Some single guys haven’t contemplated actually ever realizing their fantasies; they are here to live out their sexual fantasies in the safety of their home; they’re looking for cyber-sex. Without a doubt these men should be truthful and explain themselves instead of wasting genuine people’s time. However, here lies the problem it’s in this blurring of the lines of reality and fantasy that they get their kicks. To be optimistic let’s describe them as – ‘work in progress’- eventually cyber-sex won’t be sufficient and they will venture out into reality.

Meanwhile, The big question is how do you identify the ‘Cyber guy’ vs. the real meet guy? One obvious factor would be, these men seek a lot of details on what is and is not going to happen should you meet, this is an obvious sign of their intent – not to meet but for you to entertain them. Try to have them call you instead if they do, that’s a reasonable sign that they might be genuine in their pursuits

Other single men do want to actually meet. However, due to inexperience or on the unfolding of the events they get cold feet. They start doubting whether they can meet your expectations. Or worse they’ve lied a little about their size, age and even what they can do. All of these start to take hold of them and then all their excitement becomes fear and yes they are going to let you down, at this stage not even naked Angelina Jolie will help them rise to the occasion.

There is also the male who is obviously confident and wants this experience. Sometimes little things upset the flow of events. Maybe someone is in a hurry to be thrashed and he hasn’t quite gotten there yet and the more he thinks about it the more nervous he gets; deflating as he ponders – How embarrassing!!!! Another scenario, no better than the first, he is so thrilled, excited and he cannot make it last. He didn’t mean to and he didn’t want to disappoint. Worse is that he can’t relax enough to get going again. However, not all is lost if all involved are willing they could make plans to meet again and laugh this first experience off. Second time round things can only improve!!!

Here are a few tips on how to make your experience with the single guy work for you.

1. Communication is important, exchange photos and then phone numbers, pick up the phone and call, have a little chat and get to know each other a bit.

2. Don’t create scenarios that are too perfect leave room for the unexpected things will most definitely vary from what you’ve imagined, after all we’re dealing with human beings.

3. Try to be open to anything, picture the worst-case scenario and be willing to give it a try again. Sometimes it takes a few times to get things right.

4. Remember the single men feels a bit nervous since he’s the outsider and this can be a bit intimidating.

5. Sometimes parties and ‘meet & greets” are good places to meet your prospective single male. Exchange numbers and/or set a place to meet for drinks.

6. Sometimes we forget that the aim of all this is to have fun, so keep it light. There are times when we come out winners and others when we learnt to deal with a new challenge. In any case, not all is lost. As a last resort, you can always hit the town together and have fun or stay in and make home porn.

7. DateFinder is a great way to find your single guy. Especially, if it is last minute and you are suddenly in the mood. DateFinder has a number guys waiting to be contacted for some fun on the night.

8. Validations: RedHotPie has this awesome validation feature where members can validate other genuine people they have actually met. Profiles with Validations should definitely be your top priority.

Obviously, there is no one-way to approach this. RHP readers are familiar with the article paralleling ‘Porn Sex vs. Real Life sex’, much the same, sexy encounters are sometimes a bit different from what you had in mind, not to say that is less fun. With every situation you have to make quick, intuitive decisions and the more practice you get the easier it gets.

What are the best approaches you’ve used that were successful when meeting single men?

For more on the subject read Redhotpie forum thread, single guy with couples.

Sunburn, too much alcohol and noisy fellow hotel guests will be the least of your holiday worries.

The idyllic spot has just been voted the top destination in Australian and New Zealand for cougars seeking some much-needed time out – and some ‘prey’.

More than a fifth of those surveyed picked Lizard Island as their favourite getaway, followed by the Crown Metropol in Perth (17.5 per cent).

Blanket Bay in New Zealand came in at third place with 16.7 per cent, while the Louise Lodge in Marananga, South Australia was the next choice at 15.3 per cent.

Three quarters of respondents plan to hook up during their break, and more than half have their sights set on the hotel staff.

Popular activities include heading to the spa for a sensual massage – and requesting a male attendant in the hopes he’s ‘young, buff and good with his hands’ (33 per cent of respondents). Many also confessed to having an affinity for cabana boys (50 per cent), while a risqué 13.8 per cent admitting to spicing things up by inviting a third person to the mix.

When contacted by news.com.au most resorts were surprised by their nomination.

Top 10 cougar holiday spots:

1. Lizard Island Resort

2. Crown Metropol Perth

3. Blanket Bay, New Zealand

4. The Louise Lodge, Marananga

5. Berkeley River Resort, the Kimberley

6. The Byron at Byron Resort and Spa

7. Pinnacles Resort &Spa, Airlie Beach

8. Wyndham, Surfers Paradise

9. Kauri Cliffs, New Zealand

10. Qualia Resort, Whitsundays

Source: news.com.au

This one causes some hot debate between members but the majority prefer a little mystery. Some members state that they like to see what they’re getting into (or rather, what might be getting into them) before meeting. To satisfy both schools of thought, chuck them in your PG and give access when you make contact with a member, with a polite heads up that it contains restricted pics. The member can decide whether they’d like to click or not, without copping an eyeful of junk when they click on your profile. Keep in mind that Guest members can’t view these pics, so having one as your main profile pic isn’t necessarily a great idea anyway, and you won’t show up in search results.

Don’t have a vulgar username

Hardnhorny4u, touchmytool, 9inchnthick, swallowmypole…You know what’s hilarious about these names? They weren’t the only crude usernames that I came up with, but they were the only ones that weren’t in use! Unless you want to attract a vulgar kind of person (each to their own), this kind of name ain’t doing you any favours. Most users are turned off by them and they’ll probably put you right into the ‘no’ pile without so much as a cursory glance at your profile as it gives zilch insight into your personality…unless your only worthwhile trait is your nine inch…Well… ‘Nuff said.

Don’t just use template profiles/messages

It’s okay to start off with a template profile if you’re not sure what to write, but then have a quick browse of other profiles to see how you can add a personal touch to your profile. There’s nothing unique about them and they tell other members nothing about you except that you’re lazy, which might lead them to think that you’ll be lazy in bed too. If they just wanted a penis without a person(ality) attached to it, they’d buy a dildo. Make your profile unique, rather than just one of a million interchangeable profiles written in haste by tools with their tools in hand looking for quick release. If you’re serious about meeting people it’s worth the effort and usually you don’t need to write a novel (in fact, don’t). Keep it to a paragraph if you like but make every word count. A generic ‘hot profile. meet?’ and treating them like a dumping ground for your baby gravy will probably get no response, or at least not a positive one.

Read profiles properly

Sure, we get that some of the profiles out there read like badly written romance novels, but women don’t want to feel like one in a long line of women that you’re trying to tick off your ‘fuck-et’ list. Show genuine interest by taking the time to read the profile over. Not only does it help you write a personalised message – which scores you brownie points and makes you stand out from the masses – but it ensures that you meet their criteria and are compatible. If you don’t meet someone’s criteria, don’t waste your time (and theirs) by messaging them. You may get frustrated by the lack of response when you’re just barking up the wrong tree. Find the right tree! Simple.

Play nice

Some people turn (the wrong kind of) nasty when sent a message that they don’t want. Putting the reasons why they do aside, receiving a snippy reply back to your message doesn’t make it okay to start being abusive. Be the bigger man and hit the block button so you don’t make the mistake of contacting them again then move on. Report them if you feel the verbal attack was unwarranted and crossed the line. Some women do know one another so if you start making a name for yourself as a brute amongst them, you’re not going to get far. Just ignore mean people and concentrate on people who have validations or are verified.

Read more profile tips and comments from other members in the adult forums!
‘What makes a good profile?’ Read it here
‘Profile Improvement.’ Read it here