Photos

Photos can drastically increase your chances of getting more communication and dates.

There is no excuse not to have a photo. If you’re worried about showing your face, then blur or crop any recognizable features. All smartphone have basic editing tools that can do that for you. Not having a photo shows you’re just wasting time and don’t take the genuine RHP community seriously. People are put off and question your motives for such concealment.

So let’s crack the code to make a profile stand out – it all starts with the profile pictures.

Taking naughty photos can be a lot of fun when you get started. You can take as many as you like in different angles.
And if you want full body shots (highly recommended), then check out the next point on mirror selfies.

2.  Mirror selfies

These kinds of selfies suggest you’re into hook-ups. Fuck yeah!

Full body shots will showcase your whole you, showing people you are not hiding anything. Strut your stuff, people.

3. Messy Backgrounds

These tend to distract people and they don’t know what they’re looking at in the shot.

You don’t want to lose them, make them see what you intend them to see.

4. More than one person in the photo

Putting photos with friends is not recommended if you have single profile, unless you have explicit consent from your friend.

Most smart phones have crop & blur features where you can blur their face so they are not recognizable.

5. Pics with children or pets

Not a good move, this is a sore point for lots of people for various reasons.

6. Red eye

It’s where people’s eyes are drawn to first. They will unconsciously gauge if they can trust you or not. Make it count.

Having red eye will blow this out the water and turn them off straightaway.

7. Show Your Fun Side

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Remember that looks aren’t everything … A lot of women are intimidated by young ripped guys with six-pack.
And same for women …. If you post photos that are way too hot, most real fun guys are going to get intimidated.

Show your fun and light-hearted side in your photos. Extra points for artsy/humorous/evocative shots.

8. Natural, genuine smiles

There is nothing more attractive in a dating profile than someone with a great smile … Always a WINNER

9. Explicit, Graphic Photos

Graphic photos of intimate parts are awesome especially if they are part of a whole. Include them in a whole body shot rather than close ups. By themselves they fall into the category of “too much too soon”.

Close up pics reveal nothing much about the person. So maybe instead show your ‘goodies’ as part of a whole.  For those who want to know more about specific particulars then once communication starts, fire away your private gallery filled with all kind of close up nude photos.

Avoid at any cost putting restricted photos as your main photos, because the majority of people can’t see them anyway. Have other photos to create and arouse interest and keep the interest with more raunchy, graphic nude and more x-rated photos for those people interested in more.

10. Let your photos tell your story

Use your photos, where you can, to help tell the story of who you are. You might include, for example, some photos of you in a festival, at a swinger’s party, reading your favourite erotic book etc.

The photos you choose, will say so much more about you than any written word.
These pictures will dictate how potential dates view you, so be proactive and decide what image you want to project.

Do you have any additional tips that worked for you in making a good profile? Please share in the comments section below.

“ I’m young (at heart), respectful and full of energy. Love nature, sex, the beach, shopping and going to the movies. If you want to know more, ask me”

Really? Please tell me this isn’t you!

Whoever was looking at your profile, has moved on to another profile in hope to be captivated.

We get it; it’s not easy sometimes to build a kick ass profile. Want your profile to be irresistible? Do this.

Here are 5 ways that can help you jazz up your dating profile to attract the person you are looking for.

1.    Original header

Do not use the generic headers available to you – – “man seeking women” BORING!

What it says is, you are not willing to impress or even try to impress your new playmate. First impressions are everything.

Consequently, create a profile header message that commands attention –  something clever, funny, or philosophical that will make a person want to click on your profile and read it.

Use humour to strike it or be a bit philosophical, so how about this:

“Willing to lie about how we met!”

or

“Strangers are friends waiting to be made.”

Humour and a sense of humour outside or in the bedroom works wonders.

2. Have a great opener to your bio

“Single and sassy, with an amazing personality and easily persuaded into anything mischievous. ”

3. Show your passion and imagination

“It’s the very simple things in life that make me happiest. Going for a skinny dip and feeling the cold, soothing water caressing my naked body. Reading great erotica to set the mood and pretending to be the main star at some secret swingers party, are some of my little pleasures. I love to cook and  I can whip up a stir fry that is to DIE for, but I need you to handle the grill.”

Did this  grab your attention? Did it make you feel like you were there too, enjoying that little fantasy, being part of that possibility? Enough said.

Hit them at their senses and make them feel like they are part of your plan.

4. Briefly say who you are and who you are looking for

The list could be long and at best scary. No one likes to go through a wall of text in order to see if they find you interesting or not.

So easy there, and do not list all you are into and then what you’d like to try and who you are looking for.

Name a few things; most important use filters to ensure you have the Right reader continue on:

Filter: “Looking for fit 30-40 year old male who can travel”

By creating a filter, when a person who doesn’t match your criteria reads your header they are likely not to continue on.

Then finish with maybe:

“ Is there anything you can show me, or teach me? Tempt me. Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits.”

5. Season your profile

A vibrant, current and fluid profile, that shows ‘growth’ throughout  the changing yearly seasons is a sign of a passionate person.

A sedentary, webbed and dusty profile that has never been updated, shows no passion or zest for life, is one that is going to sink to the bottom and bring you no success.

Show your movements, emotions and experiences through the seasons:

In winter show your passion for the indoor activities, your taste for wine and exotic dishes.

In spring show the spike in your energy and hormones, your eagerness to shed those winter clothes.

In summer show off your extrovert self with love for the beach, sun and outdoor parties.

Do not stress at creating an irresistible profile from the first go. Just be you and take your time at creating a profile that reflects you. Use your passions, imagination and your ever changing experiences to help you create and keep an profile that is irresistible.

What draws you to a profile? What are the things that you like to see more in other profiles?

In fact, the RedHotPie forums and various website comments suggest that a lot of couples are keener than mustard to make the most of their holidays, be it a weekend in another State or an extended break in a remote part of the country. For various reasons, it may be easier to be naughty and carefree while on break, meeting people who are completely new to you and don’t really care whereabouts you live or work. Swinging couples also seem to have just two degrees of separation from one another in any given city or town so it’s refreshing to be a complete unknown for many.

Other couples simply find it hard to find the time to meet other people while at home so a holiday is the perfect opportunity to dedicate themselves to naughty plans and actions. It may not be too surprising to find some couples do the bulk of their swinging away from home, purely because there’s never any time or energy to get down and dirty at home.

Discretion is another reason some couples are far more active in strange towns and foreign cities. Some reserve the deepest, most kinky adventures with people they are unlikely to meet again any time soon, or ever at all. There’s something a little liberating about being in a new environment and we’d go as far as suggest that some couples wouldn’t dream of repeating some of the fun they had while away once back home. There’s a reason someone stated, “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” but we think that idea can be applied to anywhere as long as it’s not your home!

So how do you go about getting your formula for fun bubbling while traveling? It can be difficult for a couple in an unfamiliar town with no contacts to make the most of the situation, especially when some people only have a precious night or two to spare while away. It’s therefore all the more important to make sure the people you get in touch with appreciate your time constraints and are considerate enough to follow through with plans or at least give you enough notice when canceling so you can make other plans.

Happily, RedHotPie has released its brand new feature Travel Profile, which will make that task even easier. This great feature lets any RHP user set up a duplicate profile in the State you plan on visiting so that locals can look you up, and you can approach people without seeming ‘random’. You can also opt to list your profile as visiting Bali and Phuket which are the most popular overseas destinations for RHP swingers.

Using Travel Profile is easy and as long as you know where and when you are traveling, you can set it up months in advance to better your chances of arranging a hook-up or two. You can customise the write-up of your Travel Profile to let people know what you’re hoping to do while away, and when you’re available to meet people. Even if you don’t get the chance to actively contact people yourself, you’ll come up in the special Travel Profile search listings so horny couples keen to meet some out-of-towners can look you up first.

The best thing about having a Travel Profile is that you can still maintain your home profile while putting yourself out there for interstate people to find you. That way, you won’t miss out on any action before you travel, and rest assured, you’ll have more fun to look forward to again once you’re back home.

Everyone wants someone that’s genuine and we want to make sure that you keep getting the real thing. It’s so easy to show other RHP members that you’re the deal – all you have to do is take a clear facial shot of yourself/yourselves clearly holding up a piece of paper with a verification number that you can find under account verification on your profile page. No one else sees the photo except RHP staff.

And if you run into people that aren’t the real deal then make sure you let us know – there aren’t many of them out there but we want to know as much as you do! RHP is on a verification campaign striving to be the most real dating community in Australia so log on and verify your profile now!

Profiles with pictures get 10 TIMES more messages than those without! That’s a pretty  big difference, and it’s so easy to score more! Make sure your pictures are clear, close up, big enough and in focus, with good lighting. To see how your profile will look, head to My Account on the left hand toolbar once you are logged in and click on View Profile. If required, you can adjust your photo in the PAINT program, which comes standard with the Windows operating system.

A few minutes of your time can have a massive impact on the amount of interest people will have in you. Think about it: when you come across a generic template profile, isn’t it frustrating not knowing anything about the person? So if you’re a template culprit, take the time to personalize your profile, and be extremely selective with the language and content you choose to include! Yes, it is an adult website, but if you are too sexually explicit and aggressive in your profile this can turn some people off.

Be clear about your personality and intentions, and remember you are writing to entice people to you, so think carefully about your profile and review it regularly to make sure you’re getting the most out of your membership!

So heed these wise words and watch in amazement as your quick time investment really starts paying off! Log on now!

What makes a good profile?
The RHP team reads and approves hundreds of profiles each month and they have seen examples of great humour and wit, as well as some profiles that could probably do with a serious overhaul.
You don’t need to be a literary genius to write a profile that will appeal to your target audience. In most cases, you just need to put in a bit of effort and some thought towards the sort of people that you are trying to attract. An active approach to writing, where you imagine that you are directly addressing someone in particular, often proves to be the most effective way of getting attention. Being detached from your audience may make you seem clinical or not interested enough. Instead of: “I am a man in his late 20s who is interested in a threesomes with a couple”, try: “Hi! I’m a fun loving guy who would love to be at the service of a sexy couple. Are you looking for the ultimate third party? Try me!”
Don’t forget that RHP profile listings are designed so that you don’t need to repeat details such as age, location and interests. Save your energy to spice up your profile with interesting tidbits such as your favourite fantasy or best sexual experience.

Impatience reaps no rewards
You may have been in a rush at the registration process of RHP, or lost for words at the time, but a one-line profile is not going to get you anywhere. The RHP team understands that it takes time to create a fun and effective profile write-up, which is why RHP enables members to update their profiles at any time after initial approval. It is generally a good idea to review your profile from time to time and make changes where you think it’s appropriate. Your success in meeting people through RHP can often be a process of trial and error. If you feel that your style is too over-the-top for most members, then you may wish to adopt a more down-to-earth approach and see what the responses are like after toning things down.

“Single guy, looking for a good time with sexy women…”
Keeping things short and sweet certainly has its merits but then the choice of words becomes pretty critical. Many men use far too general descriptions about themselves and basically end up blending in with all the other one-line profiles that populate Internet personals. This isn’t going to help when you’re trying to catch the attention of women and couples who are looking for that single guy with the extra ‘something’. Since you can’t sell yourself in person immediately, your profile has to speak for you. It has to be effective and appealing from the first sentence so that fellow members don’t bypass your profile and just click on to the next offering.
Try and be as descriptive as possible and inject some humour into your profile too. If you can make a lady smile, then you’re generally on to a good thing.

A happy balance between conservative and crass
Everyone has different tastes in sexual partners but in general, most people appreciate a good balance of personalities. No one wants to shag a dead bore, or get intimate with a complete dickhead (we think…). Unfortunately, it isn’t difficult to come across as either extreme in Internet personals where words are the only way you can communicate your personality to other people. You can’t use facial expressions or change the tone of your voice to get your sense of humour across to people accurately. Therefore, it is very important to choose your words carefully when writing your profile. Using too many general terms to describe yourself (good looking, tall, solid body etc.) may make you seem unimaginative and dry. If your approach is too tongue-in-cheek (balding but highly sexed man seeking meaningless sex), then people may fail to understand your type of humour and give you a wide berth. A quirky personality is often welcome but save the hard core humour for when you’ve had a chance to establish yourself as a ‘normal’ person with the object of your lust.

Be honest but talk it up too!
Many members often use the word average to describe themselves, not realising that it is far better to focus on even the smallest of positive assets. Although your honesty will not be lost on people, the vagueness of words like average, medium and normal won’t help them form a good mental image of you. To help them along, be more descriptive about yourself. Gauging physical attractiveness is very subjective and what one person may consider average may be regarded as a ‘bit of alright’ by another. If you’ve always thought your eyes are your best features, then say so in your profile. Many women appreciate such details and it gives them something to fantasise about.

Enough with the ‘Dick Pics’!
Some men may base their decision on meeting a woman purely on a set of naked breasts featured in her profile pic, but most women don’t necessarily need to see a penis shot (erect or otherwise) to stoke their fire. In fact, a lot of women are bored of seeing dick pics, particularly if it is indeed just the penis you can see. Let’s face it, aside from length, width and angle of inclination, there’s not a whole lot of variety between penises. Unless she’s a size queen, showing proof of your 9-inch nail isn’t really important to a woman. Furthermore, women will also assume that you are able to operate your equipment, so pics of raging hard-ons really don’t rate that highly. Women would prefer to see face shots (which you can provide later if you prefer to be discreet), or full body shots that are either nude or clothed. If all you are prepared to show is your nether regions, then at least be creative with your pics!

Finally, proofread your work
We appreciate that it’s boring but the RHP team encourages everyone to proof read their profile and make changes as needed. You will be surprised by how many spelling and grammatical mistakes you can make when you’re rushed. A profile that is well written and error free is always easier and more enjoyable to read whereas bad spelling mistakes and sentences that don’t make sense will turn people off faster than any mention of bad personal hygiene (not that anyone would admit to that of course!). If you are concerned about your spelling and grammar, then you may wish to draft your profile up on a word processor first and have the program check for errors. Once you have a corrected profile, you can copy and paste it into your RHP profile listing

Read carefully what the girl is interested in before sending a message. If she likes romantic walks on the beach at sunset, don’t start of a message boasting what you are packing in your pants, its not going to go down well at all. On the other hand if the girl is only interested in a one night stand, then don’t go over board spouting your undying affection when all she wants is for you to stand and deliver.

You should also remember that pictures say a thousand words, so choose carefully! Generally, try to include some nice shots as an ice breaker. One reason being is that the main photo is the first photo people see when you message them and when you chat to them, so the main photo can be a bit ‘in your face’. That’s why it’s good to have a less full-on photo as the centerpiece of your profile.

Don’t forget to include lots of detail about yourself, as the more you tell people about yourself, the greater your interest and intrigue will be. Remember, the longer your profile is, the more messages you are likely to get. Having said that, try not to write a bible! Just be positive, and include your likes and hobbies, what kind of things you are into and what you like to do in your spare time. Negative comments will only serve to turn people off. Also make sure to check your grammar and spelling, to make sure you don’t portray an image of yourself that’s incorrect.

When you are writing messages to girls, it really is make or break time, so every word is important! Generally, it’s best to have a unique title header instead of the stock standard “New Message” title. Start a message with a standard greeting, and then mention some of your best attributes, but don’t go overboard. You want to intrigue the girl and have her coming back for more. And please no cheesy comments! The lines don’t work, so just be yourself and you will be surprised at the results you’ll get!

So now that you are armed with new ammo, click here to update your profile, and make sure you let us know of your new experiences here. If you have any further questions, click here and I’ll answer them personally! If you are a guest member don’t forget to upgrade to get the best results. For as little as the price of a coffee a day you can hook up with some of Australia’s hottest girls. Best of luck hotties!!

Read on to find out HOW!

Profile Conception

Ok before you write anything out at all, take a quiet moment to think about what are the things that make you a unique individual, what redeeming qualities do you possess and what would you list as your best qualities (please don’t limit this to the size of your penis guys). Each one of us has something remarkable about us; it’s all a question of finding out what those qualities are. Think about the positive comments you have got from previous lovers and acquaintances and try to get a concept of what girls want to hear. Now that you have got the concept of you profile you are ready to start typing.

Writing
To start, open a new document using Microsoft Word – I emphasize this because nothing works against you more than a list of grammatical errors and spelling mistakes that make you sound like an illiterate simpleton. It is well know that one of the key attributes women look for in their partners is intellect and the last thing you want her thinking is that you’re a year 10 Remedial English dropout because of a mere typing error. Spell check boys, it’s Microsoft’s gift to you…USE IT!

Content-wise, you really want to go for quality over quantity on this one. Tell us your best characteristics but keep your ego in check (or risk being dismissed as an arrogant prick). You can’t say you’re fun and possess a zest for live if humor, wit and passion doesn’t come across in your profile! This goes for other statements such as ‘Wanderlust stricken’ and ’I love traveling’; Don’t just say it! Post pictures of yourself at the top of the Eiffel Tower, bunji jumping in New Zealand or facing the perils with your head between the jaws of a lion in Africa!!!

Pictures speak a thousand words

Who ever said that males are the only ones stimulated by sight??? An outstanding (yet realistic) photo on your profile will be the main feature that aids your quest; RedHotPie statistics show that profiles with pictures will have more than 10 times the number of replies in comparison to those that don’t. Now boys, before you run off to take same Polaroids of your male member, I can safely say that we girls on RedHotPie have had ENOUGH of portrayals of your dick from various angles and persectives. Really. What we’d really like, would be genuine and yet classic kodak moments that portray you as you! If you have a basic understanding of Photoshop I would also recommend spicing up your pictures to give it that extra wow factor.

Home Stretch: Messaging

Having spent all that time writing up your description and selecting the ideal picture, the last thing you’d want to is to trip up on the homerun and screw your messages up. Writing is essential to the true online player because it is your chance to make a good first impression. The option is always there to flirt but remember that flirting will only get you so far. Sure your intended flirtee may feel complimented , but chances are she will not have the ability to message you back even if she wanted to. Messaging enables you to express your desires much more articulately and leaves the door open for them to write back.

When sending a message to a new contact remember to start with an intriguing subject line. Something more imaginative then a simple ‘New Message’. When I have a few too many messages sitting in my inbox I usually selectively pick out the ones with an interesting subject line. That gets your foot in the door and gives you a chance to actually engage. Charm, intellect and humor are my personal favorites.

If you make a reference to something unique within my profile, you’ll have my attention for sure! It shows that you have taken the time to read my profile and are willing to invest some effort in getting to know me – not to mention, the fact that you aren’t just spamming every member with a stock standard message. Though RedHotPie does give you the option to save a message template, you can easily modify these saved messages to give it that personal touch. So save a basic template if you must, but customise it each time for the intended recipient.

A girl doesn’t mind a compliment or two as well, as long as it’s not a cliché pick up line.  Try asking me how I am, move onto a compliment or two, declare your intentions and perhaps tell me a bit more about yourself. Something intimate to show that you are willing to share yourself with me. Finish up by asking me out for drinks or dinner in a public, pressure-free environment. I would recommend edging your bets and messaging a number of girls because sometimes, despite your best intentions and effort, there just might not be any chemistry there. Play your cards right and heed the advice given here and it really is only a matter of time before you will be getting your internet hook-up with other sensational RedHotPie members.