Are you too afraid to approach a guy when you are out? Although you are above average, you still feel shy and nervous when you want to approach a guy, especially if he’s in a group. How do you approach a guy you like, here are a few tips.
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1. When approaching a group
This is probably the hardest approach but doable. When approaching someone in a group, it’s important to remember that you need to engage everyone in the group and not single one person out immediately. In time then start flirting with the one you are interested in and be more direct.
2. Bring your girlfriend along
If you have a girlfriend that is good at conversation starters, ice breaker and good at introducing people, bring her along. Once you have your foot in then it’s easier to talk to the one you are interested in.
3.Bring up some excuse to talk to him
When all else seems too hard, bring some excuse or topic to talk to him – work, class, sports, etc. Then transition to a more personal conversation level. At this stage, do not bring out your mobile phone, put it away! Maintain eye to eye contact and be flirty and attractive, you do want his eyes on you paying attention. You want him to know that you are interested in him.
4. Don’t be afraid to be flirty
Want your approach to be successful? Then do be flirty with the guy, it signals from the start that you that you don’t want to be put in the female friend-zone. Pay him compliments that are complimentary at all times and avoid the critical type as they can kill all your chances of enchanting him. Compliment him, but not with the usual girly compliments girls offer each other, guys will miss the point altogether. Want your target of interest to be crystal clear you are into him? Compliment his face, his body or any assets that you genuinely like. Communicating your interest can be signalled by touching him, just simply touching his arm in conversation, guys notice that.
5. Seal the deal
Want to leave him with the impression that you are seriously interested in him, that this was not just a flirty night and leave it at that?
One explicit way is to offer him your phone number before he even asks you. Yeah, bold that clear, and ask him for his number too. Then ask him for a DATE, use the word date and do it in person, not over a text or Facebook, strike when it counts. Later he might read it as a friendly meet up or totally miss the point and not even respond.
If you do want him right now. Try to get him alone, suggest that you want to go somewhere quiet to talk. If you feel that you want to go further, suggest you share a Uber together and ask him over to yours for a drink.
If you are the shy type, then you can mention cool upcoming events – new movies, concerts, cool bar openings, and so on. Eventually, one will catch his attention and continue to suggest you could go together. Once he responds with a ‘yeah’, continue with ‘Let’s go together on Saturday at 7 pm.’ There you have it, you got a date!
In general, warm up to the guy you like and then it’ll feel easier for him to say YES when you ask him out. It’ll give him time to make the whole situation feel natural. When approaching a guy you like, remember to be direct and flirty.
