It’s the hottest place in town, if your town is Sydney that is! But it’s gaining a reputation around Australia as one of the country’s premiere adult venues. When you speak to owner/operator, Lawrence, it’s clear that Sydney’s, Our Secret Spot swinger’s club has rise to prominence has not been an accident. During a recent chat with RedHotPie, Lawrence outlined his own history and that of Our Secret Spot.

RHP – How did you get into the scene?

Lawrence – I got into the swinging scene a few years back with a former partner. The thought of introducing other people into our bedroom play had been with us for many years. So, I guess we had a predisposition to the lifestyle already. One particular day we were both feeling particularly horny and sexy so I proposed the idea of getting an erotic massage together. My partner jumped at the idea. We looked up some websites, found an establishment that welcomed couples and off we went. It was such an erotic experience. We spoke about it for weeks. Then one day while I was at work, I got an email from her with all these links to swinger dating sites and Red Hot Pie was one of them. We ummed and arrrd for a day or two deciding on our rules and on the day before News Years Eve we created a profile. By the 31st of December, we had messages from quite a few hot and sexy couples. We were surprised a bit actually. On New Years Day we set up a meet and off we went. We dove straight in and had a blast. This was truly a game changer. Now with my current partner, we both have played in the lifestyle previously to being in a relationship with each other. It was an easy transition for us to open our relationship to swinging. My partner now helps me run the club week to week.

How did you go from someone interested in the lifestyle, to opening your own venue?

My level of interest in the lifestyle is more than simple interest. It was becoming a very big part of my life. It became more than just getting to have sex with people outside of my relationship. I wanted to absorb all I could. I bought and read books about the lifestyle. I listened to podcasts that gave great perspective about swinging from all over the world in an up to date fashion. I wanted to know everyone’s thoughts on the subject. I wanted to educate people and couples. I truly feel that the current paradigm of a monogamous relationship is inherently flawed and for most people unrealistic, whether they like to admit it or not. This lifestyle was truly scratching the itches I had on every level. My partner and I hosted house parties for a small group of couples that we all knew and got along with, plus we had blast organising them. I’ve had ambition of getting into business for myself, so I thought what better way to start than to work on something that I am passionate about. We had been to venues in Australia and overseas. We like some whilst others left much more to be desired. In Sydney especially I didn’t feel there was somewhere nice to go. Places may have served their function but the niceties were missing. This is what pushed me over the edge work hard toward creating my own club. The ambition for the club is to not just to be a place for couples to come live out their fantasies and just have sex, but also provide education about the lifestyle as well as other things, an erotic massage workshop for example.

When did Our Secret Spot open?

Our Secret Spot opened 1st March 2014, Mardi Gras night. It was a huge opening and we were caught off guard a bit with how to manage that many people. Goes to show how hungry Sydney siders were for a new club. We’ve been making adjustments based on feedback and going from strength to strength.

If you had to surmise the primary goal of the business, what would it be?

The primary goal of the business is to provide couples fantastic and memorable experiences in a venue that is erotic, safe and clean.

The club has quickly gained an excellent reputation, what makes it the best venue in Sydney?

Thank you for saying so. We are the best venue in Sydney for a number of reasons. One of the biggest reasons, I think, comes from our attention to detail. We spend a lot of time and money into creating something other than run of the mill. We make sure the club looks amazing for every guest and is super clean. This is most reflected in the feedback we get most from our guests, especially the couples that visit us for the first time. Another reason is we go to great lengths to make sure the venues isn’t sleazy and off putting to first-timers or couples new to the club environment. First impressions count and we are acutely aware of this. Additionally, we take great pride in the excellent customer service we provide. All the staff are friendly, welcoming and always available to answer any questions our guests have. We like to give first timers a tour of the venue and explain basic house rules. It’s all these little things and more that go toward creating the best swingers club in Sydney.

Who is the club catering to?

Our Secret Spot caters predominantly to couples looking for an alternative venue to come and party. These couples can be newbies to the whole lifestyle, seasoned pros, or perhaps they simply just enjoy coming along to socialise in an open-minded environment. There is absolutely no pressure to do anything you do not want to and we encourage couples that attend to be open and clear in their communication with us and others. Whether you want to play, want to watch, be watched, or have a sexy flirt with others in a safe environment it’s completely up to you. We love seeing couples who are well presented and are eager for a great night out. If you’re nervous, tell us. We can chat with you and can facilitate introductions if you’re unsure and you will quickly see that all our guest are super friendly and just as keen as you to enjoy themselves.

Do you have a lot of newcomers to the scene?

Yes, quite a few newcomers to the scene come to Our Secret Spot. We hold a monthly newbie Fridays party which we encourage all newcomers to come along and experience the club. Of course, newcomers are welcome any other night too. We put a lot of effort into getting our name out there and as such, we generate a lot of interest with couples who may have talked about it before but never made the plunge. Our advertising and visual appeal plays a big factor in attracting newcomers because it openly shows what they can expect when coming to Our Secret Spot.

Is Our Secret Spot a good place for people who have met on RedHotPie and to take things to the next level?

Our Secret Spot is a fantastic way for couples and singles who originally met on RedHotPie to take things to the next level. Not everyone can host their own rendezvous at their home. Whilst meeting at regular bar or club can be good to get to know a couple, it can be frustrating when you have nowhere to take the rest of the party? Hiring a hotel room can become quite expensive and then comes the issue of working out who pays, and who’s credit card gets used to book the room etc. etc. Not to mention what you do at that awkward moment if you find you aren’t a match for each other and need to go your separate ways. Coming to Our Secret Spot take all this angst out of the equation. It’s a venue that is set up for meeting new people and taking things to the next level IF you feel so inclined. It’s a neutral playing ground for both parties and offers comfort and security. The cost of entry to club is far cheaper than booking a hotel and all you could possibly need is at the club. Plus, if you find out you aren’t a match with the people you came to meet, there are plenty of other lovely couples to mingle with, giving you more options and thus reducing the chance of spoiling a night out that you’re been looking forward to.

A lot of private party organisers are using Our Secret Spot as their after-party venue, why is that?

We believe that we need to work with others in order to make this life style bigger and better. Spreading the word is key for us. Private Party organisers like using Our Secret Spot to host their parties and after-parties because we offer an all-inclusive service. An organiser can approach us, pitch their theme and we will work with them to make their party idea a reality. It lightens their workload because the venue is setup for these parties. Depending on the numbers the are bringing we can even close the club to exclusively host their party. By doing this they can hold a much bigger party than they would be able to at their own home or hotel. So all you have to do is turn up, your guests will be looked after by our staff and you’re free to enjoy your own party. Once it’s over simply say goodbye to your guest and we’ll look after everything else. Cleaning now does not become a nightmare you have to deal with after all the fun.

Is your club female friendly?

Our Secret Spot is absolutely female friendly. When creating the club and deciding on décor and alike, every decision first asked was would a women like this? If the answer was no then it wouldn’t be used. We have female staff on hand to speak with and to be of comfort to women who may be nervous about the whole thing. We make sure everything is perfect so the women can relax which in turns helps with sexy vibe!

If a couple are looking for a third, be it guy or girl, can they find that at Our Secret Spot?

Looking for a third to join in a couple’s play happens so easily at Our Secret Spot. Single women often frequent the club and as we are gaining a fantastic reputation more and more are coming each week. If a couple were after an extra gent to join them, the best night would be a Sunday evening. This is the only time we allow unaccompanied men to come to the club, provided they’ve been to the club before. Alternatively, a couple can bring along an extra gent with them. These rules are in place so that we, as the staff, can be confident that each and every single guy at least understands the dynamic of a swingers club and the acceptable behaviours that go along with that.

What’s the hottest scene you’ve witnessed at the club?

I have witnessed many hot scenes at the club. One of the most recent hot scenes I’ve witnessed at the club was our shackle room was filled with 4 couples. Two couples were on the bed and both were doing doggy style with both women still having their stilettos on (personal favourite of mine). Another couple was on the sofa while the guy was receiving a blowjob. The last couple was simple watching all the action while the guy was giving hand relief to the women. It was a remarkable sight. The pure freedom of sexuality and openness of that scene is what makes running the club worth it.

What’s the future hold for Our Secret Spot?

The future for Our Secret Spot is bright. We love our club but we know there is always room for improvement. We want couples know this is only phase one of the club. We have plans to expand the club itself and make it even bigger with huge open spaces for all the hot couples that come every week. Our goals is the have a multi-storied venue that spreads across a couple of property blocks where we can house a complete and un-rivaled venue that will be more than just a swingers club, it will be an emporium of music, dancing, flirting and sexuality! With the continuous support of the couples that come this will quickly become a reality. We want to keep it fun and fresh for newcomers and regulars alike.

For more information on Our Secret Spot, visit their website at www.oursecretspot.com.au/

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