Before you can expect to have a fantastic session of sex, you need to be completely focussed on your own pleasure and that of your partner’s (if you have one). First, it’s important to put your mind at ease and get into the mood for sex. You need to clear your mind and focus on what you’re about to receive — your pleasure. Take your phone off the hook and make time for yourself. Whether you’re alone or with a sexual partner, sex is sex. Masturbation or self-pleasuring is a sexual outlet in its own right and it should be enjoyed fully if a sexy playmate is not about. Most of these following tips are for couples, but you can follow them alone as well. Set the mood Start with sensual time, either alone or with him or her. Run a bath and light candles while pouring in your favourite bubble bath and scent. Use aromatherapy oils to stimulate your mood and relax your body, mind and spirit. Put relaxing and romantic music on, set aside some soothing body lotion or oils and sink into the warmth of the water and relax. If your lover is with you, even better. This is a terrific way to relax together and get into the mood for sex. You might scrub each other’s backs or start a sensual masssage to allow those tight muscles to loosen and to get your heads into gear for the delicious road ahead. Couples often find that there really is nothing to match a massage for letting go and relaxing together. Take turns to give and receive massage, softly, firmly, gently, slowly, to produce even more relaxation. Remember that great sex usually only occurs with relaxed bodies, so take the time to unwind and prepare yourself.

Work on foreplay
Many women need to have their breasts or nipples touched to become aroused. Have your lover include this in your prelude to sex and to ignite your energies. Most women find that they need to be kissed before feeling sexual. Perhaps that’s because for some women kissing feels more intimate than sexual intercourse and turns on the emotional fountain. In some ancient lovemaking traditions, passionate kissing is carried out only with those you truly love and trust. So get him to breathe into your breathing rhythm with you while you explore each other’s mouths. Learn to look into each other’s eyes for that connection while you penetrate and probe the mouth with your tongue and breath. If your man is an ’air kisser,’ teach him how to really kiss.
Oral sex is a valid sexual exchange, of course. But for most women it is not foreplay, whatever their male partners may say. Most women require foreplay in a variety of ways such as deep kissing, passionate breathing together, eye contact while caressing and being caressed, massage and fondling, licking and sucking of breasts and nipples. But oral sex is another level for most women.

Know your bits

All women and men should spend time learning about their own anatomy. By sitting naked in front of a mirror and visually exploring your genital region, you will find answers to your questions about how you look and maybe how and why you do or don’t work to your sexual capacity.

Find your hot spots

There are three possible areas for penetration and stimulation, not counting the mouth: the G-spot, vagina and anus. Probing and rubbing inside the first third of the vagina, using hand, penis or vibrator, can bring a G-spot orgasm that produces the heights of enjoyment. Try toys that appeal to you and pick those that work for your particular style and wants. Some women need more direct or indirect clitoral stimulation while he’s inside, while others need their partners to lick them to their zenith while having a finger or vibrating internal rod probing deeply. Some women’s excitement grows with a finger or vibrator in their anus.
Only you and your partner will know what does the trick. Each couple have their own manner of sexual expression, sharing loving feelings and lustful ones, and intermingling bodies. Find your own sexual style and then add to it.

The path to multiple orgasms in women includes all the preparatory phases to getting in the mood, following your natural sexual response patterns and then pushing through to the next level. Clear your mind, open your emotions, learn how to play the body like a musical instrument and trust yourself and your lover to transcend the first pop and then keep going. To find the multiple-orgasm level in you, let go, push past where you have left off before and bring your lover along to enjoy the ride.