With 50 Shades returning to the cinemas, you must admit that kink has entered your mind a couple of times.

Time to get your kink on, why not explore your freak side? And put your kinky bucket list ’50 shades’ style into play.

Whether it’s a soft or more full on fantasy where you use bondage ropes, a blindfold or whips – we’ve got something for every, ahem, taste level.

There’s another world of edgy fun to be had outside the vanilla plain.

Here are the top 10 activities to help you get your kink on.

1.  Ravishment/ forced sex

A lot of women fantasise about this forceful kind of sex. Why? Women, like men, are at times too shy to express their fantasies and desires. When a man tells her what to do, the woman is able to give herself permission to do the naughty and risqué fantasies she feels a little embarrassed about to admit she wants, but deep down really wants to try it.
Does the Fifty Shades Of Grey frenzy make more sense to you now?

2. Fetishes & Kinks

If you like high heels, leather, latex, silk, girdles, fur, or spandex – the list is endless – now is the chance to play with it. Put on your sexiest heels and have sex just in them. If your partner gets excited when he sees you wearing latex, rubber, vinyl or other shiny and tight materials indulge them.

3.   Sex with strangers

There is something sexy, kinky and mysterious about sex with a stranger. Pretend you don’t know each other and meet at the bar. Or really meet a stranger to have that one filled night of passion.

4. Threesome

Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy for both men and women. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to watch your partner have sex with someone else, or wanted them to watch you get with someone else. Maybe you want to experience having two partners at the same time, or to have a sexual experience with whatever gender you usually don’t hook up with. For tips on how to have a successful three way read –  5 tips for a successful threesome.

5.  Try new sex toys

Try the hottest sex toy in the world – womanizer she’ll be pleased. If you want to try out some pegging then get a good strap-on and let the games begin. Want to know more about Pegging: What The Heck Is It?
Toys are a great way to heat things up and you can have hours of fun.

6.  Domination/Submissive role-play

Power is a rush. Many women dream about having a man obey their every wish, so why not unleash your inner dominatrix and try it out in the bedroom? Call all the shots or make commands with whips, handcuffs and blindfolds. Blindfolding is a simple way to incorporate sensory deprivation into your play, and it adds a fun power dynamic:

Many women also fantasize about being submissive and losing control to their partner.

7. Role Play

From doctor/patient to French maid, role-playing is the perfect way to step out of your norms and turn your night into hours of eroticism. Bring imagination into your sexual encounters as an adult by engaging in some role-play.
Love a man in uniform? Play boss and secretary. No matter what you choose, role-play is a fun way to start experimenting with being in a different head space. It’s a great stepping-stone as you get into the Dom/ Sub roles.

8. Erotic spanking

Go ahead! Smack that ass! Feel the sweet sting of your partner’s hand.
One great trick is to be light and sensual with some caressing in between slaps.

The main reason people enjoy spanking is that it taps on two major aspects – sensation play and the sub play. At times your body isn’t going to respond to the ‘traditional’ stimuli for sex and a great way to initiate sex is to trick and surprise your brain – remember your brain is your major sex organ. The arousal is almost instant.

9. Orgy/Group sex

Certainly not everyone’s fantasy, but if you enjoy threesomes and are curious about bringing more partners into the bedroom, this might be one thrilling and liberating one to explore.

10. Worship

Love a particular area of your partner’s body? Then spend some extra time lavishing attention on it.  Kiss and suck those toes, if that gets your juices going. If you love breasts, spend an hour massaging them with oil. Indulge in some great bouncy boob gifs. If you love her butt give it the attention it deserves. Have a look at our butt gifs Sexy Ass Tuesday.
Your partner will love it, because you are giving them the biggest compliment by loving their body, even if it’s one particle part of your body.

Want to throw routine right out of the window, then adding some kink into your sex life might just be the thing. We all benefit in learning new ways to enjoy sex. You never know if you like it until you try it.

Related: 10 Fetishes You Didn’t Know You Had

Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy for both men and women. While this fantasy might be incredibly exciting, the dynamics of it can be a bit tricky. Threesome can be initially awkward as the dynamics changes from 2 to 3 and therefore it is really important to negotiate everyone’s terms, and to be clear about boundaries from the start. Keep in mind the following when having your choice of three-scoop combination:

1. Communication & Consent

Communication and consent are the key to any sexual activity. All affected parties need to have a talk so that no one crosses a boundary they didn’t know existed. Talk about what’s on and off the table, ensure everybody is on the same page including your special guest. It’s also a good idea to ask your special guest what s/he is comfortable with doing, this is about all of you after all.

2. Take it slow

You don’t have to go all the way the first time you hook up, take it easy. You can choose to have small breaks and gauge how everyone is feeling or just meet another time and continue what you started.However, if everything feels great from the beginning then let yourself just enjoy the ride.

3. Get everyone involved.

A common mistake for novices is thinking everyone needs to be involved at all times to feel included. Some of the hottest moments in a threesome can be when you are watching two people enjoying each other. If you have voyeuristic tendencies this is a huge turn on. This could also spike interest in cuckold and hotwife fantasies. However, everybody should have a bit of fun and not feel left out. So pay everybody equal amount of attention.

4. It doesn’t change you or your relationship.

Another hurdle is worrying too much about what a threesome means. If a threesome happens to figure out a new realm of both your sexuality, that’s great, but there’s no need to worry that a threesome says anything about who you are. Bringing another man into the equation doesn’t mean your boyfriend is gay or you are a slut, it only means you are both willing to explore and push your boundaries. Life’s too short to allow our antiquated ideas of sexuality to blind us, we live in more progressive times. It’s your sex life and you establish your sex rules with your partner. Sex is exciting when you mix things up a little.

5. Pick your three-scoop combination.

Finally, the type of threesome that suits you best depends on you as a couple. Whatever threesome you choose make sure you finish with expressing that you had ‘fun’. It does increase your chances of seeing your guest again, especially if you meshed well together.

This is not the easiest fantasy to have fulfilled – the chase of the elusive ‘unicorn’. It’s not a secret that the willing, single women couples fantasise about are a rarity but not an impossibility altogether. There are single women out there willing to do threesomes but not enough for all the couples wishing to have it happen to them. Or more important, the way they envisage the fantasy to happen. Too focused on their own needs, they forget to consider the third party wishes, desires, boundaries and expectations.

However, why are couples obsessing over a threesome that involves only a single woman? This is often leads to very good opportunities being cast aside. Are we looking at 3way all the wrong way?

For couples and women who are interested in experiencing sex with more than one person, maybe inviting a single man and changing the FFM to MFM threesome is what a lot of couples have been missing out on. Cultural attitudes toward sex, sexual identity and relationships changed, and therefore it is time to broaden the way we look at threesomes.

House of Cards, on Netflix, or the TV series made waves last year when Claire Underwood (Robin Wright) and her husband, Francis (Kevin Spacey), seduced a handsome young Secret Service agent. Propelling the move away from the traditional threesome to be typically as two women and a man. The trend has been set in motion, so let’s jump the bandwagon and enjoy what seems to be the easier ‘unicorn’ to catch.

Here are the top 7 reasons why a MFM threesome might just be the thing for you as a couple exploring your sexuality:

1. A huge advantage with MFM type of threesomes are that women seem to suffer from less insecurities, such as comparing themselves to the other girl, or whether her man likes the new girl better. It allows the woman to learn to focus on her pleasure rather than on her insecurities. Too often women’s pleasures falls to the wayside on the priority list, but in a MFM her pleasure is at the center.
2. Another advantage of MFM threesome is if your lady has a great sexual drive, two men might be more satisfying. She can consider new exciting possibilities that can only be achieved through having sex with two men, such as DP, hotwifing and cuckolding. Sure men can suffer from performance anxiety in front of other males. Realistically, today that barrier is not a big factor, in view of today’s more relaxed attitudes to sex and relationship dynamics. Couples in general are more liberal in their thinking and are not offended or shocked at some MM interaction.
3. Which brings us to this point. There is a lot of curiosity with MM interaction and what better way to fulfill your guy’s bi-side. For many straight people, a threesome is the first place they experience same-sex erotic contact. This can be incredibly exciting and liberating.
4. Most men would find it difficult to please two women at the same time. Unless you are a man with a great drive in which a FFM is ideal for you and also ideal for women in relationships that want to explore their bi-side. Women in general are capable of having several orgasms and each has a different sensation – clitoral, vaginal, multiple orgasms, squirting orgasm and g-spot orgasms, the many reasons why women can handle multiple men at once.
5. The other great thing about a MFM threesome is that it’s waaaay  easier to put together than the other kind. Sure, you can run the risk of the boner proximity issue, but in today’s changed and relaxed sexual attitudes this isn’t an issue anymore.
6. In many ways having threesomes that involve two men and one woman will teach the woman to find her pleasure, focus on her pleasure and also relax about issues of insecurities and jealousy. Experiencing  first hand what it truly means to share an experience with her partner that enriches their relationship. Maybe MFM for many women is a stepping stone to a FFM, as they learn that threesomes are nothing than a sexual explorations and not a threat to a well established relationship.
7. Last, there’s something sexy about a confident, sensual woman who is capable of handling two men at the same time.

These are only a few good reason to try a MFM threesome, but there are probably many more that could be listed. If you have anymore to add let us know in the comments below

Fortunately, most swingers clubs and parties today provide a welcoming environment for single girls. Organisers bend over backwards to ensure that their experience (quite often their first) with group sex or more-somes is nothing but positive and pleasurable.

For the single ladies on RedHotPie who may be contemplating their first foray into swinging, here are some points to keep in mind before starting your sexy adventure:

What Do You Want Out Of Swinging?

The first thing you should consider before dipping your toe into the world of swinging is to decide (at least roughly) what you want out of the experience. Multiple men? Multiple women only? Or a combination of everything? Are you open to intercourse happening (safe or otherwise) or do you want to stick to foreplay fun? Spontaneous naughtiness is certainly exhilarating but if anything, it’s best to know 100% what you definitely don’t want to experience so there are no regrets later on.

Once you know what you want out of swinging, the next important thing to do is work out how to go about it. If you have not done anything sexually with more than one person before and are perhaps on the shy or inexperienced side, you may wish to consider finding a smaller group of people to play with. This way you can get to know a set number of people socially before getting naked with them. There’s less likelihood of surprises and misunderstanding if everyone present is aware of your needs and desires.

If you’ve otherwise had some experience with threesomes or more-somes, and now want to experience the heady atmosphere of lots of sexy strangers getting together for some random, spontaneous encounters, then one of the swingers parties or clubs listed on RedHotPie may be right up your alley. Clubs that welcome single girls will gladly field any questions you may have and more than likely arrange someone to show you around when you arrive. If a club or party isn’t forthcoming with information or assistance, check out another venue.

Meeting Couples

For those ladies not too keen on parties and clubs, one of the easiest and intimate ways to get an understanding of swinging is to meet some couples on RedHotPie. Even if you’re seeking more than a threesome, getting to know a handful of couples will easily open up your opportunities to experience swinging in a more controlled way. Most couples are good friends with other likeminded couples so setting up a sexy private party to initiate you into the wild side won’t be hard to do.

Be wary of couples on RedHotPie whose profile mentions things like “wanting to a girl to spoil my man” or “desperate to fulfill our threesome fantasy”. Choosing a couple who isn’t overly focussed on their own needs and desires won’t place high expectations on you or your meeting with them. You want to meet couples who can make you feel relaxed and are interested in what you do or don’t want to do.

Suggest meeting a couple socially first at a bar or cafe, so you can see if there is any sexual chemistry and potential to be trusted friends. Don’t feel pressured or pushed into agreeing to anything that is suggested to you. There may be two people on the side of the table but you call the shots. On the same token though, do be upfront with the people you meet. If your aim is to play with a number of couples rather than just a threesome, then ensure that you explain that in your RedHotPie messages, or indicate your intentions on your profile before arranging to meet in person.

To Wingman, Or To Not Wingman?

Quite often, single women are unsure about attending a swingers event on their own even though the organiser may have done their best to assure them that they will be made comfortable and encouraged to mingle socially. Whether or not you attend on your own will depend on the sort of social creature you are, or are not.

If you’d feel more comfortable going to a party or club with someone you already know even just for the sake of not looking like you’ve come on your own, then it may not be a bad idea to invite a likeminded friend along, or a regular play friend who understands or even shares your desire to try swinging. If so, do ask the party or club organiser if it’s OK to attend as a couple or twosome.

Many play friends attend swingers events together successfully but you should probably outline some ground rules. If the purpose of having a friend along is to ensure you have constant company, the last thing you want is your friend to make a pig of himself with a bunch of people elsewhere, leaving you to wonder when it’s time to call the taxi (or vice versa!). Also, never (ever) invite a friend who is not open-minded or does not have a basic understanding of how swinging works.

Interestingly, many women who attend swingers parties with a play friend end up wishing they hadn’t. Sometimes a friend will limit the amount of fun you can have, particularly if he or she isn’t as Gung Ho about swinging as you are. Some friends aren’t naturally social and find large groups intimidating, or some feel a little jealous if swinging and group sex isn’t properly understood and they may have thought your relationship was exclusive. If in doubt, do consider attending on your own. You can leave at any time and that way, you only have to be responsible for your own good time. Most women who have attended parties will agree that the scene is friendly. You’ll never feel alone as people are often more than happy to have a no-strings chat, just to make conversation.

Once-Off or Ongoing?

Inevitably, many single ladies end up asking themselves whether swinging is a sustainable lifestyle for them as a solo player. Some women find that once their fantasies have been fulfilled, they don’t feel the need to participate further, at least not without a life partner of their own. Many singles and even couples are led by curiosity more than a definite appetite for group sex and as such, they fall out of the scene once the itch is scratched sufficiently. There’s nothing wrong with that and as most people will attest, why die wondering? Don’t feel bad if swinging is ultimately not what turns you on. Everyone is different.

On the flipside, there are just as many women who find themselves genuinely loving the dynamics of swinging and end up staying in the scene on a regular or casual basis. There’s definitely nothing wrong with that either and the most likely reason such women may give swinging a miss is when they meet a new partner. It’s therefore not unusual to see girls in the scene for a lengthy period before disappearing (and reappearing). Frequently, they end up with a partner who is just as keen for group play and a new swinging couple is born!

Whatever you decide, just remember that swinging or indulging in experimental group sex is not a lifelong commitment. You can dabble in it and just as easily decide later that it’s not your thing. You might change your mind again later, or you might not, but no one needs to know what you’ve explored except yourself. Your sex life is no one else’s business except perhaps your new partner’s, should the topic come up and ONLY if you wish to share your experiences.

Just be reassured that it’s never been easier or safer for single girls to explore fantasies and RedHotPie is definitely the place to start. If you’ve been hesitating, just strike up a conversation in Forums and you’ll no doubt find plenty of people to give you some tips and encouragement. Whatever you end up doing, have fun with it!

Interested in reading more? Check out some related member forums!

‘First time swinging for a single lady.’ Read it here
‘Transitioning from coupled off to swinglehood.’Read it here

The 29-year-old, who is living in Queenstown over the winter, had been “picked up” by a woman during a Friday night out, but rather than sleep the whole night in her hotel room he roamed to another one down the hallway.

“He got up at some stage in the night and wandered butt-naked around the hotel until he found a new bed to snuggle up in,” said Sergeant Steve Watt, of Queenstown police.

“I’m not sure what the trouble was with the other bed, but you can imagine the couple’s surprise when they awoke to find a nude man trying to cosy up with them.”

The intruder, whose name has not been revealed, slept soundly while the woman hid in the bathroom and her husband phoned the concierge.

“We got called at 7am on Saturday, by which time the hotel, being as generous as they were, had given the gentleman a robe and taken him down to their front counter,” Watt said.

“Unfortunately, he had no idea who the woman was that he’d gone home with, or what room she was staying in, so he had no clothes and no wallet and had to take a ride home with us still in his robe.”

The man, who was working on the mountain, was not charged.

“It was far too funny for that,” Watt said.

“While the people that he crashed with were obviously highly surprised, thankfully they saw the lighter side of it as well and didn’t wish to press any charges and nor did the hotel.”

The officer said he was used to Australians “getting up to mischief” in the tourist town, “but this is one of the funniest, most entertaining debacles I’ve had to deal with in a very long time”.

Source: theaustralian.com.au

Do Australians make some of the world’s best lovers? Well, since RedHotPie’s call out to our members to represent Australia in the Durex Global Sex Survey, the average time Australian’s are making love in a year has jumped from 84 in 2001, to 103 last year, to rise again above the international average to 108 in 2006. This is in no small part due to the fact that RedHotPie members are having sex over 350 times a year. Yes that’s right; RedHotPie members are having sex more than 3 times the national average! Australians are also world leaders in threesomes. You heard right, but let me repeat, we are the official world leaders in the number of THREESOMES! Oh Yeah!

This comes as no surprise when you consider that 67% of Australian single girls, (out of the hundreds of thousands of RedHotPie members) are looking for couples. As one of the proud Australians who has had the good fortune to experience a threesome, I would like to thank RedHotPie for this and for making Western Australia the world leader in threesomes, blitzing the global average of only 15%. Even those randy French and decadent Americans can not hold a candle to the love making ability of us Australians.

The Durex Sex Survey also reveals that we are world leaders when it comes to incorporating sex toys in the bedroom. 46% of Australians, compared to the global average of 23%, use sex toys as a way of complementing our sexual ability and enhancing the sexual experience. We are second only to Britain in the use of blindfolds, whips, ropes and other bondage paraphernalia. The real question here has to be, how the hell did we rank higher then those deviant Germans? I guess we Australian are a lot kinkier then we imagine.

Now if we can only increase the rate at which we practice Karma Sutra techniques in the bedroom, which now sits at an abysmal 6%, sourly under the global average. This is well behind even Hong Kong where 75% of the population are practitioners of this ancient art of Tantric sex. Apart from this, Western Australia sticks out head and shoulders above the world as having some of THE best lovers and remember, RedHotPie is where you will find these world class sex fiends.