Try not to judge others for what works for them. You’ll surprise yourself often when you realize a bit later down the line that what you shunned yesterday and didn’t seem to identify with is the very thing you are into today.

You’ll also find many people change what they identify as or what they’ll do, often based on factors in their own life. Comfort level, attraction, personal growth, insecurities, new and past experiences all contribute to what we are and what we want right now.

Is it true then to say that there is no strict definition for what ‘swingers’ are? Sure, it is comforting to have tidy labels, but the truth is swinging may take on a wide variety of different forms. Considering there are all types of couples and singles with an endless array of sexual likes. Let’s start with the hypothesis that we have the best experiences when there are many ‘types’ and ‘styles’ of swingers. With this in mind, let’s list some of the types or subcultures of swinging:

Erotic Swinging

Also known as Voyeurism and Exhibitionists. This is where partners/coupes only want to be watched or do the watching. They do not want to be touched or interfered with in any way and get their excitement from the thrill of being watched by several people or watching others.

Soft swap

Couples or partners that choose to “soft swap” with other couples or singles. It involves others touching, kissing, oral but not partners swapping for penetration.

Full swap

This type can include everything soft swap does as well as penetration. It could literally mean anything. A full swap couple may be fine with dinner and dancing and then sex. Or it could also mean meeting in a hotel room for a group orgy without knowing anyone’s name.

Same room or separate room swingers

This is what it sounds like. It typically refers to full swap or at least partner swapping soft swap. Swingers that play in the same room (with opposite partners) or that are willing to play in separate rooms. Swingers are often polarized and one type of the other can often be a deal breaker. Though plenty of swingers will do both depending on how comfortable they are. Same room seems to be the more common preference, but like anything in the lifestyle, you can find anything you are looking for if you’re patient enough.

Hardcore Swingers

These people typically don’t want any kind of connection. You may or may not see them around often, but they typically don’t want to cultivate relationships, have feelings or get too close to anyone other than their partner. They know exactly what they want, how they want it, and who they want it with. They insist on anonymous sex with those whose names they don’t even know.

Social Swingers

These swingers typically enjoy friendships and/or relationships of varying degrees.
This is when a couple enjoys being among swingers and its sexy atmosphere. At no time do they send you messages of wanting to play. They do not go to the playrooms even for a quick look. They just enjoy the energy of being around a more open crowd, where they can freely talk, flirt and dress sexy.

Girl on girl

These swingers are often married, though single females are often welcome as well. Men do not typically engage with the women during events. It is fairly female dominated. Men may or may not be allowed to watch and the primary focus is women getting to play with other women. Just like all types of swinging, this could lead to anything all parties agree too.

Bisexual Male Swingers

These are swingers who are either bi-curious or are looking for a bisexual male experience. Often their encounters starts as girl on girl encounter and after much talk and if all parties are comfortable and open to it might progresses into a MMF experience. Due to social perception the latter is still a bit taboo among many swingers. Still to today, at most swing venues, bisexuality is encouraged among women, but not so much among men-at least in public. Bi-Sexuality with men is much more common than people think, and because of the stigma attached to it, it is done behind closed doors.

Cuckold Swingers

The cuckold fetish is a sexual fantasy that many men and swingers secretly have. This is not a new fantasy at all; it has been around for a long time but was less accepted and not openly spoken of. The fantasy revolves around the man getting sexually excited from the idea or sight of his wife being with another man, and sometimes feeling humiliated by the superiority of the other man. This last part isn’t always at play, though it is about sperm competition.

Many man find the prospect of watching their wives have sex with other guys to be sexually arousing. For a lot of men, this is a major turn-on, and can help their sexual performance. Think about how much hotter men are early on in the relationship when things are a bit uncertain.

Like everything sexual, cuckolding has many variations, motives and incentives but more on that in another post.

Greedy Girl

Where the women are allowed to be with another man but in this case in the absence of the male companion. In the cuckold fantasy the male can watch and enjoys watching his wife being ravished right in front of him by another man. Greedy girl the male partner will enjoy hearing or knowing about their wives’ adventures later.

Dogging swingers

DOGGING is the sexual practice of having sex in public places, especially parks, deliberately taking the chance of being watched. Dogging combines technology with swinging, cruising and voyeurism.
Crowds, big and small, watch exhibitionist couples who’ve met on the Internet have sex in cars, and sometimes join in.
Dogging appears to be popular and widespread, attracting heterosexual couples and single men and women of all ages. Not surprisingly, however, dogging meets tend to attract more men than women.

Fetish Swingers

Swingers have an avid appetite for a variety of sex and sexual acts, one of which is fetishes. Fetish is an umbrella term that includes role-play, foot-fetish, forced-sex/rape fantasy, strap-on, erotic spanking and many more.
These swingers are not so much interested in sexual intercourse swapping as much as they are in their shared fetish interests, which might eventuate into sex.

Group swinging/Orgies

Group swinging / gang bang or orgy, is a specialized form of group sex in which one individual, either a woman or a man, has sexual intercourse with multiple partners in turn. There are some specialized forms of gang bang activities: lesbian gang bang, cream pie gang bang, gay gang bang etc…

Hot Wife

In many ways Hot Wife is an extension of cuckold fantasy. In this the wife sets up casual sex dates with other men. Typically she or her date take photos and send them to the husband. The husband receives sexual gratification knowing his wife is doing something sexually with another guy. We think this particular part of the Lifestyle is more common than most people realize, however is not discussed because the husband feels it may reflect negatively on him. If you feel that you want to see your wife with another man, we encourage you to talk to her about it.

Open marriage swinging

Open marriage swingers are those couples who are comfortable with playing separately. Each person is free to pursuit ‘opportunities’ or casual flings in the absence of the other. The lines here sometimes get a bit blurred when some couples allow these flings to become relationships, however long they turn out to be. Is this being polyamorous or swinger? Swingers and polyamorous often overlap and seem to mesh. The difference between the two traditionally lies in that polyamory is about relationships and swinging is about recreational sex. In short, polys = love and Swingers= sex. To reiterate the very beginning of this post, it would be simple and straightforward to have tidy labels but the truth is there is a lot of blending within the many subcultures in swinging culture.

Swingers soon realise that they fall within 3, 4 or more of any of these subcultures and other are happy to stay within one, however through the life of swinging the majority of swingers see themselves move from one subculture to another. Conservative swingers and their couple centric world have slowly dissolved into a more accepting of alternative lifestyles, and hence swingers today are more likely to experiment with lots of different things through their swinger’s life.

Please remember that this lists or breakdown could never be complete. If you don’t see what you identify as or want, trust us, it’s out there even if it’s not named here. On that note, why don’t you share yours with the rest of us?

The excitement of catching someone or being caught by someone in a saucy situation can get your blood pumping to hot new levels so much so that there are heaps of sexual adventurers out there who have created a lifestyle from it. We all have a sexy performer lurking inside of us and it’s time to get this show on the road with our Top Ten Guide to Voyeurism and Exhibitionism.

Whether it’s a quick flash of your breasts, rubbing chocolate sauce on your body while on webcam, or video taping a lusty romp with a hottie – we have a little exhibitionism within us waiting to be exposed to the world.

10. Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the sexiest of them all?

So simple yet so arousing, placing a mirror above, beside, or at either end of the bed can heighten your sexual jaunt in a sultry second. Better yet, you get the best of both worlds as you get a thrill out of watching and being watched.

9. Catch each other out

Watching each other masturbate may be a regular stint on your sexual repertoire and if not then we strongly suggest it’s the first thing that you do as soon as you switch off your computer. You may even want to mix things up a little by pretending not to know that anyone is watching you.

8. Strike a pose

Another day, another celebrity sex tape being leaked to the media – certainly the best trend that Paris Hilton ever set off, if it’s not teen hottie Vanessa Hudgens’ nude pics ending up the internet then it’s saucy Lindsay Lohan taking it all off for a magazine. But why should the celebs be the only one’s having so much fun? This is one Hollywood bandwagon you want to jump on it’s as simple as getting your hands on a camera or video recorder and then letting your imagination run wild.

7. Making more than sandcastles…

There are some people who enjoy nude beaches because they like the freedom of not wearing clothes, and then there are others who like nude beaches because there are just so many good things you can do when you don’t have tricky zips and buttons to navigate through. If you like to show of your bits then a nude beach is a great place to start because it’s a welcome place to get your kit off without any judgment – but if you’re really daring, there are many things you can get up to under the cover of the ocean – while all those people may or may not notice from the beach shores…which brings me to my next point…

6. Location, location, location

It’s not just the real estate market that touts this as an important point to keep in mind. If you have sex in the right location you could increase your chances of getting caught, or of having a stranger set up camp and watch as you enjoy each other’s company. Anywhere that increases you chances of getting caught will give you more than just an adrenalin rush.

5. Show off your good bits

You don’t want to give anyone a heart attack (or worse yet end up in goal) so we don’t recommend flashing your favourite body parts to complete strangers, but keep in mind that a little leg and a little cleavage can go a long way for some blokes. Take things up a notch by playing flasher with your partner and maybe reveal a nipple, lift a skirt, or unzip those pants – it’ll only take a second but the thrill will last long after that.

4. Dogging on you

It’s a craze that’s sweeping the globe. Dogging is a term used for having sex in a public place (usually in a car) and encouraging others to watch. You’re guaranteed an exhilarating experience heightened by the idea of watching, being watched or even being caught out. With nifty inventions such as the internet and text messaging, these events have become highly organised, with many being invited to watch or be watched.

3. There’s a party in my pants…

If you like to watch or be watched then a swingers’ party may just be what you’re after. With plenty of playrooms you can mix things up with other couples, watch as people enjoy each other and even join in yourself if the mood takes you. The perfect place for an exhibitionist to flaunt their goods!

2. Webcam is a god

RedHotPie’s webcams are sizzling hot – with someone getting naughty for all to see it’s a great place to take a sneaky peak at some of the sexiest members as they show you what they’ve got. And if you like to put on a show yourself you can jump right in there with an audience just waiting to see you at your naughtiest. Many RHP members swear by webcam as they say it gives them the chance to be an exhibitionist in the safety and comfort of their own home – give it a try – we know you’ll be a star of RHP in no time!

1. Become a HOTY

The HOTY Awards went off this year with sexy girls and guys sending in their raunchiest amateur pics and battling it to win the HOTY of the year title. If you like to show the world how hot you really are then why not take those sexy photos of yourself and send them through – you could even take home thousands of dollars of prizes just like 2008 HOTY winner MadMel.

Aussie’s have long since had a love affair with the wilderness, so it’s no wonder that according to recent statistics, Australians are the most likely nationality to have sex outdoors. A RedHotPie poll result reflected this trend with 42% of members saying that they preferred having sex in a park and sex on the beach coming in a close second with 38%. Here are some of your best locations…

Apartment Rooftop or Balcony
If you want to enjoy the cool summer breeze tickle your nether regions then there’s no better place to wander over to than a rooftop or a balcony. A word of warning however, make sure it’s safe to access as the last thing you want to do is fall and break something more significant than your stride.

Car Park
Doing the nasty in a parked car can take you back to those nostalgic days as a youngin’ where you used to fool around after a date. But to really make the most of the Australian landscape you’ll need to get out of the car and explore the space around you. We recommend the classic shinning of the bonnet position or a dark little corner where the excitement of getting caught will push you over the edge.

Lover’s Lane
As you take a casual lover’s stroll after a romantic night out be on the look out for the opportunity to heat things up with a little tryst in an out of the way side lane. The hot spots near a busy street will keep things extra spicy as you can hear the traffic zoom past you.

Swimming Pool
If you really want to feel patriotic this Australia day, then combine two favourite icons, the swimming pool and sex outdoors. Not only do bathing suits leave little to the imagination they provide the sort of easy access that other items of clothing simply can’t live up to. So heat things up this summer while you cool down with a bit of a quick dip.

Hiking Trail
The Australian landscape is celebrated the world over for its wild ruggedness and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t get out there and enjoy it either. Flex your calf muscles as you hike the trail but make sure you go off the beaten track and flex a different kind of muscle too – it’s secluded enough for privacy while still allowing you to embrace Mother Nature and all her naughty impulses.

Beach
The salty taste of the ocean on your bare flesh, the warm sand under you, and a light sea breeze to cool you down – it’s no wonder sex on the beach is so popular. And the best thing is that there are a number of opportunities. You can go for a swim in the ocean and do the nasty in the warm water, you can hide behind the sand dunes, you could look for an empty seaside cave, or you could just wait till the sun goes down and just lay there in the middle of the sandy bay. With so many choices you may have to try out more than one just to make sure you’ve found the most pleasurable.

Park
Coming in as the most popular choice was the park – and there are a number of reasons why. There’s no messy sand to deal with, there’s less chance of getting caught (who visits a park at night?) and there are plenty of opportunities to get creative with playground equipment. Whether you want to get into the swing of things or slide into a saucy position, your local park is secluded enough that no one will be drawn to your moans of pleasure but risqué enough that someone may be passing through; heightening that ever arousing ‘chance of getting caught’ factor – a perfect combination.

And remember…
It’s sad but true; couples engaging in sexual acts in a public place should be aware that most states and territories have laws against indecent exposure. So if you’re going to do the nasty in the wild outdoors, make sure you do so in situations where the chances of getting caught or offending anyone are very low. Exercise caution, play safe, and enjoy!

Did we miss a sexy location? Do you have a favourite hot spot for outdoor sex? Why don’t you tell us all about it!

– Be punctual. Meet up when you say you will
– If you are a couple discuss limitations with one another, a safe code word is helpful for sticky situations
– Use caution and common sense when contacting strangers
– Continue to use your RHP username to protect your identity (it will also add a little more mystery to the situation)
– Arrange to meet at spots away from unsuspecting passersby but not too far out for safety and/or convenience sake
– Don’t announce exact meet details publicly.  Ask people to contact you for further information
– Make yourself presentable and approachable
– Pack some lube to make things comfortable for your partner/s
– RHP encourages safe sex
– Keep your distance until invited
– Dogging is a legal grey area so proceed at your own risk (RHP takes no responsibility for your activities)
– Don’t block other doggers’ view/s
– Respect other people who are having fun.  Some of the sites are also used for gay men to meet up and they may have been using the location for a longer period
– Remember to clean up the general area after yourself.
– If you aren’t extremely successful on your first go don’t be discouraged there are plenty of other opportunities

Following these guidelines will help optimise your next (or first) dogging experience.  For first timers information on popular dogging locations around Australia can be obtained by posting on the RedHotPie forums about where to go.  Speak to other exhibitionists about their experiences and learn a thing or two most are friendly and happy to provide you with answers to any lingering questions.