Theme Nights

Crank up the central heating and turn your living room into a toasty warm beach party. Go a little (or a lot) Hawaiian and invite your guests to front up in their sexy bikinis and boardies (or rock the Tony Abbott special if budgie smugglers float your boat!). Serve up some tropical cocktails along with some beach party snacks and before you know it, winter is just a figment of your imagination. Lay some towels around the room and make use of those cosy beach tents for some private nookie time.
If the beach scene isn’t your cup of tea, get your guests over for a good old fashioned toga party or a buxom wench and bawdy pirates night. Throw in some games like truth or dare or spin the bottle and your guests will be in the mood to try anything.

Lingerie Dinner Parties

The evening chill may put you off BBQs and alfresco dining but that just means it’s time to play Masterchef inside. Invite a table of eight or ten (whatever your dining room permits) and go all out to present a fabulous meal for your guests. The only conditions are that your guests must attend your dinner party in their sexiest underwear and sit next to anyone other than their own partner.
Make a sexy three-course meal that encourages a bit of interaction. Perhaps alternate your entree and main to encourage people to share and eat a bit of everything. While waiting between courses, devise naughty mini games (two people can go under the table and guests have to decide who has done what to whom) to play to keep your guests entertained. Dessert should be something you can feed to each other or make it an extra fun game by blindfolding one person and getting that person to guess what’s on the plate. What’s the bet you all won’t make it to the bedroom to work off the calories?

Amateur Porn Shoot

Get a bunch of your favourite exhibitionist friends over, make like Zack and Miri and stage an amateur porn shoot. Work out what role each of your guests will play. Someone can play director (preferably someone who knows how to operate a video camera) and you can all have a say in the plot of your porno (ie – no real talent required there so don’t panic!). Bring out all your sexy lingerie and tacky props, and get some porno music to put you all in the mood. Use all areas of your house to set up favourite scenarios and engage in some fun role play. Maybe someone called for a plumber? Drag him into the kitchen and show him what needs his attention.
Make sure all parties are happy to be filmed though and make an unanimous agreement to either delete the footage at the end of the session or make copies for personal pleasure. If everyone likes the idea of being filmed but is extra mindful of discretion, then try a shoot with masks. Very sexy! If you just like the idea of playing porn stars then forget about the camera all together.

Glory, glory, hallelujah!

Most people are at least a little bit intrigued by the idea of of the glory hole. For those who are uninitiated with the concept, a glory-hole is a usually a hole in a wall through which a person on one side may touch and fondle another person on the other side, ideally without seeing or feeling anything other than body parts. You can set things up so that both sides don’t know whose hands, fingers, tongue or other body parts they are in contact with.
Of course, one can’t just bash a hole through the wall between the bedrooms in your house so the DIY person in your home may need to put their thinking hat on. You may want to get some MDF and build a partition with a number of holes in it. A large box may be just as fun and a little kinky for those who like it like that. For those who are not close friends of Bunnings, try a darkened bedroom in which the willing victim may lay on the bed and accept secret visitors.

Game Night

Who doesn’t like getting the board games out? OK, who doesn’t like getting down and dirty while getting the board games out? Pick a few of your favourite games and set up your guests accordingly. Aim for games that have short rounds (so winners and losers are decided fairly quickly and frequently). Work out fun rules where the winner may order the loser to do whatever they wish. You might even want to make one of your bedrooms the ‘sin bin’ and send the loser of one round in to wait for the loser of the second round. The anticipation of who might be coming in should get your guests in a spin.
Have a think about how you might be able to sex up some of your old time favourites. Maybe Monopoly can get a new set of rules where going to jail may have an entirely different meaning. Cluedo can become a fun game of ‘Who shagged who?’. You’re only limited by your imagination.

Erotic (or swingers) parties need not be something restricted to club owners or the hard-core. A naughty home party need only be an intimate affair for a select number of people and it can be in any form you wish (well, within reason!). Naturally, if you’ve got the space, ambition and tolerant neighbours, you can host a veritable orgy too. Either way, read through the next steps to work out what sort of gathering you can get going in your own home, and how to make it a sex-ccessful event for everyone to remember.

PREPARING PARTY CENTRAL

Firstly, your home will determine the number of people you can host. If you are living in a smaller flat or townhouse with common walls, it would make sense to keep the guest list small. Where erotic parties are concerned, it most certainly is about quality and not quantity so don’t be discouraged. You then need to work out where guests can mingle and where guest can play. If you wish to keep your own bedroom off limits, then prepare your other bedroom/s or look at having some inflatable mattresses handy to use in the living room if it’s the most sensible place for people to play. Have spare sheets and towels handy and be sure to have a stash of condoms available as not all guests think to bring their own.

PARTY LOGISTICS

Make sure you start planning well in advance (certainly enough time for guests with kids to find sitters) and set a date for your party. If you already have a list of people in mind, then you should see what date works best for most people. Fridays and Saturdays are popular dates so be prepared to plan a month ahead. Then, decide what kind of party you want to host. Do you want to host a hardcore swingers party? Or would you prefer a sexy Ibiza-style dance party? Or maybe you have a fetish or masquerade party in mind? Do you want it to be couples only, or do you want to invite select singles as well? Once you’ve decided this, then you can start sending out the invitations!

We also suggest you only disclose the location at the last possible moment to avoid unwanted gate-crashers (or guests who figure it’s OK to turn up ‘cos their friends are going…). Make sure you also specify what kind of party you’re intending to host so that they can be prepared. If it’s a pool party, tell them to bring their best Hawaiian beachwear. If it’s a costume party, set a sexy theme, e.g. uniforms, fetish, lingerie.

WHO TO INVITE

If you are fairly new to swinging and have only met a few people so far, it may be a good idea to keep your party at a manageable size and include people you have already met. Inviting complete strangers to your house when you aren’t sure what to expect is a recipe for disaster. If you already have a crew of naughty friends, then your job is made easy. You may however still wish to take the opportunity to meet some new people by getting your friend to bring along a new face.

Generally, it is a good idea to invite a mixture of people with different levels of experience. Longtime swingers can bring much-valued knowledge and experience whilst newbies are eager to explore new experiences. The easiest way to find open and like-minded people is to search through the listings on RedHotPie. Whether by age range or member type, you can start sending out invites to hundred of sexy couples and singles in your area right away if you’re planning (and can accommodate) a massive party. If that’s the case, consider posting in the Parties and Events section in RedHotPie for instant results. If you ideally would like between 3 and 6 couples for a more intimate gathering, then you should go through search listings and find people that you feel would be best suited to your party. Hand-picking people is time consuming but you can be ensured of a more personal experience at the party also.

PARTY RULES

This is your party so you can make up the rules. However, do let your invitees know what to expect at your party. If you are happy to leave things up in the air and see how things go in terms of playing, then you should note that in your invitation. You should perhaps describe your party more as a social event with playing as an option. That way those who do definitely want to play won’t be disappointed (or they can decline the invite) and those unsure will understand that they can leave if things hot up. If you are sure that you want a ‘play only’ party then that definitely needs to be made clear from the very beginning. If any invitees request ‘seeing how things go’, then you should consider if you are happy to have some voyeurs in the mix, or suggest that the party may not be suitable for them. It’s entirely up to you.

Do assure all your invitees that the regular set of rules apply: No means no and there is no pressure to play. Even if your party is a designated play event, those who become uncomfortable with the idea suddenly should feel comfortable enough to say no and leave. If you have specific rules that you want to bring in (eg – get naked upon entry), then the invitation stage is the point where the should be introduced.

HOST WITH THE MOST

Unlike other parties, it’s essential that the host/s of the party enjoy the event as much a the guests, otherwise there is no point going through the effort! However, the one thing the host must do is ensure that everyone is introduced to each other and encourage all guests to mingle. Get some conversations started and make like a honey bee every so often and do your rounds to make sure everyone is happy.

While we do want our host to have a memorable night, we want it to be for the right reasons. Therefore it’s a good idea if the host remains reasonably sober and aware of how the party is proceeding. If the host doesn’t want to be sober, then co-hosts should be recruited for the night to keep an eye on things. This is probably a bigger consideration for bigger parties but worth keeping in mind even for smaller gatherings.

SEXY SOUNDS AND VISUALS

Music definitely helps fill the void of silence that can often rear its ugly head when a bunch of strangers meet for the first time. Choose some chill-out grooves which are easy on the ears and allows people to still have conversations. Dance tracks are great for later in the evening but the important thing is to choose songs that keep people pumping (literally). If you start playing songs that remind people of weddings (think Mustang Sally etc.) or put them to sleep, you’ll be calling it a night by 10pm.

Don’t forget: you’re having an erotic party so the music should probably be sensual too. Dance music used for pole dancing and stripping may be a good idea to get the raunch started. Depending on your taste, you can also have some porn running in the TV room for those enjoy some not-so-subtle visual stimulus.

Whatever your choice in music/visuals, make sure you keep the volume at a reasonable level. Your guest probably prefer to concentrate on conversation or sexy activities instead anyway and we certainly don’t want irate neighbours crashing your soiree.

WHEN TO START

Though most of the ‘action’ so to speak will most likely happen later in the night, it’s best to get the party started earlier in the evening so that people get a chance to mingle with each other on a social level before anything sexual eventuates. Starting the party from around 8 to 9pm is optimal. People will have eaten dinner and are ready to move on to a social evening. Any later and you will find some people will have found something else to do (including falling asleep in front of the TV) while waiting around for your party to start. A late starting party is fine however, if you are happy to keep at it until the early hours of the morning. This will depend a lot on your partying habits and those of your guests so arrange accordingly.

FOOD AND DRINK

( RedHotPie promotes ‘Drinking Responsibly‘ and ‘If You Drink & Drive You‘re A Bloody Idiot‘)

It is essential to state on your invite whether alcohol will be provided or whether it is BYO. If you are intending to provide alcohol, avoid kegs and slabs of beer: this will inevitably result in warbands forming around the beer and the night might fall prey to drunken antics not out of place during schoolies week or a toga party. To ensure there is enough alcohol to go around amongst both sexes, invest heavily in the more feminine drinks: strawberry daiquiris, tropical illusions and the like. Only men who are comfortable with their sexuality will even think about drinking them, thus ensuring sufficient drinks for the night. On a more serious note, champagne is welcomed by both sexes so perhaps get a bowl of strawberries and pass the bubbly around. Soft drinks are a must as well as easy access to water.

As for food, most guests should have eaten dinner beforehand but it’s a good idea to provide some alcohol-soaking snacks like a responsible party host should. To keep things simple, chips and dips or cheese and fruit platters are good options. If you feel like doing up some sausages and getting some buns and sauce, your guests can make up quick hot dogs to keep up energy levels. Getting some pizzas home-delivered is another option but ensure that the person opening the door is clothed!

SEXY ICE BREAKERS

Even the most seasoned swingers can find it hard to bring the mood on so a number of fail-safe ice breakers should be on hand. Those who are fortunate enough to have a spa should most certainly use it. It’s warm, gets everyone naked and brings people deliciously close to each other. If you don’t have a spa, try some fun party games such as musical chairs where guys stay stationary on the chairs and girls do the moving around from lap to lap. Spin the Bottle is another old time favourite which can be very naughty when you put the adult spin on it. Toys and props are also fun to have at a party. Sexy lingerie and costumes for the ladies to try on is always a crowd pleaser. The more confident people may just want to get their kit off and get it on centre stage. Very Amsterdam!

Finally, before you get your party into motion, it is very important to keep your safety and the security of your property and belongings in mind at every stage of planning. This is particularly the case if you are inviting people that you have never met before to your house. You should keep your guest list manageable and ideally, you should recruit some trusted friends as co-hosts to help keep things above board. It may be best to approach people who have had their RHP profiles verified or have a number of friends or validations to give you an idea about their character. If your preference is to meet people socially in public first then consider starting your party at a bar, club or pub and go back to your pad later if everyone checks out.

After you’ve had one party with a guest list of great, sexy people it’s really just a matter of planning the next one. Your guests will be hanging out for it!

LET’S CONSIDER ARCHITECTURAL STYLE
•  Lets go old school. Oddly enough some of the best party houses are the restored Federation and Victorian Style houses of old. Sure I know you’re thinking the wooden floor boards won’t accommodate serious dance floor stomping but the high ceilings really create space and are great for body rocking acoustics.
•  Another feature of the Australian urban landscape is the Gothic Revival Style buildings. This architectural style features elaborate and decorative pointed archers and stonemasonry is ideal for those Gothic, Halloween and Masquerade parties.
•  Alternatively, the Art Deco and Early Modern architectural styles that abound in the inner city suburbs ooze style and sophistication and would make a great venue for a sexy cocktail party.
•  Modern city apartments are great for their central location, but ensure that the walls are not the cheap plywood that many developers favor these days as every note from your stereo will reverberate around the complex, even without the base boost on.
•  Even the garden variety Suburban house , that Australian Dream, which might have once been associated with Tupperware parties are just as likely to be hosting body rocking parties with sexy guys and girls across Australia. With a touch of redecorating and interior design, they can make just as good a party house as any other. Just remember to rip up the 3 inch, 1970’s shag carpet. 

LET’S TAKE INTO ACCOUNT INTERIOR DESIGN
Now, as I have absolutely no qualifications to speak on the discipline of interior design at all, I will instead ask that you think of the video game the Sims. Firstly, just as in Sims, you have to deck your house out with some essential goodies that are going to keep your guests entertained and relaxed. Firstly consider your stereo system. Music is key to creating a great atmosphere and the right tunes drifting through your palace with the help of some base boost is just what you need to get your party started. Mix this with a great bar area where guests can both get their drinks and stand around talking/flirting and your party will quickly reach boiling point.

On top of these features, you might want to consider lighting: strobe lights if you are after a pumping party feel or perhaps candle lights or dimmer switches if you want a more intimate setting. To avoid giving your guests that pasty look, keep away from neon lights and full tilt florescent lights are not too flattering either. Now if these key ingredients don’t get your party ‘pumping’, it is time to bring in the big guns. The piece de resistance of any party is the essential jetstream spa.

In the history of mankind there has never been a better ice-breaker then the humble spa. Well that and Tequila Body Shots, but that’s a whole other article.  Though a good spa can set you back a few thousand dollars it will more then pay for itself after a few parties. Once you have felt the cool relaxing sensation of jetstreams rolling over your guests entire bodies, relaxing their every muscle group, you will know what I’m talking about. A spa has an almost mystical effect on any given crowd and can turn the most uptight socialites into screaming, howl at the moon, 24/7  party animals in a matter of minutes. This is the true power of the Spa.

These have just been some simple suggestions, but keep them in mind when searching for your next property or are considering doing some renovations on your existing pad. Future potential buyers will appreciate its party potential and your property value is sure to shoot up making it the most exciting investment in your financial portfolio. Apart from the financial gain, the experiences that you can share with other RedHotPie  members will be truly priceless.