Over the last few days there has been a lot of media attention on Miranda Kerr’s move to pose naked for British GQ and her openness about her sexuality. Much like all of us Miranda Kerr is trying to explore her sexuality and in her own words says “ The older I get, the more confident I am about asking for things I enjoy”.

Of all the things that affect our sexual satisfaction, the most important element is sexual confidence. Sexual confidence is identifying exactly what you like and dislike, and having the confidence to express it.

Attaining sexual confidence is totally up to you; it is something you can work on. Here are a few tips:

Explore your body:
Find out what pleases you. Knowing what you want and what it takes to make you feel good will give you more confidence. Inevitably this will lead to more fun, which will give you more confidence with sex. The more you do it the better you are at it.

Be willing to get good at sex:
Good sex takes dedication and willingness. Find out what it is going to take you to like and accept yourself. Think yourself attractive; believe it and you’ll be more likely to feel good about yourself in bed. Know what makes you happy sexually. The willingness to surrender and immerse yourself in the interaction is powerful and sexy.

Discover your fantasies:
Try masturbation to discover where and how you like to be touched. Masturbation also might unearth exciting scenarios that you might want to try out in real life.

Role-play:
Experiment with your partner, try role-play scenarios and break out of your comfort zone. Ask for certain sex acts; don’t wait for it to happen. Be sexually adventurous nothing spells confidence than having the eagerness and the creativity to try something new and risky. It ads new dimension to your relationship and helps you gain insight to a new side of your sexual repertoire.

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Get a makeover, including hair, make-up. Find the right lingerie that is going to make you feel sexy. Choose an outfit that flaunts the favourite part of your figure and you’ll feel more confident all day. Begin an exercise program to get that toned body to give you extra confidence when you’re naked or when you’re in bed, research shows that exercise boosts your body image.

Sex, is meant to be enjoyed and there are not real rules governing what is good sex. Everyone has their own personal take on what constitutes good sex. Knowing what you like and dislike provides a means to ensure that you and whoever else is involved have great sex every time.

Sexual confidence in one of those things that you can’t just get, you have to work at it. Once you gain the confidence your wild sexual dreams and desires are a stone throw away. Sexually confident people feel comfortable initiating sex and have no qualms about letting you know about their needs and desires.

Most sexually confident people started out with little or no confidence and as time passes they attain sexual confidence by taking responsibility of they own pleasure.

True sexual confidence – relaxed, willing to learn about self and others, ready for what is needed, happy to take charge, and not fazed by either failure or rejection- a person who is able to both give and receive with equal pleasure.

Have you got a tip for gaining sexual confidence? Please let us know?