How many times have you stopped short of doing the dirty on a first date, even if you felt like ripping off each other’s clothes and thrashing around on the floor? Taking it slowly or jumping in head first is something both sides of the male and female fence have to consider when out in the big wide world of dating and sexy encounters.

For women, sometimes the stigma of being labelled the dreaded s-l-u-t word can mean that all too often a sexual encounter that seems mutually agreeable might be missed. For many women the primal urges kick in and after what may have been an enjoyable romp, it can quickly turn into regret and a ‘wish I had taken things slowly’ type feeling. But women still want to get off and sometimes the lure of flesh on flesh is all too titillating and who needs regrets?

Guys have to contemplate whether or not to be the sweet guy or the stud, and as we know guys aren’t always known for their knack of gauging a situation and following instincts. It all depends on the circumstances and of course the person, but what is better…the sweet guy or girl or the stud/slut?

Sometimes as we all know it’s better to play it cool and take things slow, but when libidos are in full swing; taking it slow can quickly take a back seat to passion. The best thing to do is ask yourself ‘what do I want?’ And be honest about it. If you’re happy having lots of fun in the sack with whoever you like and whenever you like, then it probably isn’t an issue whether or not you jump straight in or just sit back and cruise. But if you are seeking a more casual meeting with someone, or to pick up a regular sex partner with view to even a relationship, then maybe holding your horses, so to speak, is the better option.

Having said that, some of the longest and strongest relationships I’ve noted amongst friends have sprung from first date sexual escapades so holding back isn’t always necessary. But when you take things slowly and build up some of that old fashioned sexual tension, things can explode when you finally get around to doing the wild thing. And when you have spent more than a few possible drunken hours with a person, you will get to know more about how they will prefer to make love. Once you know the way to impress you can get in there and show ‘em what you’re made of.

When all is said and done you have to do what feels right, at that time, with that person and live for the moment. There is a whole world of different relationship dynamics out there and if you want a new one each night or prefer to wake up with that special someone every morning, then RedHotPie will be here to help introduce you to that next someone. And don’t forget, practice makes perfect so have a whole lot of fun working out if going slow or fast works best for you.