Hotwifing

A “hotwife” refers to a woman in a partnered couple who has sexual encounters with other men. At times this encounter might happen in the presence of her partner. Other times in his absence followed with a retelling of the events. The male partner in this relationship is turned on by his partner sexual escapades, and derives pleasure and arousal from her exercising her sexual autonomy.

Cuckolding

A “cuckold” is a man that enjoys the dominance/submission power relationship with his female partner. Often, the cuckold likes to be belittled, humiliated, or otherwise made to feel powerless. To capitalize on this power dynamic, the female partner has sexual encounters with other men. The male partner’s pleasure and satisfaction comes from the power dynamic between himself and his partner.

Thus, “cuckolding” is more about the power exchange (as in other kinds of BDSM relationships) while “hotwifing” in general often lacks this element. A man may derive intense sexual satisfaction from his partner having independent sexual escapades, but be completely uninterested with the idea of being humiliated by his female partner and/or bull. However, another man may only enjoy such escapades if he is also humiliated, forced to “clean up” the woman after her sexual encounter, or otherwise made to feel inferior to the bull.

A “bull” is the term commonly ascribed to the other man in the scenario, the person that the hotwife has the sexual encounter with.

Why has hotwifing become such a popular fantasy among couples? The main reason is to fulfill the desire of almost every man to see his beautiful wife interacting with another man.
Other reasons come to mind, the explosion of Internet facilitated the fantasy, women are more comfortable with their sexual desires and are not afraid to voice it and act on it, and last people have come to understand that fantasies are a healthy way to explore one’s sexuality and beneficial way to bond.

Hotwifing, might just be what you were looking for at this point of your relationship. Read the benefits below:

1. Freedom

Most women secretly desire this, the freedom to enjoy another man’s company and to explore their sexuality guilt free. When a man encourages his woman to enjoy other man’s company, she gets to enjoy and exercise her sexual autonomy and to express freely her sexual desires.

2. A huge turn on.

Hotwifing is a sexual fantasy that can take your relationship to the next level. It’s a way of women expressing themselves and a huge turn on for their partners. Many women are getting into exhibitionism. They love their partner watching them have sex. For the partner who wants to show off his hotwife, it’s a huge turn on to watch another man enjoy his sexy hotwife. Watching your wife/partner with another man is like watching a hot porno, with her as the main star.

3. Free from the shackles of jealousy

Jealousy is the main reason many relationships fail to work. It contributes to disagreements and sometimes breakups. Hotwifing can help the men overcome most feelings of jealousy and insecurities. This kind of relationship can make your partnership more trusting and open. There is a difference between sex and a loving relationship, your partner knows this, and the steamy encounter is only SEX.

4. Increased Trust and Communication

A strong relationship is built on trust and good communication. Healthy relationships are not about the things a couple does together but about how they communicate together, how they treat each other, and how they work together to maintain a mutually beneficial relationship. Hotwifing will not increase these aspects in a relationship if they don’t exist already. They must exist before you embark in this fantasy.

5. Look Better

To continue being the desirable to men, a hotwife will be motivated you to stay fit, eat healthy, look sexy and stay young both mentally and physically.

6. Increase and improve intimacy

Your relationship and especially sex life will absolutely improve. The physical and emotional intimacy associated with hotwifing is intense. The feeling of seeing a wife with another man will just turn any man on making the sex life better and more frequent.

7. Boost confidence and self-esteem

The esteem of both parties involved will increase and this is great for having a healthy relationship. A confident man is also what a woman wants and what better way to show how confident you are than letting your wife get out there with other men.

The benefits of hotwifing are many and there are many adventurous couples that indulge in this fantasy. However, every couple has a different dynamic, and as such, hotwifing might not be your fantasy. As a couple it is best to go with what works best for you.

Work place through the years has changed in its dynamics; spending uncountable hours in the office lend itself to changes in the fundamentals of the work ethics. Work has become a place where life happens.

The construct of making money for survival alone is not a true reflection of modern workplace. A new balance had inevitably to transpire; coupled with the fact that people have more time to look after themselves and there are more women in the work field, work is the obvious place for meeting and fulfilling fantasies.

We have direct contact with co-workers on a daily basis, we talk about life and work, we laugh at jokes, and we have coffee and occasionally lunch together here and there. These are a reiteration of the beginning stages of the dating game already. What follows is almost inevitable. It shouldn’t really surprise us that people get attracted to their co-workers and sometimes take it to the next level.

Reality is we cannot deny ourselves our human instincts and as much as we’d like to think we could control them, we act on them sometimes, an instinct that has been detrimental to our survival as a species really. Sometimes emotions and hormones get the best of us.

But at what point do you decide if it’s worth risking the future of your job to take the next step. Take a close look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could come out of this adventure.

While dating a coworker might seem like a wild thrill don’t entirely throw caution to the wind especially, if you are trying to advance your career. There are a few main factors to consider before impetuously taking the plunge into an office romance.

Unless you want to walk the plank and swim with the sharks, an office romance in a small to medium size office is potentially disastrous, more chance of success in bigger office places. In small office places your little adventure becomes everybody’s business, not a desirable.

As a rule of thumb in any workplace, if you’re to have sex at work keep the kissy-touchy part of the relationship out of everyone’s ‘face’, for everyone’s comfort and for the sake of keeping a productive environment. In short do your best to conceal your office romp. Don’t brag about it to your friends at work, it will leak and that is a recipe for disaster.

Also don’t date your boss, it creates an unfair relationship, keep out of this equation and all is rosy and fun!! Furthermore, once the romance comes to an end, guess who is going to be looking for a new job? While an office romance is a very common occurrence and not quite as taboo as it once was it’s often best to keep your little fling under wraps.

If you find yourself in this kind of pickle try to weigh out the pros and cons of such a fling. In general, be professional at your place of work. It is understandable that given the amount of time we spend at work we are inevitably, at least some of us find our next fling or life partner. If you think you can handle a fling and continue productive work regardless then enjoy the wild adventures.

Here is an interesting facts for you:

In the Australian Sex Census in the question: ‘Have you fantasised about sex with a co-worker?’ 70% of men and 50% of women have answered yes to this question. Also have a read at what people are saying in the Forum on Work place Sex

The majority of us probably condemn such behaviour but there is a need to acknowledge the reality of today’s work dynamics and talk about it. It may be a sign of the ages; times change and so do attitudes and perceptions.

If you haven’t had your share of sexual encounters at your workplace, at least you’ve probably thought about it.

What are your thoughts on this subject? If you had a chance to pursuit a ’fling’ at work would you? Have you ever had sex at work or got it on with a co-worker?