People in the swinging lifestyle come from all walks of life, careers, income levels, ethnic backgrounds, personalities and perspectives.

It is logical to assume then that there are a lot of different types of swingers;
Soft swap, Same Room Sex, Full Swap, Girl on Girl, Voyeurs/exhibitionists,
Kinksters, Role Playing/BDSM, Tight Schedule Swingers, Cuckold, Fetishists, Gang Bang, Ménage a Trois.

Some of these compliment each other and couples that are these types will have a great time together:
The Voyeur couples and the exhibitionist’s couple will most definitely enjoy each other. Great compatibility.
The Kinksters will find their perfect match with a BDSM couple; they can get up to a lot of mischief.
Couples looking for Same Room Sex are possibly compatible with couples seeking Girl on Girl play.
The Cuckold swinger couple would feel right at home with a Gang Bang or possibly with a Manage a Trois.
These are only a few examples.

Here are some tips for leading a successful swinging lifestyle.

1. The most important conversation to have is boundaries!

Be on the same page regarding what you want to do in a swinger sex session. Discuss your boundaries. It is extremely important to understand your wishes, wants and hopes for this lifestyle. Whether it is girl on girl, soft/full swap or a wild orgy. As you play and begin to build more trust and security, you’ll likely find that you relax those boundaries. It’s not cool to argue in front of others, they set out to have a good night, your short comings is not their fault.

2. Read thoroughly member profile descriptions!

Spend some time looking at the member’s profile to find the one you’d like to meet this weekend. However, go a bit deeper than looking at their pictures gallery only. Look at their sexual interests, fetish interests, and general interests, read section ‘in my own words’ and finally look at whether they’ve been verified. All these will give you a general idea of who and what they’re looking for.

3. Take time to write your sexual interests and revise them from time to time!

To avoid meeting someone with totally different expectations check that you have clearly stated what you are sexually looking for. What kind of swinger are you and whether you want to socialize a bit or go straight into it (Tight schedule Swinger). Remember there is no right or wrong only different kind of swingers with different kind of approaches trying to have fun. The very reason why profiles should clearly state interests and expectations is to increase success at swinging.

4. Use ‘DateFinder’ to cater for the mood or impulse on that day/night.

Another nifty feature on Redhotpie that will help in your ‘hunting’ success is DateFinder. There are days where our urges send us somewhere new. DateFinder lets you satisfy those on the moment urges. You’ll be surprised how many sexy horny people are up for some fun after coming back from a Fri night evening 🙂

Unless you are open to anything and nothing shocks or surprises you then dispense from reading any profile description. However, speaking for the general public it pays to know a bit more about your future date to ensure a happy and successful swinging lifestyle.

Let us hear of your awkward experiences in the swingers’ circle due to different expectations….

Or, why not check out what other members have to say on expectations in the member forums?
Expectations
Swinging vs Open Relationships