Summers are actually the best time to meet people organically, as more people are out and about. The best part is, “getting out there” doesn’t necessarily have to mean going completely out of your way to meet a special someone.

Go out simply with the intention to have fun and make new friends. If more happens – bonus.

Whether at the shops, at a coffee shop or at the gym, be open and relaxed because meeting someone can happen anywhere.

So here are the best places to meet someone during the summer:

1. The beach

It’s summer and being at the beach is a fav hangout for many people. The likelihood to meet someone special is possible. Lot’s of singles on uni breaks or on holidays will swarm the beach and therefore is a great place to strike a conversation with a total stranger.

2. Going on a holiday

When you’re on a holiday, you and everyone else on a holiday are relaxed and just out to enjoy themselves. People love to meet someone out of town, or someone from a different country. The excitement can lead to a nice summer fling.

3. Your city local events

Take advantage of your city’s summer events.  Open-air cinemas and free concerts are great opportunities to make eye contact and start conversations with people who have similar taste in movies and music. This can be a great organic way to meet people.

4. Outdoor concerts and music festivals

Summer is the time where there are a lot of concerts and music festivals on. There is something about music and people in an ecstatic state that breaks social barriers and allows people to come together. The free, happy atmosphere where the endorphins spike set up the perfect stage to meet someone new.

Your own neighbourhood

In summer the days are longer so take a good old fashion walk around your neighbourhood. If you have a  dog or take a stroll with a friend and go for a coffee. People out tend to reach out, say hello and start a conversation when you are relaxed and open.

My Place or Yours?

Unless you are absolutely comfortable with the idea (or have a morbid fear of going out in public), it is probably prudent not to invite your date to meet at your own place, or theirs, for that matter. It’s fairly unlikely that you will have the misfortune of meeting an axe-murderer, but it pays to exercise caution and discretion. After all, you always have the option of inviting your date back to your place after meeting them at a public venue, whereas it may be difficult to ask people to leave your house, if you don’t fancy them. Of course, if you are absolutely adamant that the first meet should be at your house, or vice versa, then we suggest taking precautions, particularly if you are a single.

Meeting in Public

First dates shouldn’t just be about checking out the physicality of the person you’re meeting. You should ideally use the meeting to determine the character of the person as well. Trust, honesty and discretion are factors that should be taken into account before responding to pure physical attraction.
Given that, you should choose a public venue that will allow you to have a decent conversation. Going to a late-night pub with a Red Hot Chilli Pepper cover band blaring in the background isn’t going to be conducive to getting to know each other. Hotel bars are fairly ideal for first meets. Most provide spacious lounge areas where you can have racy chats without prying eyes and ears of neighbouring tables to worry about. Drinks or coffee dates in the evenings are probably the best way to start, although some people may prefer to meet during the day. Keeping your first date at a drinks/coffee level also gives you a chance to leave after a reasonable time if things aren’t going smoothly. It isn’t very nice to blatantly lie, but most people wouldn’t accuse you of being rude if you say that you have things to do and need to move on.

Honesty is the Best Policy

Your first date with an adult contact shouldn’t be any different to a date you would go on romantically. You shouldn’t assume that your date will ‘put out’ and if you don’t have any intention of contacting that person again, then it’s best not to feed the ‘we’ll call you’ line, as much as it seems like the right thing to say. Similarly, if you think you’d like to meet again socially before taking things further, then let that person know. No one can read minds and you shouldn’t rely on signals.

Help! I Said No!

Respect should be the key word in the game of meeting people for sexual fun. You shouldn’t bully or coerce someone into doing something that they don’t want to do. Some people may be naturally shy but there is a fine line between giving a gentle nudge in the right direction, and pushing your own desires onto a person who probably prefers to go at a slower pace. If your attitude towards sex differs significantly, then you are probably not compatible with your date.
In contrast, if your date is coming across too strong and you experience difficulty in getting the word ‘no’ through, then it’s a good idea to take a polite but assertive stance. Explain that it was nice to meet him/her/them, but you have a different view on how adults should conduct themselves sexually, and socially.

Doing it On the First Date

OK. You’re having a seriously good time. You like the looks of each other. Any more chemistry between you both and they’ll be awarding the Nobel Prize to you. Well go for it! No one’s going to not respect you in the morning for seizing the moment. You’re there to explore your sexuality, not to meet your life partner.
If you’re comfortable (and eager), then you may wish to invite your date back to your place for some unbridled fun. You can also go to their place but if you’re on the guarded side about your personal life (and understandably so), you may prefer to get a room at a hotel or motel. That way, you can be as frantic and adventurous as you want and you don’t have to clean up the next morning!

Next Time?

You may have made the concerted decision not to play on the first date, even though you would like to get things on with the other person at some stage later. If this is the case, then let your date know and arrange another meeting accordingly. If you’re unsure about doing anything sexual, then decide whether you would like to maintain social contact for a while longer and keep your date informed.
For those who let loose on the first date, it’s up to you whether you wish to repeat the experience. Some people are only seeking one-night stands, but that preference should ideally be mentioned before progressing to the bedroom. It’s just a matter of courtesy since some people prefer an ongoing play relationship that is based on fun and friendship. At the end of the day, do to others as you would have unto yourself, and you’re guaranteed to have a great start to the world of recreational sex.

We have all heard our mums rattle on with statements like, “You only get one chance to make a good first impression,” add nauseum,  but there is a practical purpose behind such clichés.  It is human nature that we start forming assumptions of other individuals based solely on their outward appearance in the first instances of meeting someone for the first time. Sure you might be beautiful on the inside but people are always going to get to know you first by how you look and later on your personality. Instead of lamenting about the superficial state of the human condition lets consider how to make that slamming first impression that will stick in your dates mind until their dying day, provided they don’t have a disposition towards Alzheimer’s.

First, you need to know that there are three major categories you face being put into when making a first impression.

A: You walk into a room and everybody stops to take notice of you, if not get down on their knees to worship you as a messiah of style. Think Brad Pitt, Jamie Foxx, or Jude Law. They have the look but top it off with a sense of confidence and style for the complete package. You make an impact like a blast from a howitzer; you are the heavy artillery of first impressions. Girls want you and other men want to be you.

B: Average impression: If you were a movie star you would be Kevin Bacon. Not quite attractive put somehow manages to score the good roles. On a scale of 1 to 5 you would come in around 2, 3 if your having a good hair day. You might fall into this category if your date gives out a ‘can’t make up my mind about you’ vibe. They’re probably thinking, ‘he his not hot, but not bad either. Perhaps I need another drink.” If you don’t feel like you have made that strong a first impression, you’re still in there with a chance and if you persevere your personality and enduring qualities may win over in the end. But be careful not to go to the toilet or bar too early in the piece as you may fade away into the crowd and become a distant memory. If you were a movie star you would be Kevin Bacon. Not that attractive, but somehow manages to score the good roles.

C: You not only don’t make a strong impression, but you actively make a negative impression. Maybe it’s because she has a particular dislike of the cologne you are wearing or perhaps you bear an uncanny resemblance to a bad boyfriend that she is getting over. But for whatever reason, she shuts down communication and does not open up to you at all. If you were a movie star you would be Tom Cruise: sure you might think you are attractive but people find you a source of annoyance and avoid you on site, something no amount of Diane tics can remedy.

Now I want you to imagine the reaction you get when you walk into a room. What category do you fall into? If you feel you are a C, there is much work to be done here and I would advise contacting a stylist. If you are a B then there is no reason why you should sell yourself short of being a picture of style and sophistication like the members of the A camp. To get you on your way, RedHotPie has compiled a key list of things to consider when making that first impression last.

1. Ok, in these metro sexual times we have to reconsider the formula of how long a man should take to get ready for a hot date. Back in the day a guy would get ready in less than ten minutes and make a mad dash out the door whilst girls could take an hour or more preparing themselves. Now, I’m not saying we should spend that long getting our bling-bling on, but I think you will notice a major difference if you put just a little bit more effort into getting ready.
2. If you are concerned about a particular feature like dry skin, fuzzy hair or rank B.O, buy grooming products that specifically target these problems like moisturizer, hair gel and for the love of god get some deodorant! Daily showers will help in that area too.
3. Consider buying one suit that is essentially for all dating purposes, your pulling suit, only to be worn when you want to make a great first impression. You should have a particular outfit, be it a Versace suit if you like the formal look or some killer Cathcart threads if you like the more casual look, which you save for those special times. Consider putting the clothes in an air tight case like the Bat Suit.
4. Make sure you always have some breath fresheners on hand. Seriously, nothing turns a woman off more than bad breath. While she may want to get to know you, she probably doesn’t want to know what kind of sauce you had for lunch.
5. With the predominance of gyms around the city centres these days, there is no excuse for not working out at least once a week. So many other Play-ers out there are packing fully cut ‘guns’ these days, that you have to at least familiarise yourself with a few weights and the treadmill. And heed the words of wisdom of the Anchor Man Ron Burgundy: “The only way to bag a classy lady is to give her two tickets to the gun show.”
6. Confidence! Confidence! Confidence! I cannot emphasize this enough. Lack of confidence is like the kryptonite to the formation any possible relationship. This is the major difference of what separates category A from C. Walk into the room like you own the place.
7. Finally, the most important secret is not to talk about how much effort you put into grooming yourself or go into details of your body builder program. Girls could care less about the amino acid body gain formula you are eating or the products you are using on your hair. It should appear as if you pull it all off effortlessly.

Follow this to do list and you chanced to score with that luscious lady will improve.