Myth #1: Single men are everywhere

For every couple who has ever received unwanted attention from single men on RedHotPie, it would seem that they exist in plague proportions. In reality, when it comes time to actually finding one, it seems there really aren’t as many eligible men out there as once imagined. Indeed, by the time a couple makes a checklist of what they would like out of a single guy, the massive pool of horny dudes becomes a manageable pond. This still seems hopeful but as more time is put into getting to know these guys, the pond shrinks into a puddle.
Over a one month course of trying to find Mr Right, the guys who match your checklist end up hooking up with a girlfriend (and does the right thing by her and politely declines your threesome invitation), goes overseas on a hiking expedition or the like, or starts a new job that puts him into fly-in/fly-out mode. For those that remain available, some genuinely can’t get their diary synchronised with yours, or some end up psyching themselves out of meeting you. Before you know it, your puddle has dried up and it’s time to go fishing in new waters again: if you’ve got the patience for it.

Myth #2: Guys on RedHotPie are hot and horny for it 24/7

Yes. RHP guys are hot and they are horny but most are not prepared to drop everything in order to ‘get some’. Let’s not forget that single guys are human beings with a life outside of RHP. No doubt there are some guys who would be willing to come around to service a couple with one swift booty call but in most cases we need to exercise some fairness to all concerned.
If you feel like having a spontaneous session late one night, chat up a guy who happens to be online on RHP and manage to get him to your front door within thirty minutes, then consider yourself lucky. However if the poor guy sounds keen but text messages you an hour later and says he can’t make it, try not to get too mad. Consider how you would feel if you were given an hour to meet complete strangers who expect you to perform sexually (you’re not inviting him over for a cup of tea, right?). Well shouldn’t he have said no in the beginning? Totally. But he’s a guy at the end of the day and got revved up by the concept of hot threesome sex. Sadly the organ in charge of logistics (ie – his brain) tapped him on the shoulder and reminded him that he has to get up early to fly out of the country the next day. What’s a guy to do?
In the meantime, you’re left feeling unfulfilled and vowing to take to every single guy with the rough end of a pineapple. We do feel your pain but we can only suggest that you don’t expect too much from spontaneous sessions. Like anyone, single guys need some time to clear their schedules. They might even prefer to go out for a drink first and (shock, horror) get to know you socially before doing the wild thing.

Myth #3: Single guys will hit anything. Anything!

There’s a sad misconception that all single guys are desperate and likely to fornicate with anything that has a willing orifice. If you as a couple have this mentality when seeking one of those horny beasts to join you, you may be in for a nasty shock. Single guys have tastes and preferences like anyone else on RHP. If you won’t have sex with just anyone, why would a single guy? Or do you want the sort of single guy who will tap absolutely anything?
This myth hasn’t been brought up to suggest that some couples are plain unattractive (we’re all hot here on RHP of course!) but more so to highlight the problem some men face when propositioned by a couple who doesn’t appeal to him sexually. He’s damned if he is honest (many guys subsequently receive a barrage of abuse for being a picky bastard) and damned if he remains silent, blocks the couple and hides under a rock for a while.
Should he offer to meet for drinks at least? Sure, but somehow this could be worse if he decides then not to go ahead with the threesome due to non-attraction.
For some reason, couples can take rejection by a single girl or couple better than by a single guy. Perhaps it’s because of the tendency to assume that single guys aren’t picky, and to have a guy reject you makes the lady feel pretty average and her hubby mad as hell. So what’s a guy to do? Have sex with someone he’s not 100% attracted to or get labelled a time-wasting bastard? Great options.

If there’s a lesson to be learned here, couples who are seeking a single guy should probably not go into the task thinking it’s a no-brainer. Yes, there are many great guys to choose from on RHP but the three myths busted above should give you some idea of how you should go about finding the right guy to fulfill your MFM fantasies.
Firstly, remember that single guys are human beings with normal, human thoughts, emotions and commitments. Many have stressful jobs, kids from previous relationships and amazing passions and past times that may come ahead of meeting couples for threesome fun.
If you’re simply after a spare penis for the night, then you’re welcome to view single guys as a commodity but don’t be surprised if those who respond to your invitation are equally mercenary in their pursuits. If this suits you to a tee then you need only send a mass of messages or replies to various guys and the odds are that you’ll get a few to come and play with you.
If however you’re more into quality and fancy actually meeting a guy who you could possibly even be mates with in the vertical world then it’s worth making the effort to find the right guy for you. Work out what you are seeking in a guy (ie – attached, unattached, bisexual, experienced in group sex, condom-friendly etc.) and do an Advanced Search to get your listing of suitable guys. From there you can see through pics and profile write-ups as to whether a guy is your type of person.
When organising to meet a guy, offer to meet with the guy socially first. Most guys will probably agree to playing right away but of those guys some will sadly get a bit freaked out (experienced in group sex or not, many guys fear performance issues). If you take sex off the table for the time being, you’ll all be relaxed and not under any pressure. If drinks go well then you can easily organise the rest.
To avoid ‘timewasters’, ensure that you have swapped photos and that all parties understand what the threesome is to involve or not, and are happy to meet up. You should insist on a phone number from the single guy or ask him to call you. A quick chat on the phone will ensure that all is well and genuine. There’s sadly nothing that can gauge how well a guy is going to perform in the threesome but it may help to ensure that everyone only drinks in moderation if you’re serious about getting it on properly.

So unfolds another tale of a greedy girl getting her just desserts. Indeed, more and more women are experiencing the delights of being the centre of multiple male attention and having more than one toy to play with. Such is the growing prevalence of greedy girls that many swingers clubs around Australia organise events specifically geared towards women who want two or more male playmates in a session. Many couples on RHP are also testing the waters with MFM threesomes while ladies with bigger appetites are organising private gang bangs regularly.

Involving single guys into couple play (and on this occasion we’ll just refer to straight males) isn’t particularly new but it does beg a number of questions: What sort of couple enjoys including single guys? Isn’t anyone interested in girl-on-girl action anymore? And, how does the male partner really feel about the extra penis, or even penises? We’ll also look at how you can find the right guys to make your night an occasion worthy of turning into a DVD.

The easiest group fun to organise

As any couple who’s been on RedHotPie long enough to know, it isn’t always easy to find the right couple to meet and play with, let alone a single girl. Even when you finally get to meet some socially compatible couples, it’s not unusual to find that their playing habits differ greatly to yours. For example, the lady of one couple may expect a marathon session whereas the male of the other couple is generally content with one quality session before succumbing to the need to sleep. On other occasions, the lady doesn’t even get the extra rogering if the other party is not into swapping sex, or (alas…) if the other gentleman is unable to perform for one reason or another.

Given these scenarios, it’s easy to see why many couples are starting to look at single guys as a surefire way to have fun. Single guys are plentiful on RHP which makes finding the right playmate/s amongst them quite easy. Before too long, you can rack up a veritable short list of eligible guys who can go hard, go all night and go home when the job is done. Most are happy to home deliver too and rarely insist on a lengthy dinner or drinks session before working out if sex is or isn’t on the cards. Score! Got a thing for blondes? Requiring someone with an exceptional power tool? Whatever you need, you can find it amongst the good men on RHP.

Are some couples over girl-on-girl fun?

Surely not! How can anyone be bored of watching two (or more) gorgeous girls getting it on, much less being in the thick of it? Actually, most guys will agree that at some point it’s just as enjoyable sinking a cold one out the back with the other dude while the ladies go for it. Furthermore, given how suggestively girls dance with each other at a night club these days, watching actual girl-on-girl action isn’t a huge stretch from that. Unless the invitation to join in is extended, a guy’s just gotta be happy that his lady is having a great time.

And is she? Perhaps not as much as you’d think. She’s not a lesbian after all and there is only so much mutual brazilian-waxing appreciation she can do in one night. Let’s be frank and admit that women still want penetrative sex and often with a man other than her own partner if she’s in the swinging scene. If a woman is mainly out to experiment with other females, then this point (and the entire article really) is moot. However, for ladies who unashamedly enjoy sex with men and can find the presence (and expectations) of the other woman a distraction, single guys are ideal. In most cases, single guys are a sure thing and don’t demand a set of conditions in order to perform. It’s pure pleasure for the lady, through and through.

How do men feel about their partners having sex with other men?

Many people can’t help but raise the issue of jealousy and potential cheating when the idea of involving another man is entertained. However, bringing a single male into the bedroom is no more problematic than bringing in another couple or female. After all, a woman is just as likely to form a sexual or emotional attachment to another woman, whereas many single guys are happy to be included with no strings attached. The qualities that seem to malign single men in the eyes of some couples (ie – focussed on sex, wanting to get on with things immediately etc.) are the very reasons why you can be guaranteed a no-fuss night of fun that doesn’t end in tears and dramas.

The mistrust in single men probably also stems from a man’s insecurity in his own relationship or even in himself. The idea that ‘his woman’ can be sexually pleasured by another man is overwhelmingly repellent. Others are just simply frightened that his partner will eventually find the other male more attractive and run off with him. Therefore, the sort of man who enjoys seeing his lady with other men is precisely the opposite of those two types. He can separate his ego from sexual pleasure and understands that the enjoyment derived by his partner is more from the situation than the individual. He’s also very secure and committed in his relationship so doesn’t see the other male as a threat. Of course, he’s also sensible enough to place some boundaries beforehand to ensure that the playing field is kept fair for all concerned.

Overall, men who are in a healthy, stable relationship with their partner love seeing her in all her sexual glory and desired by others, be it men or women. Watching a woman at play with one or more other men is a huge turn on, whether it’s because the naughty sex slave in her comes out, or because she’s in the captain’s seat and commanding her crew as she pleases.

Finding the right single guy

We’ve mentioned that lining up single guys for a greedy girl’s night in is relatively easy, but the finding the right guys does need some forward planning. Experienced couples may prefer similarly experienced guys in order to avoid awkward moments with newbies who have never been naked in front of another male, never mind get an erection. On the other hand, some couples may fantasise about initiating a guy into his first MFM threesome. Some couples prefer attached men for the perceived sense of security (no ongoing hassles) but others need guys who don’t have a personal life that gets in the way of spontaneous play sessions.

Aside from finding guys that the lady finds attractive, it’s important to consider other details such as endowment, body hair, tattoos and piercings, as well as smoking or drinking habits. It’s also essential to find out if your potential playmate has any underlying issues with having another man around while engaged in sexual activity. Many men work themselves up over the fantasy of MFM threesomes or orgies but find that they aren’t entirely comfortable with the reality, often much to the dismay of the couple who invests time and energy into meeting him.

Finally, as with meeting other couples and single females, do try and arrange a social meet with the single guy you chat up. Unless you are fairly comfortable to launch into a blind play session, it is a good idea to see if you are both compatible with the man in question. While the males won’t be playing with each other, it’s still important that your potential play friend is the sort of guy that your partner would happily have a beer with. Most importantly for the lady, it’s your night so take time to see if there is any chemistry. If there is none, end the evening with drinks and thank the guy for his time. If you can’t wait to rip his clothes off, then let’s hope you make it back to the car at least!