Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy for both men and women. While this fantasy might be incredibly exciting, the dynamics of it can be a bit tricky. Threesome can be initially awkward as the dynamics changes from 2 to 3 and therefore it is really important to negotiate everyone’s terms, and to be clear about boundaries from the start. Keep in mind the following when having your choice of three-scoop combination:

1. Communication & Consent

Communication and consent are the key to any sexual activity. All affected parties need to have a talk so that no one crosses a boundary they didn’t know existed. Talk about what’s on and off the table, ensure everybody is on the same page including your special guest. It’s also a good idea to ask your special guest what s/he is comfortable with doing, this is about all of you after all.

2. Take it slow

You don’t have to go all the way the first time you hook up, take it easy. You can choose to have small breaks and gauge how everyone is feeling or just meet another time and continue what you started.However, if everything feels great from the beginning then let yourself just enjoy the ride.

3. Get everyone involved.

A common mistake for novices is thinking everyone needs to be involved at all times to feel included. Some of the hottest moments in a threesome can be when you are watching two people enjoying each other. If you have voyeuristic tendencies this is a huge turn on. This could also spike interest in cuckold and hotwife fantasies. However, everybody should have a bit of fun and not feel left out. So pay everybody equal amount of attention.

4. It doesn’t change you or your relationship.

Another hurdle is worrying too much about what a threesome means. If a threesome happens to figure out a new realm of both your sexuality, that’s great, but there’s no need to worry that a threesome says anything about who you are. Bringing another man into the equation doesn’t mean your boyfriend is gay or you are a slut, it only means you are both willing to explore and push your boundaries. Life’s too short to allow our antiquated ideas of sexuality to blind us, we live in more progressive times. It’s your sex life and you establish your sex rules with your partner. Sex is exciting when you mix things up a little.

5. Pick your three-scoop combination.

Finally, the type of threesome that suits you best depends on you as a couple. Whatever threesome you choose make sure you finish with expressing that you had ‘fun’. It does increase your chances of seeing your guest again, especially if you meshed well together.

This is not the easiest fantasy to have fulfilled – the chase of the elusive ‘unicorn’. It’s not a secret that the willing, single women couples fantasise about are a rarity but not an impossibility altogether. There are single women out there willing to do threesomes but not enough for all the couples wishing to have it happen to them. Or more important, the way they envisage the fantasy to happen. Too focused on their own needs, they forget to consider the third party wishes, desires, boundaries and expectations.

However, why are couples obsessing over a threesome that involves only a single woman? This is often leads to very good opportunities being cast aside. Are we looking at 3way all the wrong way?

For couples and women who are interested in experiencing sex with more than one person, maybe inviting a single man and changing the FFM to MFM threesome is what a lot of couples have been missing out on. Cultural attitudes toward sex, sexual identity and relationships changed, and therefore it is time to broaden the way we look at threesomes.

House of Cards, on Netflix, or the TV series made waves last year when Claire Underwood (Robin Wright) and her husband, Francis (Kevin Spacey), seduced a handsome young Secret Service agent. Propelling the move away from the traditional threesome to be typically as two women and a man. The trend has been set in motion, so let’s jump the bandwagon and enjoy what seems to be the easier ‘unicorn’ to catch.

Here are the top 7 reasons why a MFM threesome might just be the thing for you as a couple exploring your sexuality:

1. A huge advantage with MFM type of threesomes are that women seem to suffer from less insecurities, such as comparing themselves to the other girl, or whether her man likes the new girl better. It allows the woman to learn to focus on her pleasure rather than on her insecurities. Too often women’s pleasures falls to the wayside on the priority list, but in a MFM her pleasure is at the center.
2. Another advantage of MFM threesome is if your lady has a great sexual drive, two men might be more satisfying. She can consider new exciting possibilities that can only be achieved through having sex with two men, such as DP, hotwifing and cuckolding. Sure men can suffer from performance anxiety in front of other males. Realistically, today that barrier is not a big factor, in view of today’s more relaxed attitudes to sex and relationship dynamics. Couples in general are more liberal in their thinking and are not offended or shocked at some MM interaction.
3. Which brings us to this point. There is a lot of curiosity with MM interaction and what better way to fulfill your guy’s bi-side. For many straight people, a threesome is the first place they experience same-sex erotic contact. This can be incredibly exciting and liberating.
4. Most men would find it difficult to please two women at the same time. Unless you are a man with a great drive in which a FFM is ideal for you and also ideal for women in relationships that want to explore their bi-side. Women in general are capable of having several orgasms and each has a different sensation – clitoral, vaginal, multiple orgasms, squirting orgasm and g-spot orgasms, the many reasons why women can handle multiple men at once.
5. The other great thing about a MFM threesome is that it’s waaaay  easier to put together than the other kind. Sure, you can run the risk of the boner proximity issue, but in today’s changed and relaxed sexual attitudes this isn’t an issue anymore.
6. In many ways having threesomes that involve two men and one woman will teach the woman to find her pleasure, focus on her pleasure and also relax about issues of insecurities and jealousy. Experiencing  first hand what it truly means to share an experience with her partner that enriches their relationship. Maybe MFM for many women is a stepping stone to a FFM, as they learn that threesomes are nothing than a sexual explorations and not a threat to a well established relationship.
7. Last, there’s something sexy about a confident, sensual woman who is capable of handling two men at the same time.

These are only a few good reason to try a MFM threesome, but there are probably many more that could be listed. If you have anymore to add let us know in the comments below