The team at RHP often receives e-mails from members who have questioned why (after spending a lot of time writing well thought out messages to fellow members) they were not receiving a significant number of responses back. Many asked why people couldn’t at least send a quick reply back to say ‘Thanks, but no thanks’, even if they didn’t feel that the contact would lead to anything fruitful. Indeed, the RHP team can’t agree more, but unfortunately no one can police the manners of our sexy adult members. Instead, we bring you an insight into why things don’t quite work out the way we would like in the online meeting game. We’ll also give you some hints on how you can get what you want out of the RHP community, and hopefully encourage everyone to adopt a friendly and positive attitude that will benefit all members in the long run.

Writing to Mr/Ms Popular

The most probable reason why you may not be getting an immediate reply from a member to whom you’ve written is due to that member’s general popularity. Needless to say, it is often a single female’s profile that receives the most interest from RHP members, particularly if she has listed herself as looking for single men and/or couples. We have had quite a few ladies write in to RHP requesting that we temporarily turn off their profiles due to receiving an avalanche of replies. One female member said that she received nearly one hundred messages in the first week of listing her profile on RHP. Understandably, it wasn’t possible for this member to reply to all messages in a timely manner, and she ended up only answering members who best suited what she was looking for.
Obviously, this situation would have left a lot of members wondering if they had written to someone who was genuine in their intentions, or even real. Ultimately, there really isn’t much you can do if this is indeed the reason why you are not receiving a reply from a member. However, if you are pretty keen to establish contact with a particular member, you can always send a follow-up message after a while, once the member may have recovered from the first wave of interest that usually accompanies a new profile listing on RHP. After all, there’s always second time lucky.

Hello? Is anyone home?

You may have sent a couple of messages to a particular member with no luck whatsoever. In this case, you have to consider the fact that the member you have written to may be a little too preoccupied with life to send back replies right away. Some people would label this indifference to getting back to people who took the time to write as being plain rude, but the sad fact of the matter is, not everyone is able to dedicate regular time to check their messages. Many members have families, jobs and other distractions that prevent them from enjoying quality time on the Internet. Furthermore, many people do not have regular and ready access to a PC, even if they did want to reply back to messages right away. With that in mind, do make concessions for such circumstances, and do make a note of when a member last visited RHP. This should give you an indication of how often that member logs into RHP to check out profiles and messages.

Are you what they want?

If you are knowingly or unknowingly writing to a member who is not looking for what you have to offer, then you can’t blame them for not replying to your message. A patient member may do you the courtesy of replying back politely to tell you that you are not what he/she is looking for, but many people don’t necessarily have that level of patience and conscientiousness. Little wonder if you consider the situation of single women who receive numerous messages from single males, even though their profiles specifically say that they are not looking for men, and that they will NOT reply to messages from men. Couples should also consider if sexual orientations and preferences are compatible with the member to which they have written. It is certainly a good idea to read member profiles carefully before replying to avoid frustration. Conversely, the RHP team highly encourages all our members to put an effort into their profiles. It may be a daunting task at registration, but members are always welcome to modify their profile to get the most out of their membership.

The Copy and Paste Brigade

Time is money these days, and few people feel they have the time to write a custom message to each member that strikes their fancy. As a result, many people resort to composing a standard message template and proceed to send the same message to as many people as possible. Surely there’s nothing wrong with that? There certainly isn’t, but on the other hand, how special does that make someone feel? While not all members may be as fussy as others, most people are probably more inclined to reply to a message that at least sounds like you’ve specifically shown some interest in that person. You can by all means have a standard reply template to make your life easier, but you may want to add some personal details to the template, such as acknowledging the member’s profile pictures, or some sexy interest that he/she has mentioned.
Oh, and yes, we appreciate that you’re not here on RHP to woo a marriage partner, but showing genuine interest in the person you are writing to does go a long way. It lets people know that you’re willing to put an effort into everything you do, online and offline 😉    Adults Only

One Sentence Wonder

If you have sent a one or two sentence reply to someone’s profile, you really can’t expect more than that in response. Writing, “Hi, would like to meet you for a fun time”, doesn’t really give people the impression that you know what a fun time actually entails. Sex, like flour, is just a basic ingredient, and you need far more than that to make a good and tempting cake. Do you enjoy spas and candles? Sun and surf? If you have a specific interest, do try and incorporate that into your proposal.
Also, if you do not have a lot of information in your RHP profile, your message is really going to have to have some impact. Otherwise, it’s the person who you have written to that has to make an effort to find out more about you, and if you’re targeting a member who is most likely receiving a truckload of messages, they are simply not going to bother. Of course, there is certainly wisdom in leaving an air of seductive mystery in your profile and messages, but your aim should be to present a mystery that will tempt people into unraveling.

Netiquette Tips

1. Where possible, DO try to reply back to messages. You can just simply let people know that you are currently too busy to meet new friends, or that you don’t believe that you are compatible with the member. You won’t offend anyone if you are subtle with your honesty.
2. Do make use of the Auto-Reply feature on RHP to let people know that you may not be able to reply right away or to remind them that you only intend to reply to people who have pictures on their profiles, or other such details.
3. Be precise about what sort of people you would like to meet in your profile. If you are after a particular age group or sexual orientation, then do specify your preferences in your profile.
4. Be friendly and polite in your messages to members. Add something that will make your message stand out from the rest to better your chances of getting a reply back.
5. If you don’t receive a reply from a member or receive a ‘no thanks’ reply from a member, do take it graciously. We do not tolerate abusive, flame wars between members at RHP and anyone who receives nasty replies should contact the RHP team.RHP has built a community where sexy, like-minded people have the opportunity to make their wildest, fantasies come true. So that everyone’s RHP experience is a pleasant one, we are committed to encouraging a positive and respectful atmosphere where our members can feel comfortable about exploring their sexuality. We wish everyone a fun and exciting journey to whatever it is that they are looking for.