From working, to the daily commute to work, cooking, exercise, catching up with friends, taking care of chores and kids – it’s little wonder we have little or no energy for sex sometimes.

For those times when you really find you have no energy for sex, try this Lazy Lovers – An Auto-Thrusting Hydraulic Sex Girdle. It’s perfect for couples who want to want to make love, but are a little too tired to get it on.

OK, so that’s very obviously fake.

Maybe this video will serve as a stark reminder that it’s important to actually pay attention to your loved one and shag each other once in a while.

We get it sometimes life is just too taxing, so here is a lazy lover’s guide for you.

Because sometimes you want sex without all the hard work.

1. Oral sex

Too tired for a full session of sex?  Try oral sex, give each other an orgasms and doze off to sleep.

2. Masturbate together

It’s masturbation month, masturbation is on the menu. This is an easy way to get off and share your fantasies with each other. What better time than to introduce a fetish or a fantasy through a masturbation session? You can gauge your partner’s interest without it feeling awkward or fearing rejection. The couple that masturbates together stays together.

3. Lazy lover position – spooning

This is a no-brainer, and it’s the perfect position for when you are too tired but still feel like some easy and low impact loving.

4. Morning sex

Take full advantage of his ‘morning glory’. He’s ready to go and it’ll be a nice way to start the day.  It’s no secret that morning is prime time for some action—studies even show that morning sex can strengthen your immune system and enhance your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection.

5. Role play the Dom/sub 

If you’re both tired, that’s okay but if it’s only one of you then let the other be the dominant one and take control. Take it as far as you feel comfortable. Start slow and know each other’s limits beforehand. Let your partner take responsibility for your pleasure when you are feeling a little lazy.

6. Watch some porn/ RHP webcam

Sometimes the body is willing but the mind is just too tired. That’s when porn comes in handy. Play some good porn, something you both enjoy, let it set the mood and away to a lazy feel good session. You won’t make it through the whole movie as you’ll get distracted with each other.

Have you had your share of lazy lovers?

Have you ever felt too tired to make an effort?

Do you think guys would get more sex if they put more effort into good sex?

Researchers at University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario studied 229 couples with an average relationship of six years, aged 18 to 68, who reported having sex an average of one to two times a week.

The couples documented their general sexual desire, perception of their partner’s sexual desire, and their satisfaction with their relationship via journal over the course of three weeks, or went into the lab and reported those same factors in person.

Researchers found that, on a regular basis, men significantly under-perceived the degree of their female partners’ sexual desire, while women consistently made accurate judgments about how much their male partners wanted sex.

What is interesting though, is that among the couples who kept a journal for the study, women rated their relationship satisfaction higher on days when their lover didn’t realise they were horny, suggesting men are better boyfriends when they can’t tell whether she’s in the mood or not.

In other words, a man will try harder to please his female partner if he thinks she’s not responding to his advances, which keeps him from taking the relationship for granted and getting lazy. Another likely explanation for male sexual under-perception might be fear of rejection. This last one makes sense as fear of rejection is one of the strongest human fear. By just not initiating sex, he’s preserving his ego.

However, men aren’t the only ones to blame for this false perception. Often, women aren’t as overt in their advances for sex, or may be embarrassed to ask for sex, which might be a reason why men have trouble gauging their interest.

This study suggests then that the concept of sex drive is moulded mostly by sociocultural forces. High time that we throw away the assumption that women are going to be the lower-desire partner.

How do we stop this from continuing to happen?

There is a simple solution to all this!!

As we all know the key to any successful sexual relationship, long or short term, is clear and open communication. In addition, to communicating your desires, learn each others turn-ons especially when you are trying to initiate sex.

What are your thoughts on this study. Share with us in the comments section below!

Women have a high libido; they just need to free themselves from all the social and cultural attitudes that too often dampen their desires. Women need to allow themselves to feel lust, desire, and to enjoy sex. Women need to make sex about them, about their pleasure and need to learn to meet their own needs.

2. Own All Your Different Orgasms

Women not only can have more orgasms than men but they also experience a number of different orgasms. Women can have a clitoral orgasm, vaginal orgasm, multiple orgasm, G-spot, breast orgasm, squirting orgasm, some women can also have a mental orgasm. In short, women are orgasmic creatures who for the vast majority have been afraid to embrace their sexuality. As you can see their potential is enormous. Leaves any experienced male feeling a little jealous and slightly overwhelmed. Yes, this is the reason why many savvy vixens love gangbangs where they know they can reach all of these orgasms in one night.

     3. Realise That Men Love Sexual Women

Confident women speak about their sexuality and aren’t afraid to act on their desires. The frowns and the looks, even the occasional ‘slut-shaming’ utterances are for the most yawn-fest and boring. Celebrities such as Amy Shumer, and  Miley Cyrus , who are unapologetic about their sexuality. Mainstream TV series of the looks of Orange Is The New Black, RHP  and Tinder  and other media influences are pushing the boundaries and changing the way we think about women’s sexuality. Men love sexual women because they know what they like in bed and love sex as much as they do. Finally, men can be honest about sex with a partner who is not going to be horrified at the many facets of sexuality and sexual possibilities. A sexually confident woman is the best asset a man can have in his life journey.

     4. Sexual Experience Makes You A Sex Diva

How can a woman possibly be good at sex or even know what she likes or dislikes about sex when she has had no experience? To understand, enjoy and know your turn on and offs, you need to have sex and go so far as to say have had a few sexual partners. To be queen between the sheets, you need to embrace your wants and needs to be totally authentic in bed. Only through exploration do you get the knowledge and a set of skills that will provide you and your partner pleasure. If you are already in a relationship, explore with your partner,watch porn, play with sex toys, indulge in self-play, become a swinger or anything that your fancy takes you. You will not discover if you are straight vanilla, or have a kinky side or bi-curious until you go out there and play.

      5. Sex Will Help You Meet Your Compatible Partner

Most women have the perception that they should hold off sex until they meet their life partner. That if they do have sex too often this act only will destroy their chance of a serious relationship. Nothing is further from the truth, being who you are sexually is very sexy and attractive. No man who loves sex wants to commit to a relationship with a woman who doesn’t understand and enjoy sex. Who doesn’t know her body and how it best has pleasure.

     6. Sex Is An Endurance Sports

Sex is an endurance sports, you need to practice harnessing your stamina. To keep your body at optimum and to get to know your body’s ability get in the gym, get active. Think of exercise as a means to get better at sex. No red-blooded male enjoys a ‘corpse’ next to him, unless that’s a fetish of his, otherwise an active and enthusiastic lover is what we all desire.

Don’t expect everyone to accept the openness of your sexuality because at the end is not about what people think about you or your sex life but about how you feel about your body, your sexuality and about fulfilling and exploring your sexuality.

With women embracing their sexuality, sex between women and men can only get better. Women will feel free to explore, to let go of their inhibitions and men will enjoy having  partners who will be fulfilled and happy. Be a traditional (vanilla) girl with a swirl of slut, exactly how nature intended women to be.

Libido issues in relationships are complex and many factors can affect it.There’s work, kids, age, gain or loss of weight, sickness, or you and your partner have hit a sensual slump. These are some of the factors that start to affect and destroy your libido and then before you know it there has been a while since you had sex or been intimate with your partner.

Life will take a toll on all of us therefore, it might be a good idea to just commit to having sex with your partner every night. Sounds unrealistic and right down crazy, but you soon come to realise that once you get started, sex actually will make you feel good and you start wondering why you aren’t having more of it. Is it that crazy to make time for pleasure? Seriously, experts swear that sometimes going through the motion can kick-start your arousal.

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., and author of She Comes First, says: “ Research has shown that arousal can proceed desire in women”. In other words, if you let your body lead the way, you can trust that more often than not, your mind will follow suit. He adds that; “ Once you get the reward of orgasm, you’ll remind yourself of what you’ve been missing.”

Sex isn’t about just pleasing your partner; it’s about the two of you. Sex is good for your health and it’ll make you feel desired, wanted, attractive and even confident. Sex is like exercising, you might not really feel like it to start with but then once you get started and get to the finish you are glad you did it. For you will feel great and realise that you should really do that more often!

Sometimes if you aren’t excited to hit the bedroom, it’s because you aren’t enjoying and exploring the full range of sexual possibilities. There are so many different kinds of sex to have. There is love making that is all about your intimate emotional connection, there is sex for stress release, there’s sex for fantasy fulfilment and then there is sex to stimulate all your senses.

Have sex with your partner every night. Remember sex doesn’t have to be an all-nighter thing. Aside from it being good for your health it also could save your marriage and reinvigorate your desire.

What are these factors then that destroy our libido? They include people you know and technology you use everyday. Even if these people aren’t lying in your bed, some people still have a way of affecting your bedroom life and leaving you and your partner unfulfilled in the sack.

Find out what these 6 factors are and the quick fixes to put the va-va-voom back in your bedroom:

1. Your Boss

Nothing kills desire faster than feeling inadequate. Stressful work environments tend to do just that. The stress can spur headaches and fatigue, throw off your hormone levels, and raise your blood pressure – unfavourable conditions for any intimacy. Stress, high blood pressure and unbalanced hormonal levels; are big contributors to erectile dysfunction.

Answer: If you can’t change jobs, focus on getting seven hours sleep a night, eating plenty of antioxidants, and exercising regularly for better sex. Read a recent article on – Find out the secret to boost your libido naturally.

2. Porn

Your sex life isn’t a porn flick, and you’re not a porn star. If you’re convinced that’s how you are supposed to perform, both you and your partner are going to get disappointed. You’ll feel inadequate when you are comparing yourself against porn stars and she’ll be angry because she wants the sex to be special.

Answer: Stop comparing. If you can’t help it cut back on your porn. Porn stars are similar to a vibrator; however, you are the real deal to her.

3. Partner’s Ex

Unless you are all happy to have a threesome, don’t bring Ex’s up. Stop worrying about whether your partner thinks their ex was better; it’s a total waste of time. Focus on you and your current relationship.

Answer: Think about it, there’s a reason your partner broke up with their ex and went with you.

4. Your Personal Trainer

Your personal trainer is going to make you feel like you are a million dollars. If your trainer is cute, it’s easy to keep thinking about them when you should be focusing on the person lying next to you. Don’t schedule too many sessions, as you might feel sore to please your partner.

Answer: Go to the gym with a friend or ideally with your partner. They’ll love to see you sweat.

5. Facebook

Every generation has it’s own kind of problem; Facebook is today’s relationship problem. Facebook is addictive and intrusive, before you notice time has lapse and your partner has gone to sleep. Spending too many hours on Facebook does have a negative impact on your sex life.

Answer: Leave your computer outside your bedroom. Pay more attention to your partner right next to you. There should be no other distractions in the bedroom. The focus should be on each other.

6. Kids

Kids have a way to interrupt and invade your space. They will, if you let them, take over your whole life.

Answer: Put kids to sleep early and forget about the other chores that can be taken care the next day. Most important establish that your bedroom is yours and off boundaries to your kids especially at night time. Ideally, plan Date Nights and weekends away on your own to reignite your sex life.

Of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence. Sexual confidence is identifying exactly what you like and dislike, and having the confidence to express it.

Attaining sexual confidence is totally up to you; it is something you can work on. Here are a few tips:

Explore your body:
Find out what pleases you. Knowing what you want and what it takes to make you feel good will give you more confidence. Inevitably this will lead to more fun, which will give you more confidence with sex. The more you do it the better you are at it.

Be willing to get good at sex:
Good sex takes dedication and willingness. Find out what it is going to take you to like and accept yourself. Think yourself attractive; believe it and you’ll be more likely to feel good about yourself in bed. Know what makes you happy sexually. The willingness to surrender and immerse yourself in the interaction is powerful and sexy.

Discover your fantasies:
Try masturbation to discover where and how you like to be touched. Masturbation also might unearth exciting scenarios that you might want to try out in real life.

Role-play:
Experiment with your partner, try role-play scenarios and break out of your comfort zone. Ask for certain sex acts; don’t wait for it to happen. Be sexually adventurous nothing spells confidence than having the eagerness and the creativity to try something new and risky. It ads new dimension to your relationship and helps you gain insight to a new side of your sexual repertoire.

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Get a makeover, including hair, make-up. Find the right lingerie that is going to make you feel sexy. Choose an outfit that flaunts the favourite part of your figure and you’ll feel more confident all day. Begin an exercise program to get that toned body to give you extra confidence when you’re naked or when you’re in bed, research shows that exercise boosts your body image.

Sex, is meant to be enjoyed and there are not real rules governing what is good sex. Everyone has their own personal take on what constitutes good sex. Knowing what you like and dislike provides a means to ensure that you and whoever else is involved have great sex every time.

Sexual confidence in one of those things that you can’t just get, you have to work at it. Once you gain the confidence your wild sexual dreams and desires are a stone throw away. Sexually confident people feel comfortable initiating sex and have no qualms about letting you know about their needs and desires.

Most sexually confident people started out with little or no confidence and as time passes they attain sexual confidence by taking responsibility of they own pleasure.

True sexual confidence – relaxed, willing to learn about self and others, ready for what is needed, happy to take charge, and not fazed by either failure or rejection- a person who is able to both give and receive with equal pleasure.

Have you got a tip for gaining sexual confidence? Please let us know?

1. Get connected

Nothing is sexier than remembering why you fell in love with each other in the first place. “By undertaking some sort of bonding activity, you can reignite chemistry,” says Dr Gabrielle Morrissey. “Look for aspects of your partner that you first admired before you started focusing on what they weren’t doing,” she says. “Go back to the kind of dating behaviour that you undertook at the start of the relationship, whether that’s scuba diving, going out dancing or to the movies, as having fun together helps you to reconnect. By looking at your partner through fresh eyes, you’ll see them with a new appreciation that will reignite your sexual spark.”

2. Take a big whiff

Remember when a mere hint of your partner’s smell induced all-out lust? Take yourself back to those heady days by wearing the same scent you wore back then as you snuggle on the sofa tonight.

3. Have a seafood feast

For centuries, oysters have been known as aphrodisiacs, with amorous Casanova said to have eaten 50 for breakfast! Scientists have proven that Casanova was on the right track. A team of scientists at Barry University in Miami analysed bivalve molluscs, a group of shellfish that includes oysters, and found they were rich in rare amino acids that trigger increased levels of sex hormones. So go on a date to your favourite seafood restaurant and order a dozen raw oysters for starters and shellfish for a main.

4. Face up to your problems

If your lack of interest in sex is causing problems in your relationship, sex therapists and psychologists can help enhance your libido. “Sexual dysfunction can be the result of many issues, including depression, hormone levels, fatigue or psychological disorders, which can seriously harm the self-esteem of both partners,” says Brett McCann, NSW president of ASSERT (Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists). “Therapists can help by identifying the problem and moving onto a solution.”

5. Have a chocolate and red wine night

There’s something undeniably sensuous about chocolate. This is because cocoa contains phenylethylamine and serotonin, two chemicals that light up pleasure areas in the brain. Alcohol is known to induce feelings of horniness, so enjoy a glass of wine with a little dark chocolate for a sensuous treat. Remember, a moderate amount of wine has been said to arouse, but much more than that will have the opposite effect

6. Exercise more

Working out increases your urge for sex because it activates the same feel-good brain chemicals and sends the blood racing to the pelvic region, getting you in the mood. “During and after exercise, blood flows to the genitals,” says Dr Gabrielle Morrissey. “This can increase sensation once you start to become turned on.” A study at the University of Texas illustrated this when women aged 18 to 34 were asked to watched an X-rated film twice. The first time the women cycled vigorously for 20 minutes beforehand, but the second time, they did no exercise. Researchers calculated their sexual excitement was 169 per cent greater if they exercised first! Being fit and toned also means lovemaking sessions last longer and you are more flexible when it comes to trying new positions.

7. Lift your libido

Epimedium, also known as horny goat weed, which grows in China and Asia, may just live up to its reputation, according to researchers at the University of Milan. When looking into natural aphrodisiacs in traditional cultures to establish their potential as alternatives to Viagra, researchers found that horny goat weed contained icariin, a compound that inhibits the enzyme phosphodiesterase 5 (PDE5) inhibitor. Viagra’s active compound, sildenafil, works by inhibiting PDE5. Try Fusion Health’s Libido, a Chinese herbal tonic formulated with horny goat weed and tribulus, designed to enhance sexual desire and physical performance. Available from www.fusionhealth.com.au

8. Magic potion

The herb damiana has been keeping Latin Americans hot and frisky for centuries. Mexicans in particular swear by its aphrodisiac qualities, drinking damiana tea to get them in the mood as well as to treat conditions ranging from constipation to depression. According to herbalist Ellie Dyson, damiana helps with depression, energy levels, low oestrogen levels, female libido, impotency, menopause and premenstrual syndrome (PMS). To make the tea, add 250ml boiling water to one gram of dried leaves and steep for 10 to 15 minutes. Drink three cups per day over two weeks. You’ll find damiana at your local herbalist.

9. Pitch in

According to marital researcher Dr John Gottman from The Gottman Institute, men who do more housework and child care have better sex lives and happier marriages than men who don’t. Why, then, did a survey by the Australian Bureau of Statistics, How Australians Use Their Time, find that women still do much more housework than men? So guys, pick up the vacuum cleaner, clean the toilet and pack the kids’ lunches and marvel at how much your sex life improves! Dr Morrissey says when women feel more respected, they give more to their partner and the relationship prospers. “Relationships are supposed to be equal, but often women carry more of the responsibility,” she says. “When men take on more of the burden, the woman feels cared for and appreciated, and more connected to her partner.” Hence more sex!

10. Oil up

Infused with four ancient herbal aphrodisiac properties and four essential oils, including Liriosma ovata, known as “the viagra of the amazon” and ylang ylang, which enhances attraction between lovers, Wildfire All Pleasure Oil can be used for massage and as a lubricant. It’s $29.95 from pharmacies. Visit www.wildfireinternational.com

Source: bodyandsoul.com.au

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