Researchers at University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario studied 229 couples with an average relationship of six years, aged 18 to 68, who reported having sex an average of one to two times a week.

The couples documented their general sexual desire, perception of their partner’s sexual desire, and their satisfaction with their relationship via journal over the course of three weeks, or went into the lab and reported those same factors in person.

Researchers found that, on a regular basis, men significantly under-perceived the degree of their female partners’ sexual desire, while women consistently made accurate judgments about how much their male partners wanted sex.

What is interesting though, is that among the couples who kept a journal for the study, women rated their relationship satisfaction higher on days when their lover didn’t realise they were horny, suggesting men are better boyfriends when they can’t tell whether she’s in the mood or not.

In other words, a man will try harder to please his female partner if he thinks she’s not responding to his advances, which keeps him from taking the relationship for granted and getting lazy. Another likely explanation for male sexual under-perception might be fear of rejection. This last one makes sense as fear of rejection is one of the strongest human fear. By just not initiating sex, he’s preserving his ego.

However, men aren’t the only ones to blame for this false perception. Often, women aren’t as overt in their advances for sex, or may be embarrassed to ask for sex, which might be a reason why men have trouble gauging their interest.

This study suggests then that the concept of sex drive is moulded mostly by sociocultural forces. High time that we throw away the assumption that women are going to be the lower-desire partner.

How do we stop this from continuing to happen?

There is a simple solution to all this!!

As we all know the key to any successful sexual relationship, long or short term, is clear and open communication. In addition, to communicating your desires, learn each others turn-ons especially when you are trying to initiate sex.

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As we all know, not all orgasms are equal! Some feel more intense and vibrate through your entire body, while some feel short and shallow. If you are constantly hunting for that ultimate orgasm, then maybe edging might be for you.

Edging will create a deeper bond in your relationship, as ultimately, the best sex is when both partners experience an intense orgasm at the same time. Edging will sync your orgasms and allow you both the euphoric feeling of what sex should be for both partners.

Edging can also make you a more skilled-lover by deliberately pushing off your immediate orgasm in favour of a more female partner orgasm.
The majority of women need at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to climax.  If you continually reach orgasm much faster than she does, edging will definitely help you slow you down

But remember not everybody wants a super-long sex session every time, so the time of the sex session should be adapted to suit you as a couple.

One final note, unless you are using edging as part of a dominance or submission play, it’s important that it’s done intentionally and not accidentally. Nearing climax and then not reaching it can be frustrating and prevent a woman or man from making it back to that moment. But with full disclosure, time and patience, the ever-increasing sensation and blood flow eventually lead to an over-the-top mind-blowing orgasm for both.

With that said, edging is not for everyone. Some people find it frustrating. This may be the case if backing off from orgasm causes you to miss that window of opportunity, only to lose your orgasm during the session completely. Everybody is different, which is why it’s so important to pay attention to your body and know what works best for you.

Edging will work best when you know your body’s response to sexual stimulation. It’s not enough to feel the approach of orgasm; you have to know when you’re getting past the point of no return. That’s why it’s important that you try edging first on your own while masturbating and then with your partner.

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