From the planning to the execution this was one party that ticketed a few bucket list fantasies.

How do I know this? I was there with a group of sexy friends.

To start off, the venue was purpose designed for a hot erotic event. It evoked sexual energy and sensuality, especially with the private hidden playroom. You could feel the erotic vibe as soon as you walked in.

The whole aura of the place, with the high ceiling chandeliers, the long mirrored bar, plush lounges, a centre stage and a private play area, evoked feelings of sensuality.

This amazing venue came alive with the sexy attendees who dressed for sex. There were so many sexy and provocative angels and devils, it was hard to stay focused.

For the first hour, people mostly danced, sipped on exotic cocktails and warmed up to the place and the people, and then, the entertainment started.

It started out with sexually charged dancers, especially when the look alike Tatum Channing braced the stage, and had the women feeling hot and bothered.

Couples & singles alike were frolicking in the lounges while others made their way to the popular private playroom.

The playroom discreetly tucked away from the main area with dim lights, couches and decadent surroundings, was in full swing with naked bodies and people going at it. There were foursomes, threesomes, blowjobs … It was as wild as it gets.

Even just for one night, the Monastery brought to life many of the attendees’ sexual fantasies.

This was one sexy night filled the most fun, and attractive crowd in a perfectly suited venue.

A huge thank you and congratulations to Gav & Michelle from Private Parties, you have made Perth one of the most exciting destinations for sexy life-stylers.

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If so, you may already be aware of some of the well established and revered international lifestyle destinations like Hedonism III in Jamaica, Cancun in Mexico, Cape D’Age in France, and many more.

Well, with these kinds of activities in mind, Team RHP has been busy working with some exciting new swinging travel partners to bring you some amazing new adult travel opportunities.

We are thrilled to announce a new and exclusive partnership with Luxury Lifestyle Vacations, the world’s most renowned adult event organisers, specializing in everything from lifestyle luxury cruises to full resort takeovers.

Pepe and Claudia from Luxury Lifestyle Vacations are the international authorities when it comes to lifestyle vacations; they have more than 20 years of experience in the travel industry, and in particular, international adult vacations.

Luxury Lifestyle Vacations understand that when you travel to a lifestyle event, you still want that intoxicating holiday adventure. Pepe and Claudia make it their mission to put you in a world of excitement, luxury, comfort and titillation by sourcing the perfect hotels and resorts for globe-trotting life-stylers seeking a holiday that can live up to their erotic fantasies.

To compliment this exciting new relationship, RedHotPie recently teamed up with Australian based lifestyle bloggers and travel hosts, Ellie and Al from Sexy Adult Vacations.

Ellie and Al have been traversing the globe for years, experiencing first hand the most erotic and exotic adult events on the international calendar, and now they’re putting that experience to good use by showing others the way to experience the same sensual highs.

Sexy Adult Vacations will be taking travel groups from RedHotPie to some of Luxury Lifestyle Vacations biggest international events; so if you’re ready for the hedonistic holiday of a lifetime, we’ve done all the hard work for you. Just check out the wide range of amazing lifestyle vacations on offer below:

Cafe Chocolate Ole – May 7-12^th 2016

Join Luxury Lifestyle Vacations Club and Grown & Sexy Crew for our 4th Annual Cafe Chocolate Ole’ Affair. Sexy couples from around the world will again indulge in a fun-filled week of assorted chocolate desires and other many succulent desire.

Expand your boundaries and satisfy both your chocolate and sexual fantasies.

There will themed pool parties, themed nights and sexy seminars by special guests entertainer Nyla The High Pimstress to delight you.

Sin City 6, Sat, June 1^rst -5^th  2016

Bronze Party is celebrating 6 years of sexy this year. Where are they taking their big celebration? Las Vegas, the party town of America!

Bronze Party is having a full takeover of Rumor Boutique Resort in Las Vegas on the nights of the 1^rst to the 5^th of June. There’ll be pool parties, masquerade themed party, burlesque and fetish ball and after parties until 5 am every night. Sounds like an event you do not want to miss out on.

Barcelona Wet Sun Weekend – June 3^rd-6^th, 2016

Modern spaces that are ideal for your social events.

The Meliá Barcelona Sarrià is an exclusive 5-star hotel located in the financial, cultural and commercial centre of the city of Barcelona.

A stone’s throw from the city’s main tourist attractions, five minutes from Paseo de Gracia and La Pedrera, and just ten minutes from Sagrada Familia and Parque Güell. Football fans will also love the fact that it’s just 5 minutes from Camp Nou.

After a long day of sightseeing and shopping, relax in our exclusive YHI Wellness Spa. Or, if you prefer, take advantage of our 24-hour gym.

Experience this hot Spanish city with like-minded people.

Ibiza Takeover – 5 days! June 6^th – 10^th  2016

This by invitation only event for only a few discerning couples!

Ibiza is known for being the world as being the party capital of the world.

If lush sexy ladies in minimal apparel appeal or dashing Don Juans in bulging speedos are to your taste, your ideal sexy destination has to be Ibiza.

A few places in universe offer such hedonistic pleasures as scantily-clad beach festivities followed by clothes-drenching foam parties as the world’s best DJs take center stage right in front of you.

Its infamous reputation dates back to the 1960’s when Hippies made it their own Mecca of easy-living pleasures. It has now transformed into the world’s premier party venue.

Ibiza has a hedonistic heritage stretching back more than 30 years, a place we all need to at least once in our lives.

Naughty in N’awlins, Wed July 6^th, 2016

Want to be part of the biggest Lifestyle convention in the USA? The Aussie Swingers are heading back to New Orleans, for this year’s Naughty N’awlins. RedHotPie and The Aussie swingers want you to join them.

Naughty N’awlins is a lifestyle and swinger couples convention and has been a popular event in America since 1999, which couples from all around the globe come to experience.

Where else in the world do you see a main street shut down and let a crowd of swingers throw a parade?

Whether you are beginning your journey into the swinger’s lifestyle or are an experienced couple, this is a great event to attend because the educational opportunities, to learn about etiquette, role-playing and all things concerning the lifestyle.

It’s a great chance to meet other experienced couples from around Australia and the world.

Book with The Aussie Swingers, as they will be accompanying you through the whole experience.

Cape d’Agde Takeover – 5 Nights Stay, July 21^rst to 26^th 2016

Luxury Lifestyle Vacation is having their third takeover event in Cap D’Agde in the Nude city of Southern France from the 21-26 of July.

This sensual party is taking place on the Le Jardin D’Eden, exclusively for the LLV couples. This is one event you can’t afford to miss. Party all night and sunbake naked during the day.

Paris – July 26-30^th 2016

Paris the city of love, romance and passion, a city that has witnessed many libertines since its inception. It has seen great romances, elopes and love affairs. It has a claim to uniquely redefine love in its own way.

Indulge your senses in a city that transpires all that is passionate – love, sex, and manage-à-trois. The food, the wine and, the atmosphere will lead only to decadence.

Join LLV in a naughty escape to Paris 2016.

Baltic Sensuell Cruise – Aug 2^nd – 11^th 2016

Don’t miss out on an exclusive chance to embark on a cruise trough some wonderful Northern European hotspots, on the sexiest cruise liner that has ever been put to sea – the Azamara Quest.

This 10-day adventure in the fabled Baltic Sea, where the days are long and nights hot.

Azamara is not a stranger to LLV and its entourage; so if you only take one lifestyle trip in 2016, make it this one.

Rumba Mediterranea Lifestyle Cruise – Aug 5^th-13^th 2016

If you ever desired to see the Mediterranean, why not embark on an unforgettable week with over 300 Lifestyle Couples? A journey of 8 days and 7 nights full ship takeover, couples only lifestyle swingers.

Like all LLV cruises, Rumba Mediterranean is full ship takeover clothing optional on all the pool and sundecks.

There’ll be a play room where couples can go explore.

 Puerto Vallarta Mexico Takeover – Oct 15^th-22^nd, 2016

A breathtaking destination, Puerto Vallarta, is the ultimate getaway. Barceló Puerto Vallarta hotel is the best resort in Mexico. It distinguishes itself from the rest with 5-star service and 4 prestigious AAA Diamonds.

With 316 spacious and luxurious Suites, clear pools, terrace and balcony with breathtaking views, this October Luxury Lifestyle Vacations will have an exclusive takeover from the 15 -22 October. Pamper yourself and see the world while you do what you like most.

Pamper yourself and see the world in this erotic and decadent journey with lifestylers while you do what you like most.

Halloween Takeover – Desire Resort, 28^th Oct – Nov 2^nd 2016

Come to the spookiest & sexiest week of all year with the classiest and hottest couples in the lifestyle!

Desire Pearl Resort & Spa, Riviera Maya, a beachfront hotel with breathtaking facilities and sweeping views of the Caribbean Sea, includes 32 Ocean Front Rooms, 13 Junior Suites, 36 Master Suites, and 7 Penthouse Passion Suites.

You are invited to enjoy our cutting edge entertainment, provocative theme nights, exclusive workshops and much more.

Bliss Lifestyle Cruise – Nov 27^th-Dec 4^th 2016

Bliss Cruise makes it easy for adventuresome couples to enjoy time at sea by offering adult-only, full-ship charters that tour exotic locations from Florida to the Eastern and Western Caribbean.

In some areas of the ship, clothing is optional — but all passengers are at least 21 years and older — so no need to worry about an under-aged crowd.

LLV voyages attract many open-minded groups such as swinger couples, nudists, voyeurs and, exhibitionists as well as curious individuals looking to experience something different from the conventional cruise vacation.

This 7-night cruise is a lifestyle cruise unlike any other. Don’t miss your chance to party with other like-minded people on-board this award willing Celebrity cruise ship.

Combining exotic, unique and once in a lifetime destinations coupled with the perfect atmosphere to fulfil your erotic sexual fantasies. What more could you ask for?

You pack your favourite vibrator, a pair of handcuffs; condoms, lube, massage oil and you feel you’re all set.

There are some things, however, you need to be prepared for aside from getting your bag of tricks ready. Whether you are a seasoned swinger or a newbie this might shed light into things that you might have dismissed as irrelevant or finicky. Following are a few tips for surviving a sex party.

1. Be prepared

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True, some party venues provide guests with free condoms and tiny packets of lube at the door. This is not going to last you and get you past second base. So definitely, pack some of your own.

While it’s not necessary to bring the entire contents of your naughty drawer, you should take along the basics – your favourite lube, one to remember especially if you are extra sensitive or have any allergies to latex. Maybe pack some of your favourite toys, vibrators, and a costume if you like to dress up and role-play.

It might also be wise to pack a couple of towels and a change of clothes. After a night of frolicking, it will make you feel like you can face the world once you had a shower and put on some new clothes on.

In addition, each club or house party has rules. Rules are intended to make everyone safe. You need to know them well, a good idea is to ring in advance or check the club’s website. The advantage, of course, is that you walk in like you own the place rather than look like a scared puppy hanging out in the dark corners frighted of everyone around. The better prepared you are the better your experience will be.

2. Put some thought to your choice of wardrobe

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There’s nothing worse than wasting your energy and passion on trying to get those skinny jeans off. You’ll both end up exhausted for the wrong reason.

Wear a sexy skirt sans panties for when things get heated up cause nobody ain’t got the time for elaborate and complicated obstructions.

However, sometimes parties are themed so they ask you to come dressed in latex, leather, uniforms or glam evening wear.

3. Scrubbing Up

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Trim, shave, or wax whatever your preference but ensure you look absolutely your best because unlike other parties you are more definitely going to end up naked. Stage one is your sexy clothes you walked in with, then your sexy lingerie and last you’ll end up in your birthday suit. All eyes are going to be on you and you better impress!

4. Look and smell your best

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Hygiene will break or seal the deal. If you are left all alone in a room where things were about to happen. Ask if you brushed your teeth, groomed or had a shower. Don’t be the skunk in the room.

5. Party etiquette

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It’s a sex party, yes but it’s not free for all policy. There’s a sexy feeling in the air but personal boundaries still prevail. So don’t go around smacking every sexy ass you see or try to grope people up.

Before nibbling on that sexy stranger’s ear, placing a hand on their thigh, show some manners and ask permission. It’s important that all participants feel comfortable, and that all intimate acts are consensual.

6. Watch first, and then decide

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You can do all the Internet research you want, but you’re not going to really understand what it’s like to be in a swinging environment until you’ve been there. Your first time, it’s typically a good idea to just go and see how things unfold. There will be plenty to see and learn.  Roam around, observe and learn how things work.

Then, if it’s something you’re into, and you’re in the mood, figure out how you fit in and either ask if you can join in or leave it for another time. No one couple is the same and what works for one, doesn’t mean it works for the other. If you are comfortable join in the fun.

7. Door Closed vs Door Open

Be respectful of others’ space, especially if they are trying to have a bit of a private play with someone else with the bedroom door closed. Usually, doors closed mean DO NOT DISTURB. However, if doors are left open then a couple is happy to either being watched or being joined by another couple or person.

While voyeurism and exhibitionism are a big part of any play party, there’s a definite line between creepy and non-creepy.

Whether you are single or a couple if you make yourself a pleasant party guest and make a good impression, someone is bound to ask you to play.

8. Expect nothing and the unexpected

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Walk in with no expectations. People instinctively know when someone comes in with expectations; those who are casual about being around sexy people become more attractive.

Sex parties draw in a variety of people and not all fall within your definition of attractive. Be prepared to go to parties and not quite meet someone who ticks all your boxes, but you’re still in luck as there’s novelty to do the dirty deed somewhere new.

9. Be respectful of partners

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If you want to get invited to join a couple you need to build a rapport. You need to impress both parties. Although, some couples are comfortable playing alone, the majority want to play together. It’s important that you respect their boundaries and ensure yours are considered too.

If at any stage you are invited to participated in an activity you are not ready for yet, say politely “I’m really flattered by the invitation, but I’m not interested.”

10. Discuss, set and keep your boundaries

Even the most open of relationships will have boundaries that they work with. Play parties are lots of fun and an incredible turn on for some couples, but jealousy surface. To avoid jealousy it’s a good idea to regulate the level of physical contact with others.

Some couples are comfortable playing together, others are happy playing alone, and none is wrong just whatever is your comfort zone. Agree on rules and boundaries and do not break them. If you feel after the first or several sex parties you are ready to raise the stake, bring up the issue with your partner and re-negotiate your rules.

11. Connect with your partner regularly

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Connect with your partner regularly so they still feel like they are number one, because if they feel good and safe the more fun you are going to have.

On the whole, if you both come out feeling great about the party and your experience there, the more likely you are going to go to another sex party in the near future.

12. You need to be social

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Many people go to swingers parties and complain that everybody there is “too cliquish.” Yes, swingers gravitate towards their friends — like everybody else — but go up and say hello, and you’ll be surprised how fast people will welcome you.

13. Learn the lingo

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When you hear the words “full swap,” it’s the term for couples that are down for full-on sex with another couple.

When you hear the word ‘unicorn’ in a conversation they’re talking about a female who attends swinger’s events alone.

Other useful terms include “soft swap”, couples who’ll play with other couples but won’t “go all the way” and “the lifestyle,” which is a term swingers’ use to describe their lifestyle.

14. Don’t overdo the alcohol

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You know what’s a miserable feeling? Spending all week fantasising about a threesome or a foursome, getting to the point where it’ll actually happen, and then realising you drank too much to do anything about it.

Sure, you might need a drink or two to loosen up, but past that you risk suffering from whiskey dick. Honestly, nobody wants to have sex with an inebriated mess.

15. Soothe Your Nerves

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You’re bound to be a little nervous at your first party.  There are plenty of experienced sex party-goers who still feel nervous before every party.

It’s really OK to feel nervous. One of the best ways to get past your nerves is to talk to people at the party. Tell them it’s your first time.  There are plenty of nice people who would be willing to show you the ropes or help you feel more comfortable.

16. Set realistic expectations

Even if you and your partner agree to be down for “full swap,” don’t go to a swingers parties with the unrealistic expectations. Nobody’s guaranteeing an orgy or “full swap”, sometimes you may go and not find any couples you like.

Also, the action may not start until much later in the evening, so don’t get bored and leave because nobody’s getting it on by midnight. People sometimes take the time to warm up to each other and to get in the right space for what they about to share with each other. It has to feel right for everybody involved.

17. Let the women lead the way

Guys, if you have a woman who is even CONSIDERING participating in an activity that allows you to have sex with other women, you can consider yourself a lucky man. Don’t  pressure your lady into doing anything she doesn’t want to do.

Let her take the lead. In the swinging world, the women are the ones who give the green light, so be patient and allow her to call the shots.

18. Be adventurous

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Dare to let go and try new things, things you’ve perhaps never thought about or were too shy to try! This is the place where you can let loose and almost be someone else for a night. If you don’t usually make noise, pretend you’re a porn star or try positions you’ve never done with someone before. Well, any position with more than two of you is likely to be new at this point!

19. You need to debrief

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Debrief after every time you swing, check on how you feel, what you liked, and what didn’t. The conversation will allow you to discuss the experience and figure out if rules need to be changed or added, or if there are different things you’d both like to try next time.

Talking about what you did after the fact is the most important part in making the next experience just as mind blowing.

20. Have Fun

If you decide not to play with another couple or you just didn’t hit it off with anyone. You’re in a sex party. So why don’t you go and have sex somewhere, there are plenty of dark corners, and couches. Be warned that all the prime spots tend to get staked out fast.

Hopefully, these tips will help you better prepare for your sex party. Just remember that everyone is going to be a bit nervous, just looking to have a good time, so relax and enjoy the unique experience. Have fun!
 Have anything else to add to this post, comment below.

RedHotPie members start your engines! This year’s Xmas season promises something special.

Xmas, summer and nice warm weather can be a lot of fun when you are part of the sexy lifestyle. Skimpy, tiny-weenie little outfits, long and warm nights make for the perfect party time. Are you going to be naughty or nice this holiday season?

It’s time to start planning and get your steamy Xmas break the sexiness it deserves. So what’s really going on around the country? Sneak away to your state’s parties or go further and explore the other states. Either way here is a list of what is happening from state to state:

New South Wales

 
Red Heaven presents Santa’s Summer of Sports – Sat, 5^th December

Red Heaven has created a fun, seductive and sophisticated themed events, with an explosion of essential funky house tunes and a flirtatious and provocative style dress code. Christmas will be a definite blast! What does summer mean to you? Cricket, tennis, football, soccer or swimming? Whatever it is you clad yourself in your favourite sexy sporting outfit and have a blowout at Santa’s Summer of Sport!  

Naughty or Nice Chritstmas Party – Sat 12^th December

The Party People are hosting their very own Naughty Or Nice Christmas Party on the 12^th of December. Celebrate this cheeky season with some mischievous fun. Dress up naughty/nice and look for Santa’s naughty helpers.

Brumbies White Christmas Party – Fri 18^th December

Set in a beautiful home in the Southern Sydney Beach suburb, with a large 10 person outdoor spa, Alfresco undercover area, main room playing area for the wild members and separate secluded rooms for those wanting a more intimate experience. Let’s have a Christmas Party to remember on Friday the 18^th of December. There will be great giveaways from our great friends at RedHotPie.

Sexy Santa Shag-A-Thon – Saturday, 19^thDecember

For those of you who have already been to Our Secret Spot, you already know how wild their parties get. If you haven’t checked it out yet, now is the time! OSS is one of, if not THE best lifestyle club in the country. It’s going to be a very Merry Christmas at Our Secret Spot on Saturday the 19^th of December. Find your Sexiest Santa outfits and strut around the club ready to be very naughty and OHHHH so nice. Canapés and Christmas treats will be served.

Western Australia

Pleasure Lounge xXxMas Party @ PL – Fri 18^th December

The best swingers party venue in Perth is having a Xmas party on Friday the 18^thof December. Unwind, have fun and let some steam off before your other Xmas parties. No pressure nor expectations.

Who’s Been Naughty Xmas Party – Sat, 19^th December

If you prefer private sexy house parties, then Perth sneaky sins have your back. Just before it all gets crazy, why not celebrate Xmas on Saturday the 19^th of December in a private residence in Karrinyup while splashing or sipping away on your drink around the pool. A friendly party for new and experienced couples who just want to chill before the 25^th of December.

Victoria

Melbourne swingers Christmas Party – Saturday, 12^thDecember

Melbourne swingers are taking Swinging to a NEW LEVEL! Melbourne Swingers is a mixed lifestyle event where across-section of sexually based lifestyles can be indulged with a mixture of broad minded adults and exhibitionists looking for erotic adult activities and entertainment. Come celebrate Xmas Saturday the 12^th of December.

PURR -Ho Ho HoIt’s White Xmas – Fri, 18th December

Yes it’s that time of the year again, when Purr is having their 11th Xmas event …and this year its everyone’s favourite theme “WHITE XMAS”. 

The BIG man in red is due to make an appearance @ PURR party, and he’s bringing special surprise gifts for everyone… You’ll be kicking yourself if you miss out on this one.

Queensland
Mikesplace Frisky Friday Pre Xmas Party – Friday,18th December 

As always at Mikesplace, fun times are at the top of our list and the 18^thof December is the date. So if you want to come along and have some fun, this is the Friday night to have it. There will be plenty of sexy pixies and horny Santa’s helpers, get dressed up and have fun.

Chateau Vino Swingers Club Xmas Dress-up! – Sat, 12th December

Dress to impress for our naughty Santa when you sit on his knee and whisper all the dirty things you have done this year to deserve a gift. Prizes for best dressed! Come enjoy yourself at Chateau Vino on the 12^th of December.

So much going on around the country, but if things just don’t work your way at all for whatever reason, you can always have Sara mesmerise you to sleep.

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If you are more into one-on-one encounters why not post a few dates on DATEFINDER and ensure you celebrate your holiday season in a more personal style.