Nothing should stop you from going hard on the last night of 2016.

There’s nothing quite like watching sexy women and men in swanky sex parties and exotic locales to inspire you to live life to the fullest.

So we thought we’ll let you sample through some of the best NYE parties around the country. Here is 2017 New Year’s eve Party Guide:

New South Wales

Our Secret Spot – Get Lei’d: Hawaiian Beach New Years Eve Party, Sat 31^rst Dec

It’s time again to celebrate with a bang.

Goodbye 2016 and bring on 2017!!!

What better what to bring in the New Year with a very sexy group of like-minded couples!
Join us at Our Secret Spot for one of the biggest parties of the year.

The theme for our NYE Party is:

Get Lei’d Hawaiian Beach Party

Brumbies Xmas /New Year Pool and BBQ Party, Fri 30th Dec

Brumbies Xmas / New Year Pool and BBQ Party.

Come join us for a end of year celebration and have a great feed and a great time.

Large home backing onto the river and bush land large in ground pool.

Victoria

SAINTS + SINNERS NEW YEARS EVE BALL, Sat 31^rst Dec

Now in its 26th year, Melbourne’s legendary Saints and Sinners Ball attracts broadminded adults, exhibitionists, and people from all over Australia, looking for adult fun in comfortable and safe surroundings.
Guests are mostly adventurous couples and women who enjoy a raunchy experience.
The venue is a multi-level one, with different DJs playing music to cater for most tastes. On the main stage; there will be various shows and fun competitions during the evening, and around the rest of the venue you’ll see different activities, both raunchy and otherwise, and you’re free to join in on these, or just watch other guests getting up to mischief.
Remember, just about anything goes.

Madisons House Party, Sat 31^rst Dec

Why not celebrate NYE @ Madison House Party?

Madison’s has been running for over 15 years and has earned a good reputation on being a friendly and relaxed party.
Couples, single guys and single females over 30 are welcome ideal for first timers or the experienced.

This is a no pressure and safe sex party.

We provide nibbles, soft drinks, tea/coffee and a hot supper also condoms and lube provided.
BYO alcohol and towel. Drugs and drunkenness will not be tolerated and you will be asked to leave.

Western Australia

NYE Masquerade & Cocktail Night @ Pleasure Lounge, Sat, 31^_rst Dec

Pleasure Lounge presents

2017 NYE MASQUERADE EROTIC BALL

Be a part of the NYE tradition at PL.
The most amazing NYE extravaganza.
A night, which just really “Goes Off with a Bang.
Guests are required to be in masquerade attire to ensure a fabulous atmosphere.

Enjoy PREMIUM Beverages from 9pm till late.

ALL INCLUSIVE – Drinks Entertainment Food
Quality pre-mix bourbon, vodka, whisky, cider, red white wine, champagne and beer.
New Year’s Eve Party @ Sensationz, Sat 31^rst Dec

We are a Nudist/Swingers Club.

Come celebrate New Year’s Eve at Sensationz and enjoy the venue’s party atmosphere.

We have 2 Saunas. 2 Pool Tables. Table Tennis Table. Massage room. 2 Private rooms + Open play/lounge area with adult movie showing.

BYO bar area & dance floor.

Naked New Year’s Day Party @ Sensationz, Sun 1^rst Jan

Start your first day of the year enjoying the day naked.

Have a few table tennis games. Or chill in the  private rooms & Open play/lounge area with adult movie showing.

Massage room.

BYO bar area & dance floor.

Queensland

Hollywood Nights NYE Party of the Year @ Mike’s Place, Sat 31^rst Dec

The Hollywood Nights NYE Party of the Year.
Like in previous years past………since it’s inception……the very First “New Years Eve Party” was and is the Party to be at.

It is the culmination of the year. Its built up to this one and this one goes off.

Either way this is an Event Not to be missed. So Pencil it in on your calendar .
SINGLETS & SARONGS – The coolest Swingers New Years, Sat 31^rst Dec

HAPPY NEW YEAR..

or will it be…. HAPPY NUDE YEAR ?

The theme this year for our massive New Years Eve Gala event is so simple. so cool and no doubt will get even the most ardent Non Dress Up people involved.. Sexy sarongs and the guys… grab something other than say a Bintang Singlet, and dress down for mayhem at midnight when we count down into bringing in 2017 WITH A BANG

Is it a night filled with sparkling champagne, strong cocktails, lingerie, sexy costumes, crowds of sexy, open-minded people and holiday cheers?

Here is a list of RHP most desirable Xmas parties and events destinations  around the country that offer all of these and more:

New South Wales

RHP Social Sydney Xmas drinks – Fri, 9^th Dec

RHP Social has been designed for discerning sexy singles and couples who would like to take their time to unwind and get to know other singles and couples in a safe, fun and sexy environment.

Nothing is more powerful than building that electric, sensual connection over a few drinks, knowing glances and a few cheeky smiles.

Red Heaven Presents – Christmas in Wonderland – Sat, 17^th Dec

hose who are inquisitive about what Red Heaven is, now is the time to take the leap down that rabbit hole, to a new world of curious fun and diverse reality. In the words of the Cheshire Cat…. ‘I’m not crazy. My reality is just different from yours.’

Christmas in Wonderland will have the extraordinary DJ line up of Issy, Du Jour and Alex Taylor and wonderful performers leaving you full of wonderment and excitement.

Our Secret Spot – Xmas Party – Fri, 23^rd Dec

This is the big one that you all have been waiting for and as you know it’s always the biggest in the Secret Spot.

Come party with us at the Secret Spot and surrender to your fantasies.

Make it a night to remember

Western Australia

Christmas Party @ Pleasure Lounge, Fri 9^th Dec

Red Christmas Party
BELMONT
Wear something Red!
Come join in the sexy festivities.
Make Santa come!!!
Fun and games and giveaways.
Then when the Bell tolls… its time to loose some items of clothing.

Perth Socialites Christmas Get together –  Sat 10^th Dec

It’s time for Perth Socialites members and non-members to mix n mingle while celebrating all things Christmassy.

Daytime Catch Up: 2 – 6pm
Lets meet in the Beer Garden (with a kids play area) at a Hotel we have used previously for a Meet.
For those who don’t care to drive, it is situated right across from a Train Station…

Food and drinks are pay as you go.

Nighttime Party: 8pm – 12

A private club is ours to party on till midnight, so lets all spread some Christmas cheer with the sexy Socialites and RHPers…..
Cost $25 per person (pre-paid) covers entry, welcome drink, food & ice.
As we need a minimum number for this venue, all registrations and payments are to be made by December 1^st..

CHRISTMAS EVE @ Pleasure Lounge, Sat 24^th Dec

Christmas Eve
Free Meet n Greet and Then Party
BELMONT

Relax on Christmas Eve with Drinks with friends from 6pm
Then A special Fun night

Xmas Eve Party @ Sensationz, Sat 24^th Dec

We are a Nudist/Swingers Club. Come celebrate Xmas Eve with us.

We have 2 Saunas, 2 pool tables, table tennis Table, 2 private rooms + Open play/lounge area with adult movie showing. Massage room, BYO bar area & dance floor.

BOXING DAY FUN@ Pleasure Lounge, Mon 26th Dec

BOXING DAY FUN

Belmont

COME AND HANG OUT WITH LIKE MINDED PEOPLE

Have a Spa, Watch The test match
Have some fun, no pressure just come and enjoy the day, from 11am bring your leftovers
and drinks.

Boxing Day Public Holiday Party @ Sensationz, Mon 26th Dec

Enjoy Boxing Day with us!

We have 2 Saunas, 2 Pool Tables, Table Tennis Table, 2 Private rooms + Open room/lounge area with adult movie showing.

Massage room to really relax.

BYO bar area & dance floor.

Queensland

Brumbies Summer Lovers Xmas Party – Fri, 16^th Dec 

The world-famous Surfers Paradise beach and breathtaking skyline remains a major draw cards for millions of Gold Coast visitors each year.

We will be cooking up a storm with a famous Aussie BBQ on us and The Brand New and Exciting Club opening just a 5 min drive from Surfers Paradise
But when the Brumbies are in town the only place that will be thriving is our Summer Lovers Night. Running successful parties with raving and glowing feedback from all our couples and single girls who attend our Sydney based parties, the Brumbies are bringing our flair and hosting capabilities to Surfers Paradise for one special night.

The Official Mike’s Place Sexy Saturday Xmas Party – Sat, 24^th Dec

This is the one to attend if you can.

The Sexy Saturday Xmas Party is designed for the Saturday Patrons who can make it and aren’t Partied out already.
Come dressed as Sexy Elves and Santa’s Helpers. Lots of tinsel – red, green and white.
Tis the season to be merry…..come on come all.
Rumour has it that Santa will make an appearance…..

HO HO HO- Chateau Vino’s Xmas Party for Patrons & Guest – Sat, 17th Dec

Merry Christmas Everyone.

Please join the management and staff of Chateau Vino in celebrating Xmas 2016 with our annual Christmas Party. Dress like Santa in Summer, or a sexy elf and win some great prizes too.
The heat will be ON,  but the air-con keeps us cool…. cool enough to keep playing until the early hours.
Chateau Vino – It’s where swingers meet, party and play

Victoria

Melbourne Swingers Christmas Party, Sat, 17^th Dec

Ho Ho Ho Merry Xmas. Santa is on his way and bringing the Christmas cheer to all who come. Whether you’re naughty or nice, kinky or straight come along and enjoy the shows from the amazing Donny and Fetish House. The Rockin DJ Dave will be in the house. Prizes, Entertainment and lots more.

Walk through the doors at Shed 16 and leave you inhibitions in your locker, with your clothes and enter the new world order of Hedonism.

Purr’s Silver & White Xmas – Fri, 16th Dec

Purr is once again pleased to announce our legendary Xmas event – Silver & White Xmas.

This is the big one that you all have been waiting for and as you know it’s always the biggest Purr.

Allow yourself to surrender and let new fantasies come alive.

If you are more into one-on-one encounters why not post a few dates on DATEFINDER and ensure you celebrate your holiday season in a more personal style.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

RHP Halloween party guide

Our brains reaction to a stressful situation will produce adrenaline and dopamine – the feel good feelings that enhance how a person feels.

So why not take advantage of all the events and parties all around the country for Halloween. Moods’ set, all you have to do is show up.

Check the list below and take your pick:

New South Wales

Day of the Dead: Halloween Party @ Our Secret Spot, Sat 29th Oct

This years theme is Día de los Muertos or…

Day of the Dead

The evening will be a fun filled night featuring:

– A skilled face painter doing calaveras (skull) makeup
– Erotic Strip Show
– Day of the Dead themed refreshments
– Prize Hitachi Wand Giveaway for best dressed couple

Sydney Beach Party @ Brumbies Couples Parties, Fri 28th Oct

Although it’s not a Halloween party, we thought it was worth a mention since it is happening on Halloween weekend.

Brumbies Summer Lovers Sydney Beach Party.

Find those Hawaiian Shirts and Board Shorts for the guys. And sexy beach wear for the girls.

We don’t pretend to be somebody were not we are just a happy group of sexy non judgemental

friends that enjoy having a great night.  As always we supply everything you need from mixers for

your drinks and we feed you as well. Perfect enviroment for Newbies and single girls.

If you would like to attend and spend quality time with the Brumbies in a relaxed night please
show your interest and we will get in contact.

Queensland

YOUNG SWINGERS NETWORK – Halloween Party@ Club Whispers, Fri 28th Oct

Club Whispers Young Swingers Network is holding a Sexy Halloween party, where scary and super sexy is the look of seduction on the night.

Located just minutes from central Surfers Paradise, Club Whispers GC is a club where you will always feel comfortable. Inspired by the world renowned Studio 54, the legendary New York night club and born out of a love for the naughtier things life has to offer, Club Whispers is the Gold Coast’s most elegant on premise lifestyle club.

Club Whispers GC, the Gold Coast’s only Council Approved genuine 5-STAR adult entertainment venue.

Club Whispers First Birthday – Massive Halloween Party @ Club Whispers, Sat 29th Oct

If you missed the 28th Halloween party here at Club Whispers, then you got another chance tonight.

Club Whispers is turning 1 in October and to celebrate this momentous occasion we are throwing a massive Halloween Birthday Party and we take great pleasure in inviting you to come and celebrate this milestone with us.

Singles and couples are invited.

It will be the party of the year.

Hot as Hell Halloween Party @ Mike’s Place, Sat 29th Oct

Witches, wolves, goblins, devils n demons……

At 8pm the hour begins for the night the under world comes out to party and play. At the place that partying and playing happens and welcomes all in our great life style.

Sexy people with sexy costumes. Fun for all @ the fun Place.

Swingers Halloween Party – Hot Crowd @ Chateau Vino, Sat 29th Oct

Halloween, Fright Night, is always a massive sexy party here at ChateauVino – The home of the best swingers parties on the Gold Coast. Dress to impress in your scariest, but sexiest costumes for a chance to win great prizes.

Chateau Vino – It’s where swingers meet, party and play.

We have 10 large play areas. Every room is big enough to host at least 4 couples or more if needed. We have condoms, lube, lots of towels and plenty of bathrooms and showers to cater for the largest crowds of horny swingers.

We have a dedicated light bondage BDSM room, with a commercial grade “sex swing”. We also have Queenslands first “orgy room” thats hosted some incredibly horny action since opening in 2015.

Island Of Sin Halloween, Sat 29th Oct

The weather is heating up, so what better way to spend Halloween weekend

Proudly Sponsored by RedHotPie. THE ISLAND OF SIN IS BACK BIGGER THAN EVER!

The renowned Island of Sin boat and island party is back. 4 boats, 2 amazing stages,
20 international & local DJ’s makes up the biggest and best Halloween party of the year!
With state of the art production and sound, the amazing talent of Australia’s best DJ’s, Island

theming and much more, you cannot afford to miss Island of Sin’s Halloween special on October 29th.
With a special after party being held at Platinum nightclub, free entry with wristbands.

Victoria

GENDER BENDER Cup Eve Halloween Fascinator Theme Party

@ Melbourne Swingers, Thurs 27th Oct

PM – Till Late at Bay City Sauna. Bonus: Prizes for the best hat, fascinator, or other headwear.

For Everyone. $25 Entry, $15 Entry for Cross dressers. $5 Basic Spirits, Wine Champagne & Beer.

Singles and couples are invited.

Melbourne Fetish Ball Zombie Prom Ball @Swingers Melbourne, Mon 31 Oct

It’s a creepy time of year once again. Lets all join in and turn into the zombie fleet and bring horror to the universe as one.

Come along and enjoy the entertainment from Fetish House and the amazing Donny doing the zombie warp and enjoy the creepy music from the DJ Dave.

Singles and couples come along.

Welcome to Melbourne Fetish Ball

Western Australia

HALLOWEEN FRIGHT NIGHT, @ Pleasure Lounge, Sat 29th Oct

Get ready for the Freakiest party of the Year – HALLOWEEN FRIGHT NIGHT
Prepare for a scary night of raunchy sexy fun.
What to wear – anything scary, freaky or funny.

Día de los Muertos. ¡es hora de fiesta!@ Longest Dream Parties, Sat 29th Oct

Perth! Let’s have a party!!

Let’s pretend life is all about Spanish eyes and cowboy boots under the bed.

If only for one nights diversion.

A Dusk till Dawn themed house party.

I suggest we make Halloween the neighbors problem, while we kick on in Los Caronas, Voodoo style!

Singles and couples are invited.

You can find further details and ask questions on the forum post . The full menu will also be listed

Happy Halloween everyone

New South Wales

Valentine’s Monthly Mingle, Fri, 12 Feb 2016

Would you like to meet more than one couple at a time without the pressure of being a party or club situation?

Perhaps you find it tough to find the time to meet couples when you have a handful you would like to see but the stars and moon never seem to line up.

Plus, you know the thrill of flirting over delicious cocktails is often half the fun.

The Valentines Monthly Mingle has been created with all this in mind. Red Hot Pie and Our Secret Spot have collaborated to bring you a meet and greet night at a trendy bar where couples can meet other couples over drinks and some food.

This is a fun event where you can get to know others in a less pressured environment. Perfect for newcomers into the scene and those looking to expand their social circle.

There will also be a generous bar tab put down so at least each couple can have one drink on us. The evening will last for approximately 2 hours to give you enough time to say ‘Hi’ and get comfortable with newfound friends.
Sould you wish to attend OSS with those new friends; discounted entry will be given to those in attendance at the Monthly Mingle.

The Monthly Mingle is for couples and single women only.

Red Heaven Presents – Heaven in Hell Valentines, Sat, 13 February 2016

Red Heaven is taking over the Sydney Party scene again with their Heaven in Hell Valentines Party. Want to have a wild V-day night to remember? Red-Heaven has the equation to please all types- the romantic, the kinky, and the wild, naughty, evil devious.

Downstairs in hell the devils can party in a naughty, kinkier vibe room, while upstairs in heaven the party angels can dance the night away! We will have something for everyone just like last Valentines Day!

A night filled with entertainment, showcasing of great music, erotic Japanese rope bondage with DV8’s from Studio KINK and amazing fire twirling show with The Electrofairies.

But when you want to take things to the next level you need to head over to Our Secret Spot’s Red Heaven After Party to really get things going.
Valentine’s For Singles – Speed Dating Cruise , Sat, 13 Feb 2016

If you’re a single man or woman looking for something fun to do for Valentine’s, check out this great event hosted by Fantasea!The Speed Dating Cruise will be held on Saturday 13th February and take place along Sydney Harbour.

Held in a fun and relaxed atmosphere, guests will be invited to come dressed as a beauty or as a geek. This is a great opportunity to meet new friends and potentially a new love.
Don’t worry about any awkwardness as the Fantasea crew have prepared fun questions for good laughs. There will also be prizes for the best looking beauty and geek, great music and a fantastic host!

Come with an open mind and an open heart to see what the night will bring. Even if you don’t meet the love of your life, you’ll still end up with a fun and memorable night! Ages groups are between 25-35 years and 35-45 years.
Brumbies Valentine’s Party Week Late xxx, Fri, 19 February 2016

Claim your Valentine (or valentines…) and treat them to a very special Romantic RED HOT night with the Brumbies. Join this sexy gathering of drinking, mingling, dancing at the most sensual Event of the Year. So whether you like to perform, or watch others, or maybe join in with another couple (or two…) Brumbies is guaranteed to bring you a night of sensual fun.
Come join us for this special event.
Queensland

Valentines Lingerie and Mask Party @ Mikes Palce, Sat, 13 February 2016

It is the day. So bring along your sweet heart or meet one here. Red is the theme, lingerie is the game, and a mask for those that want to.

A little mystery is a hot thing. Cum and party with the friendliest people in BrisVegas.

VALENTINES RED THEME PARTY @ Chateau Vino, For Sexy Swingers, Sat, 13 February 2016

RED RED RED –That’s the dress code for our horny Valentines Eve Party.
Get some “luvin” in early with as many Valentines as you can meet! Or treat your lover to the attention of another or… another! Celebrate your V-Day
Chateau Vino has been successfully operating with full Gold Coast council approval as a Swingers Club since 2011.

Capulet’s Masquerade Valentine’s Eve, Sat, 13 Feb 2016

‘Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind; and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind’ – William Shakespeare

Join us in the Garden of Love for an evening of intrigue and mystique.. Unmask your hidden desires and find your Romeo or Juliet!

Banging DJ duo Tom & Jarry will be on the decks alongside Geordie Sure and Jaymak.

Best Mask will win a Private Booth with Bottle Service for the evening… Get caught in the romance.

Prohibition Club – Valentine’s Day Dance, Sun, 14 Feb 2016

Join us for Valentine’s Day for a musical and dance extravaganza paying tribute to New York’s most exclusive nightspot of the 1920s and 1930s.

Starring The Rhythm Society Dance Orchestra, The Keen Gents Collective, Legs 11 dance troupe master of ceremonies DJ Swingabilly and YOU!

General Admission Tickets: $15(includes special treat on arrival)

Valentines Day Couples Tickets: $25 (per couple includes special treat on arrival)

Victoria

Red Theme Party, Melbourne Swingers, Sat, 13 February 2016

At our Red theme Party This Valentines Day eve. Enjoy the music and shows don’t forget the red roses too. Welcome to Melbourne Fetish Ball

Walk through the doors at Shed 16 and leave you inhibitions in your locker, with your clothes and enter the new world order of Hedonism.

The sensual atmosphere that surrounds you includes a sauna, a steam room, spa x 2, open showers and an erotic theatre, with deep couches that allows for some intimate discussions. A fully licensed bar is also available, to help you get into the mood.

Melbourne Fetish Ball attracts broadminded adults and exhibitionists looking for adult fun and entertainment.

Minx Saturday Drinks, Sat, 13 Feb 2016

Minx are hosting a social get together on Saturday 13th February at one of the top “Gentlemen’s Clubs”. Come mingle with like minded people on VAlentine’s Day. Minx are known for having the hottest and youngest swingers crowd in Melbourne so don’t miss your chance to be a part of the most exclusive party in the scene!

We have reserved the exclusive VIP area for our sexy couples and ladies to mingle, socialise and dance. This is a night suitable for first timers who have yet to discover the specifics involved with the swingers play scene. These nights will be cocktails and drinks only, designed as a meet and greet.

Valentine’s Day, St Kilda’s Festival, Sun, 14 Feb 2016

Now in its 36th year, the iconic St Kilda Festival is returning once again in 2016 and promises to be bigger and better than ever.

Festival Sunday will take on a romantic tone this year, with the celebrations landing on Valentine’s Day. Special consideration has been catered to those wishing to commemorate the landmark day.

Set in the picturesque landscape of St Kilda foreshore, Festival Sunday is held on Sunday 14th February, 2016. Patrons can expect a captivating mix of live music, dance, carnival rides, sports, market stalls, activities, extended trading and entertainment for all ages.

The festival is Australia’s largest free festival and both highlights and celebrates the rich culture and artistic history of the city we love.

Western Australia

VERY Sexy Valentines @ Pleasure Lounge, Sat, 13 February 2016

Come indulge at Pleasure Lounge for Valentines day.
Haven’t got a Valentine? Come find one at our sexy venue, or spoil your valentine with someone else in the bedroom. Fun people great venue, fabulous staff
Catering for classy discerning people only. Whether your experienced swingers, vanilla swingers or newbies, the Pleasure Lounge is the place for you.

Valentine’s Eve Sexy Red Circus, Sat, 13 Feb 2016

This Year Delicious Ladies Bar & Club are getting Loved up and Celebrating Valentines Day a night earlier.

We have the sextango duo show performed by Eve So Divine & Maverick, 4 more Feature strips including Cupid shooting his arrow, pole performance, games and so much more!

This year our door prize is “Win a date with a Himbo” .. Yes that’s right you could win a 15 minute one on one timeout with one of our topless Himbos. We will provide the Champagne, chocolates, strawberries & cream…!!!

Bookings are essential, and for every lady that comes in with a confirmed booking will receive a complimentary glass of champagne or frozen daiquiri (Terms & Conditions apply).

Venue: Delicious Ladies only Bar & Club, 174 James St, Perth, Australia

A Party For Adam on Eve – Valentine’s Day @ Voodoo Lounge, Sat, 13 Feb 2016

Everybody loves to feel special on Valentine’s Day so come down to the Voodoo Lounge and let my beautiful Voodoo Dolls make you you feel exactly the way you should.
Complimentary bottle of champagne for all couples who demonstrate their love for each other on stage.
Complimentary bottle of champagne for everyone who books a girlfriend experience in the VIP area.
To demonstrate our commitment to lovers of diverse sexuality, we have a feast prepared of dual lesbian strips.

Naked Valentines Day @ Sensationz, Sunday, 14 February 2016

We are a Nudist/Swingers Club and are celebrating Valentine’s Day. Naked Valentine’s Day is exactly how this special day should be celebrated.

We have a Sauna, pool table, table tennis, 2 private rooms, open room/lounge area with adult movie showing.
There is a BYO bar area & dance floor.

PS: Phone for invite.

Hopefully this article gave you some fresh ideas for what to do on Valentine’s Day.

Fortunately, most swingers clubs and parties today provide a welcoming environment for single girls. Organisers bend over backwards to ensure that their experience (quite often their first) with group sex or more-somes is nothing but positive and pleasurable.

For the single ladies on RedHotPie who may be contemplating their first foray into swinging, here are some points to keep in mind before starting your sexy adventure:

What Do You Want Out Of Swinging?

The first thing you should consider before dipping your toe into the world of swinging is to decide (at least roughly) what you want out of the experience. Multiple men? Multiple women only? Or a combination of everything? Are you open to intercourse happening (safe or otherwise) or do you want to stick to foreplay fun? Spontaneous naughtiness is certainly exhilarating but if anything, it’s best to know 100% what you definitely don’t want to experience so there are no regrets later on.

Once you know what you want out of swinging, the next important thing to do is work out how to go about it. If you have not done anything sexually with more than one person before and are perhaps on the shy or inexperienced side, you may wish to consider finding a smaller group of people to play with. This way you can get to know a set number of people socially before getting naked with them. There’s less likelihood of surprises and misunderstanding if everyone present is aware of your needs and desires.

If you’ve otherwise had some experience with threesomes or more-somes, and now want to experience the heady atmosphere of lots of sexy strangers getting together for some random, spontaneous encounters, then one of the swingers parties or clubs listed on RedHotPie may be right up your alley. Clubs that welcome single girls will gladly field any questions you may have and more than likely arrange someone to show you around when you arrive. If a club or party isn’t forthcoming with information or assistance, check out another venue.

Meeting Couples

For those ladies not too keen on parties and clubs, one of the easiest and intimate ways to get an understanding of swinging is to meet some couples on RedHotPie. Even if you’re seeking more than a threesome, getting to know a handful of couples will easily open up your opportunities to experience swinging in a more controlled way. Most couples are good friends with other likeminded couples so setting up a sexy private party to initiate you into the wild side won’t be hard to do.

Be wary of couples on RedHotPie whose profile mentions things like “wanting to a girl to spoil my man” or “desperate to fulfill our threesome fantasy”. Choosing a couple who isn’t overly focussed on their own needs and desires won’t place high expectations on you or your meeting with them. You want to meet couples who can make you feel relaxed and are interested in what you do or don’t want to do.

Suggest meeting a couple socially first at a bar or cafe, so you can see if there is any sexual chemistry and potential to be trusted friends. Don’t feel pressured or pushed into agreeing to anything that is suggested to you. There may be two people on the side of the table but you call the shots. On the same token though, do be upfront with the people you meet. If your aim is to play with a number of couples rather than just a threesome, then ensure that you explain that in your RedHotPie messages, or indicate your intentions on your profile before arranging to meet in person.

To Wingman, Or To Not Wingman?

Quite often, single women are unsure about attending a swingers event on their own even though the organiser may have done their best to assure them that they will be made comfortable and encouraged to mingle socially. Whether or not you attend on your own will depend on the sort of social creature you are, or are not.

If you’d feel more comfortable going to a party or club with someone you already know even just for the sake of not looking like you’ve come on your own, then it may not be a bad idea to invite a likeminded friend along, or a regular play friend who understands or even shares your desire to try swinging. If so, do ask the party or club organiser if it’s OK to attend as a couple or twosome.

Many play friends attend swingers events together successfully but you should probably outline some ground rules. If the purpose of having a friend along is to ensure you have constant company, the last thing you want is your friend to make a pig of himself with a bunch of people elsewhere, leaving you to wonder when it’s time to call the taxi (or vice versa!). Also, never (ever) invite a friend who is not open-minded or does not have a basic understanding of how swinging works.

Interestingly, many women who attend swingers parties with a play friend end up wishing they hadn’t. Sometimes a friend will limit the amount of fun you can have, particularly if he or she isn’t as Gung Ho about swinging as you are. Some friends aren’t naturally social and find large groups intimidating, or some feel a little jealous if swinging and group sex isn’t properly understood and they may have thought your relationship was exclusive. If in doubt, do consider attending on your own. You can leave at any time and that way, you only have to be responsible for your own good time. Most women who have attended parties will agree that the scene is friendly. You’ll never feel alone as people are often more than happy to have a no-strings chat, just to make conversation.

Once-Off or Ongoing?

Inevitably, many single ladies end up asking themselves whether swinging is a sustainable lifestyle for them as a solo player. Some women find that once their fantasies have been fulfilled, they don’t feel the need to participate further, at least not without a life partner of their own. Many singles and even couples are led by curiosity more than a definite appetite for group sex and as such, they fall out of the scene once the itch is scratched sufficiently. There’s nothing wrong with that and as most people will attest, why die wondering? Don’t feel bad if swinging is ultimately not what turns you on. Everyone is different.

On the flipside, there are just as many women who find themselves genuinely loving the dynamics of swinging and end up staying in the scene on a regular or casual basis. There’s definitely nothing wrong with that either and the most likely reason such women may give swinging a miss is when they meet a new partner. It’s therefore not unusual to see girls in the scene for a lengthy period before disappearing (and reappearing). Frequently, they end up with a partner who is just as keen for group play and a new swinging couple is born!

Whatever you decide, just remember that swinging or indulging in experimental group sex is not a lifelong commitment. You can dabble in it and just as easily decide later that it’s not your thing. You might change your mind again later, or you might not, but no one needs to know what you’ve explored except yourself. Your sex life is no one else’s business except perhaps your new partner’s, should the topic come up and ONLY if you wish to share your experiences.

Just be reassured that it’s never been easier or safer for single girls to explore fantasies and RedHotPie is definitely the place to start. If you’ve been hesitating, just strike up a conversation in Forums and you’ll no doubt find plenty of people to give you some tips and encouragement. Whatever you end up doing, have fun with it!

Interested in reading more? Check out some related member forums!

‘First time swinging for a single lady.’ Read it here
‘Transitioning from coupled off to swinglehood.’Read it here

Theme Nights

Crank up the central heating and turn your living room into a toasty warm beach party. Go a little (or a lot) Hawaiian and invite your guests to front up in their sexy bikinis and boardies (or rock the Tony Abbott special if budgie smugglers float your boat!). Serve up some tropical cocktails along with some beach party snacks and before you know it, winter is just a figment of your imagination. Lay some towels around the room and make use of those cosy beach tents for some private nookie time.
If the beach scene isn’t your cup of tea, get your guests over for a good old fashioned toga party or a buxom wench and bawdy pirates night. Throw in some games like truth or dare or spin the bottle and your guests will be in the mood to try anything.

Lingerie Dinner Parties

The evening chill may put you off BBQs and alfresco dining but that just means it’s time to play Masterchef inside. Invite a table of eight or ten (whatever your dining room permits) and go all out to present a fabulous meal for your guests. The only conditions are that your guests must attend your dinner party in their sexiest underwear and sit next to anyone other than their own partner.
Make a sexy three-course meal that encourages a bit of interaction. Perhaps alternate your entree and main to encourage people to share and eat a bit of everything. While waiting between courses, devise naughty mini games (two people can go under the table and guests have to decide who has done what to whom) to play to keep your guests entertained. Dessert should be something you can feed to each other or make it an extra fun game by blindfolding one person and getting that person to guess what’s on the plate. What’s the bet you all won’t make it to the bedroom to work off the calories?

Amateur Porn Shoot

Get a bunch of your favourite exhibitionist friends over, make like Zack and Miri and stage an amateur porn shoot. Work out what role each of your guests will play. Someone can play director (preferably someone who knows how to operate a video camera) and you can all have a say in the plot of your porno (ie – no real talent required there so don’t panic!). Bring out all your sexy lingerie and tacky props, and get some porno music to put you all in the mood. Use all areas of your house to set up favourite scenarios and engage in some fun role play. Maybe someone called for a plumber? Drag him into the kitchen and show him what needs his attention.
Make sure all parties are happy to be filmed though and make an unanimous agreement to either delete the footage at the end of the session or make copies for personal pleasure. If everyone likes the idea of being filmed but is extra mindful of discretion, then try a shoot with masks. Very sexy! If you just like the idea of playing porn stars then forget about the camera all together.

Glory, glory, hallelujah!

Most people are at least a little bit intrigued by the idea of of the glory hole. For those who are uninitiated with the concept, a glory-hole is a usually a hole in a wall through which a person on one side may touch and fondle another person on the other side, ideally without seeing or feeling anything other than body parts. You can set things up so that both sides don’t know whose hands, fingers, tongue or other body parts they are in contact with.
Of course, one can’t just bash a hole through the wall between the bedrooms in your house so the DIY person in your home may need to put their thinking hat on. You may want to get some MDF and build a partition with a number of holes in it. A large box may be just as fun and a little kinky for those who like it like that. For those who are not close friends of Bunnings, try a darkened bedroom in which the willing victim may lay on the bed and accept secret visitors.

Game Night

Who doesn’t like getting the board games out? OK, who doesn’t like getting down and dirty while getting the board games out? Pick a few of your favourite games and set up your guests accordingly. Aim for games that have short rounds (so winners and losers are decided fairly quickly and frequently). Work out fun rules where the winner may order the loser to do whatever they wish. You might even want to make one of your bedrooms the ‘sin bin’ and send the loser of one round in to wait for the loser of the second round. The anticipation of who might be coming in should get your guests in a spin.
Have a think about how you might be able to sex up some of your old time favourites. Maybe Monopoly can get a new set of rules where going to jail may have an entirely different meaning. Cluedo can become a fun game of ‘Who shagged who?’. You’re only limited by your imagination.

Get aboard flight 69 to sexy Sydney.

Be sure to follow the instructions from your gorgeous flight hostesses as the in-flight DJs play some seriously sexy house and breaks. You will be cruising at a very high altitude and you may experience a pleasurable humpy/bumpy ride.

The fornication flight departs at 21:00 hours on the 27th March 2010 and will land at 03:00 hours on the 28th March 2010.

More details of Prima Nocta’s Mile High adventure will be posted up in the coming weeks.

Till then make sure your seat belt is fastened and your chair is reclined. Please feel free to wander around the RHP cabin and introduce yourself to as many sexy guests as you like. Oh behave, Baby!

Couples International – QLD
Bollywood Theme Night
Saturday 30th January 2010

Enjoy the sights and delights of the tantric world as Couples International celebrates the eroticism of the Bollywood world in spectacular fashion. It’s going to be colorful, magical, mystical and above all, very, very sexual, so don’t forget to mark this one down on your carnal calendar!

As always the CI patrons will be sparing no energy in creating some amazing outfits which always serves to make these theme nights that much better, so get your thinking cap on now!

Pricing wise its $100 for non-member couples and $50 for member couples, and for single ladies it’s $20 for non-members and free for members!

Come along and rock out with the Bollywood inspired DJs at what will be one of the most enjoyable evenings of the year!

Debauchery – VIC
Debauchery Swingers Party
Saturday 30th January, 2010

Debauchery by name, Debauchery by nature! Melbourne’s largest, most popular and longest running swinger’s party is back with a smashing bash taking place on January 30! Debauchery has been operating since 1994 and their parties have always been known for the heat they produce and the superior physical specimens that they attract.

Suitable for first-timers or more experienced, Debauchery enjoy a large venue with an enormous heated spa pool (be sure to bring your own towels), and run the parties from 9.30pm till at least 3am. The party is for couples and women only – no single guys we’re afraid. For those who want to watch, or share with special friends, or meet some new playmates. Fully air-conditioned, and the parties usually attract between 80 and 100 people around this time of year.

For all the party action, visit the events page

Now before you set off to the stores with the blood quickly rushing to your tingly bits let’s look at your options: You could get your lover the horse-scale dong but would something so in-your-face be all that sexy? Well ok maybe it would but let’s see if we can’t stretch our imaginations a little further, ensuring a saucy gift that will excite both giver and receiver.

The Basket
For the picky shoppers out there, why not throw all your eggs in one basket by getting your loved one something like… a basket! An adult gift basket can contain just about anything and can offer some variety which is of course the spice of life. We’re talking scented candles, massage oils, body paint, a lacy g-string and chocolate boobs etc. Anything you believe will help create the carnally infused atmosphere you’re chasing is a potential inclusion, so have fun with it. What you don’t like, you can always give out as prizes at your next naughty party

The Game
After the Christmas lunch gorge has ended, someone inevitably pulls out the Parker Brothers board games producing little more than monotony and heavy eye-lids. After the last morsel of pudding disappears, why not send your folks packing, giving you and your lover some privacy and a chance to roll the dirty dice. Games like Nookii, the Karma Sutra playing cards or Monogamy will ensure you spend the afternoon eating more than just left-overs. Failing that, grab that empty bottle of champers and play a round of Spin the Bottle.

The Big Wet
Everyone’s got a spectacular story about that time they humped their partner stupid in the bath or spa right… well there’s no harm in encouraging a repeat performance. Throw a bath pack together; take some scented candles, bubble bath, nice cleansing gels, maybe a couple of heavy white robes and a little Barry White for good measure. Your partner will be wet before the first toe hits the water. Check your local adult stores to see if you can add a few fun bath toys too. Some vibrators are specifically made for underwater pleasuring.

9½ Weeks
You know the film, Mickey Rourke, Kim Basinger, some condiments and a swag of sadomasochistic abuse. Depending on your partner’s temperament maybe forego the abuse, but some carefully selected food items can make for quite the kitchen work out. The whip cream, the cherries, the chocolate sauce, the frozen bananas… the rest of this story writes itself. Try a Christmas theme and heat things up with brandy butter and candy canes.

Get Away
You know what’s great about dirty get-aways, the lack of pretext. You know you’re going to have lots of filthy sex, your partner knows you’re going to have lots of filthy sex, the complete assuredness of the venture makes the situation so damn horny it hurts… think about that when shopping for your baby… is that level of nudie fun worth the extra bucks you might spend on a pressie of this size? Of course it is. Get on the blower and book that b+b now, your pants will thank you for it.

Cinema
For the more liberal among us, the world of porn should not be overlooked. Would you rather spend the afternoon watching some ancient drivel about an angel getting its wings or would you prefer to snuggle up with your partner to watch Jenna Jameson getting reamed seven ways from Sunday? If you’re a stickler for context and the sense of occasion there are several Christmas themed adult productions available. Ho, ho, ho indeed!

A Swinging XXXmas Party
While most couples would undoubtedly be doing the family thing on Christmas Day, nothing should stop you from making your Christmas Eve a sexy occasion. After all, it’s your last chance to show Santa how naughty you are! Perhaps have a few saucy couples over for a dinner party with a difference. Suggest that your guests dress up in sexy lingerie or underwear for the table.
You can be crafty and liberate your Christmas crackers of all its usual naff content and replace them with condoms, naughty jokes and the like. Serve up as many finger foods (think tapas style) as possible to encourage mutual hand feeding and finger licking. You can set aside some fresh strawberries and cream for dessert but I doubt you’d all last that long and retired to err.. rest…

So there are a few ideas to get you away from the standard items usually filling the stockings on Christmas morning. Think outside the box and don’t be afraid to be a little brash, sometimes the dirtier the thought the greater the return. Don’t forget – your lust and affection for your partner is ultimately an affirmation of their importance and worth to you; now if that doesn’t fill them with Christmas cheer something’s wrong.

Merry XXXmas!!

Jane’s husband Rob brought up the subject of swinging after numerous sexy sessions talking about introducing some extra people into the bedroom. Jane was filled with both trepidation and excitement at the thought, but eventually her curiosity got the better of her. Jane was keen to experience sex with another woman, and the thought of a man other than her husband touching her for the first time in eight years also thrilled her beyond words. She agreed swinging could be fun.

Rob immediately signed up on RedHotPie and suggested going to a swingers party that was advertised in the Events section. Jane had reservations about going to a party as all she could imagine was a Roman orgy scenario with lots of naked bodies lying around. Rob too was a little nervous about the idea and decided that meeting another couple through the RHP listings was probably a better option for first-timers.

“I’m really glad that we decided to meet a couple privately first. Rob was very understanding of my feelings about going to a party where neither of us knew what goes on. We luckily met another couple who were similar to us in that they were fairly new to swinging too.”

Jane and Robert met Angela and Simon on RHP and set up a drinks date. There, the two couples were able to chat openly about what they were both looking for over a few glasses of wine. Soon enough, everyone felt so comfortable and turned on that they got a hotel room.

“Angela was a little more experienced than I was in terms of other women so I let her take the lead. It was a wonderful night. I am so sure that I like women sexually, and it’s not just a phase. We didn’t take things much further than swapping foreplay but we’re happy for all of us to get to know each other better and maybe swap for sex later too. For now, it’s just a lovely experience.”

Jane and Rob are open to visiting a swingers club once their confidence increases, but for the time being prefer the intimacy of setting up dates with select couples. They’ve so far been very fortunate in meeting compatible people to ease them into the lifestyle.

However, for some others, finding the right couple can be a frustrating and time-consuming task. Linda and Pete met at least five couples online but nothing eventuated past the initial coffee meeting, aside from a once-off session with the first couple they met.

“I started wondering if we’d done the wrong thing. We had stated in our profile that we’d like to meet first and play later, but that seemed to attract couples who were happy to socialise and weren’t fussed about playing. On the same token, we aren’t prepared to say a definite ‘yes’ to playing until we’ve met people in the flesh either.”

On a whim, Linda and Pete decided to try a swingers party.
“Linda and I weren’t sure what to expect from the party, and we were slightly taken aback by the number of cars parked outside the venue, but once we got inside and felt more comfortable with the atmosphere, we were fine. Not everyone was naked and ‘at it’ as you might have imagined. In fact, we remained clothed most of the night. Until we met Sarah and Mike.”

“We had a few drinks and chatted about various things before discussing why we were all there at the party. We discussed our experiences and what went right or wrong with them. Before you knew it, we felt really relaxed and got into a spa with Sarah and Mike. That was the start of one very horny night for Linda and I. It all felt right. There was something exciting about the suddenness of the situation I guess. Now we wish we had just gone to a party first instead of muddling around organising dates.”

Whether it was the fact that Linda and Pete had finally met a compatible couple, or the fact that the party lent a spontaneous and sexy atmosphere to the night, they experienced the best night of group sex at a swingers party.

As Linda and Pete discovered, swingers parties and clubs seem to have an unwelcome image of being sleazy but that is far from the truth. Most modern venues provide a relaxed environment for couples and select singles and may be the perfect way for a new couple to scope out the scene and meet some new friends. There is no pressure for patrons to have sex but those who wish to can certainly have a wild night.

Clearly, it’s up to each couple to determine whether the party or club scene is for them, or if private meets give the much needed touch of intimacy for sex to happen. Ultimately, new couples should certainly consider trying both before deciding which way to swing. While many couples eventually end up sticking to either venues or one-on-one meets, others keep their swinging options fully open.

So the pros and cons in a nutshell? Private Meets

Discretion – It’s easier to keep things discrete if you are meeting couples (or singles) privately, and you’re less likely to run into someone you know since you can filter your contacts on RHP before meeting.
Intimacy – For couples who prefer the sensuality of playing with a limited number of people in the privacy of their own home, private meets may satisfy that need.
Convenience – You can choose the time and place to have fun.
Handpicking – Couples who have specific likes/dislikes in other people or play can use RHP to handpick compatible people.

Parties

Social Atmosphere – The more the guests, the more the interaction. Even if play isn’t involved, you may have a great social night out without getting stuck with a date that isn’t going anywhere.
Pick and Choose – You do not have to restrict yourself to just one couple or partners of a couple. For couples who find that the attraction isn’t reciprocated all ways with another couple, parties and clubs allow you some freedom to branch off with a person you are mutually attracted to.
Spontaneity – Some people enjoy the heady atmosphere of parties and are more likely to get their kit off at a party or club.

Erotic (or swingers) parties need not be something restricted to club owners or the hard-core. A naughty home party need only be an intimate affair for a select number of people and it can be in any form you wish (well, within reason!). Naturally, if you’ve got the space, ambition and tolerant neighbours, you can host a veritable orgy too. Either way, read through the next steps to work out what sort of gathering you can get going in your own home, and how to make it a sex-ccessful event for everyone to remember.

PREPARING PARTY CENTRAL

Firstly, your home will determine the number of people you can host. If you are living in a smaller flat or townhouse with common walls, it would make sense to keep the guest list small. Where erotic parties are concerned, it most certainly is about quality and not quantity so don’t be discouraged. You then need to work out where guests can mingle and where guest can play. If you wish to keep your own bedroom off limits, then prepare your other bedroom/s or look at having some inflatable mattresses handy to use in the living room if it’s the most sensible place for people to play. Have spare sheets and towels handy and be sure to have a stash of condoms available as not all guests think to bring their own.

PARTY LOGISTICS

Make sure you start planning well in advance (certainly enough time for guests with kids to find sitters) and set a date for your party. If you already have a list of people in mind, then you should see what date works best for most people. Fridays and Saturdays are popular dates so be prepared to plan a month ahead. Then, decide what kind of party you want to host. Do you want to host a hardcore swingers party? Or would you prefer a sexy Ibiza-style dance party? Or maybe you have a fetish or masquerade party in mind? Do you want it to be couples only, or do you want to invite select singles as well? Once you’ve decided this, then you can start sending out the invitations!

We also suggest you only disclose the location at the last possible moment to avoid unwanted gate-crashers (or guests who figure it’s OK to turn up ‘cos their friends are going…). Make sure you also specify what kind of party you’re intending to host so that they can be prepared. If it’s a pool party, tell them to bring their best Hawaiian beachwear. If it’s a costume party, set a sexy theme, e.g. uniforms, fetish, lingerie.

WHO TO INVITE

If you are fairly new to swinging and have only met a few people so far, it may be a good idea to keep your party at a manageable size and include people you have already met. Inviting complete strangers to your house when you aren’t sure what to expect is a recipe for disaster. If you already have a crew of naughty friends, then your job is made easy. You may however still wish to take the opportunity to meet some new people by getting your friend to bring along a new face.

Generally, it is a good idea to invite a mixture of people with different levels of experience. Longtime swingers can bring much-valued knowledge and experience whilst newbies are eager to explore new experiences. The easiest way to find open and like-minded people is to search through the listings on RedHotPie. Whether by age range or member type, you can start sending out invites to hundred of sexy couples and singles in your area right away if you’re planning (and can accommodate) a massive party. If that’s the case, consider posting in the Parties and Events section in RedHotPie for instant results. If you ideally would like between 3 and 6 couples for a more intimate gathering, then you should go through search listings and find people that you feel would be best suited to your party. Hand-picking people is time consuming but you can be ensured of a more personal experience at the party also.

PARTY RULES

This is your party so you can make up the rules. However, do let your invitees know what to expect at your party. If you are happy to leave things up in the air and see how things go in terms of playing, then you should note that in your invitation. You should perhaps describe your party more as a social event with playing as an option. That way those who do definitely want to play won’t be disappointed (or they can decline the invite) and those unsure will understand that they can leave if things hot up. If you are sure that you want a ‘play only’ party then that definitely needs to be made clear from the very beginning. If any invitees request ‘seeing how things go’, then you should consider if you are happy to have some voyeurs in the mix, or suggest that the party may not be suitable for them. It’s entirely up to you.

Do assure all your invitees that the regular set of rules apply: No means no and there is no pressure to play. Even if your party is a designated play event, those who become uncomfortable with the idea suddenly should feel comfortable enough to say no and leave. If you have specific rules that you want to bring in (eg – get naked upon entry), then the invitation stage is the point where the should be introduced.

HOST WITH THE MOST

Unlike other parties, it’s essential that the host/s of the party enjoy the event as much a the guests, otherwise there is no point going through the effort! However, the one thing the host must do is ensure that everyone is introduced to each other and encourage all guests to mingle. Get some conversations started and make like a honey bee every so often and do your rounds to make sure everyone is happy.

While we do want our host to have a memorable night, we want it to be for the right reasons. Therefore it’s a good idea if the host remains reasonably sober and aware of how the party is proceeding. If the host doesn’t want to be sober, then co-hosts should be recruited for the night to keep an eye on things. This is probably a bigger consideration for bigger parties but worth keeping in mind even for smaller gatherings.

SEXY SOUNDS AND VISUALS

Music definitely helps fill the void of silence that can often rear its ugly head when a bunch of strangers meet for the first time. Choose some chill-out grooves which are easy on the ears and allows people to still have conversations. Dance tracks are great for later in the evening but the important thing is to choose songs that keep people pumping (literally). If you start playing songs that remind people of weddings (think Mustang Sally etc.) or put them to sleep, you’ll be calling it a night by 10pm.

Don’t forget: you’re having an erotic party so the music should probably be sensual too. Dance music used for pole dancing and stripping may be a good idea to get the raunch started. Depending on your taste, you can also have some porn running in the TV room for those enjoy some not-so-subtle visual stimulus.

Whatever your choice in music/visuals, make sure you keep the volume at a reasonable level. Your guest probably prefer to concentrate on conversation or sexy activities instead anyway and we certainly don’t want irate neighbours crashing your soiree.

WHEN TO START

Though most of the ‘action’ so to speak will most likely happen later in the night, it’s best to get the party started earlier in the evening so that people get a chance to mingle with each other on a social level before anything sexual eventuates. Starting the party from around 8 to 9pm is optimal. People will have eaten dinner and are ready to move on to a social evening. Any later and you will find some people will have found something else to do (including falling asleep in front of the TV) while waiting around for your party to start. A late starting party is fine however, if you are happy to keep at it until the early hours of the morning. This will depend a lot on your partying habits and those of your guests so arrange accordingly.

FOOD AND DRINK

( RedHotPie promotes ‘Drinking Responsibly‘ and ‘If You Drink & Drive You‘re A Bloody Idiot‘)

It is essential to state on your invite whether alcohol will be provided or whether it is BYO. If you are intending to provide alcohol, avoid kegs and slabs of beer: this will inevitably result in warbands forming around the beer and the night might fall prey to drunken antics not out of place during schoolies week or a toga party. To ensure there is enough alcohol to go around amongst both sexes, invest heavily in the more feminine drinks: strawberry daiquiris, tropical illusions and the like. Only men who are comfortable with their sexuality will even think about drinking them, thus ensuring sufficient drinks for the night. On a more serious note, champagne is welcomed by both sexes so perhaps get a bowl of strawberries and pass the bubbly around. Soft drinks are a must as well as easy access to water.

As for food, most guests should have eaten dinner beforehand but it’s a good idea to provide some alcohol-soaking snacks like a responsible party host should. To keep things simple, chips and dips or cheese and fruit platters are good options. If you feel like doing up some sausages and getting some buns and sauce, your guests can make up quick hot dogs to keep up energy levels. Getting some pizzas home-delivered is another option but ensure that the person opening the door is clothed!

SEXY ICE BREAKERS

Even the most seasoned swingers can find it hard to bring the mood on so a number of fail-safe ice breakers should be on hand. Those who are fortunate enough to have a spa should most certainly use it. It’s warm, gets everyone naked and brings people deliciously close to each other. If you don’t have a spa, try some fun party games such as musical chairs where guys stay stationary on the chairs and girls do the moving around from lap to lap. Spin the Bottle is another old time favourite which can be very naughty when you put the adult spin on it. Toys and props are also fun to have at a party. Sexy lingerie and costumes for the ladies to try on is always a crowd pleaser. The more confident people may just want to get their kit off and get it on centre stage. Very Amsterdam!

Finally, before you get your party into motion, it is very important to keep your safety and the security of your property and belongings in mind at every stage of planning. This is particularly the case if you are inviting people that you have never met before to your house. You should keep your guest list manageable and ideally, you should recruit some trusted friends as co-hosts to help keep things above board. It may be best to approach people who have had their RHP profiles verified or have a number of friends or validations to give you an idea about their character. If your preference is to meet people socially in public first then consider starting your party at a bar, club or pub and go back to your pad later if everyone checks out.

After you’ve had one party with a guest list of great, sexy people it’s really just a matter of planning the next one. Your guests will be hanging out for it!