You probably heard of ‘Ghosting’, right? When a person you know falls off the face of the earth without any explanation. Odds are that if you are still dating, you have probably been ghosted and it is totally awful.

Since we are way into 2019, here is a list of the new dating trends you need to know. Let’s list of dating terms in no particular order, but one thing is for sure they all suck.

Trickle Ghosting

Trickle Ghosting got its name on a Reddit thread and describes the situation when you think everything is going great. Slowly but surely, you watch the person in question slowly and gently retreat. They’re progressively less and less available. They don’t text you back for days working slowly their way towards ghosting you. This is also known as the Slow Fade. It’s less aggressive than the other awful dating trends, it still hurts. This gif describes this behaviour well.

FLEXING

Showing off and bragging about “coolness” and wealth is called Flexing, and as you already know, it’s never a good look. Steer away from these types.

POCKETING

This is when your partner doesn’t want you around their family and other important people in their life. Which means they don’t see a future with you. They are obviously wasting your time. Unless you, too, are just in it for the thrill. Literally another term for stashing. When your love interest appears to be in no hurry to seriously commit.

CLOAKING

Cloaking is when your date stands you up, and then proceeds to block you on all communication platforms with no explanation whatsoever. You’ve been blocked.  What sleazy move.

COOKIE JARRING

When you discover your love interest has been dating someone else the whole time and you were the backup option.  If you notice that your date surfaces once in a while – you’re the cookie they keep around for when they want something a little different.

YOU-TURNING

Everyone has had a moment in a relationship or while simply seeing someone new when something unpleasant happens or you realize there’s a massive red flag, and you get the hell out of there real fast. That’s a You-Turn, just like the car maneuver. This is probably not a bad dating skill to have, really.

PAPER-CLIPPING

 

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Remember the annoying Microsoft assistant “Clippy” that would pop up out of nowhere around your screen?

Brooklyn-based illustrator linked Clippy, the ‘not so helpful’ virtual assistant who would randomly pop up in older versions of Microsoft Office, to people who just won’t disappear after a breakup, with an animated paper clip saying things like “The truth is, I’m damaged, flaky and not particularly interested in you,” and “But I don’t want you to forget I exist.” That’s how the act of disappearing and then reappearing out of nowhere months later got its name.

GHOSTING

Oh, yeah ghosting. This cowardly move involves having the person you’ve been dating suddenly stop talking to you with no explanation whatsoever. No text, no call, nothing. Much like a magician’s disappearing act, poof. They’re gone. Assuming Ghosters disappear for the sole purpose of avoiding the “This isn’t working out” talk. This is pretty low, everyone needs closure and communicating that you don’t think this is a relationship for you is hard but a necessary part of dating.

HAUNTING

This is a creepy one. Haunting is when someone from your romantic past lingers in your digital present by occasionally watching your Instagram or Snapchat story, or sporadically liking your posts. They act like a ghost that keeps coming back to haunt you. So creepy and absolutely stupid.

BENCHING

This is when your romantic interest leads you on for a while but doesn’t really do much to take the relationship anywhere. However, they lead you on. They keep you on the bench until or unless you’re needed in desperate times. Almost like you’re second best and case something goes wrong with their main interest then you’re in.

BREAD-CRUMBING

Breadcrumbing is when someone shows you just enough interest to string you along by making you feel like they might be interested, and that’s it. A flirty text every now and then or a cute Snapchat, but it never leads anywhere. It’s pretty deceiving and dishonest to string someone on when they fully know nothing will come out of it.

STASHING

Have you ever dated someone where you saw them regularly, texted all the time, and had a great time together, but never met their friends or were otherwise never a visible part of their life?

That’s called Stashing. It’s when the person doesn’t introduce you to friends or family, doesn’t post pictures of you on social media. They keep you separate from their life in order to date other people as well? Or worse keep you and their spouse from finding out about one another. Not good, very deceitful.

ZOMBIE-ING

Basically, your love interest comes back from the dead to haunt you. They might blame something happening in their personal life or work to explain their absence.  They suddenly rise from the dead and texts you with a “Hey, how have you been??” like nothing’s wrong. We suggest deleting the texts and ignoring their calls immediately because someone who ghosted you once will probably do it again.

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From working, to the daily commute to work, cooking, exercise, catching up with friends, taking care of chores and kids – it’s little wonder we have little or no energy for sex sometimes.

For those times when you really find you have no energy for sex, try this Lazy Lovers – An Auto-Thrusting Hydraulic Sex Girdle. It’s perfect for couples who want to want to make love, but are a little too tired to get it on.

OK, so that’s very obviously fake.

Maybe this video will serve as a stark reminder that it’s important to actually pay attention to your loved one and shag each other once in a while.

We get it sometimes life is just too taxing, so here is a lazy lover’s guide for you.

Because sometimes you want sex without all the hard work.

1. Oral sex

Too tired for a full session of sex?  Try oral sex, give each other an orgasms and doze off to sleep.

2. Masturbate together

It’s masturbation month, masturbation is on the menu. This is an easy way to get off and share your fantasies with each other. What better time than to introduce a fetish or a fantasy through a masturbation session? You can gauge your partner’s interest without it feeling awkward or fearing rejection. The couple that masturbates together stays together.

3. Lazy lover position – spooning

This is a no-brainer, and it’s the perfect position for when you are too tired but still feel like some easy and low impact loving.

4. Morning sex

Take full advantage of his ‘morning glory’. He’s ready to go and it’ll be a nice way to start the day.  It’s no secret that morning is prime time for some action—studies even show that morning sex can strengthen your immune system and enhance your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection.

5. Role play the Dom/sub 

If you’re both tired, that’s okay but if it’s only one of you then let the other be the dominant one and take control. Take it as far as you feel comfortable. Start slow and know each other’s limits beforehand. Let your partner take responsibility for your pleasure when you are feeling a little lazy.

6. Watch some porn/ RHP webcam

Sometimes the body is willing but the mind is just too tired. That’s when porn comes in handy. Play some good porn, something you both enjoy, let it set the mood and away to a lazy feel good session. You won’t make it through the whole movie as you’ll get distracted with each other.

Have you had your share of lazy lovers?

Have you ever felt too tired to make an effort?

Do you think guys would get more sex if they put more effort into good sex?

It’s a biological gift: You have to wait for your refractory period to pass before you’re ready for round two, but women don’t seem to experience the same reloading phase, says Men’s Health sex advisor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D. She could experience her second wave of pleasure in as little as 1 minute.

But just because she can come twice doesn’t mean she will. Studies suggest that only 14 to 40 percent of women have had multiple orgasms in one session.

How do you help her become one of the lucky ones? First, make sure that’s what she wants. Some women would rather cuddle after climaxing than be pressured into an encore.

Next, remember that women differ dramatically on how they can achieve one orgasm, let alone two. So although there’s no one roadmap, try these tips to boost your chances of doubling (or tripling) her pleasure.

Step 1: Create massive sexual tension.

Building up desire is a precursor to any sexual activity. But creating copious amounts of sexual tension can be just what she needs to achieve a bonus orgasm.

It’s like when you’re famished: You eagerly scoff down your meal and then go back for seconds and thirds. “You want her to retain her feelings of overall arousal when her body starts to relax after having the first orgasm,” says Amie Harwick, author of The New Sex Bible for Women.

So tease her early and often: Text her a sexy message in the morning, cop a feel under the table at dinner, and indulge in some PDA. By the time you get to bed, she should be extra, er, hungry for sex.

That way, when she has her first orgasm, she may still be up for seconds.

Step 2: Keep her idling.

After she climaxes, give her clitoris a short break—it becomes super sensitive for many women immediately after sex, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. But don’t stop the action completely: Spend a minute or two making out and attending to her breasts, butt, and any other favorite non-genital hotspots. Whisper in her ear about how beautiful she looks.

Your goal: Keep her in a semi-aroused state so you don’t have to start from scratch to bring her to her second peak.

Step 3: Rev it back up.

After a woman has an orgasm, the blood that rushes to her genitals during sex lingers, making it easier for her to climax again, Kerner says.

Prime her for round two with dirty talk, he suggests. Try something like, “That was so hot—I need you again!”

Then return your attention to her genitals. “Start with a light touch,” Kerner says. “Try lightly circling your finger or tongue over her clitoris slowly, and then work up to more extreme stimulation with an increasingly faster pace, more pressure, and intensity until she’s ready to go again.”

Step 4: Try a new route.

There’s nothing wrong with sticking with what works—but you can also try bringing her to orgasm by attending to a different erogenous zone.

This can work particularly well if her clitoris is still sensitive from round one. Plus, novelty encourages the release of the feel-good chemical dopamine, which may help her orgasm faster, says Kerner.

Aim for her G-spot with positions like woman on top or doggystyle. Feeling more adventurous? Some women can climax from nipple stimulation, research finds.

Lightly trace circles on her nipples with your fingers or tongue, building pressure as you go, or try sucking on them.

Want to crank it up another notch? Stimulate the area between her vagina and anus with your tongue, suggests Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Idiot’s Guides: The Kama Sutra. Some women find it mind-blowing—but you may want to check with her first.

Source: menshealth.com

Got some more tips on how to scale the summit more than once? Hit us below with your orgasm know-how!

VICTORIA

PURR’s Slumber Party
ROOM Nightclub, Melbourne
Friday 22nd of February 2008
10:00 PM

PURR’s next event is on Friday the 22nd of February when they present the super sexy PURR Slumber Party at ROOM nightclub, Melbourne. Come with me…Come home with me…Come up to my room…Sleep with me…

…but lets not get ANY sleep! Have you ever wanted to have a sleep over with more than 200 people, then make sure you get to this event, as PURR explores the bedROOM, the playROOM and the powderROOM. Lose an article of clothing in every room, and have a sexy sleep over with all of the sexy party goers… but no sleep, not a wink! Go to PURR for all party details and apply to the Kitty Kat Klub to become a member.

Debauchery Swinger’s Party
Saturday 23rd of February 2008

Debauchery is Melbourne’s largest, most popular and longest running swinger’s party, having begun way back in 1994. Usually held on every third Saturday of the month, their next exciting party is on Saturday, February 23rd and then followed next month on March 15th. Whether you’re a first timer or a more experienced swinger, these parties have everything you could ever desire to make sure you have a night to remember. The large venue and heated pool (don’t forget to bring your own towel) is perfect to share with friends or to meet some new naughty playmates. Dress in your finest erotic gear and get ready to party like you never have before!

AUSTRALIAN CAPITAL TERRITORY

Capital Couples Club’s Beach Party
Gladstone Street, Fyshwick
Saturday 23rd of February 2008
9:00 PM

Get ready to say goodbye to summer with Capital Couples super sexy Beach Party. Get your naughtiest beach wear ready on Saturday the 23rd of February and enjoy the music, movies, live shows, eight seater spa, and complimentary drinks and snacks. Get wet with your new playful friends and splash around for a bit of fun. Doors open at 9pm and entry is $100 per couple. For more information check out Capital Couples

NEW SOUTH WALES

Lotus Lounge’s First Time Fridays
Lotus Lounge, Camperdown
Every Friday
8:00 PM

Nervous newbies, take note; First Time Fridays at the Lotus Lounge are designed just for you. Over the past few weeks over 50 swirgins have been inducted into the world of swinging by some very friendly hosts and the professional staff at Australia’s Premiere Couples Club.

“For first timers, the idea of entering a swingers club for the first time can be a daunting concept” says Naomi, Manager of Lotus Lounge. “We have designed an info hour for couples and single ladies who want the chance to explore our club before the doors open to regular guests. This hour gives nervous first timers the opportunity to explore the club and ask questions of both staff and hosts in a relaxed environment which can help settle some of those first time nerves associated with entering a new venue and this in turn makes people feel more at home in their surrounds.” For more information check out Lotus Lounge

Be Fun Be Wild’s Fantasy House ‘Venetian Carnevale’ Party
Private Art Gallery, Sydney
Saturday 23rd February 2008
9:00 PM

Wear your mask, dress sexy and provocative, and think decadence and renaissance. This will be a night to remember as you enter a new world where inhibitions are left at the door and lust, sex, and seduction rule. The private gallery has three distinctive levels, with chill out zones, videos, music, large balconies, and an underground play area. Invitation will be sent to couples who Be Fun Be Wild have selected so make sure you register your interest now. For more information go to Be Fun Be Wild

Lotus Lounge’s Leap Year Party
Lotus Lounge, Camperdown
Friday 29th of February 2008
9:00 PM

Australia’s premier couples club, the Lotus Lounge, will be throwing a Leap Year Party on the 29th of February! The theme for the party is the letter ‘P’. Come dressed as anything starting with P to gain entry at the reduced rate of $100 per couple before 10pm. Be as creative as you can be; whether you’re dressed as a pirate, prince, princess, prostitute, pimp, pussy cat, or police officer – you’re guaranteed a pleasurable night! The most inventive couple will win an entire month’s free entry to the Lotus Lounge worth a whopping $1000. For more information visit Lotus Lounge

QUEENSLAND

Couple’s International Alternative LifeStyle Gala Ball
Holden Street, Woollongabba
Friday 23rd of February 2008
9:00 PM

Couples International and RedHotPie present the Alternative Lifestyle Gala Ball where all the lifestyles will be celebrated in one pumped up venue. With every thing from soft core photography to body piercing to comedian Billy Mac performing, this will be the social highlight of calendar. Take advantage of the free massage on offer or be entertained by the stage performances; this night promises to be a fun celebration of all lifestyles. For more information check out Couples International

Couples International’s Back to School 5
Holden Street, Woollongabba
Saturday 23rd of February 2008
9:00 PM

Dress up in your cheekiest school girl or guy outfit and get ready to party hard into the night with normal school lessons and heaps of fun. Sex education will be high of the curriculum with classes including sex with a vibrator, sex with yourself, and sex with your hand all taught be resident sexperts. It’s free entry to all Couples International club members and promises to be a great night out. For more information visit Couples International

WESTERN AUSTRALIA

Connections Nightclub’s Bound and Gagged
Connections Nightclub, Northbridge
Sunday 2nd of March 2008
9:00 PM

After the recent success of Hellbent, Connections Nightclub returns with another night of freaky fetish fun, dark desires & perverted pleasures. It’s an evening for all you decadent deviants out there to indulge your fantasies. So strap on your studs, slip on your stilettos & slide into some sin as we dive headfirst into a bondage & fetish party crammed full of the kind of entertainment that only the kinkiest club in town can deliver. This night is bound to leave you gagging for even more!!! For more information go to Connections Nightclub

For More Information about these exciting events visit our EVENTS PAGE

The Secret Admirer

There’s no better time than Valentine’s Day to share your desire for that cutie you’ve had your eye on. After all, the secret admirer is what Valentine’s Day used to be all about. Whether you’re giving or receiving, everyone loves a little mysticism in their life and it’s always flattering to know that someone has a crush on you even if the admirer is uglier than a skinhead Britney Spears (but hopefully a little less psycho).

What to give: Send a card in the post and if you’re too shy to reveal yourself sign it with ‘from your secret admirer’… very fifth grade but in an adorable kind of way.
Why it’s hot: It’s fun, is guaranteed to put a smile on someone’s face and can give you an opening if you want to take things further.
What not to give: Don’t include something weird in the card, such as freshly torn out eye lashes… that’s just creepy.

The Casual Lover

You’re there for each other at the most important times… ok maybe not the most important but when you last contacted him/her, getting a little action was well and truly up there on your list of priorities. If you are going to have a little meet and greet on Valentine’s Day then a gift is definitely in order. But keep it simple and down play on the romance – the last thing you want to do is turn your booty call into more of an emotional roller coaster than a sappy Meg Ryan movie. What to give: A bottle of champagne, don’t blow the budget but try to buy something a little more classier than the $5 variety popular with university students and underage drinkers alike.

Why it’s hot: It’s classy and sexy, not overtly romantic while still sending the right message.
What not to give: Bunch after bunch of long stem red roses with a card saying ‘I have always loved you’.

The ‘Just Started Dating’ Couple
You know you’re into each other but it’s still early days – you may not be ready to declare true love but at least you have a date on the ‘most romantic day of the year’. If you want to take things to the next level then you’re going to have to do something special – but not too crazy that you scare someone away. Adding a personal touch to a gift is a good idea; it shows that you’ve been paying attention over the first few dates and that he hasn’t spent the whole time ogling her breasts or that she hasn’t spent the whole time trying to figure out his bank balance.
What to give: Organise dinner at a restaurant he mentioned he wanted to try or send the flowers she told you were her favourite. Have no idea what he or she likes and dislikes? Well start listening! Chances are he/she has dropped plenty of hints by now.

Why it’s hot: It shows that you care enough about the things that excite them and that you’re willing to put in some effort.
What not to give: Nothing, zilch, nada. If you want to keep this woman or man around then you better step up and acknowledge that Valentine’s Day is super important for some people. If you’re not willing to get into the spirit of things then don’t be surprised if you’re dropped faster than an Australian Idol reject.

The Love is all Around Couple
The sun is shining, the birds are singing, you have spring in your step and your counting down the minutes until you can see each other again… awww isn’t love grand! For you Valentine’s Day is all about romance, romance, and more romance.
What to give: Effort is the key and making the gift extra personal will make it one to remember. Seeing as you know your partner better than I do, I’ll leave it to you to decide but just make sure it’s big and most importantly, thoughtful.

Why it’s hot: It shows that you listen and that you care enough to make a special effort for that person.
What not to give: Anything cheap and easy… this will look especially bad if your other half has really gone out their way and had “I LOVE YOU” written in the sky and all you’ve coughed up is a $10 bunch of flowers you picked up from the service station that have already begun to wilt.

What are you hoping to get for Valentine’s Day? Tell us all about it!