Now here is the ideal person/couple to look for when searching for some bedroom fun. A bisexual person or couple literally reach down someone’s pants and will be satisfied with whatever they find. There we have it, the perfect concoction for a successful night out as long as the attraction is there.

To a lot of people, hearing “I’m bisexual” is tantamount to announcing, “I’m up for anything.” Truth is bisexuals act on their attraction that could be to either a woman or a man and not to any woman or any man. This is where the misconception springs from, like many of us heterosexuals, bisexuals; equally don’t like everyone only those they’re attracted.

In the heterosexual world, female bisexuality is applauded and almost a prerequisite in the list of desirability in a female’s sexual repertoire.
Male bisexuality has still to evolve to this status of ‘desirability’ in the heterosexual world, or at least at the same comfort level. Heterosexual males quiver at the knees, should you divulge your attraction and seemingly make a move on them. It brings about questions about their own sexuality. Does it mean if you have an encounter no matter how small or insignificant make you bi too? A little experimentation with the same-sex gender is not going to make you bi or gay all of a sudden. Relax, being curious and being experimental is a healthy expression of our desires and a way of growing sexually.

Bisexuals are attracted to more than one gender. Just like in general we are attracted to people of more than one height, weight, age group, hair colour and race. But to bisexuals it also includes gender.
Being bisexual is about the gender you’re attracted to. Remember like many of us heterosexuals, bisexuals; equally don’t like everyone only those they’re attracted.

Our sexuality is inclusive not exclusive of who we really are. Let’s then explore, enjoy and celebrate our differences and ideally live the moment without regrets.
Actresses, Olivia Wilde and Megan Fox, as many before them believe that in essence we’re all bisexuals and then due to social pressure we’re made to choose to be hetero. In 1999, actress Megan Mullally went as far as stating that she believes we are all innately bisexual. An improvement to this statement probably would be that we’re all at least a bit bi-curious especially when we’ve encountered the right person.

Let’s dispel from all this categorizing and labeling for a minute and look at the lost potential of intense nights of wild sexual fun. We’re here for the good times, for good connections and good friends and endless possibilities. Let’s put our guards down and look genuinely at our attractions and let the good times roll.

Not everyone’s cuppa tea? Understandable. However, if someone of the same sex expresses their attraction to you and you do not feeling the same just let them know that you’re flattered but not reciprocal, and find your own game play without spoiling someone else’s, be open minded.

Why Do We Want Ms Single?

Three is fun but isn’t four even more so? In which case, shouldn’t a couple just meet other couples for fun? It certainly is easier to arrange foursome fun but some couples simply want to reserve their bedroom for themselves and Ms Single.

It may be because the presence of another male in the bedroom repels the male partner of the couple. This reluctance can stem from his discomfort with another male being in close proximity during a sexual scenario, or it can arise from jealousy he feels at the thought of his partner being touched or even seen naked by another man. Conversely, it may be the female partner who has no desire at all to be sexually involved with a man other than her own partner, and is only seeking an FMF to fulfill her bisexual leanings.

For couples who are new to the idea of introducing extra people into their sex lives, a FMF threesome is often viewed as being the safe, or soft option, before gaining the confidence to progress to couples and single men. For some others, they just purely want to experience the hot intimacy of a threesome, be it an FMF or MFM. In Kylie’s case:

”I didn’t have anything against meeting couples but I am definitely more into girls than guys so I loved the idea of having a single girl over just for me to focus on, knowing my partner was the only guy around and I could tell him when and how he could join in. It took me a while to meet a girl but once I did, it was amazing.”

Impossible Dream?

It probably wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say that for every actively participating single girl, there would be at least twenty couples looking for her. Why single girls are few and far between is simply answered by placing yourself in their shoes. If you were a single female, would you be willing to place yourself in a vulnerable situation with two strangers? Have a think about what you’re also asking from her: sex with one or both of you (preferably both) with no strings attached. It can be more than a little daunting for a lot of single ladies.

Also, it takes a woman who fantasises about being a ‘toy’ for a couple to consider a meeting, and more importantly, a whole lot of courage to go ahead with it. Take Tricia and Brad’s experience:

“Brad and I contacted a single girl called Janine who sounded hot. She was keen to be pampered and pleasured by two people and had no obvious hang-ups about sex. After swapping photos, we arranged to meet over coffee one afternoon. Just girls. The meeting went well so she agreed to come over to our place on the following weekend. Janine sounded excited about it right up until the night she was supposed to come over. But then, we got a text message from her saying that she couldn’t come around because of some problem with her car.”

After a lot of questioning by Tricia, Janine admitted that she was highly aroused by the idea of being in a threesome but as the reality dawned on her, it wasn’t something that she felt completely right about. Tricia and Brad’s experience is not unusual and not surprisingly, it leaves many people frustrated and suspicious of other single females supposedly looking for a good time.

When You Least Expect It The key issue seems to be the fact that when faced with the potential pressure of an organised a threesome, many people (not only single females) find it easier to not go all the way. It is therefore not surprising at all that many successful threesomes occur spontaneously with people a couple may have met prior to the event socially, which is what happened with Jo and Paul.

“Jo and I were at a wedding some time ago and we ran into an old school friend of Jo’s. I remember Jo enjoying the flirty catch-up and swapping numbers. She got a text from her a few nights later saying she was bored so Jo suggested she come over. Add a bottle of wine to that and the rest is history ”

How to Find Ms Single

We’ll assume that most couples don’t conveniently have a female flat mate/best friend/co-worker who they can get into a spontaneous threesome with. Naturally, if you do know someone who might be interested, then you can always investigate the possibility as long as your suggestions won’t cause offence.
For those who don’t know where to start, then RedHotPie is the best place to start. Many women are listed as seeking couples. If you’re replying to an ad, be mindful that you probably won’t be the first person to approach this single girl. Be friendly and honest about what you’re seeking, and with any luck, Ms Single will drop you a line back.

Parties and Events posted on RHP are also a great way to meet single ladies. Many girls enjoy a fun night out as a group so this could be the perfect opportunity for the female partner of a couple to mingle with singles. Get ready to jot down phone numbers!Alternatively, even if meeting couples is not the preferred option, it is still a good idea to network with other couples who may have a number of single girlfriends who are seeking to expand their circle of play friends. Finally, it is not uncommon for many couples who have formed close friendships to organise threesomes amongst themselves. Says Dean:

”My fiancee Emma hates being on her own while I am away overseas for work so when she told me that our swinging friends Mark and Michelle invited her for dinner one night (and they meant just dinner), I told her to go over on her own and get her own little party started. I trust Mark and Michelle so knew Emma would be in good hands. I got a huge hard on thinking about her being the centre of attention.”

What Is Ms Single Looking For?

It’s probably very important to consider the things that a single female is looking for in a couple. Since she has a fairly good selection of couples to choose from, it’s important to make your first impression last so you stand out from the rest.

A single female who is largely looking to explore her bisexuality probably won’t be too concerned about how the male partner looks (although I am sure she would like him to be a respectful, friendly person at least) in which case it is really up to the female partner to build a rapport with Ms Single. If there is a good amount of attraction between the two, there’s a good chance things will lead to a meeting and the rest can be worked out from there. Do keep in mind however that some single girls are not looking to play with the male partner of a couple at all but is happy for him to be present while she gets it on with the female partner. If this suits you as a couple, then it’s a win/win situation!

For couples who are ideally seeking a single female who wants to devour both partners sexually, you are in for some hard work. Without mincing words, unless Ms Single has an overwhelming attraction to one or both of you, she will happily move on to the next couple that approaches her for assessment. Take Nina’s experience:

”I was getting to know a couple on RHP with view to meeting up for coffee but without sounding shallow, I took one look at the guy and couldn’t go through with it. The girl from the couple was awesomely hot but other than her man being not my type, he also came across as an arrogant macho pig who wanted two women to pleasure him. I offered to meet her on her own or perhaps play while he watched but they didn’t want that. In the end I ended up meeting a couple who were less fixated on the threesome and treated me more like a friend.”

Try and be balanced in your approach with single girls. Do make an effort to find out what she is after from the beginning rather than try and sway her into your ideal threesome plans. Single girls also appreciate confident, friendly couples who don’t reek of desperation (yes, this seems to happen with couples as much as guys). Especially if she is new to meeting couples, she would feel more comfortable being guided gently by people who want to be her friend, rather than prodded and pushed like a play thing.

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