Before arranging a meet

I strongly suggest that you talk to the female half of the couple, or ideally talk to both halves of the couple! This ensures that you all have a bit of common ground, are all interested and compatible (to a degree) and you have some knowledge about them both before organizing a meet. Not only is this a safety precaution, but it will give you a bit of a heads up of what to expect from the meet and an idea of what they are after.

Make your preferences known

Are you interested in just the male half of the couple? Or just the female half? Or equally interested in both?
Are you looking for social friends? Or friends with benefits? Or a one-off encounter?

Make sure that you know what you want – both from the date and future meets if things progress – so that your intentions are completely clear from the get-go. Be sure to be upfront and honest with the couple. No one wants to feel like their time has been wasted and you certainly don’t want to waste your own when you realize that the three of you weren’t quite on the same page. See our next point…

Get on the same page

Besides knowing what you want yourself, you need to communicate this clearly to all parties before meeting. So firstly have a chat about what the meet will and won’t entail i.e. social meet only, meet and see where it goes, play meet etc. Make sure that all three of you are going into the meet with the same expectations to ensure that there are no mixed signals and no awkward moments. Let them know what it is that you are looking for long-term, in terms of whether it is an ongoing friendship that you seek, a one-off (or repeat) play experience etc.

Relax!

Yes, it can be daunting if you look at it as two against one, but the dynamic of a threeway social (or otherwise) meet can be so much fun! You’ll find that conversation can flow more effortlessly than some one-on-one encounters as you’ve got another person there to contribute to the conversation and bounce off. As well as this, it really is the best of both worlds. You can make social friends and potential sexy friends that meet all of your needs at once.

Don’t be biased

Regardless of which half of the couple (if either) you are more interested in or feel like you hit it off with to begin with, try not to leave one half of the couple out of the conversation. Be sure to share your attention as equally as possible between the two to ensure that there are no hurt feelings. No one likes to feel like a third wheel.

Enjoy yourself!

Last – but certainly not least – enjoy yourself! Don’t look at it as a two-against-one situation where you are coming in as the unknown quantity. Whilst this is true to an extent, look at it in a positive light: you’re the exciting new entity with the opportunity to meet two new people that could become really great friends if you all hit it off. Whether it’s more (or less) than that is totally in your hands. The possibilities are endless.

Interested in reading more?

Check out the member forums and see what other RedHotPie members had to say about overcoming those first meet nerves and taking the plunge:

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Do you have any tips for meeting a couple for the first time as a single? Please let us know in the comments below!

A sense of belonging is the feeling of being connected and accepted within your community. To be among people who share the same likes, interests, quirks and kinks.

RHP is home to a lot of diverse communities: Alternative, Bisexuals, same- sex gender, Transgender, Swingers, Singles, Lifestylers, Kinksters and BDSM. It’s a nice feeling to just know that there are people on RHP, an abundance of people, who are in the same wavelength as you and see the world through the same lenses. You can meet people you feel connected to but also who accept you for who you are.

In the midst of celebrating and understanding acceptance we quickly realise that although we are looking for different things, turned on by different scenarios and quirks, we are quite similar once we get to know each other. Whether we like to wear leather, or into foot fetish, bondage and discipline or lusting after that sexy couple you’ve been fantasising about the past month.
On RHP you make new friends everyday who have a varied and colourful repertoire and yet are closer to you than anyone you’ve met in your ordinary life.

The usual veil of pretense tumbles down with friends on RHP and you don’t have to hide, curb or inhibit those desires, inclinations or interests. On RHP, you will find people whom you can share these interests with, even join a few groups and attend regular niche themed events catering for any interest.

So along with celebrating our Nation’s Harmony Day let’s take the opportunity to celebrate our Harmony Day here on RHP and our ability to accept, respect and understand everyone’s differences. RHP is a place where one can forge new friends who are inclusive and diverse without pretext.

Have you felt that you are more comfortable with friends you met on RHP?
Tell us some of the experiences or interests you have discovered or explored on RHP where you couldn’t share elsewhere?

A man who was born with two penises due to a rare medical condition called Diphillia has stirred up a storm in the chartrooms of entertainment site, Reddit, during the “Ask Me Anything” session.

There’s no sure way of knowing whether this is a hoax, but frankly, the photo of the genitals of the man known only as DoubleDickDude is quite compelling. Perhaps supporting the validity of his double package is the fact that one in six million boys are born with two penises, but most have the extra appendage removed at an early age.

According to this mystery man, having two dicks is pretty great:

“Both are 100% functional. What I was born with is called Diphallia. I did NOT absorb a twin. It’s not genetic or inherited. I am bisexual and in a committed relationship with a man and a woman, but have permission to stray only with James Franco…wherever he is. ?”

We got thinking… would DoubleDickDude’s condition be awkward or straight up awesome? Here are some points on both sides of the coin…

Awkward:
1. Can cross swords with himself.
2. “How’s it hanging?” Never a simple question.
3. Seeing double. Is it the booze or the Diphillia?
4. Handling the hoses… never cross the streams!

Awesome:
• Perfect set up for threesomes.
• What’s better than an orgasm? Stereo orgasm.
• One man DP machine.
• Can play drums without sticks.

Let’s assume this is true… is the whole two penises thing a blessing or a curse? What would you do with them?

Why Do We Want Ms Single?

Three is fun but isn’t four even more so? In which case, shouldn’t a couple just meet other couples for fun? It certainly is easier to arrange foursome fun but some couples simply want to reserve their bedroom for themselves and Ms Single.

It may be because the presence of another male in the bedroom repels the male partner of the couple. This reluctance can stem from his discomfort with another male being in close proximity during a sexual scenario, or it can arise from jealousy he feels at the thought of his partner being touched or even seen naked by another man. Conversely, it may be the female partner who has no desire at all to be sexually involved with a man other than her own partner, and is only seeking an FMF to fulfill her bisexual leanings.

For couples who are new to the idea of introducing extra people into their sex lives, a FMF threesome is often viewed as being the safe, or soft option, before gaining the confidence to progress to couples and single men. For some others, they just purely want to experience the hot intimacy of a threesome, be it an FMF or MFM. In Kylie’s case:

”I didn’t have anything against meeting couples but I am definitely more into girls than guys so I loved the idea of having a single girl over just for me to focus on, knowing my partner was the only guy around and I could tell him when and how he could join in. It took me a while to meet a girl but once I did, it was amazing.”

Impossible Dream?

It probably wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say that for every actively participating single girl, there would be at least twenty couples looking for her. Why single girls are few and far between is simply answered by placing yourself in their shoes. If you were a single female, would you be willing to place yourself in a vulnerable situation with two strangers? Have a think about what you’re also asking from her: sex with one or both of you (preferably both) with no strings attached. It can be more than a little daunting for a lot of single ladies.

Also, it takes a woman who fantasises about being a ‘toy’ for a couple to consider a meeting, and more importantly, a whole lot of courage to go ahead with it. Take Tricia and Brad’s experience:

“Brad and I contacted a single girl called Janine who sounded hot. She was keen to be pampered and pleasured by two people and had no obvious hang-ups about sex. After swapping photos, we arranged to meet over coffee one afternoon. Just girls. The meeting went well so she agreed to come over to our place on the following weekend. Janine sounded excited about it right up until the night she was supposed to come over. But then, we got a text message from her saying that she couldn’t come around because of some problem with her car.”

After a lot of questioning by Tricia, Janine admitted that she was highly aroused by the idea of being in a threesome but as the reality dawned on her, it wasn’t something that she felt completely right about. Tricia and Brad’s experience is not unusual and not surprisingly, it leaves many people frustrated and suspicious of other single females supposedly looking for a good time.

When You Least Expect It The key issue seems to be the fact that when faced with the potential pressure of an organised a threesome, many people (not only single females) find it easier to not go all the way. It is therefore not surprising at all that many successful threesomes occur spontaneously with people a couple may have met prior to the event socially, which is what happened with Jo and Paul.

“Jo and I were at a wedding some time ago and we ran into an old school friend of Jo’s. I remember Jo enjoying the flirty catch-up and swapping numbers. She got a text from her a few nights later saying she was bored so Jo suggested she come over. Add a bottle of wine to that and the rest is history ”

How to Find Ms Single

We’ll assume that most couples don’t conveniently have a female flat mate/best friend/co-worker who they can get into a spontaneous threesome with. Naturally, if you do know someone who might be interested, then you can always investigate the possibility as long as your suggestions won’t cause offence.
For those who don’t know where to start, then RedHotPie is the best place to start. Many women are listed as seeking couples. If you’re replying to an ad, be mindful that you probably won’t be the first person to approach this single girl. Be friendly and honest about what you’re seeking, and with any luck, Ms Single will drop you a line back.

Parties and Events posted on RHP are also a great way to meet single ladies. Many girls enjoy a fun night out as a group so this could be the perfect opportunity for the female partner of a couple to mingle with singles. Get ready to jot down phone numbers!Alternatively, even if meeting couples is not the preferred option, it is still a good idea to network with other couples who may have a number of single girlfriends who are seeking to expand their circle of play friends. Finally, it is not uncommon for many couples who have formed close friendships to organise threesomes amongst themselves. Says Dean:

”My fiancee Emma hates being on her own while I am away overseas for work so when she told me that our swinging friends Mark and Michelle invited her for dinner one night (and they meant just dinner), I told her to go over on her own and get her own little party started. I trust Mark and Michelle so knew Emma would be in good hands. I got a huge hard on thinking about her being the centre of attention.”

What Is Ms Single Looking For?

It’s probably very important to consider the things that a single female is looking for in a couple. Since she has a fairly good selection of couples to choose from, it’s important to make your first impression last so you stand out from the rest.

A single female who is largely looking to explore her bisexuality probably won’t be too concerned about how the male partner looks (although I am sure she would like him to be a respectful, friendly person at least) in which case it is really up to the female partner to build a rapport with Ms Single. If there is a good amount of attraction between the two, there’s a good chance things will lead to a meeting and the rest can be worked out from there. Do keep in mind however that some single girls are not looking to play with the male partner of a couple at all but is happy for him to be present while she gets it on with the female partner. If this suits you as a couple, then it’s a win/win situation!

For couples who are ideally seeking a single female who wants to devour both partners sexually, you are in for some hard work. Without mincing words, unless Ms Single has an overwhelming attraction to one or both of you, she will happily move on to the next couple that approaches her for assessment. Take Nina’s experience:

”I was getting to know a couple on RHP with view to meeting up for coffee but without sounding shallow, I took one look at the guy and couldn’t go through with it. The girl from the couple was awesomely hot but other than her man being not my type, he also came across as an arrogant macho pig who wanted two women to pleasure him. I offered to meet her on her own or perhaps play while he watched but they didn’t want that. In the end I ended up meeting a couple who were less fixated on the threesome and treated me more like a friend.”

Try and be balanced in your approach with single girls. Do make an effort to find out what she is after from the beginning rather than try and sway her into your ideal threesome plans. Single girls also appreciate confident, friendly couples who don’t reek of desperation (yes, this seems to happen with couples as much as guys). Especially if she is new to meeting couples, she would feel more comfortable being guided gently by people who want to be her friend, rather than prodded and pushed like a play thing.

Find out what our members think about this topic in the adult forums!
‘Single woman looking for couples.’ Read it here