The secret to great sex and how to improve your sex life, requires first and foremost a level of comfort and self-assurance in being in your own skin and achieving it, is not as hard as you may think.

Life sometimes takes its toll and where we started as sexual beings is very different to where we are now. Loving and feeling confident with your body is the essence of good sex.This applies both to women and men.

” Before you try to love someone else, you need to love yourself first “

Go on a journey of sexual discovery, strip down and look at your body in the mirror, appreciate its form, the good and the bad, and think about what it can do and how it makes you feel. The more you see your naked body the more you mentally embrace your body, simple but effective technique. Being in the nude reduces shame.

Here are a few tips on how to be more comfortable with your body, and in turn improve your sex life:

Sleep in the nude

First, start in a place you’re a bit more used to being naked: the bedroom. Sleeping in the buff can help bring you closer in your relationship, but it can also aid you in getting a better night’s sleep.

Trip to the nudist beach

According to science, watching naked people and being naked increases self-esteem and promotes positive body image.  It makes perfect sense that seeing other people with “normal, not perfect” bodies helps ease the insecurities you feel toward your own body.

Masturbate in front of mirror

If it has been a while since you allowed yourself to experience pleasure, because you are just too focused on how your body comes across, time for some self-love. Spend time rediscovering your body and how it likes to be touched, how it responds to certain touches and pressure. Re-learn your bodies’ ability to experience pleasure.

Since the mirrors are already in place, why not use them to please your voyeuristic tendencies. It certainly will beat any porn out there, it’s live streamed, real homemade porn happening while you both are the main stars. It can be a real turn on to see yourself being pleasured and watching your partner being pleasured by you. This will boost your confidence through the roof and reinforce body positivity.

Good sex has nothing to do with the shape and size but more with the ability to be kinder to ourselves and to stop worrying about what we look like, simply learn to let go and enjoy ourselves.

Do you have any tips to add that fostered better sex for you and your partner?

Bree Lavender, 22, is one of these women and she says it’s a sign that the ideal female body shape has shifted. She’s a size 6-8 but has a self-confessed “pancake butt”. Having a shapely booty is her main body focus.

“I think you want that thickness to your body, but still toned. I definitely have that flat butt so that’s what attracted me to the booty programs. I remember growing up it being more the thing to have a small booty and frame, so it’s really funny how it’s done a 360,’’ she says.

Instagram has played a huge role in the trend. Lavender is doing Tammy Hembrow’s Build a Booty program. Hembrow is a Gold Coast “Mama and gymshark athlete” with 2.7 million Instagram followers.

Tammy Hembrow

Her fitspiration comes in the form of images of her round, smooth bottom in G-strings and tight dresses, her young son and muscled partner often in the background. Her ‘cheat’ meals (mainly desserts) get almost as many likes as her shapely booty.

There are also plenty of models leading the charge for a shapely backside. Lavender cites Steph Claire Smith and Gigi Hadid as some of her social media follows.

Australian Fitness model Lauren Simpson is another proponent with her Project Booty ebook and 398K Insta audience. “A big booty is currently on-trend. If your pancake butt has you feeling out of the loop, it’s time to put your glutes to work and get results you have never thought possible!’’ she enthuses of her program.

Lauren Simpson

There are several apps for booty workouts including Daily Butt Workout, Booty Buster Cadio Boot-Camp, Runtastic Butt Trainer, 30 Day Butt Challenge, and Ashy Bines Booty Challenge.

Vix Erber, a fitness trainer from Bondi Vixen, which focuses on women’s fitness, says she’s happy about the trend away from a skinny ideal towards fitness and strength but worries about the focus being on one part of the body.

“I don’t have anything against 30 day booty challenges — getting off the couch is good but at the end of the day a holistic approach is the best, including nutrition and total body, not just work on one area of your body.’’

She also blames the Kardashians.

“I believe that when the Kardashians rose to fame their booties went with them. I don’t think the big booty and skinny waist is the ideal. I think Instagram has blown a lot of things out of proportion — literally- and made it unrealistic for the average girl.’’

Lavender says she’s noticed that while her personal trainer boyfriend, also 22, is keen on a muscular, round booty, other men disagree.

“I think it might be a generational thing. The boys in the office were saying ‘We don’t get it, guys don’t want girls with big booties, it’s out of proportion,’ but my boyfriend, he’s like, ‘Oh it’s great you’re doing this program’.’’

source: news.com.au

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