cyber-sex – Dating Insider

Sex and the Single Guy

Christina Miller — Tue, 20 Aug 2013 13:44:32 +0000

The elusive, single guy mystique seems to be propagating the forums lately. Who are these single men who promise the world only to disappoint later with either, not showing or failing to meet the expectations of couples? Aren’t single men supposed to drop everything once they hear the word SEX? Well, evidently not. In theory this is the stereotype we all have come to believe in, the reality is a bit different. These men have a number of reasons to be online and one of them is to explore their sexual horizons. Some are shy and slow starters and others overeager. Whichever they are, it seems sometimes they head on a collision track. Below are some possible character profiles:

Some single guys haven’t contemplated actually ever realizing their fantasies; they are here to live out their sexual fantasies in the safety of their home; they’re looking for cyber-sex. Without a doubt these men should be truthful and explain themselves instead of wasting genuine people’s time. However, here lies the problem it’s in this blurring of the lines of reality and fantasy that they get their kicks. To be optimistic let’s describe them as – ‘work in progress’- eventually cyber-sex won’t be sufficient and they will venture out into reality.

Meanwhile, The big question is how do you identify the ‘Cyber guy’ vs. the real meet guy? One obvious factor would be, these men seek a lot of details on what is and is not going to happen should you meet, this is an obvious sign of their intent – not to meet but for you to entertain them. Try to have them call you instead if they do, that’s a reasonable sign that they might be genuine in their pursuits

Other single men do want to actually meet. However, due to inexperience or on the unfolding of the events they get cold feet. They start doubting whether they can meet your expectations. Or worse they’ve lied a little about their size, age and even what they can do. All of these start to take hold of them and then all their excitement becomes fear and yes they are going to let you down, at this stage not even naked Angelina Jolie will help them rise to the occasion.

There is also the male who is obviously confident and wants this experience. Sometimes little things upset the flow of events. Maybe someone is in a hurry to be thrashed and he hasn’t quite gotten there yet and the more he thinks about it the more nervous he gets; deflating as he ponders – How embarrassing!!!! Another scenario, no better than the first, he is so thrilled, excited and he cannot make it last. He didn’t mean to and he didn’t want to disappoint. Worse is that he can’t relax enough to get going again. However, not all is lost if all involved are willing they could make plans to meet again and laugh this first experience off. Second time round things can only improve!!!

Here are a few tips on how to make your experience with the single guy work for you.

1. Communication is important, exchange photos and then phone numbers, pick up the phone and call, have a little chat and get to know each other a bit.

2. Don’t create scenarios that are too perfect leave room for the unexpected things will most definitely vary from what you’ve imagined, after all we’re dealing with human beings.

3. Try to be open to anything, picture the worst-case scenario and be willing to give it a try again. Sometimes it takes a few times to get things right.

4. Remember the single men feels a bit nervous since he’s the outsider and this can be a bit intimidating.

5. Sometimes parties and ‘meet & greets” are good places to meet your prospective single male. Exchange numbers and/or set a place to meet for drinks.

6. Sometimes we forget that the aim of all this is to have fun, so keep it light. There are times when we come out winners and others when we learnt to deal with a new challenge. In any case, not all is lost. As a last resort, you can always hit the town together and have fun or stay in and make home porn.

7. DateFinder is a great way to find your single guy. Especially, if it is last minute and you are suddenly in the mood. DateFinder has a number guys waiting to be contacted for some fun on the night.

8. Validations: RedHotPie has this awesome validation feature where members can validate other genuine people they have actually met. Profiles with Validations should definitely be your top priority.

Obviously, there is no one-way to approach this. RHP readers are familiar with the article paralleling ‘Porn Sex vs. Real Life sex’, much the same, sexy encounters are sometimes a bit different from what you had in mind, not to say that is less fun. With every situation you have to make quick, intuitive decisions and the more practice you get the easier it gets.

What are the best approaches you’ve used that were successful when meeting single men?

For more on the subject read Redhotpie forum thread, single guy with couples.

Private Browsing rocks!

RedHotPie Editor — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 16:44:52 +0000

Are you like me Pie People? Are you a wonderful, sexually, self gratifying person? Do you like to ride the heavenly road that is the internet, perusing all the sexiness and extravagant decadence that is out there?

Well that’s all good and well, but what happens when we use the internet for such things? We build up a nasty little trail of information that’s what; a concise user history chronicling our every cyber-move – web sites, visited, times, dates, oh yes it’s all there… or at least… it was.

Rejoice people of the world; finally the pantaloon dropping nerds have taken a little power back and instilled some of themselves in the latest version of browsers such as Google’s Chrome, Microsoft’s Internet Explorer 8 Beta 2, and Mozilla’s Firefox 3.1 Beta 2 with a little something called Private Browsing.

Sounds saucy doesn’t it? Well in this application it is. You see with Private Browsing, or “Porn Mode” as it is quickly becoming known, you will be able to surf the net until you go blind, and no trace will be left of your activity. That’s right friends… too scarred to log-in to bigguns.com at work? Well log away! Worried that those naked amateur sites might pop up on the hard drive next time the IT dept takes it for a service? Well fret no longer.

With Private Browsing our travels are exactly that… ours. The aim of good old Porn Mode is to cease the electronic logging of your web usage; so no more frantic attempts to erase the internet history when your boss wants the laptop back for the weekend, you will be left to surf at your discretion without leaving any unwanted fingerprints.

When discussing the new feature in an online blog, Firefox programmer Ehsan Akhgar said that the new feature does not keep users anonymous from websites or their Internet service provider, but that it’s about making sure “that Firefox doesn’t store any data which can be used to trace your online activities, no more, no less.”

Awesome.

Webcam, thankyou maam!

RedHotPie Editor — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 15:41:45 +0000

Some of Australia’s hottest couples are getting down and dirty right now, and what’s more, a lot of them want you to watch! Believe it friends, web cams are finding their ways into bedrooms around the world – and you thought cybersex was hot before!
Imagine those long nights away from your partner, alone and in need of some sensual inspiration; well, if you’re got the hardware, it might be as easy as plugging in and phoning home. For the voyeur and the exhibitionist alike, the world of web-camming or ‘wamming’ for the hipsters among us, is a limitless medium through which to meet, interact and entice with these online encounters ranging from gentile discussion to the hottest pleasures of the flesh.
According to one RedHotPie member, the web-camming phenomenon has been a wonderful and welcome addition to the online dating experience.

“It’s so good to be able to put a face to a name; it just goes beyond what you can learn about someone through a photo swap. I mean it’s not an actual meeting but it can go along way to breaking the ice, and there’s really no limit to how far you can go on the webcam before trying it in person!”

And why keep your sexy side-show a secret? For all those aspiring stars and starlets out there, webcams offer users their very own studio, rigged and ready to rock, streaming those seductive scenes to a waiting and willing audience. Just think… a sexy couple putting on a little show in their Melbourne boudoir can broadcast their fleshy fun to like minded friends at their own discretion, now if that’s not pulling power then what is?

Of course RedHotPie.com.au can help ease you into this exciting new world of high-tech hook-ups, just swing by our adult webcam chat room to meet other fun folk wanting to say hi. Throw yourself in the deep end; the RHP wammers are a nice bunch, happy to introduce you to the world of on visual voyeurism with a chat and maybe even a few tips if you ask nicely.

If you’re not quite ready to engage so to speak, just drop in and have a little look at what’s going on in RedHotPie webcam land, each night people from all around Australia are performing centre stage in the carnal carnival that is our wamming community. From talking heads to lustful encounters, it’s all live, it’s all real and it’s all at your finger tips, a veritable bevy of saucy scenes being played out in homes all around the country.

So why are you still here? Get onto RHP right now and make some content, because whether it’s for a partner, or a group of sexy friends, the thought that someone is watching is downright horny baby! Happy wamming…