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We’re All Hot!

Alison Cox — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 14:24:03 +0000

It seems that a handful of couples from the RedHotPie forums aren’t having as good a time as they could be, largely due to the perceived superficiality of other couples and singles who see fit to deem them hot, or not. People being superficial? Really? Get outta here. All jokes aside, it really does seem that a lot of lovely couples are feeling disappointed, disillusioned and downright unattractive due to being rejected solely on looks. Furthermore, when you’re rejected time and time again for the same reason, you can’t help but feel that you’ve grown a second head you weren’t aware of, or that our society is becoming more and more looks oriented.

Are people a bit unrealistic?

Let’s face it. Most of us mere mortals can’t hope to compete with Brangelina and the ranks of the über-hot. In all reality though, how often do you actually run into people like that in general, much less in a smaller sample of the population that is the swingers scene? Isn’t it therefore a bit unrealistic to expect awe-inspiring beauty from everyone you meet in the scene? Furthermore, the likelihood of two partners from a couple both being drop-dead gorgeous AND hooking up with an equally beauteous couple seems really unlikely. I think for every one such super-pairing, there would be hundreds of other regular folk on various scales of attractiveness. And guess what? I reckon they’d be having as much (if not more) fun as the so-called beautiful people.

So what is being ‘hot’ all about?

To me personally, being hot suggests that a person is lust-worthy and makes everyone instantly want to jump all over them. This may be because that person is physically very attractive or it may be because they have that certain something about them; a sexy smile, easy-going personality and so on.
What rates as hot is very often entirely subjective but to some extent there are some common ideas on what constitutes hot, such as an athletic body, a beautiful face or perfect round breasts. The more a person’s definition of hot deviates from those common ideas, the more they are likely to be superficial and picky about who they want to shag (and ironically irrespective of how hot they themselves may be perceived!). Suddenly the guy who has a triathlete’s physique may not be so hot because his face is full of freckles, or the perky 12B boobies aren’t that appealing up against a set of DD melons. The benchmark of ‘hotness’ keeps shifting and in that process some people feel like they fall well under the accepted norm of what is hot.

Dealing with rejection

For couples who simply want to meet some nice people, not meeting the hot criteria for what seems to be the good majority of other couples and singles can lead to a horrible sense of rejection, especially when you can only rely on your RedHotPie profile and photos to appeal to the masses. It’s certainly a nasty slap to the self-esteem when messages are unanswered once private gallery photos are shared, or especially when some couples take it upon themselves to let them know that they are well and truly not their type. Some people are just needlessly cruel and one wonders if perhaps there’s something far more wrong with them than just their superficial views.
It isn’t nice to be thought of as unattractive but in all honesty, it’s best not to take that sort of rejection too personally. What one couple doesn’t find sexually attractive may ring all the right bells for another. It may even be just one minor point that turns a couple off (facial hair, extra padding etc.) which isn’t something you can (or should) change. Picky couples and singles inevitably don’t meet as many people as they could and that is entirely their problem, not yours. Just move on to other people instead. Hold your head up high and keep your confidence levels up. Happy and confident people are always attractive.
Also, don’t forget that swinging involves four people (often more!) and sometimes it’s important that everyone is attracted to each other (even if the guys or girls are not bi). That means the margin for non-attraction is higher and all the more reason you shouldn’t take rejection too badly. Sometimes the bi-curious female partner of one couple is attracted to the other male but isn’t sexually interested in his openly bisexual partner. Maybe one male partner reminds the other male of his late grandfather? So many factors can prevent a match.

What if you’re not everyone’s cup of tea?

OK. So you have written to virtually everyone on RedHotPie and still no hope of a hot date? If it’s clear that people aren’t impressed by your profile and photos (because they’re not responding to you or they’ve actually said you’re not appealing), then it may be time to pimp up your profile. Often people are rebuffed not so much due to lack of physical attractiveness but because of plain horrible presentation. You may be loading up the wrong photos (ie – hubby in his work gear swigging beer on the back porch while his missus waters the lawn in her dressing gown). Perhaps the photos of you just don’t do you justice at all? Maybe you’re unshaven (face!) or your hair could have done with a wash? Take note of your profile write-up, username and messages too. Perhaps you come across as dull, brash or crude? Perhaps you’ve given up your more private shots too soon and it’s freaked the other party out? There are many possibilities and instead of throwing in the towel, give your profile some attention and see if that gets your foot in the door.
If on the other hand you are well aware that your looks are not your strong point, then you do need to work just that bit harder to let your personalities shine through. Get your best photos up and make sure your profile describes a fabulous duo that just simply must be met. Be friendly and cheeky and avoid words like average and ‘we aren’t supermodels’. Just list your positives.

Is it wrong to want to meet ‘hot’ people?

If this article has so far suggested that you’re shallow human beings for wanting to shag only attractive people then that is not its intent. There’s nothing wrong with lusting after hotties and indeed, no one should ever have sex with people that they aren’t attracted to. I’m probably trying to drive the point that we all need to get our perspectives in check every so often. If you have struck gold with meeting good-lookers from the get go, you may be less enthusiastic about dating comparatively less attractive people, which sadly leaves a lot of nice people without dates and feeling ugly until they get their groove on and starting meeting people themselves. This is rather ironic given the people who get rejected may have been ideal matches prior to benchmarks getting set. On the flipside, those ‘not so hot’ people may look at you and wonder why you’re rejecting them given they don’t perceive you to be any more attractive than they are.
That is not to say that you should ignore physical attraction and meet people willy-nilly in the hopes that your personalities match famously. At the end of the say, swinging is about sex and you will most of the time be guided by physical attraction first. Most couples also don’t have the luxury of time to meet absolutely everyone that approaches them so they are most often swayed by profiles and photos (again, presentation is everything). Swinging is unfortunately never as spontaneous as people would like. It takes time to try and find the right couple and in most cases, practicality wins over just ‘winging it’ most times. If a couple isn’t attracted to your profile photos, that’s usually that and few people can really blame them. If they had all the time in the world and could meet you in person, it may be a completely different story.

So the next time you get a response from a couple who hints that there is no attraction, then take that at face value. There is a huge difference between not being attracted to someone and not being attractive. Everyone has their own unique blend of hotness; some more readily consumed than others. Apply your own experiences of rejection and approach couples who you may not otherwise messaged based on their profile and photos. You may discover some true diamonds in the rough.

Sexiest sport of all time???

RedHotPie Editor — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 16:21:30 +0000

How many pant tents and girly gushes were unleashed around Oz when the Australian beach volleyballers started pounding the sand in Beijing?

This young and unassuming sport, grown from drunken, holiday tomfoolery, has become a marketing juggernaut and a highly sought after watch for Olympic punters. What’s not to love? You’ve got the sand, the sport, the rippling, naked flesh of these taught young champions… what a game!

If Beach Volleyball wasn’t sexy enough, the International Olympic Rules Committee have decreed that the sexy young beach volleyballers from all around the world must be wearing next to nothing at all times! Freaking sweet!

The aging gents that make up the Olympic Committee have finally done us all a solid, ensuring we’ll bare witness to beach volleyball’s inner thigh sweat, heaving chests, and joyous physical embraces all throughout the Olympics forever more!

But is it the sexiest sport of all time? Well it’s definitely a contender but the competition is fierce in the sexified sports scene and there are a few traditional favourites that might stop beach volleyball taken the title.

The swimming has always been a contender as far as the Aussie voters go. Couple its proud and sexy tradition with the arrival of one, Miss Stephanie Rice (the hottest thing in the water since Jaws blew up) and you’ve got yourself a finalist in the race for the Olympics most arousing sport.

We’ve been getting a bit of mail stirring the pot for the basketball vote, especially America’s dream team. The girls of RedHotPie tell us they have no problem watching the strapping black basketballers that have been tearing every opponent asunder thus far in their quest for Olympic gold!

The female shooting has been an alternative favourite; chicks with guns it would seem will always be a perennial favourite polling well with country viewers especially… go figure.

While these favourites have a strong following their attraction spikes in appeal and consistency, some of the competitors are indeed blessed aesthetically and various elements of the sport itself do heighten the overall allure of the competition, but, due to it’s overall appeal beach volleyball must surely be named the sexiest sport of the Olympics by a fair stretch.

From the sinfully toned athletes, to the culture of the game, everything about the sport just cries HOT! So turn down the lights, take the phone off the hook and grab the remote. Enjoy some quiet time with the sexiest athletes of the XXIX Olympiad.

Californication sensation

RedHotPie Editor — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 10:19:31 +0000

“It won’t suck itself” heaves the young bride of Christ, disrobing as she takes our protagonist in hand… and mouth. From this, the first temptation of Californication’s anchor Hank Moody we are pummelled with a seemingly endless parade of sweat soaked sex, virgin skin and outright deviancy, and you know what… I want more.

It’s a shameless shag-off and it’s long overdue… thankfully it comes wrapped in half-way decent story-lines, well-known acting talent and snappy dialogue. Remember Fox Moulder, the conspiracy theorist with the pin-up looks who split his time between nailing aliens and his partner Skully… we all wanted to see that bed-fight go down right? Well now you get David Duchovny (a.k.a Fox Moulder) annihilating some of television’s finest talent – all episode, every episode!

Duchovny plays Hank Moody, the self-loathing, seed spreading author, hell bent on regaining a fistful of life control; you see it seems his gorgeous ex has split with their mouthy daughter and the man’s world has splintered a bit. Thankfully, Moody comes to the obvious conclusion that in order to rectify the situation he should sleep with every cosmetically sound lass in L.A willing to assume the position.

You see the producers of this show have keyed into one of televisions most proven rules; a certainty that was true when Number 96 exploded onto our screens and it was just effective over the last few years as Sex in the City titillated audiences around the world… t ‘n’ a. Pretty simple really, just get very hot people smashing each other with the reckless abandon of a Kamikaze squadron and more often than not you’ll be sitting on a goldmine.

So why not just watch a skin-flick I hear you ask… well as rad as a hot piece of adult cinema is it just can’t offer the contemporary reach a mainstream product like Californication can. From the Submissive Suicide Girl getting her creamy white arse spanked to the now infamous BJ scene in the big man’s house, Californication serves up a mattress-mambo buffet wrapped in an enjoyable outer-husk of dramatic accomplishment.

Some hate it; many love it and its set to be around for a while. Really, Californication could not have come along at a better time with its blindingly colourful characters, its pc poo-pooing dialogue and a super-sized serving of flesh. While it’s too early to decided as to how thick and fast the life lessons will emerge from the fornication fuelled ether that has constituted the early episodes, what we can be sure of is that the audience seems more than happy to

sit patiently until that quandary plays itself out.

So if you’re into casual sex, gothic submission, benders, gratuitous nudity, action, or the simple appeal of the lovable rogue (and let’s face it, many of our Redhotpie.com.au members are!), Californication is a must on you television dance-card… what do you think?

Webcam, thankyou maam!

RedHotPie Editor — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 15:41:45 +0000

Some of Australia’s hottest couples are getting down and dirty right now, and what’s more, a lot of them want you to watch! Believe it friends, web cams are finding their ways into bedrooms around the world – and you thought cybersex was hot before!
Imagine those long nights away from your partner, alone and in need of some sensual inspiration; well, if you’re got the hardware, it might be as easy as plugging in and phoning home. For the voyeur and the exhibitionist alike, the world of web-camming or ‘wamming’ for the hipsters among us, is a limitless medium through which to meet, interact and entice with these online encounters ranging from gentile discussion to the hottest pleasures of the flesh.
According to one RedHotPie member, the web-camming phenomenon has been a wonderful and welcome addition to the online dating experience.

“It’s so good to be able to put a face to a name; it just goes beyond what you can learn about someone through a photo swap. I mean it’s not an actual meeting but it can go along way to breaking the ice, and there’s really no limit to how far you can go on the webcam before trying it in person!”

And why keep your sexy side-show a secret? For all those aspiring stars and starlets out there, webcams offer users their very own studio, rigged and ready to rock, streaming those seductive scenes to a waiting and willing audience. Just think… a sexy couple putting on a little show in their Melbourne boudoir can broadcast their fleshy fun to like minded friends at their own discretion, now if that’s not pulling power then what is?

Of course RedHotPie.com.au can help ease you into this exciting new world of high-tech hook-ups, just swing by our adult webcam chat room to meet other fun folk wanting to say hi. Throw yourself in the deep end; the RHP wammers are a nice bunch, happy to introduce you to the world of on visual voyeurism with a chat and maybe even a few tips if you ask nicely.

If you’re not quite ready to engage so to speak, just drop in and have a little look at what’s going on in RedHotPie webcam land, each night people from all around Australia are performing centre stage in the carnal carnival that is our wamming community. From talking heads to lustful encounters, it’s all live, it’s all real and it’s all at your finger tips, a veritable bevy of saucy scenes being played out in homes all around the country.

So why are you still here? Get onto RHP right now and make some content, because whether it’s for a partner, or a group of sexy friends, the thought that someone is watching is downright horny baby! Happy wamming…

RHP Webcam Chat hotter than BB07!

RedHotPie Editor — Wed, 06 Jun 2007 10:40:45 +0000

Where have all the sexy people gone on Big Brother? It appears Big Brother is all about pleasing the regulatory boffins this year, who if we recall had a major rant about last year’s debacle with Ash, John and Camilla’s ‘turkey slap’ incident. It seems BB has enlisted the most asexual bunch of Big Brother wannabe’s to grace our airwaves and really it’s irksome to say the least.

It’s a shame Channel Ten’s ever controversial show had one of the lowest ratings for a Big Brother season premiere since its inception in Australia. The content hasn’t done it any favours with its most major controversy this season having nothing to do with sex! Where is all the sexiness hiding?! Big Brother has always had that element of sexuality and sensuality about it, just look at the European BB! In its seeming bid to quash anything overtly sexual being broadcast on commercial television, thanks mostly to the self righteous moral do gooders, the producers have sadly axed Big Brother Uncut. I will give Big Brother props though for at least attempting to leave some sexiness in the show, it may be unintentional but the amount of cleavage being shown has been incredibly impressive as has the size!

It can be argued a large number of Big Brother viewers want to see sex, flirting and general naughtiness and as yet we have seen rarely a glimpse of this. Well, not unless you count Big Brother’s twist – secret couple Andrew and Hayley, which has no value since Hayley’s departure. Who could forget Aliesha and Billy though? The pair is so interesting I can’t look away… NOT! This year many of the housemates are attached, seemingly moreso than previous seasons, with boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and even ex wives all waiting for them on the outside. There is even the churchgoer Rebecca who was no doubt put in to please the moralistic groups who have been bashing Big Brother since day dot. Can you just imagine if the Big Brother house was filled with RedHotPie members instead? How sexy would it be?! The censors would be on overdrive! You should go to RHP’s hot webcam chat, at least there you get to see some hot viewing and can interact in some steamy fun to make up for the sterile atmosphere currently on show in the Big Brother house.

Hottie Of The Year Award 2007

RedHotPie Editor — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 14:44:13 +0000

Too Sexy For Your Job?

RedHotPie Editor — Mon, 08 Jan 2007 14:22:38 +0000

Feeling like that job as a telemarketer isn’t giving you the cred amongst the opposite sex like you had hoped for? Is that financially lucrative job in waste management just not paying it with the girls like you imagined? Well with the New Year upon us you may want to consider a carrier change and RedHotPie has just the info you need when picking the sexiest jobs for 2007. 5000 men and women were surveyed by salery.com and now we can bring you’re the definitive list of the hottest jobs in the coming year.

Sexiest Jobs 2007
10. Soldier
9. Interior Designer
8. Event Planner
7. Police Officer
6. Flight Attendant
5. Doctor
4. Pilot
3. CEO
2. Firefighter
1. RedHotPie Staff Member (not in the salary.com survey)

Soldier
Firstly lets put away any delusions that a carrier as a parking inspector or telemarketer will be filling your little black book with the numbers of copious luscious females anytime soon. The sex appeal of these jobs is next to none and if you have been laboring under the misconception that these jobs will make you a hit with the opposite sex then you may wish to try desperate measures. I would suggest enrolling for the army as coming in number ten on the sexiest jobs list is the brave and humble soldier. Maybe it’s the appeal of traveling to exotic countries, meeting interesting people (then killing them) or perhaps in this age of the war on terror and fear the soldier looms that much larger in our imagination.

Interior Designer and Event Planner
A surprise entry by the next two sexiest jobs on the list is Interior Design and Event Planner, a marked departure from the gun ho lifestyle of the soldier. Maybe it has to do with the glamour factor, the fact these guys are always at the most happening A-list parties, that see them raising as some of the worlds sexiest occupations.

Police Officer
Coming in 6th is the humble police, those that serve and protect, and personally I have just got to say that seeing a lady in a hot cop outfit that really does it for me. The men and ladies in blue have to have the sexiest uniforms which have no doubt been the subject of many a fantasy of more then a few of you out there. Added to this the elemnt of power entrusted into this postion and you have one sexy job indeed.

Flight Attendant
Ok this must have been one voted in by the male portion of the survey as I have yet to meet a girl who freely admits to having any fantasies about male flight attendants. Being on beck and call at the press of a button to service our every desires (provided those desires extend no further then a can of beer on a long haul flight) the appeal of the flight attendant is apparent.

Doctor
The only surprise about his one is that it didn’t come in higher in the lsit. Big dollars, massive respect in the community as well as the responsibility of healin the sick makes this profession a sure fire hit with the oppiste sex. Add to this a whole range of professional instruments that double as interesting bedroom toys and you have one truly appealing profession.

Pilot
There is something about making a precision landing of a 34 ton plane at several hundred km a hour that just sends the juices flowing in all of us. Flyboys have long had a reputation amongst the bars and clubs around the world and it is this appeal of flying to exotic locations on a daily basis and partying with those flight attendants that make this job so attractive to the opposite sex.

CEO
The Big bucks may be party responsible for the appeal of chief executive officers, but it may also be the appeal of power. Few positions in our modern corporate world offer more power then that of a CEO and as Henry Kissinger says ‘Power is the ultimate Aphrodisiac’. If you are a lonely megalomaniac and feeling like your job as ticket inspector isn’t giving you the power trip you imagined, try working your way to the top as a CEO.

Fireman
The humble Fireman, long a mainstay in the female sexual fantasy, shows that sex appeal isn’t all about money when it comes to sexy jobs. Year after year, the fireman has taken out top honors as The Worlds Sexiest Job, even above occupations like CEO’s and their multimillion dollar salaries. When fireman Patrick Gorman was aspect about this appeal he explained ‘fireman are regular guys like everyone else that stand for something more than a baseball player playing for money or a rock star singing for big bucks’.
Whatever that something is, that je ni siat pas quoi, the Firman certainly does it for the ladies.

Working for RedHotPie
And of course a new entry into the top ten sexiest jobs in the world is working for RedHotPie, Australia’s most entertaining online dating website. If the idea of traveling to the sexiest locations, organizing the sexiest parties and events, leading a life of glamour and just dripping in sex appeal then RedHotPie has just the job for you. If you believe you have something to offer the RedHotPie and our hundreds of thousands of members then we would like to hear from you. Simply write to jobs@redhotpie.com.au and tell us why you think you would be a asset to Australia’s fastest growing online dating website.

PROMO: Hot Pics

RedHotPie Editor — Fri, 19 May 2006 16:35:49 +0000

With over 100 submissions in the Hot Pics, not to mention even more in the more risqué Red Hot Pics, RedHotPie’s monthly competition has never run so hot.

Not only was it a member packed month, it was also very tightly contested as Red Hot members raced to take the top position on the leader board at the end of the month.
Enjoy these fantastic member submissions and find out who crossed the finish line first in March’s ground breaking Hot Pics.

http://www.redhotpie.com.au/amateurs