PUBLIC SEX:

You want to do it in a nightclub, up against a tree in a park or in the back of your car. You are a risk taker it excites you to know that there is a great chance of being caught –what an adrenaline rush.

ROLE PLAYING:

Student and teacher, nurse and patient or mistress and slave, you like taking on new roles you’ve always wondered what sex would be like if the situation changed and your sexual partners were random and many. Inside you lurks an actor screaming to come out and meanwhile you’re having practice while naked. This is no-strings escapism.

VOYEURISM:

Sex while your bedroom blinds are open so your neighbours can watch. You like to be the centre of attention and when things get heated up you crave that attention more than ever – ‘all eyes on me’ kind of person. You also enjoy the power of arousing innocent by- slanders.

SPANKING:

Bent over a knee and spanked or paddles until your bum is real sore.’ Secretary’ is probably your favourite movie. You are highly critical of yourself and you want someone else to punish you.

ANAL:

You want to try the back door(anal). You’re unconventional, quirky and found ways to get pleasure from something new.

TIED UP:

You wish for someone to tie you up, tape, restrain you and relinquish all control. You want someone to tie you up and challenge your senses and trust; chances are you are a power-monger who is secretly looking to submit.

THREESOME:

You’re not intimidated by more numbers than two in the bedroom. You like to share and sharing species things up in the bedroom; be it either having another woman or another man all you want is the extra attention.

GOLDEN SHOWERS:

Literally you like to pee or be peed on. You’re not afraid and will try anything once.

UNIFORMS:

Being seduced by a man in uniform is an old favourite with the ladies. What is that about you ask… if you equate uniform with ‘authority’, and ‘take charge’ it becomes more obvious. You like to be rescued and seduced by a man who knows what he’s doing.

SWINGING:

You want to go to a swinger’s party and you shall. You like variety and you subscribe to ‘variety is the spice of life’ go on you’ll feel right at home in a swinger’s lifestyle.

You’ve both thought about it. You’re out shopping and you notice the way that top shows off your partners curves and you get that little flutter downstairs… so why not act on it? Now we’re not telling you to strip and bump one out by the registers at Coles but where there’s a will, there’s a way. Look for some out of the way restrooms, maybe a supply closet. Hell if you have to wander around and find a quiet corner behind a building or in an alleyway, the sexual heights attainable by a little public passion will be totally worth the risk.

Home movies

You know what’s hotter than watching people having sex on the telly? Watching yourself having sex on the telly. As the sex tape becomes more and more mainstream with A-List celebs doing publishing deals for their fornication films every other week, everyday folks are getting in on the fun.

Float the idea with your partner and discuss what might be fun, if there is a little concern about being recorded, set up a shot that won’t show your faces. As you get more comfortable with the idea and the sensation of seeing yourself and your lover in the throws of passion you may well gain in courage and become much more adventurous, opening a door to some very sexy cinema indeed!

Dirty Talk

Want to tip you lover over the edge? Well this is just about a lock when it comes to amping up the amour factor. For a few folks, some sexy gutter talk can be a huge part of foreplay, really heating things up. When you partner dispenses with the social protocol and let’s the animal take over, it says a lot about their attraction to you and what’s sexier than being wanted?

So for many some explicit foreplay is very effective. Other can be a little coy and will need to ease into the dirty verbals. In this situation the best bet is to wait until things are already cooking, when people are really in the physical moment there inhibitions can drop as their pleasure levels rise, this is when you might want to whisper a few naughty words in your partners ear and you take them over the top!

Facials

Well here’s a little sex act that doesn’t come up at the dinner table too often, and to be honest, that’s probably for the best. Under the heading facials, let’s look at any body part that receives the post orgasm ejaculate and there is some real-estate that has a no fly zone in effect much of the time.

After watching Ron Jeremy and the like paint their co-stars faces for years now, a lot of guys think it’s no big thing to aim and fire with reckless abandon; but while some women find it pleasurable to wear their man’s seed, many do not. So always discuss landing areas with your partner, for most the stomach, breasts arse and back etc are acceptable, maybe not all the time but they’re definitely within the rules of engagement. Anything above the neck is a conversation, or at least a sweaty request before the top blows off. Maybe come to a compromise and indulge in some sexy oral action in the shower, that way any deposits can be quickly washed away and the steamy location will make things hotter again!

Bondage

Who hasn’t tried handcuffs or tying your partner’s hands to the bed-head? If you haven’t you’re in the minority, and you’re missing out. The feeling of dominance and submission that can be experienced with a trusted partner can be nothing short of ecstatic and the places you can go after your initial forays into bondage are mind blowing. Just do a few online searches and you’ll find an incredible world of chips, dip, chains and whips – all just waiting for you and your significant other to take them home.

Bondage can really put some nitro into your foreplay, thus supercharging your sex play. The seduction of the ritual can make the skin almost ache, dressing your partner, lovingly restraining them and then pleasuring them in a bound and compromised state can take the intimacy between two people to amazing new places. Chat about the roles each would like to assume, and to add to the comfort levels, have a safety word, so if things get a little too heavy, the buckles and Velcro can be released for a quick breather.

Anal Sex

It’s the holy grail for a lot of guys, many don’t even know why; they just know that they really want it because for the most part they cant have it. As our modern sexuality is being discussed more and more the fact that a healthy percentage of women enjoy anal sex has become common knowledge so at the very least, a discussion on the subject should be a no brainer for couples.

If it is being attempted for the first time it’s a game of patience, start with a little rimming, and some light, lubricated finger play leading to insertion; keep talking with your partner ensuring his or her comfort. Eventually when both parties are ready and adequately lubricated, penetration can be attempted.

Go slow until you’ve got the go ahead for more throttle; initially anal sex takes a little more caution but with the nerve epicentre that resides in the anus, the pleasure that can be derived from this formerly taboo sexual act is well worth the patience.

Pornography

With modern pornography crossing further and further into the mainstream, adult movies are no longer watched exclusively by the trench-coat brigade. Today, adult stars like Jenna Jameson and Ron Jeremy can be see popping up in ads, reality series and Hollywood movies, thus, sexy films are finding their way into our bedrooms more and more.

So chat to your partner, see if you couldn’t jump start things now and then with a few sexy scenes. Today’s adult film productions are numerous and varied, what ever your tastes, you’ll find something to light your fires – films for couples, films for women, films for Argentinean dwarves… what ever you think will turn you on, it’s all there.

Give it a try… having sex while watching other have sex release the voyeur in us all, setting the scene for some mighty big pleasures.

Strip clubs

Strip joints are becoming a fun night out for couples or perhaps an intriguing book-end to a night spent out on the town. You been out for dinner, done a little dancing, had a few drinks… you’ve probably both got a bit of the Dutch courage on the go and the arousal levels are rising… it might be time for a Strip Club.

If you’ve ever been to a strip club, chances are you’ve seen couples there and the attraction they general get from the dancers. Having a lady on your arm or being said lady will separate you from the masses of lonely guys looking for a cheap grab and generally a good time will be had.

Sit together and watch each other flirt with the dancers, giving away those dollars. If thing are feeling really good, why not go together for a private lap dance, touch and feel each other while the dancers perform and heighten your pleasure. Bang!

Masturbation

Are you really into your partner? Imagine them, get a picture of them in your mind, now if they’re not already naked, get rid of their clothes. They just smile at you, slowly closing their eyes and gently running their hand over their bodies, slowly losing themselves in the thought of sex with you… Pretty hot right! Well why not bring that heat into the bedroom?

To shake things up a little now and then, mutual masturbation is a great break in pace and when both parties are in the right head space it can be an out and out winner.

The great thing about mutual masturbation is that each partner can move along at their own pace and simultaneous orgasm is reasonably easy to achieve, either sit looking at each other or lie next to each other, touching and feeling your partners movements and climaxes. Touching yourself has never been so much fun!

Fantasising

Unless you’re Brad or Angelina, likely hood is, you’re occasionally gonna think about nailing someone that is not your partner. We understand it’s not something you’d ever act on but there’s no point in fantasising a little right? Well while you have nothing to be ashamed of, neither does your partner so why not get things out in the open.

Ask about their fantasy crushes, who do they like and how could you incorporate that into your sex life. Maybe your girl would like to watch Johnny Depp films as you ride each other into sexual nirvana, or maybe your man might like to put that poster of Jessica Alba on the wall every now and then. The secret is not to get jealous, but rather take pleasure in the fact you’re helping your partner indulge in a fantasy, ultimately bringing them closer to you.