Sexting can be a fun, flirty way to keep the passion going.

As a precaution, initially steer away from exchanging photos straight away, unless it’s your long term partner. Stick to naughty messages and if and when you want to send some raunchy pics, use clever angles that don’t give too much away.

Lads, if you need some pointers in improving your sexting game, read 5 tips to become a sexting legend

1. Start off slow and leave room for more

Sexting doesn’t have to be triple-X to be sexy. Sometimes being less explicit can actually be more of a tease. Tempting and teasing your partner is half the fun with actual sex, and the same can be said for virtual. It all depends on you and who you’re sexting, depending on the mood, it might start full on or build up to it.

“I can’t stop thinking about what I’m going to do to you”

“I thought of something I want to do to you tonight.”

“Just got out of the shower…”

“ Busy tonight!. You can’t have me until tomorrow.”

These sexts will get your partner thinking about it as well. If they ask for more details you can follow up with:

“I’d rather show you in person.”

Sexting, like sex, is all about comfort zones. Don’t do anything you aren’t ready for! But if you feel comfortable trying new things, go for it.

2. Use words of encouragement

Not sure where the conversation is heading? Words like “mmm” or “I like that” are effective at expressing interest and it will egg them on to continue. A classic “tell me more” goes a long way, too.

3. Keep it simple

Don’t worry about being polished or proper. If you’re just starting out, sometimes it’s best to just be blunt. Some examples might be:

“I want you to go down on me”

“I’m going to make you beg for it”

“I’m going to make you come so hard”

Blunt is the name of the game girl; you are after all warming the engine up for a later meet up, or a solo session that is going to be STEAMY.

4. Let them finish your sentences

Let him finish your sentence.

“I got out of the shower, dried myself, went to the bedroom, then you came over to me and…. ”

The trick with any sexting is to keep it short, it doesn’t need to be all in one go. Play the game of teasing and flirting and keep him keen.

5. Send some naughty pics

If you haven’t met the person you’re sexting with yet, it’s probably not a great idea to exchange photos with your face in them. You just… never know. Use your imagination and send some that do not divulge who you are.

When sexting, keep this in mind. Sending dirty text messages, just like dirty talk, is all about what feels natural. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Sexting is great because it allows you to be creative, but if you project a completely different personality over text it’s going to be a tad awkward later.

Happy sexting!

Do you use sexting to tease and flirt? What are your best tips to make this a tool to heat things up?

Everybody masturbates and the reason is simple, it feels good.

Masturbation has a whole host of benefits 

Including mental, physical and sexual well-being. Both men and women benefit from a bit of self-love. Masturbation across both genders is associated with a lot of health benefits.

Masturbating will lead to orgasms

Orgasms make us feel good because of the endorphins released into the bloodstream, and maximising endorphins can help people avoid depression. It’s also a great way to relieve stress, as masturbation increases cortisol levels, which also happens to help boost the immune system.

Couples can benefit to be more open about masturbation, too

Since many women have difficulty orgasming through penetrative sex alone, feeling comfortable enough to lend themselves a hand could greatly increase their enjoyment. It’s also a good way to learn how your partner likes to be touched. It’s a fulfilling, highly pleasurable way to spend quality time together, even if just for a few minutes, and it will make sex even more awesome.

In addition, masturbation is a great way to keep tap on our ever-changing bodies and the shifting manner they experience pleasure and to fine tune sexual tastes through fantasy.

Masturbation is a topic that generates a lot of humour because people still have a lot of hangups about it, which lends itself to some funny stories as in the video below.  So lock the door, draw the shades and turn your volume down, it’s about to get rude and funny at the same time.

Check out the hilarious video below by Josh Adam Myers, on getting caught masturbating.

He’s funny and I’m sure there are a lot of you that relate to some of his stories.

If you enjoy masturbation, please comment below.

Some of us enjoy first dates more than others but the flutter felt when our potential love interest enters the bar, or when we hear the sound of that unfamiliar car pulling up, is universal.

Here are some simple tips that you can apply to your first day to make it rock for both of you!

1. MAKE AN EFFORT (A BLOW-DRY DOESN’T COUNT)

It’s one thing to glam up for a date. But it’s another thing to sprinkle a bit of rouge on your perspective, too. Instead of thinking, “ugh — another first date!” you can think, “I get to meet someone new tonight who is making an effort to get to know me.” Attitude is everything. If you align the effort you go to in order to look great with a sincere effort to feel great, you’re already a step ahead.

2. DROP EXPECTATIONS

It’s astounding how many women let really decent men go for superficial reasons such as, “he hasn’t been to Europe” or “he says ‘but’ at the end of his sentences.” It’s important to choose your deal-breakers wisely. My husband visited Europe for the first time with me and it was magical — I loved showing him the parts that I knew. A good friend of mine playfully teases her boyfriend about incorrect use of the word “but”.

The most important thing about your date is his character. Is he kind, honest, loyal? Zone in on those qualities — the kind that are important in a friend. Don’t let a laundry list of expectations ruin what could be very promising potential. I tell my clients they are allowed three non-negotiables. Yes, only three. For example, “tall, sporty, funny,” or “affectionate, ambitious, loves family.” Consider your three and be open to everything else.
“But he tried to shovel raw salmon in my mouth” is not a superficial reason. This is just weird.

3. ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE

There is nothing sexier than someone who can “bring the party” wherever they go. Positivity begets positivity. A happy disposition is tres hot! How much more attractive is the friend or colleague who can laugh with you when you break a wine glass or spill your soup? This applies to dates, too! No matter what, never, ever, ever complain or criticise. Is the bartender really slow or the food average? Just be patient and then only eat a little. Nitpicking is not alluring on any level. Be easy to be with.

4. CONSIDER THE VENUE

If you have a say in the venue, suggest a place that’s lively but where you know you can definitely get a seat (and where the service is decent). There’s nothing worse than both of your eyes darting around for the first 20 minutes of the date, hoping for a table to open up. The background buzz adds ambience and you can relax knowing you’ll have a drink in your hand and an appetiser on the table.

5. KEEP IT LIGHT

On one of my first dates the young man launched into a story about his very manipulative ex-girlfriend just 30 minutes in. This topic (and tone!) left zero opportunity for a romantic connection. Hey, I’ve suffered too — I have been divorced. It’s not fun. But a first date IS meant to be fun! Leave the deeper stuff for later. Just allow the first date to be about chemistry and compatibility. Focus on any topics that you might have in common (skiing, career, a love of Thailand). Avoid anything divisive or polarising (politics, religion, feminism). It’s only the first date!

6. ASK QUESTIONS

Sometimes we just want to impress and so over-talk. Sometimes we feel shy and speak little to avoid saying the wrong thing. Everyone has a story/lesson to share and people instinctively like to talk about themselves. So ask questions. This is the single best tip for an easy, fun date. Questions like, “what’s your favourite thing to do at the weekend?” or “where is your number one place to go to on holiday?” are great, light questions.

Also — even if someone does not work out for you romantically, who is to say that a friendship is out of the picture? You can learn something and like something from everyone you meet, especially if you adhere to Rule #2.

7. SHOUT A LITTLE SOMETHIN’

Chivalry is very much alive and I believe that men like to pay for a first date (unless it’s totally clear there is no connection in which case going Dutch is fine). As a woman I still like to pick up the tab for something — a cocktail, a cab, a coffee. It shows generosity and consideration.

If your date doesn’t have much disposable income you can suggest an inexpensive date — going for a latte and a walk or a takeaway lunch in the park.

8. ALLOW A LITTLE MYSTERY

Don’t launch into a chronology of your life. In this respect, a first date is definitely NOT a job interview. It’s boring for someone meeting you for the first time. Just share snippets of some of the most interesting parts of your life. There will be plenty of time to get into details later.

Also, be sure that you end the date. You can say something like, “This has been awesome, Josh! Thanks for a lovely evening. I have a really busy day tomorrow so I should probably let you go.” It’s good to leave him wanting more of you.
And it goes without saying: Don’t get pregnant.

9. MANNERS, MADAM!

Be very appreciative. Be overt in thanking your date for planning the date/treating you to dinner/whatever it is that he has taken care of.

10. WATCH YOUR WINE

Sometimes our nerves can get the better of us and we drink too much during a first date. Patti Stanger, the Millionaire Matchmaker in Los Angeles says stick to a two-drink maximum. I support this rule and have screwed up in the past when I have drank too much. You want to be poised, in control (and remember the entire date)!

Source: news.com.au

What makes a great first date for you?? Let us know below!

So here at RedHotPie we’ve decided to do something about it. We’ve polled the nation to figure out exactly where everyone is at with first dates.

We found out; who should pay, what you’re looking for in our partners, you definitely should shower before you go on a date and what the biggest vibe killers are, along with a swag of other insightful tidbits.

So may we present you with RedHotPie’s guide to the first date! Go forth and be excellent to each other.

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