Of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence. Sexual confidence is identifying exactly what you like and dislike, and having the confidence to express it.

Attaining sexual confidence is totally up to you; it is something you can work on. Here are a few tips:

Explore your body:
Find out what pleases you. Knowing what you want and what it takes to make you feel good will give you more confidence. Inevitably this will lead to more fun, which will give you more confidence with sex. The more you do it the better you are at it.

Be willing to get good at sex:
Good sex takes dedication and willingness. Find out what it is going to take you to like and accept yourself. Think yourself attractive; believe it and you’ll be more likely to feel good about yourself in bed. Know what makes you happy sexually. The willingness to surrender and immerse yourself in the interaction is powerful and sexy.

Discover your fantasies:
Try masturbation to discover where and how you like to be touched. Masturbation also might unearth exciting scenarios that you might want to try out in real life.

Role-play:
Experiment with your partner, try role-play scenarios and break out of your comfort zone. Ask for certain sex acts; don’t wait for it to happen. Be sexually adventurous nothing spells confidence than having the eagerness and the creativity to try something new and risky. It ads new dimension to your relationship and helps you gain insight to a new side of your sexual repertoire.

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Get a makeover, including hair, make-up. Find the right lingerie that is going to make you feel sexy. Choose an outfit that flaunts the favourite part of your figure and you’ll feel more confident all day. Begin an exercise program to get that toned body to give you extra confidence when you’re naked or when you’re in bed, research shows that exercise boosts your body image.

Sex, is meant to be enjoyed and there are not real rules governing what is good sex. Everyone has their own personal take on what constitutes good sex. Knowing what you like and dislike provides a means to ensure that you and whoever else is involved have great sex every time.

Sexual confidence in one of those things that you can’t just get, you have to work at it. Once you gain the confidence your wild sexual dreams and desires are a stone throw away. Sexually confident people feel comfortable initiating sex and have no qualms about letting you know about their needs and desires.

Most sexually confident people started out with little or no confidence and as time passes they attain sexual confidence by taking responsibility of they own pleasure.

True sexual confidence – relaxed, willing to learn about self and others, ready for what is needed, happy to take charge, and not fazed by either failure or rejection- a person who is able to both give and receive with equal pleasure.

Have you got a tip for gaining sexual confidence? Please let us know?

1. Easter Bunny
This cute, fluffy creature is the symbol of fertility as they are one of the most rapidly pro-creating animals. Let’s then do what the rabbits do and do it better since we are obviously RHP members and we have the best credentials in town to do our bunny proud.

2. End of summer/ Long weekend
End of summer is around the corner and we should send it off with blast and what better occasion other than this long Easter weekend? Call in all the help from all your RHP friends and throw a party to farewell summer. Why not invite some of your horny bunny buddies over and go on a group Easter egg hunt? Here is how to:

Instead of chocolate eggs, up the stakes in your hunt by hiding something sexier, like sex toys. It could be flavored lube, edible undies, a strap-on, cuffs or special love notes with instructions what is expected of him/her on Easter weekend. Whatever tickles your fancy and gets your tail wagging will make your hunt that much more exciting. You might find yourself eating something even tastier than chocolate at the end of it…

3. Chocolate
We all know that there is a link between the cocoa bean and sexual desire, and yes we all love chocolate so if it’s going to pick up the mood, why not have some…. There is also so much you can do with chocolate:

Don’t buy those cheap tasteless bunny-shaped chocolates from this supermarket this year; make yourself the tasty treat! Melt some delicious chocolate (or use chocolate body paint) and drip it all over each other, picking your favorite body parts to have it all licked off from. If you’re feeling a little guilty about over-indulging on the sweets, finish off with a long, hard cardio ‘pump’ workout to really get your heart rates soaring.

4. Playboy Bunny outfits
Dress up for the occasion and dust off those fluffy white cotton-tails and bring out your cute and sexy little bunny costumes, complete with rabbit ears and a bouncy personality. Are fluffy tails and Playboy-esque costumes a bit too tame for you? If you like it a bit more hardcore then bring out your latex body suit and a whip to match. Force your partner to lick the melted chocolate off your boots and be your submissive little bunny for the day. It’ll be a hot surprise for your naughty pet and make this Easter one to remember for both of you.

Happy Easter, you cute little horny bunnies you!!!!!

image credit: MAISON MICHEL

Doggy Style: You’re both not afraid of being wild and spontaneous.

Cowgirl: On top — You’re sexually comfortable, playful and willing to work for your pleasure.

Reverse Cowgirl: On the top — you’re free–spirited, outrageous and determined to get yourself off.

Spooning: You like to feel secure, held tied and almost restrained while you let it all happen to you.

Standing in the Shower: “Killing two birds with one stone” Getting it off and getting clean.

Receiving Oral: You like being taken care of

Giving Oral: You’re a super star

Anal: If you’re the giver — you think you deserve all of the best that life has to offer

Double Penetration: – You don’t really tend to do anything half–ways, you try anything once

69:- You’re a fair lover

Standing: – You’re willing to work hard to get what you want

Up against the Wall: – You’re into instant gratification

Missionary: – Don’t underestimate this one, the body language is devoted towards you and it’s all about looking at you.

Feel free to add your own…..

Check out the adult forums for some more discussion on sex positions!
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Ancient times:

One of the earliest-known sex manuals harks from Ancient China around 300 BC. It says if you have sex with a different virgin every night without ejaculating, you’ll become immortal. Gross.

Massaging someone’s ego has always worked, no matter what the century. A 2 BC papyrus sex manual by Greek courtesan Philaenis advises: “Pick the woman’s worst feature and then make it appear desirable. Tell an older woman that she looks young. Tell an ugly woman that she looks “fascinating”.” She was really onto something, right?

You may recall the ancient poet Ovid from your high school history class, but did you know he was banished for dispensing sex advice through poetry? “If you are short, go on top/If you’re conspicuously tall, kneel with your head turned slightly sideways” – said old Ovid in one of his poems. Random. The emperor of Rome at the time clearly didn’t approve because he made poor Ovid leave forever.

Middle Ages:

In the Middle Ages, only the missionary position was allowed. Any other moves were considered unnatural and therefore sinful. Doesn’t sound like much fun to us.

A 12th-century Indian scripture advises against marrying redheads or women with big toes that are too small. Poor redheads have always copped a raw deal it seems!

Published in the 13th or 14th century, the Medieval manual De Secretis Mulierum (The Secrets of Women) claimed women drained men of their power through sex and some hid sharp shards of iron inside themselves to injure innocent men. Yikes, how paranoid is that?!

The Renaissance:

Need a love potion? In 15th century Venice, a lower-class girl created a mixture of her own menstrual blood, a rooster heart, wine and flour to make a young aristocratic man crazy for her. It worked a little too well: she got the guys but then was busted and put to death. We’ll stick to sending come-hither looks and leave the love brewing to others – those Renaissance chicks were more desperate for love than Carrie Bradshaw.

In the Renaissance, the power of the printing press meant sex advice could be printed out faster than it could be banned by the Church. Yiew! Unfortunately, their ideas were totally cray cray: one “helpful” tip by Mrs Isabella Cortese, an alchemist and writer, in 1561 recommended mixing quail testicles, large-winged ants, musk and amber for straightening bent penises. Luckily, if that doesn’t work, we now have surgery.

What is it with blondes? “All women are lascivious but auburn blondes the most,” writes Giovanni Sinibaldi in Rare Verities: the Cabinet of Venus Unlock’d (1658). In other words, he thinks they can’t wait for a roll in the hay. It seems blondes’ reputation for fun has been around for some time.

The Enlightenment:

In a letter to a friend, one of America’s Founding Fathers Benjamin Franklin advised that he should choose an older mistress because they are sneakier than young ‘uns but nicer than hookers, can’t get pregnant, and their looks have been ravaged by age so they need to try harder. Nice.

“Never fool around sexually with a vacuum cleaner.”
Victorian times:

In the medical text The Functions and Disorders of the Reproductive Organs (1858) by William Acton, it is said that “the majority of women (happily for them) are not very much troubled with sexual feelings of any kind.” Could they be any more wrong?

Corsets make women horny, apparently: “Constricting the waist by corsets prevents the return of blood to the heart, overloads sexual organs and causes unnatural excitement of the sexual system. The majority of women follow the goddess fashion and so also wear their hair in a heavy knot. This great pressure on their small brains produces great heat and chronic inflammation of their sexual organs. It is almost impossible that such women should lead other than a life of sexual excess.” Dr John Cowan, The Science of a New Life (1888).

According to Confidential Talks With Husband and Wife (1900) a book of advice for marriage, sex four times a month is more than enough. In fact, anything else would be “excess”. We definitely beg to differ.

The Edwardian era:

We may be a young country but we have the dubious honour of having our own historical sex nut. Australian William Chidley printed a pamphlet in 1911, which promoted togas because heavy clothes caused erections. Seriously. He also supported the method of flaccid intercourse, which he based on horses’ sex lives. We’re not sure why he thinks horses did it right, but he was arrested because his toga was considered indecent and decreed insane. Sometimes the truth is stranger than fiction.

Modern times:

According to Edward Podolsky in the book Sex Technique for Husband and Wife (1947): “The clitoris, while important, is not nearly as important as many of us have been taught or led to believe.” Can you believe we could still get it so wrong even 60 years ago?

“Never fool around sexually with a vacuum cleaner” recommends Dr Alex Comfort in The Joy of Sex (1972). We hope he isn’t speaking from experience.

Source: cosmopolitan.com.au

THE Hill-Thompsons* are like any other young family expecting their first baby.

They’re buying maternity clobber on eBay, weeping during ultrasounds and giggling when the malapropistic midwife leading their prenatal classes advises them to gouge their birth companions carefully.

There is, however, one thing about the Hill-Thompsons that makes them a little unusual: there are three of them.

Mari (a 33-year-old student doing her second degree), Sara (a 32-year-old uni lecturer) and David (a 35-year-old IT geek) have been a sexually monogamous, three-way unit for six years.

They are not religious, they’re not cult members and they’re not even that into group sex.

They just happened to all fall in love with each other at roughly the same time.

For the most part, the Brisbane trio have kept the details of their polyamorous private life to themselves. But they are slowly coming out of the closet now Mari is eight months up the duff. Sara is also hoping to conceive in the not-too-distant future.

Telling people about their super-sized relationship is complicated by a lack of unloaded language options. Threesome sounds too sexy and there is no triplicate version of the word couple.

“Usually we just tell people there are three of us,” Mari says. “But polyfidelitous might be the best technical term.”

Polyamory, also known as ethical non-monogamy, is billed by many activists as the new gay; the next sexual revolution. It’s separate from swinging, in that (as the Latin root suggests) emotion is involved. Its also very different to religious polygamy such as that portrayed on the HBO TV show Big Love.

In short: more than two people, more than just sex, God optional.

Books, blogs and academic research into the practice are all rising, as is the predictable outrage from traditionalists and even from some non-traditionalists who say the trend muddies the gay marriage debate.

While a common joke is that the complexities of poly relationships leave little time for activism, in Canada on Monday the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association will begin fighting for group marriage rights in that nation’s supreme court.

“What they plan to say,” the Vancouver Sun has written, “is that polyamory is a more highly evolved form of family-conjugal relationship that is beneficial to all of its participants; the way of the future, if you will.”

The CPAA contends that at least two million Canadians live in polyamorous relationships, many belonging to what is known as the friends with benefits category.

It’s hard to know the number of polyamorists in Australia because for some reason the question isn’t asked on the census. There is, however, at least one in Britain.

Actress Tilda Swinton, 50, shares a house with playwright John Byrne, the 70-year-old father of her twins. Her other companion is 32-year-old Sandro Kopp, an artist she met while filming The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe. Kopp had a small role as a centaur.

“The arrangement is just so sane,’ Swinton has said. “John and I live here with our children, and Sandro is sometimes here with us, and we travel the world together. We are all a family.”

Byrne agrees, saying of Kopp: “We all love him dearly.”

Given the ubiquity of cheating spouses (there are now commercial websites devoted to facilitating marital infidelity), it seems grossly hypocritical to judge those who are open and ethical about having more than one lover.

But Mari, Sara and David endure way more than their fair share of rude and weird reactions. Their jog-as-a-family neighbours won’t wave back to them and Sara’s mum thinks she is some kind of insatiable, nymphomaniac adulteress.

“But dammit, we’re not freaks!” Sara says. “We’re not hurting anyone. And we have three earners, three minds to think through situations and now three people to care for a baby.”

The story of how the Hill-Thompsons came to be the Hill-Thompsons is long, complicated and, at times, tragic.

Mari and David are high school sweethearts who have been together for 16 years and married in 1999.

“My only other relationships were crushes on girls in my childhood,” David says. “I had never have thought I would find myself in a permanent three-way relationship until it happened.”

Mari and Sara bonded as friends in the late 90s after Mari was raped. Sara then ended up in an abusive marriage in Colombia before visiting Mari and David in Brisbane in 2004. She and Mari got together within days. Then things progressed.

“David found the term polyamory online,” Mari recalls. “I was really relieved to discover that there were other people who had found they could love more than one person at once.

“Sara had asked me lots of questions that I felt were very scientific: I had just wanted her to say she felt the same, and to kiss me!”

Six years later, negotiating life together still involves tricky logistics and sleep rosters. In the early days, they slept in a queen and a single bed pushed together with a lumpy piece of foam filling the gap and a couple of stitched-together sheets on top. Now they take it turns to sleep in twos, only slumbering altogether (sideways in a king-sized bed) a few times a week (pregnant bellies permitting).

“Our schedule has changed over the years and I am sure it will continue to change,” Mari says. “We also alter the sleeping rotation if anyone is likely to feel particularly lonely sleeping by themselves for whatever reason.”

As for sex, the gang tend to avoid the three musketeers approach in this domain, too.

“It takes a lot of brainpower to think about three people’s sexual pleasure and emotional states at once,” Sara says. “Having to think that hard makes sex difficult.”

Another intriguing aspect of the arrangement is Mari and Sara’s status as committed feminists. It certainly confounds assumptions that they are the hapless members of some sort of harem. After all, while some chauvinist types might think David is fortunate to share his life with two women, others might regard living with two feminists as involving two too many.

Life, meanwhile, goes on.

The triumvirate is attending hypnobirthing classes, negotiating who will stay home and who will work, and reading a book called Psycho Kitty in the hope of making their crazed cat baby-friendly.

And as they count down the days until the birth of little Kate next month, they are convinced that any stigma their daughter faces in the community will be well and truly countered by the 50 per cent increase in the usual loving parenthood quotient she will have at home.

Source: theaustralian.com.au

Marium Varinauskas, 28, attempted to hit the officer on the head when she was called out to his house during a domestic dispute last year, the Telegraph newspaper reports.

The constable, who cannot be named for legal reasons, arrived at the Lithuanian engineer’s home in Aberdeen, north eastern Scotland, after his girlfriend called police because he was drunk, Aberdeen Sheriff Court heard.

When she entered Varinauskas’s home, he was sitting on the sofa wearing nothing but his underpants.

Prosecutor Elaine Lynch told the court that Varinauskas launched his attack when the officer sat on a nearby couch to speak to him.

“The accused got to his feet and was standing over the police officer exposing (himself) …. forcing her to take evasive action to avoid getting struck,” the Telegraph quoted Ms Lynch as saying.

Varinauskas was arrested and taken to a nearby police station in his underpants.

His lawyer, John Hardie, told the court Varinauskas had been drinking heavily and could not remember the incident.

“He apologises profusely and is extremely embarrassed,” Mr Hardie said.

Varinauskas was fined $1000 by Sheriff Annella Cowan.

Source: ninemsn.com.au

French actress Marion Cotillard stars in a new spoof ad for ‘Forehead Tittaes’ — stick-on head-boobs designed to divert a man’s attention away from your chest and onto your face.

In the hilarious commercial produced by Funny Or Die, the Oscar winner describes the plastic accessories as “France’s best kept secret”.

“Earn their respect without sacrificing your femininity,” she says.

Check out the ad…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fcLFxecpvY

Source: ninemsn.com.au

“She can’t vacuum, she can’t cook but she can do almost anything else if you know what I mean,” TrueCompanion’s Douglas Hines said of Roxxxy.

Roxxxy stands 170cm tall, weighs 54kg, “has a full C cup and is ready for action,” according to Hines.

The robot comes with five personalities including Wild Wendy and Frigid Farrah and costs between $7500 and $10,000 depending on features.

Source: ninemsn.com.au