Obviously, it’s every singleton’s responsibility to stay abreast of all these dating terms so they can defend themselves.

The latest one is ‘R-Bombing’ i.e. when a person you’re interested in reads your message but doesn’t respond. Essentially, they ignore you.

We have all experienced that sinking feeling of watching our phone screens waiting for a reply after you know your message has been “read”. Then anxiously await the ‘….’ showing you they are in the process of answering and then no reply.

Oh, yeah, you have just been R-Bombed.

The hardest thing about R-Bombing is the torture of knowing that your message has been read. Why would anyone behave this way, you wonder?
The people who “R-Bomb” are likely to lack basic communication skills, choosing to be silent rather than saying what is on their minds. It could be they fear conflict or being called out for their behaviour.

How do you handle R-Bombing?

You can choose to just leave it and move on. Or wait a while to give them a chance to respond, if they respond. Your actions toward being R-Bombed depends on how long you have been seeing each other. If you have been seeing each other for a short time, letting it slide seems the most obvious thing to do. However, if you have been seeing each other for a while, then you need to decide what is best for you. It’s true that choosing to end a relationship this way lacks closure. One thing is for sure, don’t over think it, because their lack of courtesy, it’s makes it obvious that it’s not you, it’s them who are the problem. They are poor communicators and don’t know how to be honest and authentic.

Another course of action to take against this awful and frustrating behaviour is to change the setting in your phone and turn off both “read” message and “now typing “. Sometimes “Ignorance is bliss”.

What is mosting?

If you had someone who said you were their soul mate, proclaimed their undying love for you and then disappeared. You have been mosted, my friend.

You have been lead to believe that your relationship was genuine. The ‘moster’ will show you how important you are to them, only to leave you high and dry without any warning or explanation.

‘Moster’ fake emotions to create a false connection in order to get what they want. Ever heard of ‘whisper sweet nothings’ to get what they want? Mosting follows in the same vein but worse, your emotional connection is a fraud.

This new dating trend is actually nothing new, it’s been happening for centuries where the ‘playboy’ sweeps the girl off her feet for one reason only – yeah you know what we’re talking about. The reason any man would do this in this day and age is that they do not know how to ask for what they want. Really! In the age on Tinder, there’s no reason for this. There are plenty of women looking to fulfil their desires, so why play with someone’s emotions?

How do you spot a moster?

If you keep falling for mosters remember this: It’s not normal for anyone to shower you with excessive flattery right from the beginning. No matter how good the sex or chemistry is. Genuine people will consider if what they are feeling is genuine before they just shower you with flattery because they don’t want to come on too strong.

Mosting is deceitful and messes with the lives of those looking for happiness. There is no need for this behaviour. Being direct and truthful about your intentions helps prevent confusion where the relationship is going and unnecessary hurt. Obviously, the Moster might be rejected by the person who is looking for more than just fun.

Of course, not everyone is Moster, some people are just bad at being in relationships.

If your intention is only to have fun, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just be truthful and say it outright, it’s the mature way. Nobody deserves to be left wondering what went wrong and if they are to blame. Be honest about your intentions so the other person can make an informed choice about whether they want to be with you.

In any case, the moster is probably doing you a favour by showing you their flaws earlier before they become a partner.