Of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence. Sexual confidence is identifying exactly what you like and dislike, and having the confidence to express it.

Attaining sexual confidence is totally up to you; it is something you can work on. Here are a few tips:

Explore your body:
Find out what pleases you. Knowing what you want and what it takes to make you feel good will give you more confidence. Inevitably this will lead to more fun, which will give you more confidence with sex. The more you do it the better you are at it.

Be willing to get good at sex:
Good sex takes dedication and willingness. Find out what it is going to take you to like and accept yourself. Think yourself attractive; believe it and you’ll be more likely to feel good about yourself in bed. Know what makes you happy sexually. The willingness to surrender and immerse yourself in the interaction is powerful and sexy.

Discover your fantasies:
Try masturbation to discover where and how you like to be touched. Masturbation also might unearth exciting scenarios that you might want to try out in real life.

Role-play:
Experiment with your partner, try role-play scenarios and break out of your comfort zone. Ask for certain sex acts; don’t wait for it to happen. Be sexually adventurous nothing spells confidence than having the eagerness and the creativity to try something new and risky. It ads new dimension to your relationship and helps you gain insight to a new side of your sexual repertoire.

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Get a makeover, including hair, make-up. Find the right lingerie that is going to make you feel sexy. Choose an outfit that flaunts the favourite part of your figure and you’ll feel more confident all day. Begin an exercise program to get that toned body to give you extra confidence when you’re naked or when you’re in bed, research shows that exercise boosts your body image.

Sex, is meant to be enjoyed and there are not real rules governing what is good sex. Everyone has their own personal take on what constitutes good sex. Knowing what you like and dislike provides a means to ensure that you and whoever else is involved have great sex every time.

Sexual confidence in one of those things that you can’t just get, you have to work at it. Once you gain the confidence your wild sexual dreams and desires are a stone throw away. Sexually confident people feel comfortable initiating sex and have no qualms about letting you know about their needs and desires.

Most sexually confident people started out with little or no confidence and as time passes they attain sexual confidence by taking responsibility of they own pleasure.

True sexual confidence – relaxed, willing to learn about self and others, ready for what is needed, happy to take charge, and not fazed by either failure or rejection- a person who is able to both give and receive with equal pleasure.

Have you got a tip for gaining sexual confidence? Please let us know?

Halloween has been around forever, literally!

HALLOWEEN has its roots in a pagan festival of the dead (Samhain).
Celebrations were called for in order to pay respect and also ward off vengeful souls. A mass festivity was put in place that became a lot of fun, bonfires were lit and scary, spooky costumes were worn to ward off roaming ghosts.

In the 18th century, Pope Gregory III, claimed November 1 as a time to honour all saints and martyrs; the holiday, All Saints’ Day, and in-cooperated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before known as All Hallow’Eve was later abbreviated to HALLOWEEN, meaning Holy.

Over time, Halloween evolved into what we know today. Much in the same manner as Pope Gregory III, Americans, as a consumer society, converted this ancient holiday into something profitable.

It’s true to say that the manner in which we celebrate Halloween today was borrowed from American TV shows, movies and pop-culture, but in essence this holiday has been celebrated worldwide for centuries.

The religious and spiritual roots of the holiday are preserved, in some form, in various countries around the world.

In Mexico and Spain, Halloween is known as ‘Los Dias de los Muertos’ (the day of the dead) a day they honour their loved departed by remembering them through a recount of their past lives.

In Sweden,” Alla Helgons dag” is celebrated between October 31 and November 6 with choirs and the lighting of candles at the graves of loved ones.

The Buddhists light up large paper boats, named ‘boats of law’, and symbolically free the souls who died by accident or were never buried to help them ascend to heaven by lightening fires.

More people in more countries than ever before celebrate Halloween today in the same manner as the Americans. Why is it so popular? There’s a simple reason: it is fun! Halloween has become a global tradition. Just like Christmas, which has become more about Santa Claus and presents over hundred of years of mixing and matching beliefs and traditions, Halloween has become a mash of traditions put all in one. How we choose to celebrate any holiday is really up to us; we could keep true to its origins or follow someone else’s interpretation or better yet get our own going!

Celebrate Halloween in your bedroom:

This year let’s throw all biases out of the window and have fun. Why not give it a go and celebrate it our own way? Australians are known around the world to be the life of the party. In the good Aussie spirit, let’s take this opportunity and celebrate.

It would be a shame anyway to pass on an occasion built around pranks, imagination and dress-ups. It could be a lot of fun.

There are many other ways to celebrate Halloween beyond the trick-or-treating.
One option is to host parties or have a private party in your own bedroom.

If you’ve always wanted to give role-playing a try, Halloween just might be the perfect day. Use your imagination on Halloween and do some role play with a bit of a twist catered for the night, role plays that haven’t been done to death.

It is commonly said that one can hide behind a mask and be less inhibited. Do we need say more? Some examples below:

Ho White and the 7 Dwarfs – a good theme for an orgy. Get all those lustful men to dress up and be in character.

Princess Leah and Luke Skywalker– This is a good one for a first time encounter, it breaks the ice and you’ll get things rolling faster.

Dracula and his brides – (ménage a trois) who would give this one a pass! This is a perfect time to draw out those shy mischievous people who just need an excuse to get naughty.

Sleeping Beauty and her charming mysterious prince. Before he wins his price prince charming has to fight off the evil witches. Fight the witches by giving in to them or tricking them.

Mistress Morticia and Gomez Adam – if you read 50 Shades of Grey put your new findings to some good use. Your imagination is the limit….

Werewolf and its victim – This one could get interesting for the more experienced couple, where the male has an unbelievable sexual prowess. Expect to stay up all night for the thundering under the sheets.

Sexy Frankenstein & Mad doctor – Here the doctor could simply dress his Frankenstein to his desire.

‘Ready and waiting’ Red Ridding Hood & Bad Wolf – Play the apparently innocent lady who just wishes to be taken by the bad wolf if only for one night.

Want to go all out? Then why not organize a sexy Halloween/ masquerade party. It could turn out to be the most successful Goth/kinky/ BD party of the year. One can dream …

Halloween could grow on you. Halloween could become an evening of camaraderie and a compilation of exotic endeavours, a reminder that the year is slowly coming to a very sweet end. Why not celebrate it.

Halloween is the perfect reason to be naughty. So girls decide on your sultty Halloween costumes and boys get into character…
Let the fun begin!!! Happy Halloween

Here are a list of a few events happening around the country:

Halloween parties Perth

Halloween parties Sydney

Halloween parties Cairns

Here is a clip of one of the legendary Halloween parties at the Playboy mansion:

Have you used Halloween or any Holiday to enhance your sexual journey? How?

PUBLIC SEX:

You want to do it in a nightclub, up against a tree in a park or in the back of your car. You are a risk taker it excites you to know that there is a great chance of being caught –what an adrenaline rush.

ROLE PLAYING:

Student and teacher, nurse and patient or mistress and slave, you like taking on new roles you’ve always wondered what sex would be like if the situation changed and your sexual partners were random and many. Inside you lurks an actor screaming to come out and meanwhile you’re having practice while naked. This is no-strings escapism.

VOYEURISM:

Sex while your bedroom blinds are open so your neighbours can watch. You like to be the centre of attention and when things get heated up you crave that attention more than ever – ‘all eyes on me’ kind of person. You also enjoy the power of arousing innocent by- slanders.

SPANKING:

Bent over a knee and spanked or paddles until your bum is real sore.’ Secretary’ is probably your favourite movie. You are highly critical of yourself and you want someone else to punish you.

ANAL:

You want to try the back door(anal). You’re unconventional, quirky and found ways to get pleasure from something new.

TIED UP:

You wish for someone to tie you up, tape, restrain you and relinquish all control. You want someone to tie you up and challenge your senses and trust; chances are you are a power-monger who is secretly looking to submit.

THREESOME:

You’re not intimidated by more numbers than two in the bedroom. You like to share and sharing species things up in the bedroom; be it either having another woman or another man all you want is the extra attention.

GOLDEN SHOWERS:

Literally you like to pee or be peed on. You’re not afraid and will try anything once.

UNIFORMS:

Being seduced by a man in uniform is an old favourite with the ladies. What is that about you ask… if you equate uniform with ‘authority’, and ‘take charge’ it becomes more obvious. You like to be rescued and seduced by a man who knows what he’s doing.

SWINGING:

You want to go to a swinger’s party and you shall. You like variety and you subscribe to ‘variety is the spice of life’ go on you’ll feel right at home in a swinger’s lifestyle.