Couples today list lack of desire, time, fatigue, pressure and stress as five of the biggest obstacles to a fulfilling sex life. They don’t have romantic weekend getaways every month, don’t come home to candle-lit bedrooms with rose petals scattered over the bed, and don’t have screaming orgasms as they make love for the fourth time that night.

Sometimes it’s a bit like this: “Do you want to?”, “Well, I suppose so”, followed by a half-hearted effort, before rolling over for much-needed sleep. This type of scenario calls for a “quickie fix”, and fast. Quickies work in part because sexual activity helps couples feel connected. Couples who feel sexually connected are more likely to get along outside the bedroom.

They communicate more effectively, feel more energised, are more affectionate and argue less. Lack of desire is still the leading sexual problem among women. Studies in the US have shown a direct link between engaging in sex and sexual desire. Sexual intercourse raises hormone levels in both men and women, which increases the brain chemicals associated with desire. The more often you have sex, the stronger your desire for sex becomes.

Quickies are also excellent for reintroducing passion into a sex life that has been long neglected. Many couples have a hard time prioritising sex. By the time they get to sex, after everything else on their must-do lists, they can feel too tired or stressed to bother. Couples also feel pressure to make each session a long, passionate and intimate encounter, with incredible orgasms for both, preferably at the same time.

Sex therapists who advocate quickies certainly promote longer lovemaking filled with foreplay as a component of a healthy sex life, but they do encourage couples to be realistic. A few 10-minute quickies can do more for your sex drive than waiting for that fatigue-free, uninterrupted night to come along. The best of both worlds lies in the balance. Try a few quickies to help get to your end goal of a hot sex life with long lovemaking sessions. A fast approach could very well lead to more frequent sex, with fantastic foreplay and a lot more fun in the bedroom!

Source: news.com.au

The British Health Service has come around to our line of thinking and has advocated regular sex as an effective way of reducing health risk and increasing physical and mental wellbeing. In a recent academic article released by the National Health Service entitled ‘Get More Than Zeds in the Bed’ they state that sex, with a little bit or passion and imagination thrown in, provides a workout worthy of any honed athlete. “Forget about jogging around the block or struggling with sit-ups. Sex uses every muscle group, gets the heart and lungs working hard, and burns about 300 calories and hour. Wow! That equates to the calories consumed in a large chocolate mud cake. Mmm, I guess that means you can have your cake and eat it too.

Apart from the fitness aspect, there are also other health benefits that will help you to stay looking young. The increased production of endorphins released in the love making process ‘will make your hair shine and your skin smooth.’ And ‘if you’re worried about wrinkles – orgasms even help prevent frown lines from deepening.’ The extra production of hormones estrogen and testosterone ‘will keep your bones and muscles healthy, leaving you feeling fabulous inside and out.’

So if you want to look your best this summer, RedHotPie suggests hooking up online now with other hot members and literally shaking that ass into shape in the bedroom for that killer bod.

To get you started RedHotPie has compiled a list of benchmarks:

a) 1 hr. intensive foreplay burns off:
1 (large) chocolate cake.

b) 25 min. nonstop lovemaking burns off:
2 slices of pizza with cheese and mushrooms.

c) 53 min. of kissing partner burns off:
1 cheeseburger with chips.

d) MAKING THE FIRST MOVE
If you are shy: 15cal
If you are anxious: 43cal
If you beg: 100cal

e) REMOVING CLOTHES
Removing your own: 12cal
Removing your partners with cooperation: 20cal
Without partner‘s cooperation: 187cal
Removing socks by violently shaking feet: 200cal

f) ORGASMIC INTENSITY SCALE
Expression didn‘t change: 0.5cal
Shoes flew off: 15cal
Room turned purple: 4cal
Face turned purple: 78cal
Moaning in Yiddish: 200cal

g) TAKING A BATH TOGETHER
In a bath: 10cal
In a jacuzzi: go back to stage d) and start it all over again.

h)After Sex talk:
After sex bed talk: 8cal
Pretending your interested in the after sex bed talk: 20cal
Being discovered by your partner’s parents and forced to jump out the window and escape down the street butt naked: 300cal

Source: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4703166.stm