Whatever the situation might be, you’ve found yourself in a man’s home. Maybe you’ve been on a successful date and you’ve made it back to his place. If you both play your cards right, it might be a one-way ticket to bang-town. Here are 10 Red Flags in his home that indicate you should walk right back out the door.

1. Clothes all over the floor or bed.

How am I supposed to get jiggy while surrounded by your dirty socks? That’s NASTY. This show that they seemingly can’t set in place a hierarchy of priorities for organising their life. If they haven’t taken a few moments to at least hide their mess to impress you, it might be an indicator that they won’t make much effort in the rest of their life either.

2. Piles of dirty dishes (bonus points for mould)

A few dirty dishes is acceptable, we know you’re not a robot. But if you’ve planned to have a lady at your place, and there is a weeks’ (or more!) worth of dishes piled in your kitchen (or worse, through the rest of the house) this illustrates that you can’t look after yourself properly. If there is mouldy or smelly food, that’s when it moves from ‘gross’, to ‘health hazard’.

3. A bad smell

If your house smells, I am OUT. Where is it coming from? Did something die in here? Have you not taken out the trash in a month? Stop.

4. Bed with no cover/stains

An un-unmade bed can be forgiven, however, if you’ve got super old or dirty pillows, just a doona/duvet with no cover, possibly stained. Crumbs or food in the bed are an additional warning bell. You don’t want to be picking food out of your hair after a love-making session. If there are used tissues or crusty socks in there, RUN.

It doesn’t cost much to grab a nice cover for your bed from Kmart or target.

5. Decor

Things like:

No lamps: Come on, we need some mood lighting here.

Not a single book in the house: To quote John Waters: ‘If you go home with somebody and they don’t have books, don’t f*ck them’.

Posters of naked women: Is this a teenage boy’s room? Blu-tacked posters of extremely photoshopped women with fake tits do not make me feel sexy or inclined to have sex with you. Get some art.

6. Signs of pet neglect

This can include things such as:

Unclean litter boxes

Matted fur

Smell of urine

Fur everywhere

Pet faeces

This is not only a red flag for the house but a red flag for the poor neglected animal. Anyone who cannot look after their own pet definitely does not have their priorities in order.

7. Dirty toilet

Gross. No. Gross. No. This shows a lack of general hygiene and cleanliness.

8. Stains

What is that mystery stain? Is it coffee, is it faeces? I am not sure that I want to know, but it still shouldn’t be there!

9. Any signs of Hoarding

Can you hear that? That’s the sound of alarm bells ringing! Hoarders have some real problems that need addressing. If he has piles and piles of seemingly pointless ‘stuff’ and mess, this can be an indicator of some underlying issues. NOTE that collectibles are not hoarding, they are hobbies.

10. A whole bunch of fast food wrappers.

Even the best of us can be partial to the occasional 2 am Maccas run. But weeks or months’ worth of fast food wrappers are alarming. Can this man feed himself? Does he know where his bin is? Has he ever eaten a vegetable?

A good rule of thumb: Is there anything in his home that makes you ask: ‘Am I going to be murdered in this house?’

GREEN LIGHTS (You know, the opposite of red flags)

House Plants.

Candles.

Clean towels (and more than one).

Dirty laundry that is in a basket/hamper.

Well cared for pets.

Fruit and Veg in the fridge (that aren’t floppy or mouldy).

Art on the walls.

The bar has not been raised particularly high here lads. Go to Kmart, spend $50 and impress all the ladies you bring home!

Before we go on, we need to establish the difference between the ‘nice guy’ and an actual genuine nice guy. A genuinely nice guy is a kind man, a man women actually love, and not a wannabe ‘ nice guy’ who acts vulnerable and spends his time kissing the ass of his love interest. Everyone hates that ‘nice guy’.

This type of nice guy is just a shallow being who acts weak and clingy to get into a girl’s pants. He tries to overcompensate for his shortcomings by being excessively attentive to a woman’s every whim without being asked to do so. By being this way, he thinks his fake thoughtfulness will get him out of the friendzone and straight into her panties, but sadly, it always backfires.

On the other hand, men who are genuinely good, kind and nice, women adore and are into.

Nice guys, the guy creating the illusion of kindness and vulnerability just to get laid, do NOT actually get laid. Girls can smell their fake stench which is a massive turn off.

when people complain about being in the "friendzone" this is what they actually mean pic.twitter.com/THGB06xcau

— millennial of manila (@MillennialOfMNL) October 12, 2017

Two separate studies have found that genuine nice guys have way more sex than everyone else. One study found that selfless people have more sex. Basically, people who help others are more desirable – ‘If you want to get a little, you should try giving a little.’.

Apparently, all the hunnies out there dig selfless, emotionally available men. Not selfish, needy and creepy ‘nice guys’.

For a more detailed look at the data analysis, check out this Psych2Go video that explains why nice guys have more sex:

If you find yourself in the friendzone, do something that will work, get the heck out of there. Whatever you do, don’t try to be her best friend because you are being insincere and she’ll never take you seriously. Go to the gym, groom yourself and genuinely be a nice person.

To wrap things up, don’t be a nice guy. It will get you nowhere. Instead, be a kind guy. That will take you places.

H/T  The Independent

The old-fashioned code of ‘wait till the third date’ is an archaic notion, not suited to today’s dating world.

Related reading: How to nail your first date

Let’s be realistic, why date? Is it not to find a new partner you want to be intimate with? Of course, there are also all the other relationship factors, but sexual compatibility is a big deal. In many cases, it’s the deal breaker when libidos and compatibility are out of sync.

So why not find out straight from the beginning if you have matching libidos, or are truly compatible? That said, this should also not be the rule of thumb, do and act the way that you feel more comfortable. If sleeping with your new date on the first date is something you are comfortable doing, then just do so. If not, go at your own pace. In dating, there is no one-fits-all approach.

If your date ends in a healthy romp, here are 6 reasons why first date sex is a good idea:

1. Find out what you are working with

Now that you know your new date is funny and likes a lot of things you do. Let’s find out if you are compatible in the bedroom.
Yes, sometimes your first intimate encounter is not the best, but at least you get some idea what to work with. Absolutely go for second and third rounds and if there was no improvement and your buttons haven’t been pressed the way you like it. Time to make a few reassessments.

2. Check their boudoir

There so much you can learn about your first date just by walking into their bedroom. Are they messy or tidy? Do they have good taste in furniture and home decor? Do they have a nice bathroom with nice shampoo and a clean toothbrush just for you? How about snacks, yeah, after a good roll in the hay you are going to get hungry. All of these small but important details matter. Did you find yourself a keeper?

3. Moment of truth

First dates can be really awkward. Once you get naked and all the truth lays there for all to see, you can finally relax and just be yourself. And if they didn’t run the moment they saw you naked means they like you through and through. Since you are both letting your guards down, it’s a great time to judge whether you like this person for who they really are.

4. Drop the game

The good thing about getting intimate on your first date is that all the ‘courting’ games come to an end. The weird, awkward phase is out of the way and you are comfortable being naked. With the games out of the way, the subsequent meets will only get better. If both of you had fun, you might have found someone for a possible relationship or a f*ck buddy. Either way, it’s you’re winning.

5. Sometimes it blows in your face

Sometimes, you have to deal all too soon with the inevitable incompatibility. Hard but better early than numerous dates later. Ghosting is a modern dating thing that unfortunately happens. These people make you wait and make you doubt yourself, but the flip side to this is – at least you know they are not the ones for you.

6. It’s good for your health

Sex feels good and is good for you. So don’t beat yourself about it. Whether you had sex on a first date or a few dates later, making yourself feel good is nothing to feel ashamed of.

No matter how it all turns out in the long run, what matters is that you wanted to do this in the first place. Being intimate with someone on the first date is definitely a good idea.

Since questions on this topic are so common, and answers to them really are hard to find, sex researcher Dr Justin Lehmiller set out to answer them.

Here are answers to at least 5 of the most common questions about penis size as answered by science.

Hoping your questions are answered below:

1. What’s the average penis size?

It is impossible to definitively say what the average penis size is, there has been little to no research on the topic. Lehmiller, however, found some scientific literature that analysed the size of over 15,000 penises from around the world and found that the average penis size when erect is:
Length 5.2 inches

Width 1.5 inches

If you’ve been worried that you’re smaller than average, hopefully, this puts your mind at ease.

2. Are there racial differences in penis size?

Once again, because there isn’t much research on penis size and how it varies between races it’s hard to say. Based on the above mentioned scientific research on penis size, it didn’t find any racial differences. In other words, it would seem as though most penises are pretty similar around the globe.

Those racial stereotypical beliefs are just a myth, race is not an indication of how much you’re packing.

3. Can you tell the size of a man’s penis from the size of his shoes?

We all heard the saying “You know what they say about guys with big feet…” but is there any truth to it?

According to a study in 2002, the answer is no. You cannot tell how big a man’s penis is based on how big his feet are. So, even dudes with tiny feet can have an impressive schlong.

But wait for it, because this might be unexpected!

There is some statistical correlation between the size of your manhood and your height, so, it looks like you can kinda tell how well-endowed a dude is by his height. Yay, to being tall.

4. Do women think bigger is better?

It really comes down to taste. Bigger, for some women is not always better.

Several studies have proven that the majority of women are totally satisfied with the size of their partner’s penis. Regardless if it’s on the smaller side or pretty big.

Plus, another study found that penis size makes literally no difference in sexual satisfaction in women.  More to the point, when women were asked what penis size is best, women tend to pick an average size penis instead of a big one.

All that said, some women prefer big boys when they are in the mood for visual gratification or that is just their preference. Everyone is different.

5. How can I make my penis bigger?

There are all kinds of gimmicks out there in the market, and according to Justin Lehmiller, they don’t work.

So invest your efforts in something that does work. Know what works for women, what makes them orgasm. Whether your well-endowed or lacking in the trouser department, what matters is that you pay attention to your partner’s pleasure and size then doesn’t really matter.

The truth of the matter is that the penis size is only one small piece of the sexual equation.

There’s much more to satisfying relationship and sexual confidence than the size of a penis…. Or is there?

What are your thoughts? Does penis size matter to you? Or is it all relative?

Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below. 

H/T: Lehmiller

Why not remind yourself how awesomely pleasurable life can be the instant you rise? Morning sex is the best.

Yes, there’s morning breath, messy hair and no fancy underwear, but who cares. These are the reasons why morning sex is the best:

1. It sets you up for the day

Starting your morning with an orgasm is pretty much guaranteed to make the rest of the day go smoothly.

2. Puts a smile on your face

In addition to making you happy by releasing feel good hormones like oxytocin in the brain, an orgasm gives you a boost of good energy—the jolt you need to handle whatever looms ahead with a positive attitude.

3. More focused & productive

You’ve already ticked sex off your to-do list and are now ready to get on with everything else you fancy doing for the day.

4. Better than coffee

Morning sex is better at waking you up than coffee or tea. It peps you right up.

5. Great workout

Too cold, too lazy to get out there and exercise? A roll in the sheets will burn calories and serve as a mini-aerobics session for the day.

6. You’ll feel more confident

After AM sex, you’ll feel on top of the world and you’ll carry that confidence with you throughout the the rest of the day.

7. It’s convenient

You’re both in bed, naked, the mood is set. It just makes sense to have a quick roll in the sheets. As it happens, sex, like most things, is generally better when you’re fresh and well rested anyway.

8. Feels naughty

Needing to leave to work adds that pressing sexy urgency that makes AM romp session hot.

9. Meet yours and your partner’s needs

10. Alone? You can do the same

Wake and wank.

Do you agree that morning sex is the best?

Are you looking for a casual encounter, hoping to try a particular fantasy or hoping someone will teach you new things?
Sometimes you happen to be the senior in the relationship and you impart knowledge and skills. Other times you are the younger in the relationship and you are the ‘student’.

Remember that we’re not talking about perusing a relationship in the conventional sense of the word.Younger and older dates have their advantages and disadvantages, let’s identify them.

Dating Younger

Advantages

You might be smitten with your younger partner for several reasons; younger toned body, energetic, fun, wild, spontaneous and willingness to comply. When you’re together, it’s’ fast and furious’ type of fun and ready for another round in no time. Dating younger is fun, sexy, exciting and never lacking thrills. A younger partner is suitable for a couple or older women who want to have a fun night without any strings attached.

Disadvantages

While everyone likes to have fun, slowing things down and being in the moment from time to time is a nice change. Younger partners are still in their journey of self-discovery. They want to experience lots, with as many partners as they can to find out what they are into. You can only truly be a great partner when you learned what you like first and only then devote attention to what your partner likes to please them.

Takeaway

If you are just looking for a fun, exciting encounter where you are the leader then a younger accomplice is your best bet. Younger dates do not have much experience and are still learning, but you can impart a lot of wisdom. So enjoy a young, fit body for a change.

Dating Older

Advantages

There’s a good chance an older squeeze has more sexual experience than you. They are more confident, open to suggestions and usually know what they want. Older partners are more connected with their sexual self. They understand that sex is an experience that can be enjoyed without attachment which will make them a great lover. They are more attentive to your needs, they know that a good sexual encounter is only great when both or all involved experienced an orgasm. Older dates are great for anyone who wants someone to invest time and effort on their pleasure.

Disadvantages

Older dates have less energy to keep up with a younger more energetic date, but they take their time to ensure you have as much fun as they do and always consider your orgasm. Yes, their bodies are not as beautiful as a younger person but if they kept fit and looked after themselves they can be still sexy as hell. If the years weren’t as kind they have their knowledge and experience that they can share with you.

Takeaway

Older dates know what they want, they are more confident and more likely to get freaky. They are ultimately a great choice for a naughty date because they can teach you some important things about sex, equal pleasure and new fantasies you like to learn about.

Whether you date older or younger, each experience you have will help you find something new about you. How we experience it and learn from them is different for everyone.Some of us take our lessons from people our own age and others take it from older partners. We’re all different and we are the best judges with what works for us.

Whether you are the younger person or the older, your sexual desires want what they want and sometimes there is no stopping them. Expressing your sexuality is about embracing your inner desires, so let people decide what makes them happier on the way there – older or younger dates.

Sexual exploration has no age boundaries, each and every date is an opportunity to learn more about your sexuality.

What are your thoughts on dating older or younger? Have you been on both sides of the equation? Let us know in the comments below.

Sexting can be a fun, flirty way to keep the passion going.

As a precaution, initially steer away from exchanging photos straight away, unless it’s your long term partner. Stick to naughty messages and if and when you want to send some raunchy pics, use clever angles that don’t give too much away.

Lads, if you need some pointers in improving your sexting game, read 5 tips to become a sexting legend

1. Start off slow and leave room for more

Sexting doesn’t have to be triple-X to be sexy. Sometimes being less explicit can actually be more of a tease. Tempting and teasing your partner is half the fun with actual sex, and the same can be said for virtual. It all depends on you and who you’re sexting, depending on the mood, it might start full on or build up to it.

“I can’t stop thinking about what I’m going to do to you”

“I thought of something I want to do to you tonight.”

“Just got out of the shower…”

“ Busy tonight!. You can’t have me until tomorrow.”

These sexts will get your partner thinking about it as well. If they ask for more details you can follow up with:

“I’d rather show you in person.”

Sexting, like sex, is all about comfort zones. Don’t do anything you aren’t ready for! But if you feel comfortable trying new things, go for it.

2. Use words of encouragement

Not sure where the conversation is heading? Words like “mmm” or “I like that” are effective at expressing interest and it will egg them on to continue. A classic “tell me more” goes a long way, too.

3. Keep it simple

Don’t worry about being polished or proper. If you’re just starting out, sometimes it’s best to just be blunt. Some examples might be:

“I want you to go down on me”

“I’m going to make you beg for it”

“I’m going to make you come so hard”

Blunt is the name of the game girl; you are after all warming the engine up for a later meet up, or a solo session that is going to be STEAMY.

4. Let them finish your sentences

Let him finish your sentence.

“I got out of the shower, dried myself, went to the bedroom, then you came over to me and…. ”

The trick with any sexting is to keep it short, it doesn’t need to be all in one go. Play the game of teasing and flirting and keep him keen.

5. Send some naughty pics

If you haven’t met the person you’re sexting with yet, it’s probably not a great idea to exchange photos with your face in them. You just… never know. Use your imagination and send some that do not divulge who you are.

When sexting, keep this in mind. Sending dirty text messages, just like dirty talk, is all about what feels natural. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Sexting is great because it allows you to be creative, but if you project a completely different personality over text it’s going to be a tad awkward later.

Happy sexting!

Do you use sexting to tease and flirt? What are your best tips to make this a tool to heat things up?

Porn, today gets a lot of bad rap, but the truth is that widespread sexual visualisation is not a recent thing. There were erotic books, drawings and sculptures that have depicted human sexual behaviour throughout history.

There’s a myth that people have become more promiscuous or sexually amoral as time has gone by. But we’re total prudes comparing to our ancestors.

A lot of modern pornography is made not just to help people get off, but to help them get off in a more fulfilling way. Pornography can help couples improve their sex lives and can help to improve marriages.

Of course, as in all things Internet, there is also a lot of bad porn out there, including images depicting violent acts between non-consenting parties, but that’s not the type of porn majority of folks like to indulge in.

Our human sexual habits aren’t much different now from what they were in Victorian England, medieval Japan, imperial Rome or ancient Africa. We’re people, and we like to bone. A lot. And here’s the evidence.

Ancient India

As far back as 3,500 BC, Indians have documented sex acts in their religious texts. Hinduism was the first to introduce sexuality in a scientific way, effectively acting as the first sex ed. Religion literally used to help people have better, hotter sex.

In the Vedas, the oldest scriptures of the Hindu religion, we see sex show up a lot. It didn’t just mention “traditional” types of sex, it featured acts of homosexuality among the gods and the presence of transgender deities. Ardhanarisvara, for example, is the expression of transgender properties in the form of a deity.

The Kama Sutra

The Kama Sutra offers advice on improvement of one’s sex life, including numerous position guides. This book ties up how the pursuit of sexual pleasure ties into the pursuit of love and happiness.

The Kama Sutra acknowledges that sex is an inevitable and vital part of human existence, and does not attach any shame to the act of lovemaking. This seems to me, as well as to a significant population of the world, to be both the correct and healthy attitude toward sex.

Like the Kama Sutra, a lot of modern pornography is made not just to help people get off, but to help them get off in a more fulfilling way. 

To help people embrace and improve their sexuality and, by consequence, their love lives.

According to the Scientific American, pornography helps couples improve their sex lives and can help to improve marriages

The Romans

The Romans who lived their lives by the principles of Stoicism, sex was a wonderful thing “if enjoyed between people who maintained the principles of respect and friendship; in the ideal society, sex should be enjoyed freely, without bonds of marriage that treated the partner as property.” Sounds a whole lot like modern ideas of sexual equality and feminism, huh?
It’s not that Stoics and other Romans were encouraging people to become evil, adulterous fiends? The idea this concept expresses is a lot closer to the sexual equality associated today with polyamory and even swinging.

They also publicly displayed statues and frescos of threesomes, homosexuality and lots of oral sex.

Sex toys

Another way we know that people’s sexual behaviours haven’t changed that much over time is that we’ve found plenty of archaeological evidence of ancient sex toys. And we’re talking really ancient? Archaeologists once found a 28,000-year-old dildo in Germany.

Victorian England

Thanks to the fine people on Tumblr and Instagram we bring you a scandalous peep show from Victorian ear to prove to you that porn and visualisation of sex was a thing. The photo below proves that booty- eating has been in vogue since …..forever.

So yeah, our prehistoric ancestors were sitting on dildos, jerking off while looking sexual pictures and having sex just as much as we do today. 

So we can say with some certainty that people’s sexual behaviours haven’t changed much. 

People love to blame the modern proliferation of pornography on some phantom “increase in promiscuity,” but history tells us that sex has been something we’re all curious about and enjoy having lots of. 

H/T Dose

From working, to the daily commute to work, cooking, exercise, catching up with friends, taking care of chores and kids – it’s little wonder we have little or no energy for sex sometimes.

For those times when you really find you have no energy for sex, try this Lazy Lovers – An Auto-Thrusting Hydraulic Sex Girdle. It’s perfect for couples who want to want to make love, but are a little too tired to get it on.

OK, so that’s very obviously fake.

Maybe this video will serve as a stark reminder that it’s important to actually pay attention to your loved one and shag each other once in a while.

We get it sometimes life is just too taxing, so here is a lazy lover’s guide for you.

Because sometimes you want sex without all the hard work.

1. Oral sex

Too tired for a full session of sex?  Try oral sex, give each other an orgasms and doze off to sleep.

2. Masturbate together

It’s masturbation month, masturbation is on the menu. This is an easy way to get off and share your fantasies with each other. What better time than to introduce a fetish or a fantasy through a masturbation session? You can gauge your partner’s interest without it feeling awkward or fearing rejection. The couple that masturbates together stays together.

3. Lazy lover position – spooning

This is a no-brainer, and it’s the perfect position for when you are too tired but still feel like some easy and low impact loving.

4. Morning sex

Take full advantage of his ‘morning glory’. He’s ready to go and it’ll be a nice way to start the day.  It’s no secret that morning is prime time for some action—studies even show that morning sex can strengthen your immune system and enhance your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection.

5. Role play the Dom/sub 

If you’re both tired, that’s okay but if it’s only one of you then let the other be the dominant one and take control. Take it as far as you feel comfortable. Start slow and know each other’s limits beforehand. Let your partner take responsibility for your pleasure when you are feeling a little lazy.

6. Watch some porn/ RHP webcam

Sometimes the body is willing but the mind is just too tired. That’s when porn comes in handy. Play some good porn, something you both enjoy, let it set the mood and away to a lazy feel good session. You won’t make it through the whole movie as you’ll get distracted with each other.

Have you had your share of lazy lovers?

Have you ever felt too tired to make an effort?

Do you think guys would get more sex if they put more effort into good sex?

Everybody masturbates and the reason is simple, it feels good.

Masturbation has a whole host of benefits 

Including mental, physical and sexual well-being. Both men and women benefit from a bit of self-love. Masturbation across both genders is associated with a lot of health benefits.

Masturbating will lead to orgasms

Orgasms make us feel good because of the endorphins released into the bloodstream, and maximising endorphins can help people avoid depression. It’s also a great way to relieve stress, as masturbation increases cortisol levels, which also happens to help boost the immune system.

Couples can benefit to be more open about masturbation, too

Since many women have difficulty orgasming through penetrative sex alone, feeling comfortable enough to lend themselves a hand could greatly increase their enjoyment. It’s also a good way to learn how your partner likes to be touched. It’s a fulfilling, highly pleasurable way to spend quality time together, even if just for a few minutes, and it will make sex even more awesome.

In addition, masturbation is a great way to keep tap on our ever-changing bodies and the shifting manner they experience pleasure and to fine tune sexual tastes through fantasy.

Masturbation is a topic that generates a lot of humour because people still have a lot of hangups about it, which lends itself to some funny stories as in the video below.  So lock the door, draw the shades and turn your volume down, it’s about to get rude and funny at the same time.

Check out the hilarious video below by Josh Adam Myers, on getting caught masturbating.

He’s funny and I’m sure there are a lot of you that relate to some of his stories.

If you enjoy masturbation, please comment below.