with many being invited to watch or be watched.

3. There’s a party in my pants…

If you like to watch or be watched then a swingers’ party may just be what you’re after. With plenty of playrooms you can mix things up with other couples, watch as people enjoy each other and even join in yourself if the mood takes you. The perfect place for an exhibitionist to flaunt their goods!

2. Webcam is a god

RedHotPie’s webcams are sizzling hot – with someone getting naughty for all to see it’s a great place to take a sneaky peak at some of the sexiest members as they show you what they’ve got. And if you like to put on a show yourself you can jump right in there with an audience just waiting to see you at your naughtiest. Many RHP members swear by webcam as they say it gives them the chance to be an exhibitionist in the safety and comfort of their own home – give it a try – we know you’ll be a star of RHP in no time!

1. Become a HOTY

The HOTY Awards went off this year with sexy girls and guys sending in their raunchiest amateur pics and battling it to win the HOTY of the year title. If you like to show the world how hot you really are then why not take those sexy photos of yourself and send them through – you could even take home thousands of dollars of prizes just like 2008 HOTY winner MadMel.