So what do you do if you think you’ve met your soulmate at work? It’s tricky, but if you can communicate honestly with your partner and your employer and maintain boundaries in the office, you might be able to make it work — just don’t take that as permission to use the office as your own personal casual dating pool.

If you simply must pursue your co-worker crush, here are seven expert tips for dating a fellow employee the right way.

DETERMINE YOUR MOTIVES

“Try to think objectively and ask yourself, ‘Why am I interested in this person?’ We get close to people during projects and initiatives. What will happen after the project ends? Do you have anything else in common?” – Liz D’Aloia, founder, HR Virtuoso

CHECK THE RULES FIRST

“Many organisations have rules about dating colleagues [but] not because dating a colleague is a bad thing. You may share common interests and motivations and you may both love the organisation. The rules exist to avoid any messiness that might arise when the relationship ends, when one of you gets promoted, or if one of you has access to information that should not be shared especially if it might benefit your partner unfairly.” – Roy Cohen, career counsellor and executive coach

DETERMINE YOUR PLACE IN THE OFFICE

“Consider your work relationship — is the co-worker your superior? The answer may officially be no, but unofficially the answer may be yes. This may be the case if the co-worker is leading a work team, spearheading a project, or has more experience [or] seniority than you. These factors are important to consider because your comfort, confidence and productivity may all be adversely affected once you’re involved personally.” – Laura MacLeod, creator, From the Inside Out Project

KNOW WHEN TO DISCLOSE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

“I advise forthright disclosure when it becomes a regular dating relationship [usually around] two to three months. Letting supervisors or HR know will allow for open and honest dialogue. Depending on the company’s posture, a resolution can generally be forged. Many companies will work to move one of the parties if there is a direct or indirect reporting relationship in a work group. Full disclosure will keep everyone out of harm’s way.” – Leesa Schipani, HR practice leader, training and development, KardasLarson

DATE OUTSIDE OF YOUR DEPARTMENT

“Dating someone who reports to you can lead to ugly litigious situations if a breakup occurs. There’s less danger if you date someone in a different department, but the best policy is to maintain a professional distance in the office.” – Lynda Spiegel, HR professional and founder, Rising Star Resumes

ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

“[Dating a co-worker] requires employees to have good boundaries. Co-workers don’t like to see kissing at the water cooler or baby talk between two adults. They also hate it when both people disappear together for hours, air their personal business at work, or have a public breakup followed by trash talk and the silent treatment.” – Steve Albrecht, HR and security consulting professional

MAINTAIN YOUR INDIVIDUALITY

“When you work with your significant other, especially if you’re on the same team, or at least in the same department, it can be easy to automatically support his or her ideas, or agree with his or her input. But in the office there’s more to the team than just you two. It’s important to maintain your separate voices, especially when it’s in the best interest of the company. Treat each other with the courtesy you would any colleague, but know it’s okay to disagree. Just leave it at the office when the day is over.” – Laurenne Resnik, founder, Bloom2Bloom

Source: news.com.au

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The encounter between the two colleagues at Christchurch insurance company Marsh Ltd was photographed and filmed by scores of people at the busy Carlton Bar, who then posted the images online.

Stuff.co.nz reported today the man was a manager at the company and was married with children. His devastated wife was no longer speaking to him and had been crying “non-stop”, a source said.

Neither the man or the woman were at work today. Calls to their office lines were answered by colleagues and the man wasn’t answering his cellphone.

The woman has deleted her Facebook page.

A Marsh Ltd spokesman said it was “an internal” matter and wouldn’t comment.

The images of the steamy affair quickly went viral.

“Opposite the Carlton bar where the whole pub knew about it and was watching, while they were totally oblivious to it. And afterwards celebrating with wine,” Alex Wilton wrote on Facebook, alongside photos of the man and woman.

Marsh Ltd said on Monday that an investigation had been launched.

“Marsh is very disappointed by the conduct of two colleagues at our Christchurch premises,” company chief Grant Milne said in a statement.

“The inappropriate actions of those two individuals are not representative of the many professional colleagues we have at Marsh.”

It is understood that the pair thought the tinted windows in the office would stop anyone from looking in, TVNZ reported.

“Everyone knew about it,” Mr Wilton told 3 News. “The band that was playing at the time stopped because everyone else was more interested in watching them … We all had a good laugh. It was the highlight of the night.”

The fate of the unnamed lovers is not yet known.

Source: news.com.au