A study of workplace productivity and sexy time of married employees has indicated that those who made time for sowing the oats at home were more likely to reap what they sowed at work.

The study conducted by an Oregon State University researcher followed 159 married employees over two weeks. Those who engaged in regular rumpy at home reported “positive moods” the next day. This elevated mood then translated into more sustained work engagement and better job satisfaction.

In short, sex makes a dull job more interesting.

“We make jokes about people having a ‘spring in their step’ but it turns out this is actually a real thing and we should pay attention to it,” said expert in organisational behaviour and management, Keith Leavitt, in his report.

“Maintaining a healthy relationship that includes a healthy sex life will help employees stay happy and engaged in their work, which benefits the employees and the organisations they work for.”

The study says nothing about the benefits of sex with co-workers during work hours, or getting jiggy with your married boss, so we can only conclude that these scenarios may not contribute as positively to your productivity.

Sex impacts our lives in a variety of ways. The hormones released during a roll around invoke feelings of well-being. They also often give us less inclination to find a partner’s slight misdemeanour grounds for divorce, but the effects of a good romp aren’t just emotional suggests sexologist, Isiah McKimmie.

“Sex helps our bodies release endorphins like dopamine and oxytocin that elevates our mood, helps us relax and feel more loving with our partner. Sex also lowers our heart rate, boosts our immune system and can help us sleep better,” says McKimmie.

Well-rested, calm employees with that “I got laid last night” glow unknowingly have an advantage at work as they immerse themselves more deeply in their tasks and claimed to enjoy work more. With sexual healing touching our work lives, then surely sex must contribute to making the rest of our life pretty damn fantastic too?

“In my experience sex can benefit every area of our lives. It can help us feel happier, more confident in social situations, improve our health, bring us closer to our partner and promote feelings of wellbeing in our entire family,” McKimmie said.

Conversely, the study also suggested that bringing work-related stress home may impact our love life negatively. Thanks to smart phones, work is constantly in our pocket and our after-hours engagement is at its highest. If we allow work to sneak in and mess with our va-va-va-voom then our overall work life may begin to suffer.

Although leaving work at the office may be easier said than done, a ban on phones in the bedroom may go a long way towards continued good loving.

“Mobile phones and devices in bed can affect people’s sex lives. It often means that we’re connecting with our phones rather than our partner, which doesn’t promote intimacy. We can also be adding to our stress and stopping ourselves switching off because we’re thinking about work and what has to be done,” says McKimmie.

With so much emphasis placed on success at work, perhaps this is one instance where we really should work smarter and harder.

Source: news.com.au

What are these factors then that destroy our libido? They include people you know and technology you use everyday. Even if these people aren’t lying in your bed, some people still have a way of affecting your bedroom life and leaving you and your partner unfulfilled in the sack.

Find out what these 6 factors are and the quick fixes to put the va-va-voom back in your bedroom:

1. Your Boss

Nothing kills desire faster than feeling inadequate. Stressful work environments tend to do just that. The stress can spur headaches and fatigue, throw off your hormone levels, and raise your blood pressure – unfavourable conditions for any intimacy. Stress, high blood pressure and unbalanced hormonal levels; are big contributors to erectile dysfunction.

Answer: If you can’t change jobs, focus on getting seven hours sleep a night, eating plenty of antioxidants, and exercising regularly for better sex. Read a recent article on – Find out the secret to boost your libido naturally.

2. Porn

Your sex life isn’t a porn flick, and you’re not a porn star. If you’re convinced that’s how you are supposed to perform, both you and your partner are going to get disappointed. You’ll feel inadequate when you are comparing yourself against porn stars and she’ll be angry because she wants the sex to be special.

Answer: Stop comparing. If you can’t help it cut back on your porn. Porn stars are similar to a vibrator; however, you are the real deal to her.

3. Partner’s Ex

Unless you are all happy to have a threesome, don’t bring Ex’s up. Stop worrying about whether your partner thinks their ex was better; it’s a total waste of time. Focus on you and your current relationship.

Answer: Think about it, there’s a reason your partner broke up with their ex and went with you.

4. Your Personal Trainer

Your personal trainer is going to make you feel like you are a million dollars. If your trainer is cute, it’s easy to keep thinking about them when you should be focusing on the person lying next to you. Don’t schedule too many sessions, as you might feel sore to please your partner.

Answer: Go to the gym with a friend or ideally with your partner. They’ll love to see you sweat.

5. Facebook

Every generation has it’s own kind of problem; Facebook is today’s relationship problem. Facebook is addictive and intrusive, before you notice time has lapse and your partner has gone to sleep. Spending too many hours on Facebook does have a negative impact on your sex life.

Answer: Leave your computer outside your bedroom. Pay more attention to your partner right next to you. There should be no other distractions in the bedroom. The focus should be on each other.

6. Kids

Kids have a way to interrupt and invade your space. They will, if you let them, take over your whole life.

Answer: Put kids to sleep early and forget about the other chores that can be taken care the next day. Most important establish that your bedroom is yours and off boundaries to your kids especially at night time. Ideally, plan Date Nights and weekends away on your own to reignite your sex life.

That’s what the makers of the Lick This app would have you believe anyway, with the new program reportedly helping users to enjoy adult bedtime a little more.

Smartphone users can access the app by visiting lickthisapp.com on their mobile internet browser.

From there on all they need is their tongue (and presumably some plastic to protect the screen).

Despite some criticism for the adult nature of its content, Twitter user Qistina was supportive of it: ‘Practice makes perfect. Teehee. For all you guys (and girls!) out there.’

The app, created by San Francisco’s Club Sexy Time, has three tongue twisting exercises available – Up n’ Down, Circles, and Freestyle.

While the app can get you ready for action, it remains just a training tool… it seems rhpmobile is still your best bet to find the action!

Source: metro.co.uk

Couples today list lack of desire, time, fatigue, pressure and stress as five of the biggest obstacles to a fulfilling sex life. They don’t have romantic weekend getaways every month, don’t come home to candle-lit bedrooms with rose petals scattered over the bed, and don’t have screaming orgasms as they make love for the fourth time that night.

Sometimes it’s a bit like this: “Do you want to?”, “Well, I suppose so”, followed by a half-hearted effort, before rolling over for much-needed sleep. This type of scenario calls for a “quickie fix”, and fast. Quickies work in part because sexual activity helps couples feel connected. Couples who feel sexually connected are more likely to get along outside the bedroom.

They communicate more effectively, feel more energised, are more affectionate and argue less. Lack of desire is still the leading sexual problem among women. Studies in the US have shown a direct link between engaging in sex and sexual desire. Sexual intercourse raises hormone levels in both men and women, which increases the brain chemicals associated with desire. The more often you have sex, the stronger your desire for sex becomes.

Quickies are also excellent for reintroducing passion into a sex life that has been long neglected. Many couples have a hard time prioritising sex. By the time they get to sex, after everything else on their must-do lists, they can feel too tired or stressed to bother. Couples also feel pressure to make each session a long, passionate and intimate encounter, with incredible orgasms for both, preferably at the same time.

Sex therapists who advocate quickies certainly promote longer lovemaking filled with foreplay as a component of a healthy sex life, but they do encourage couples to be realistic. A few 10-minute quickies can do more for your sex drive than waiting for that fatigue-free, uninterrupted night to come along. The best of both worlds lies in the balance. Try a few quickies to help get to your end goal of a hot sex life with long lovemaking sessions. A fast approach could very well lead to more frequent sex, with fantastic foreplay and a lot more fun in the bedroom!

Source: news.com.au

Explore sexual fantasies

Whether you have a vampire fetish courtesy of True Blood or Twilight or a thing for the latest celebrity to grace the front pages of every tabloid, one of the best ways to make sure sex stays exciting is with fantasies. Sexual fantasies can (and should) be a healthy and natural part of a relationship and really spice things up. The decision to come clean about what scenarios really turn you on can feel risky but it can also completely change up your sex life. The key is to take each other’s fantasies seriously (no teasing), be creative and just have fun with the experience.

Dress the part

We don’t all feel comfortable wearing lingerie, but sweat pants aren’t exactly sexy. Comfort is fine some of the time, but simply wearing lingerie can go a long way towards spicing up your sex life. The sexier you feel, the more likely it is that you’ll be in the mood to have sex, and we’re willing to bet your man will be pretty excited about the wardrobe change. Continuing to play with lingerie even when you’d rather be in jeans and a T-shirt shows your partner that you care and he’ll likely reciprocate with more effort of his own.

Create flirtation

Flirting is fun. Think back to the beginning of your relationship and how good it felt when your guy flirted with you and vice versa. It may have been years since you flirted with one another, but it’s time to change all that. A little flirting makes each person feel desired, which can lead to a stronger physical connection and more intimacy in your relationship. So if you really want to make things hotter in the bedroom, bring on the flirting. Hang on his every word, lean in close when he talks, laugh at his jokes and get playful. Trust us, the flirtier you get, the better your connection will become.

Source: sheknows.com

Ever wonder what your stars have in store for your sex life in the coming year. Adult Sydney has consulted the mystics as they divine the future and give the lowdown on the coming year in astrology and what it means to your sex life. Find out which star signs make the best lovers, who are the best party people and which star sign is going to have a super charged sex life in 2007. All the essential information is here in Adult Sydney’s sexy horoscopes for 2007.

ARIES: March 21-April 19

Powerful urges are rising up from within and you may have a greater need to be in full control of any sexual relationship you are in this year. Dominance and submission games will be your ultimate turn-on so you may need to find a new slave (Aries is always the master) this year, if you have not already. If you have BDSM gear, you will use it in the near future. If you don’t, it may be time to make an investment. Remember though, a firm touch and stern command can be exciting, but extreme pain isn’t a turn on for most so go easy on your slave.

Best potential slaves: Gemini, Leo, Scorpio, Sagittarius

TAURUS: April 20-May 20

Your sexual relationships may take on a grappling or even grasping quality this year.  You will certainly be more ‘touchy-feely’ and those around you may wonder what has gotten into you. You may demand more attention than is usual for you, perhaps impinging on your lover’s desire to have a bit of time to his or herself. Don’t ask for more than a partner can give or begin to crowd into their space. If you want to have a year of plentiful skin-on-skin contact, be patient with yourself and your partner. Tease yourself and your partner and save the best touches for when you can’t take it any longer. Then learn the ability to fully let go and enjoy spontaneous orgasms.

Best people to touch: Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn, Pisces

GEMINI: May 21-June 20

This will be one hell of a year for you, depending on how you start it. Don‘t make the same resolutions you never kept in the past. Just think of one or two that you definitely will keep. Sex and romance will be rewarding if you let your intentions be known. You may not normally feel the need to control the direction of your sexual relationships as much as you typically do. You are often willing to lie back and be pleasured in more gentle and loving ways but unless a lover understands that, you may be mistaken for being indifferent or lazy. While you can take your time for languid sex,  a slow and steady burn will keep both of you warm throughout the month, so don’t feel you don’t have to make any effort.  A good dose of long, lingering ‘breakfast in bed’ type of sex each morning will keep both of you glowing throughout the day.

Best breakfast mates: Cancer, Virgo, Libra, Sagittarius, Pisces

CANCER: June 21-July 22

All doors are open to you this year – career, domestic and sex. Choose wisely and you will benefit forever. Sex, sex and more sex, are yours this year. When you want something, you want it and you want it right now, this very second. You may not see this as being demanding, but others certainly may.  If something seems just out of reach, you may be willing to bend the rules just a bit in order to win.  If someone new has appeared on the scene, you would bend over backwards (or forwards, sideways or diagonally) to grab and hold his or her interest, and perhaps even tell a fib or two to make yourself seem more attractive. However, once the flames of desire burn down and you have satisfied your frantic urges, how will you cover your tracks?  It’s best to be straight up with whoever gets your juices flowing this year otherwise that dream you are reaching out for could evaporate just as quickly as he or she entered your line of vision.

People you shouldn’t fib to: Taurus, Leo, Virgo, Scorpio, Pisces

LEO: July 23-August 22

You are on the verge of something big. A member of the opposite sex is attracted to you, but you will be oblivious to the attention. Wake up and have some fun!
Someone seems to be teasing you with many promises but not coming up with the goods. You are used to being the tease so you will wonder how the tables have turned on you. If you can refrain from getting angry and storming out or letting go of something that has the potential to expand your body’s orgasmic knowledge, you may be able to tease and titillate in return. Instead of thinking “I must have this hot wench/young stud/sugar daddy/MILF NOW!!”, try to remember that if you are patient and play the game, you will have all of that and more in the very near future. This change in thinking will allow you to relax and enter into the fray without your claws bared. The small amount of teasing and tempting will only make the explosion that much more powerful when it finally happens.

People who will tease you right: Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius

VIRGO: Aug. 23-Sept. 22

Although you may be unaccustomed to doing so, use your charm on someone who attracts you sexually this year. You have needs that aren’t being met and you may not know how to ask for what you want. It would be easy if your lover could just read your mind (and you do often assume they can), but something is hindering this process this year. It may take a more physical approach! Shove your pelvis close to your partner’s mouth and slip a finger in your panties to pull the material aside or grab his or her hand and SHOW them exactly how to touch you in all the right spots. If you waste time being shy, you will find yourself increasingly frustrated, which could lead to arguments and even less sex. Take as much time as you need to expose your most tempting desires to your lover. The more time you spend fulfilling your urges, the more focused you will be on the work at hand.

People to shove your crotch into: Taurus, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Pisces

LIBRA: Sept. 23-Oct. 22

This year will require extra effort just to get ahead a little bit but keep your confidence as sometimes rewards don‘t always come straight after putting in the effort. Try some tact when pursuing an attractive member of the opposite sex and you will make it rewarding for the two of you. A nice warm scented bath scattered with rose petals could be just what you need to get you in the mood. You need romance, ego stroking, and someone to pamper you in every way possible this year. Confusion about what to do in your relationships may put quite a damper on your more physical urges for the time being, so explain to your lovers that you need a bit more time to get ready before engaging in extreme bedroom sports. Otherwise, you could hurt yourself and then you really won’t want to share your body!  If your lover won’t feed your mind and stroke your body gently, then it may be better to play on your own for now. After all, there’s nothing better than sexy solo bathtime. Warm, water tickling all those sexy places. Oh yes!

Best bath mates: Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Pisces

SCORPIO: Oct. 24 Nov. 22

This is the year to determine if you really want to improve your life or just talk about it. Take time to make New Year resolutions work. Good things don‘t just happen to you unless you make them happen. Entire weekends can be sexual if that is what you want. Having said that, it will be a slightly odd year for you as well. You will find yourself extremely excited and ready to pounce on just about anything that moves for a while and then, just as suddenly as your body switched into overdrive, it will switch right off again. It could be tricky if you were in the middle of ‘eating out’ and then you decide you are full and push the ‘food’ away.  It could be even worse if you get dressed and walk out without saying a word!  Don’t hurt others simply because you are feeling odd. Be as gentle and honest about your feelings as possible. You are confused and could easily pull others into that spiral with you. Some may find the topsy-turvy ride a thrill but some may not take this too kindly so be careful or you could find yourself caught up in more than a mental mind game.

Best people to be odd with: Other Scorpios

SAGITTARIUS: Nov. 22-Dec. 21

You may be thinking you have been ignored, but your efforts will be recognised and rewarded in kind as long as you are patient. Sex is yours for the taking this year, but health considerations should discourage too much of a good thing on the weekends. At times it may seem as if you are dragging your feet in the hot sex department. Although you think about making it happen, your body isn’t as excited as it usually is about sex. At times it may seem as if someone just picked up the remote control and hit the off button. Your lover may not be as understanding as you had hoped either, so try to rev up your drive with frequent short trips to places close to home that you can explore with a partner. You may enjoy a naughty session outside in wet grass or in a quiet alleyway in the city. It could be exciting to find new rendezvous places but make sure it’s private enough that you won’t be caught with your pants down!

Best people for outdoor sex: Taurus, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Aquarius

CAPRICORN: Dec. 22-Jan. 19
The resolutions you made for the New Year may already be faltering. Just stick to one or two and resolve again to keep them. Your social life could improve if you get out where the action is. Hot, tawdry sex with a stranger or even a quick frisk in a dark closet of a nightclub?  You may be hot to trot for much of the month but your interest lies more in the quick, anonymous type of body grinding rather than romantic long-term lovemaking bliss. That being the case, why not get out of the house or office, and actually mingle with a bit wilder crowd than you are used to?  If you are in an ongoing relationship, try a swingers club or plan an all night round of the strip clubs in your area. If your lover is of opposite sex, be fair and visit both male and female clubs! Some of you may decide to have some ‘on the side’, and that’s your prerogative. However, be warned that your secrets may not be quite as hidden as you think they are. Exposure is not only possible, but likely so be careful and be prepared.

Best people to party with:  Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aquarius

AQUARIUS: Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Some people are just jealous of your optimism and good fortune. Don‘t put them down, but don‘t let them get you down. You will be getting offers for sex, love, marriage and just plain fun, all from an unexpected source. Keep those New Year resolutions for self-improvement in areas of health and education. Now where did you put that pack of vibrating condoms?  Don’t tell me you’ve lost them again?  Little wonder as your mind is skidding around up in the clouds for much of this year which could put a damper on actually scoring some booty. You may be thinking about sex quite a lot, but thinking may be just about all you do.  Perhaps you are trying to work your way into a potential lovers pants and haven’t quite made it yet or perhaps your current partner looks a little worn and frazzled about the edges and you just wouldn’t feel right asking him or her to give you the excitement you are craving? Did you pull out double-ended dildo at a bad moment again? I am sure your lover will get over it in time so be patient, play with yourself, and when the time is right, all of those fantasies you are having will become oh so real.

Best people to share sex toys with: Gemini, Sagittarius, Pisces and Aries

PISCES: Feb. 19-March 20

Your foot could be in your mouth if you don‘t stop and consider the person you are speaking with. Give yourself an edge by listening and observing. Great fun is yours this year and you will find booty in the most unexpected places. This time of year usually includes resolutions that you may or may not keep. For your own self-esteem, keep the resolutions simple and then do them. You can make more at any time. Cooperation should be your keyword this week and next. Like a slippery sex toy lost in the bathtub, you may be just as difficult to catch this year. Someone may want to tie you up and pin you down, but you are more in the mood to be the dominant hunter in 2007. Your sexual activity will be your call and you won’t have anyone else telling you what to do or who to do it with, or how many you should do it with at any one moment. If you want to indulge yourself with two or three kinky partners, you will, whether together or separately. You can handle either situation now and with a finesse and sense of mystery that will have them all eager to come back for more.

Best sex mates to have all at once: Virgo and Scorpio