Koh Phangan, Thailand: If you’re after a secluded beach for a little romp in the ocean or you just fancy a quick holiday fling, then this is the destination for you. The exotic South East Asian island not only has 30 beaches but because there is so much space for tourists to explore, finding a little nook of sand with no one around is as easy as whipping of a string bikini. And when the sun goes down there’s even more entertainment to get your heart racing. Every month the locals hold a six day full moon party attracting thousands of young and uninhibited party goers looking for a good time – which you can no doubt offer them. If you’re looking at heading over to Thailand, be sure to check out RHP’s Travel Profile to see if some like-minded Aussies may be sharing a plane trip with you.

Las Vegas, United States: America’s adult Disney Land is a hot bed of raunchiness just waiting to be taken advantage off – it isn’t known as Sin City for nothing. Indulge your fantasies, catch a strip show or visit a swingers club; whatever your itch, Las Vegas will know how to well and truly scratch it. And the entertainment doesn’t just happen outside of your hotel room. If you book a Playpen on The Palms’ 28th floor, you’ll be able to put your best dance moves to good use; the room is set up like a pole dancing club complete with disco lights, sound system and mirrored ceiling… right next to the king sized bed of course.

Paris, France: While many assume that this city is more romantic than naughty, don’t be fooled – Paris definitely has a naughty little mistress in her, you just need to know where to look. Montmartre has had a long history as Paris’s epicenter for the more risqué. There are plenty of dirty diversions to excite tourists such as sex shops, peep shows, strip clubs and cabarets including the world famous Moulin Rouge. You can even take an organised tour through the notorious Pigalle Place (Pigs Place) where you’ll find the Musee d’Erotisme (Erotic Museum), the perfect place to find inspiration for your adult only x-rated adventure. For those who would like to swing in style, you can’t go past Les Chandelles: an uber exclusive couples club that is just pure class.

Fraser Island, Australia: One of Queensland’s holiday hot spots, Fraser Island was recently listed as the world’s fifth sexiest island by a US business magazine. Why? The isolation of an island can inspire one to lose their inhibitions, and their clothes. Plus there are plenty of quiet spots on the island with the sand dunes providing plenty of space and privacy for all sorts of naughty little adventures.

Bali, Indonesia:This gorgeous little island which is less than 4 or 5 hours away from most Australian capital cities has got to be the answer for those couples strapped for both time and cash. Even a little weekender in Bali won’t set you back a fortune but you’ll feel like kings and queens. Bali has some of the most stylish bars in the world and if the cocktails aren’t enough to get your juices flowing, try enjoying them on the many day beds that dot the beachfront of most of these bars. Bali (while Hindu but governed by Muslim Indonesia) isn’t home to any openly advertised swingers clubs but with heaps of sexy expats living there along with many international visitors, getting your own naughty party happening at a private villa isn’t at all out of the question. Search our Travel Profiles to see if any fellow RHPers are heading over at the same time as you.

Ibiza, Spain: The Spaniards have a passion for living and no more so can this passion be found than on the party island of Ibiza. Hedonistic ambitions will be fulfilled with the eclectic mix of multinational sun seekers all looking for a good time. The clubs are famous for entertaining like no other while being filled with some of the world’s most beautiful people. Check out the foam parties at Amnesia where your fantasy of having sex in a nightclub can be subtly achieved or just chill out by the beach to perve on the thousands of bronzed beach gods and goddesses who flock to take advantage of perfect sun bathing weather.

Brighton, England: I know. Brighton isn’t exactly known the world over for its sexiness but before you write off this city too soon, take a look at what’s on offer in terms of accommodation, particularly the Hotel Pelirocco. Voted as “The World’s Best Hotel for a Dirty Weekend”, this saucy little house of love cannot be matched on the sexy meter. The best room to book is affectionately called Betty’s Boudoir for it’s homage to 1950s bondage starlet Betty Page. Lined with images of Betty’s finest moments, there’s everything you need including a pair of handcuffs attached to the leopard print bed. If you’re looking for more, you can always order a battery operated device from the room service list, and just to prove how hospitable they actually are, batteries are also included – now that’s service!

You’ve both thought about it. You’re out shopping and you notice the way that top shows off your partners curves and you get that little flutter downstairs… so why not act on it? Now we’re not telling you to strip and bump one out by the registers at Coles but where there’s a will, there’s a way. Look for some out of the way restrooms, maybe a supply closet. Hell if you have to wander around and find a quiet corner behind a building or in an alleyway, the sexual heights attainable by a little public passion will be totally worth the risk.

Home movies

You know what’s hotter than watching people having sex on the telly? Watching yourself having sex on the telly. As the sex tape becomes more and more mainstream with A-List celebs doing publishing deals for their fornication films every other week, everyday folks are getting in on the fun.

Float the idea with your partner and discuss what might be fun, if there is a little concern about being recorded, set up a shot that won’t show your faces. As you get more comfortable with the idea and the sensation of seeing yourself and your lover in the throws of passion you may well gain in courage and become much more adventurous, opening a door to some very sexy cinema indeed!

Dirty Talk

Want to tip you lover over the edge? Well this is just about a lock when it comes to amping up the amour factor. For a few folks, some sexy gutter talk can be a huge part of foreplay, really heating things up. When you partner dispenses with the social protocol and let’s the animal take over, it says a lot about their attraction to you and what’s sexier than being wanted?

So for many some explicit foreplay is very effective. Other can be a little coy and will need to ease into the dirty verbals. In this situation the best bet is to wait until things are already cooking, when people are really in the physical moment there inhibitions can drop as their pleasure levels rise, this is when you might want to whisper a few naughty words in your partners ear and you take them over the top!

Facials

Well here’s a little sex act that doesn’t come up at the dinner table too often, and to be honest, that’s probably for the best. Under the heading facials, let’s look at any body part that receives the post orgasm ejaculate and there is some real-estate that has a no fly zone in effect much of the time.

After watching Ron Jeremy and the like paint their co-stars faces for years now, a lot of guys think it’s no big thing to aim and fire with reckless abandon; but while some women find it pleasurable to wear their man’s seed, many do not. So always discuss landing areas with your partner, for most the stomach, breasts arse and back etc are acceptable, maybe not all the time but they’re definitely within the rules of engagement. Anything above the neck is a conversation, or at least a sweaty request before the top blows off. Maybe come to a compromise and indulge in some sexy oral action in the shower, that way any deposits can be quickly washed away and the steamy location will make things hotter again!

Bondage

Who hasn’t tried handcuffs or tying your partner’s hands to the bed-head? If you haven’t you’re in the minority, and you’re missing out. The feeling of dominance and submission that can be experienced with a trusted partner can be nothing short of ecstatic and the places you can go after your initial forays into bondage are mind blowing. Just do a few online searches and you’ll find an incredible world of chips, dip, chains and whips – all just waiting for you and your significant other to take them home.

Bondage can really put some nitro into your foreplay, thus supercharging your sex play. The seduction of the ritual can make the skin almost ache, dressing your partner, lovingly restraining them and then pleasuring them in a bound and compromised state can take the intimacy between two people to amazing new places. Chat about the roles each would like to assume, and to add to the comfort levels, have a safety word, so if things get a little too heavy, the buckles and Velcro can be released for a quick breather.

Anal Sex

It’s the holy grail for a lot of guys, many don’t even know why; they just know that they really want it because for the most part they cant have it. As our modern sexuality is being discussed more and more the fact that a healthy percentage of women enjoy anal sex has become common knowledge so at the very least, a discussion on the subject should be a no brainer for couples.

If it is being attempted for the first time it’s a game of patience, start with a little rimming, and some light, lubricated finger play leading to insertion; keep talking with your partner ensuring his or her comfort. Eventually when both parties are ready and adequately lubricated, penetration can be attempted.

Go slow until you’ve got the go ahead for more throttle; initially anal sex takes a little more caution but with the nerve epicentre that resides in the anus, the pleasure that can be derived from this formerly taboo sexual act is well worth the patience.

Pornography

With modern pornography crossing further and further into the mainstream, adult movies are no longer watched exclusively by the trench-coat brigade. Today, adult stars like Jenna Jameson and Ron Jeremy can be see popping up in ads, reality series and Hollywood movies, thus, sexy films are finding their way into our bedrooms more and more.

So chat to your partner, see if you couldn’t jump start things now and then with a few sexy scenes. Today’s adult film productions are numerous and varied, what ever your tastes, you’ll find something to light your fires – films for couples, films for women, films for Argentinean dwarves… what ever you think will turn you on, it’s all there.

Give it a try… having sex while watching other have sex release the voyeur in us all, setting the scene for some mighty big pleasures.

Strip clubs

Strip joints are becoming a fun night out for couples or perhaps an intriguing book-end to a night spent out on the town. You been out for dinner, done a little dancing, had a few drinks… you’ve probably both got a bit of the Dutch courage on the go and the arousal levels are rising… it might be time for a Strip Club.

If you’ve ever been to a strip club, chances are you’ve seen couples there and the attraction they general get from the dancers. Having a lady on your arm or being said lady will separate you from the masses of lonely guys looking for a cheap grab and generally a good time will be had.

Sit together and watch each other flirt with the dancers, giving away those dollars. If thing are feeling really good, why not go together for a private lap dance, touch and feel each other while the dancers perform and heighten your pleasure. Bang!

Masturbation

Are you really into your partner? Imagine them, get a picture of them in your mind, now if they’re not already naked, get rid of their clothes. They just smile at you, slowly closing their eyes and gently running their hand over their bodies, slowly losing themselves in the thought of sex with you… Pretty hot right! Well why not bring that heat into the bedroom?

To shake things up a little now and then, mutual masturbation is a great break in pace and when both parties are in the right head space it can be an out and out winner.

The great thing about mutual masturbation is that each partner can move along at their own pace and simultaneous orgasm is reasonably easy to achieve, either sit looking at each other or lie next to each other, touching and feeling your partners movements and climaxes. Touching yourself has never been so much fun!

Fantasising

Unless you’re Brad or Angelina, likely hood is, you’re occasionally gonna think about nailing someone that is not your partner. We understand it’s not something you’d ever act on but there’s no point in fantasising a little right? Well while you have nothing to be ashamed of, neither does your partner so why not get things out in the open.

Ask about their fantasy crushes, who do they like and how could you incorporate that into your sex life. Maybe your girl would like to watch Johnny Depp films as you ride each other into sexual nirvana, or maybe your man might like to put that poster of Jessica Alba on the wall every now and then. The secret is not to get jealous, but rather take pleasure in the fact you’re helping your partner indulge in a fantasy, ultimately bringing them closer to you.

Chances are you like talking dirty as much as your partner does but if you’re yet to unleash this side of delicious tongue waggling into an already saucy routine then loosen up that mouth of yours as this is a great way to heat things up under the sheets.

First thing to do is lower your voice – think soft, sultry and sexy pillow talk, not loud hyena like howls – they can be saved for later when the nasty talk and whatever follows takes you over the edge. The idea is to create a mood for sensuality not just randy sex. “I like it when my boyfriend lowers his voice and speaks all breathy like, I call it his bedroom voice – you know kind of like bedroom eyes – I know it means he’s in the mood for a really hot time – no vanilla sex in sight,” says Krystal.

And so what do you say to each other? “Dirty talk doesn’t mean using fowl language or talking like a porn star. It’s about talking about the sexual experience you’re both sharing,” explains a female RedHotPie member. “Start off by just expressing what feels good and why and as you both learn to communicate you’ll find that your inhibitions go and your well on the way to being a smut talker.”

Simply put, just mention what you want him to do to you or what you want to do to her or what you think other people might be doing to each other. Dirty talk is all about saying heated things, sexy heated things, in the moment, so it’s best to let your instincts carry you. If you think your partner is hot then tell it how it is; “You are so hot!” If you feel they make your bits quiver then tell them; “Your touch makes my cock/pussy quiver.” If you’re very hard or wet; just say so; “I’m so hard/wet right now.”

Once you’ve gotten hold of the basics you can intensify the linguistic gymnastics. Add some metaphors and get really imaginative. “I make my dirty talk a bit more creative because the whole; ‘Oh you’re such a naughty boy’ gets a little boring after a while. So I mix it up with things like talking about a fantasy or explaining in really long detail just exactly what I’m going to do with him, so it’s kind of like a teasing strategy. I say things like, ‘I’m going to take my tongue and slowly slide down your body and then I’m going to grab your balls and put them in my mouth sucking them while I put my hand around your huge hard dick…’ things like that. By the time I’m done, he can’t wait to get in me,” says Louise.

Another turn on for many when it comes to the language of lovin’ is cursing which adds a more aggressive punch to your descriptions. “My partner is really softly spoken and can be shy but when we’re having sex they go crazy with swearing and it’s a completely different side to what I normally see. It’s so hot when you hear things like ‘Fucking bang me harder’ and ‘Shit, I’m coming’ when you’re right in the heat of the moment,” says Ben.

Another male RedHotPie member commented on a recent forum post that this tactic works well. “On rare occasions I have met women who, even though there is also respect and love, like to be taken as a sexual object at times. They love whatever comes out of my mouth when I’m not trying to be politically and socially correct. [For example] ‘Get over here bitch!… I’m gonna fuck you so fucking hard…” When things get really nasty, turn up the volume and give your neighbours something to complain about.

So how can you be great at dirty talk? A female RedHotPie member says that being honest has a lot to do with taking pillow talk from the sweet to the sexy. “They were honest [and that made it good],” she says of her experience with someone who was particularly good at dirty talk. “They talked about what felt good and why, which bolstered my self esteem to be more adventurous in the bedroom. And when I returned the favour they would embellish on what I was saying so it became a shared conversation of smut and sex. Having your conversation and mind fully focused on what you are doing and why intensifies the experience of sex itself… Am I turning you on yet?”

How do you make the language of love hot and steamy? Has anyone ever said something to you that was irresistible? And are there any words or phrases that should be avoided?