Clients of BeautyFULL Cosmetic Clinic at Mt Gravatt, in Brisbane’s south, have more than doubled in the past three years, with as many as two women a week now paying $900 to have their G spots injected with dermal fillers. The treatment, which first became available in the US, aims to enhance sensitivity, which can make it easier to reach orgasm.

Dr Margaret Scruton believes she is the only doctor to offer the service in Queensland.

“This is made for women who have normal sexual function but who don’t orgasm every time,” she said.

“There are a lot of women who don’t want to fake it … anymore, and for them, this could be the answer.

“Clinical trials have shown it’s effective for 87 per cent of people, although we do warn clients that it might not make any difference.”
The G-Shots last about four months and Dr Scruton says she has clients who return several times a year.

Is this procedure something you might find useful? Let us know if the comment below…

Source: CourierMail.com.au

This week, in keeping with the RedHotPie mission charter, Bessie has gone behind the velvet rope in Johannesburg, South Africa, visiting the world renowned, Club Rome. Getting the inside scoop, Bessie chats with owners, Jaco and Lisa on what the scene is really like at one of the planet’s largest and sexiest lifestyle venues.

Club Rome By Bessie Bardot:

Johannesburg: this vibrant electric city is not only the largest and wealthiest city in South Africa, it’s also known for its gold & diamonds: the most sparkling of which is surely Club Rome, the biggest swingers and lifestyle’s club in the southern hemisphere.
Set over 1700 square meters, Club Rome hosts an average of 14 parties monthly with an average of 80 to 300 members attending any given party. New owners Jaco & Lisa share with me their take on the lifestyle and how they welcome all types of play people from the cheeky to the kinky.

(Bessie Bardot) How did you guys get into the lifestyle?

(Jaco & Lisa – Club Rome) We were both already in the lifestyle with previous relationships, after those relationships ended we were both out of the lifestyle and in “Vanilla” relationships for several years. We weren’t expecting to find a new partner in the lifestyle. However not long after these relationships ended a mutual friend Celeste who is also a life coach and spiritual sexologist set us up on a blind date. We were both hooked.
Then when we heard our favourite lifestyles venue was on the market we jumped at the chance.

How do you describe Club Rome?

Most importantly Club Rome is a safe environment where you can come along – no matter how much lifestyle experience you have or have not had – and not be pressured. There’s a full bar and dance floor with a series of DJ’s throughout the night, so even if you just want to come to have a few drinks and socialize in a sexy environment that’s acceptable. The dance floor is quite separate to the play areas, so we find everyone from vanillas, nudists, voyeurs, exhibitionists, soft play, full play and hard play (orgies) beginners and long-term lifestylers love Rome.

Rome is home to all its members. It’s the best value for money, we put on a full buffet meal from 7.30pm till midnight, so you can come early evening for dinner and relax and unwind while you get to know everyone.  We try to be that step above the rest – being in the lifestyle ourselves we knew what we and our members wanted and expect from a lifestyles venue. We are always looking for new ways to better Rome and our members and their experience.

Who comes there?

We’re a really happy-go-lucky club, so we attract a wide range of people from skinny to big, young to old and everyone in between. Our regulars range from a group of 18 year olds to a couple in their 60’s.
Whilst we welcome all types, we work hard to screen & verify everyone who registers a profile, we’re known as the friendly club and we want to keep it that way, so if someone is rude & crude that won’t be a fit for our members. Newcomers love that everyone is very chatty and welcoming.

Tell me about your daytime fun & breakfast events

DTF stands for Day Time Fun. Every Wednesday we open during the day for the mid-week naughty crowd: often business people or entrepreneurs who want some hump day fun in between meetings. It’s a mid-week breakaway, completely out of the norm and really popular.

And we recently added Breakfast on Sat & Sun mornings, both as sustenance for the guests still in the venue from the night before and also an extra time option for people who want to meet up with new potential play partners for the first time. They can break the ice and get to know each other over breakfast here instead of an awkward encounter at a regular café, and if it goes well they can head straight to a play room.

I noticed you make an effort to cater to all the different types of swingers and lifestyles

Yes, because of our extensive bar & dancefloor area this really is like a sexy club with options. Lots of ‘vanilla’ people come knowing they can dance in the club section and enjoy themselves without getting harassed.
Then we have regulars who are nudists and love to hang out at the bar without being judged.

The exhibitionists are happy to be watched in a play by the voyeurs, some do and some don’t play with others. They love our Silhouette room: there’s a white screen with a back light so all people see is the silhouettes and shadows as you play.
The voyeur room is also popular, complete with Jacuzzi and two-way glass so you can watch others in a play (exhibitionists). Then we have our soft swingers who play with their partner and others, minus the penetration.
Full swingers partner swap and we cater to them with a dedicated ‘couples orgy room’. Singles aren’t allowed in unless invited by a couple, then when the couple leave the room so must the single.

Hardcore swingers love the orgy room, BDSM open play and our dark room where it is literally pitch black.
We also have 7 private rooms. If the door is closed you’re not allowed to knock or open the door. Occupants can leave tags on the door: “Single guy welcome”, “Couple welcome”, “anyone welcome” or leave the door open to be watched from the door or be invited in by the members in the private room.

We just want everyone to feel comfortable that they can come and play, at their own comfort level and feel safe.

Tell me about the lady’s rule

The lady’s rule means that men must wait for the women to initiate, making the lady the hunter. So the lady initiates conversations with those she is interested in, and if it’s a couple she starts conversation with the lady of a couple. We advise this as it is respectful to the couples, it also very importantly stops the guys from groping ladies and making them and their partners uncomfortable. It’s all about no one feeling pressured. We feel this is so important because the moment someone feels pressured they’re not going to have a positive experience and come back. Club Rome has been open for 19 years because our members feel and know they are safe here, it’s one of the key points that makes the club work. This rule allows both women and men the option that they can simply decline and they don’t have to explain themselves. We ask you to be clear and firm, don’t say “Maybe later” because they’ll come back later. A simple “Not tonight “or “I’m not interested” is best.

You also have lots of different events to suit all tastes

Yes we have club/party nights with commercial, uplifting house music one night, and a live band the next. If you work nights, come to our Day Time Fun on Wednesdays. If you’re a morning person come for breakfast.
Nudist night, BDSM, Roman Empire, Master & Servant, Revenge of the Nerds, Roman toga night with male strippers and big events like ULP – United Lifestyle Party, where all the clubs come together for a huge night of fun.

Your ‘staff’ are volunteers from the lifestyle, it really is a family, tell me about that

Yes we have our usual staff but then we also have two volunteer couples who host each night and choose a theme. They just love the lifestyle and want to be part of it in a bigger way.  We see all our members as family.  If it’s not safe for them to drive home, we in encourage them to stay go and sleep in a private room, wake up for our breakfast and head home, safe and sound.

Lisa, tell me about your Lifestyle Coaching

I call it “THE DO’S, DONT’S AND ETIQUETTE OF THE LIFESTYLE”
I always advise you start healing your own stuff before you swing. So I work with guys and girls on taking control of their mind, thoughts and feelings so they are ready to swing.
The lifestyle has many awesome benefits but it has to be approached in the right way. It’s not meant to break up couples and marriages. There’s always one partner who is raring to go with his or her foot on the pedal, while the other is trying to slow down and this can cause unnecessary tension. So I work with them both in dealing with emotions, thoughts of inferiority & helping them define their comfort levels. Women learn to express themselves without getting too emotional, and men learn to approach playing with compassion and not just have a ‘wham bam thank you maam’ robotic approach to swinging.

Jaco, tell me what advice you’d give to people starting out

Before you walk in the door and have your first drink, make sure you discuss your personal boundaries with your partner and your boundaries as a couple. Ask “Would you be okay to see me do this…?”  If they say no, set your boundaries below that. There’s always a pusher and a puller, so follow the pace of the slowest person. Often the roles reverse, so be prepared for the shift. I always say never let alcohol or the heat of the moment alter your boundaries. If you put your partner on the spot in the middle of playing they will probably say yes, but guess what happens when the car door closes.  If you’re unsure, stop playing and go into our Gladiator room and talk. When it comes down to it, the club’s not going anywhere so you don’t have to go all the way on one visit.

So how can people get involved?

Feel free to contact Lisa Morganti on Facebook and ask questions.

Then go to www.clubrome.co.za register a profile online and we will send you an email verification. Then you get an invitation to attend one of the events (you can’t turn up without an invite, we won’t allow you in).

You’ll also get access to a secure and safe part of our website, a chat section so you can keep in touch with others without giving your personal details or work email!

What’s your vision for the future?

It’s great to see the lifestyle coming together and supporting each other – I don’t see the other clubs as competition, the market is big enough for all of us and it’s getting bigger by the day.

We personally have big plans to expand and make it more accessible for parents to play without worrying about their kids. We’re also adding luxury rewards to thank our regulars for their loyalty. Watch this space!

The events, which are completely organic, are organised and run by members, and while they have the full backing of the Pie, it really is an amazing grass roots movement. We caught up with RHP member and Perth Meet & Greets organiser, Kokoflamingo to get the scoop ahead of some awesome events planned for this weekend in the West!

(RHP) – Tell us how the whole Meet and Greet events came about?

(Kokoflamingo) – Myself and a couple of the girls were talking in the chat room and decided it would be nice to meet up for a few drinks. And it was, as a result we have all became good friends.   Talking about it afterwards, some of the guys were asking where their invites were……..so we thought, you know, there are plenty of private parties but not many social events.  So we started up the Perthsocialites group.

Who’s behind the events?

The Perthsocialites was started by myself, Kokoflamingo, and Precious142.  The_3somes, Way2Go70 and MissBrunette have come on board for the Meet and Greet weekend and have been very instrumental in the organisation of the events.  We honestly didn’t realise how big this thing would become?

And what are the events like, I’m sure our members are really curious.

So far we have had a variety of events, e.g. lunches, dinners, a very successful ladies day ( complete with topless drinks waiter ) a lawn bowls day where the kids came along and we all had a great time, a bi girls drinks arvo, and an over 50s meet and greet.  In the pipeline we have a wine tasting afternoon, a motorcycle ride and a lunch meet and greet in Bunbury for the people down south who can’t always make it up to Perth.

People are flying around the country to these events, is that right?

We are really excited that people are flying in from Sydney, Melbourne and Brisbane.  It will be great to meet some of the people we have talked to in the chat room.  Some of them are coming over for a week or a long weekend and making a holiday of it.  We know they will love Perth and the great Perth RHPers, and just hope they all enjoy the events and have an amazing time.  We certainly didn’t expect that people would make the effort to come all the way to Perth for this weekend…..it’s wonderful!

How did you become a member of RedHotPie?

I was on other sites but not looking for a serious relationship, and found that the guys on there were.  Someone mentioned the fact that RHP was probably a better option, as it was more about casual dating.  And it’s been perfect for me.

What does RedHotPie offer yourself and the other Meet and Greeters?

Redhotpie offers us the chance to meet up with like-minded people.  The meet and greets are a great way for people who don’t want to take part in the swinging scene to get out and actually meet men and women who they can connect with in a relaxed environment.  At the meets we are able to meet people like ourselves ( who are very normal people ) without anyone being judgemental.  We have a big RHP social circle, it’s been great, lots of strong friendships and relationships have been forged.

Can you describe the events you’ve got planned for this weekend.

The weekend’s events start off with a Welcome to Perth lunch.  We are expecting around thirty people.  We have used the venue a few times, it’s a really nice meeting place.  It’s for our Interstate visitors and also for people who can’t make the other events.

On the Friday we are having the Kings Park Sundowner.  We can’t wait for the visiting RHPers to see the sunset from beautiful Kings Park.  Finger food will be provided.   Children are very welcome to come along.

Saturday night is the big Meet and Greet night.  The amount of registrations has been staggering.  We are expecting 150 to attend.  Guests will receive a welcome drink, there will be a buffet, and a door raffle with lots of nice and naughty prizes!  It’s so exciting to see the interest, because we weren’t sure how it would go down.  I think it shows that people still like a social night out.  There are no expectations, but obviously at the end of the night people can do whatever they want, whether it be a visit to the Pleasure Lounge, a private party, or just home to bed after a big night out! We just want everyone to enjoy themselves.

How can people attend the events?

We post our events on the Events pages.  People can then register for what they think might suit them.  Some are free, but if we are hiring a venue and providing food, then we charge a small fee and it’s first paid, best dressed so to speak.  We encourage people to message us with ideas for future events.  Everything’s considered!

If you’re keen on checking out some of these awesome get-togethers, or similar events in the future, keep your eye on the RedHotPie events section.

(RedHotPie) – Is #singlebutdating full of book smarts or your own street smarts?

(Dr Nikki Goldstein) – It’s a combination of my professional and personal experiences. It’s the benefit of writing a book not only as a Sexologist but also a #singlebutdating woman . I knew I could connect with my audience because I understood them. It was confronting at times to share personal stories and reflect on my past, but this after all was how the concept was born – after living this life without a label and without the right advice or permission.

What modern day dating dilemmas does the book address?

It addresses new dating dilemmas in general. The dating landscape as changed completely. Some things stays the same but so much as changed and maybe our biggest problem these days is that we have too many choices. But because many of these changes in the dating world are relatively new, we suffer from a lack of role moiling on how to deal with them and navigate through them. That’s why I felt the modern woman needed a new book.

How do you suggest people traverse the fractured, segmented romantic landscape of the modern world?

There is so much going against us these days in general. We are being fed messages at high speeds that we are not good enough and are being given a mould to fill and roles to follow that might just not belong to us, only adding to low self of self worth and dissatisfaction. Therefore the biggest and best thing anyone can do is to work out what they want away from the influences of media, society, religion and peer pressure and also work on their self esteem so they are able to deal with the negativity that comes their way.

How do you suggest people cut through the personas and projections we all have to create these days… how do you actually get to know someone?

It’s about learning how to be present with someone and withhold from making a quick judgment and putting them in a box. Because dating these days is so superficial and disposable, we might be tempted to pass on someone who doesn’t tick everything on our dating list. However, we not only need to challenge this wish list but when we are with someone, focus on how we feel when we are with them instead of focusing on external superficial factors. It’s also useful to keep a positive mind, turn your attention to who they are not what they are not, it will help keep you open minded. Also put your phone away! When you are on a date with someone, be on a date with them, not distracted by the online and outside world.

Being that we’re able to contact so many people thanks to modern technology, is partner juggling becoming a thing? Is it good or bad?

I think we need to assume that when we first start dating someone they are already dating someone else. Unless it’s an open relationship you are after, if you go in with this assumption you will hopefully lessen the chance of hurt or surprise. But just as they might be dating multiple people, so can you too. It’s good to not be always focusing on one person in the early days but also too many people could act as a distraction and stop a real connection occurring. It’s vital though when you get to a point where you feel things are a little more serious or feelings really develop and you just want to be with one person that you have that conversation. Assumptions can be dangers in this aspect when one person just thinks that now you are not seeing other people but the other person has a tinder profile and is still chatting to other people.  At some point, you need to make sure you are on the same page. When that point is though is up to you.

What are the positives coming from the technological romance revolution?

It has never been so easy to meet people. The downside is there are so much choices now and we are becoming a bit disposable, but if we can concur our self esteem, challenge the dating list and learn how to communication and connect with people, the tech world when it comes to dating can be a lot of fun. You no longer need to go out and run the risk of embarrassment at a bar on a Saturday night but at the same time it’s important to balance our online dating skills with in the flesh interactions. Don’t forget or stop talking to strangers and flirting with people in the real world.

What sort of tips and tricks do you have for people to achieve the best results with dating sites and apps?

If it’s a dating site, a web address can say a lot so make sure you are on the right site and consider what it says about you. Also ensure that you have enough information to interest the person but not too much that it’s a long book. With apps, as words are not in abundance, tell a story with photos. e.g. If you like the outdoors and animals put up photos that tells someone that. Also make sure to stay away from group photos or photos with other people. It’s about you, not giving a level of comparison with your friends

Is romance and chivalry etc still important?

Yes it is, even in the casual hook up world. Romance might be tricky and when we get a sniff of that we do feel like more is ahead but chivalry to me is just respect. Why can’t you be nice and affectionate to someone you just had casual sex with or have just started dating? They have just given you something special whether it is their time or their body,  so why not be respectful in return? Even though woman these days are a lot stronger and empowered it doesn’t mean they don’t want some old fashioned dating manners. Men might actually get a little further if they incorporated these.

It seems we’re being trained to cultivate lots of relationships, but how do we really dig in to one, and get that kind of connection that can last a lifetime?

Judge someone on the internal not the external. Get to know who they are, listen to what they have to say and focus on how you feel when you are together. You can date according to a list but you might only find yourself unhappy and looking for what’s next. Dating and being in a relationship is not about fulfilling an ego, it’s about enjoying moments and feelings with someone else.

Is the traditional idea of the monogamous, married couple outdated, or is it still the end goal for most?

I think the end goals are changing and one of the important things is to work out what your end goal is. This is what #singlebutdating is all about. Take the time to explore and work out what you want so you can be in a relationship that is right for you, whatever that might look like.

And how’s about yourself, have these tips lead to your own dating bliss?

100%! I have taken the time to finally work out what makes me happy and how I want to date and be in relationships. As a result I really enjoy my dating life and I get to date some amazing people. If it doesn’t work out it’s because we are not right for each other and I now know the difference between right or wrong in the dating game for me. I also enjoy this part of my life more and have fun with it. As I wrote the book and created the steps I feel like I went through them again myself and have become even more of the most dateable version of me.

Thanks to Random House Publishing and RedHotPie, you could win one of four copies of #singlebutdating! CLICK HERE to enter.

In some places (Prince Minikid, the florid and ever-changing Atari) it feels like all those strange electronic flourishes that artists such as Beyoncé and Stevie Wonder (notably on Innervisions) use to fill the spaces between the chart-topping hits, and casually bewitch their fans. In others (the single Breathing Underwater) this is the sort of psychedelic mesmerising adventure land populated by similar exploratory jazz fusion artists such as Annette Peacock and Erykah Badu.

Much of this is down to the group’s main life force, Nai Palm (the stage name of Naomi Saalfield, whose voice and guitar twist and turn, swoop, dart and flutter through a bewildering array of supple melodies and counter-counter-harmonics and fitful key changes.

Just as you feel the group have settled into a groove, just for a second, off they spin and spiral into 20 others. Listening to Choose Your Weapon can hover between delirium and frustration, delight and outright annoyance, often in the very same beat. A song like the frantic Swamp Thing, with its layers of intricate piano notes and funked-out bass, moves on too fast for pause but then … bam! The mellow Fingerprints takes the mood somewhere else entirely.

This is a love letter to the whole of nature, a self-indulgent trip to the other side of consciousness, an experience you have to fully immerse yourself in to appreciate. And the meanings behind the songs are as varied and spatial as the music itself.

Breathing Underwater is a homage to the “different examples of love and compassion in the world that are beyond the limitation of romance”, says Palm. The singer uses imagery like the Jericho rose to depict this – an African resurrection plant that can survive dormant without water for more than a century, but blooms within minutes after rain.

Other tracks have equally as exotic roots. Jekyll, featuring some virtuoso free jazz percussion from the drummer, Perrin Moss, and typically disorienting fills from the synthesiser-player, Simon Mavin, flusters and flurries, searching for some peace of mind. The trippy funk-soul throwback, Borderline With My Atoms, feels like the band is channelling 30 or 40 years of soul into a six-minute song.

The multi-instrumentalist/composer Miguel Atwood-Ferguson lends his one-man orchestra to the expansive interlude The Lung. Molasses is musical treacle. Shaolin Monk Motherfunk is some weird-shit boogie. Only Time All the Time: Making Friends With Studio Owl is self-explanatory.

This album is the follow-up to Tawk Tomahawk, the 2013 debut which spawned the Q-Tip collaboration Nakamarra, the song that caused Hiatus Kaiyote to become the first ever Australian act to be nominated for an R&B Grammy. That one was recorded after the band had been together for six months. This one was put together after two world tours, and written everywhere.

Goddess alone knows what they’re going to be like after another five years.

Source: theguardian.com

Have you given Hiatus Kaiyote’s new one a spin? Let us know what you think below!

The fundraiser, who is keeping his identity a secret, has so far raised more than £670 for a mental health charity and has been visiting town centres since June 2013.

“I am not scary and will not hurt you. I am just out and about to make people smile and hopefully brighten a few days up,” he writes on his official Facebook page.

“If you see me, please stop for a chat, I don’t bite!”

Bondage or “gimp” suits are used by sexually submissive people engaging in BDSM (bondage, domination, submission and sado-masochism) and can be made from PVC, rubber, spandex or leather.

Gimp Man told the BBC a friend suggested he could “do some good” with the attention he got from passers-by wearing his suit outdoors.

“Most people are very welcoming when I tell them what it’s all about,” he said. “I don’t go round to scare the life out of people.

“I’ve been called a nutter before, but I don’t react to comments like that.”

His wife and children are unaware of his alter ego and he does not go out during school holidays or at weekends, he said.

Gimp Man donates money to Colchester Mind every time someone posts a picture with him on Facebook and offers a non-profit “rent-a-gimp” service for parties.

He also answers questions on social networks about his lifestyle and people considering trying BDSM.

So far he has visited towns including Colchester, Brentwood, Clacton and Braintree, as well a garden centre in Sudbury.

Although some people assume Gimp Man is a “paedophile or a pervert”, he said the response is often positive, with shoppers coming up to chat to him and taking pictures.

“I’m adult enough to realise people look at the negatives in everything,” he told the BBC.

“But people are a lot more open minded nowadays.

“And at the end of the day, you can walk along the beach and see a lot more than I’m exposing.”

So what’s the go here, people? Is this guy a tireless champion of charity, or a whack job? Tell us your thoughts below!

Source: independent.co.uk

image source: @GimpmanofEssex

RHP – What inspired you to begin writing Diary of a Swinger?

Scarlett Black – The idea came after our second or third outing when I came to the conclusion that a lot of women would be interested in my journey, I know it would have been the sort of book that I would have wanted to read. So I decided to write a true and honest account of my adventures. Most chapters were written within a few days of any events while things were still pretty fresh in mind.

You discuss that both you and your husband have had those moments where you questioned whether swinging was a positive or negative influence in your life. What would you say to couples considering joining the scene?

I would say that the positive now far outweighs the negative for us, but at the beginning there are so many new experiences and emotions to contend with. Before entering the scene I would strongly recommend that couples fully discuss what their boundaries are and what they expect to get from the scene. One thing for sure though you really have to have a rock solid relationship and swinging is not the answer to a failing partnership.

You recount an experience of telling a couple that were ‘vanilla’ friends of yours – have you opened up to any more of your vanilla friends about your lifestyle? What were their reactions like?

I have not opened up to anymore vanilla friends, I feel that most of them would be totally shocked and remove us from their Christmas card list if they knew what Scarlet and Jack got up to after dark! The female friend we did share our secret with is absolutely desperate to try swinging but her husband is not at all interested. She always wants to know what we have been up to and demands a full debrief.

You also stated that it was you that instigated ‘breaking’ the rules, not your husband. In hindsight, would you change the way that your ‘firsts’ in the scene occurred?

Probably not, let’s just say Scarlet was a very naughty girl and took advantage of the moments as they arose!

What is the most important thing that you’ve learnt from being in the swinging scene?

Swinging has given me a true freedom. I have finally released that inner sex goddess that has been locked away for most of my adult life. Without wishing to sound vain I now consider myself to be one hot confident sexy woman.

Besides improving the communication between you and your husband, what other positive influences has swinging had on your relationship?

You are quite right, we have grown to understand each other at a much deeper level and have a total honesty policy where we talk about absolutely anything. Besides that though, its great fun to enjoy our sexual experiences together. Both Jack and I also derive great pleasure from seeing each other having sexy experiences with others. It has probably made our relationship more interesting and certainly more exciting.

Have you had anyone recognise themselves in your memoir?

Not as yet, however I believe that once this is out on RHP a few cats might be out of the bag. The scene is relatively small so it is probably quite inevitable that several readers might recognise themselves. So if you do recognise yourselves, a big sexy kiss to all of those who were involved.

You discuss not only your positive swinging experiences but also address your ‘lows’ in the scene. Have any of these had an impact on your swinging lifestyle in the long-term?

Not at all, we have moved on pretty quickly. As I mentioned before it was all so new at the beginning with sights and experiences you could hardly have imagined. As we have progressed on our journey the highs now most definitely outweigh the lows. Jack and I always joke that the worst swinging evening is always better than the best vanilla evening.

Have any of the reactions that people have had to Diary of a Swinger surprised you?

No there have been no surprise reactions. We have been very flattered to hear that the book has been considered a very good erotic read. We also have had quite a few comments along the lines of how exciting and wish we could be brave enough to do what you did.

Has your involvement in the scene changed since writing Diary of a Swinger?

Yes, I think we are now even more adventurous than we were and nowhere near as scared as we used to be. For example earlier this year, we were brave enough to take a short overseas holiday at a nudist/swingers retreat. It was genuinely the best holiday we have ever had. I have not been able to take the smile off my face ever since! We also really enjoy hosting private couple parties in our own home and they are such fun. I won’t give any more away at this stage as who knows, I might even write another book.

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There are people who offer advice on how to groom it. People who make educated guesses on what it means if you decide to groom it this way or the other. You might want to read ‘What’s your pube personality?’
Currently, there are rumors travelling around that women want their pubes ‘au naturel’. A rumor fueled by events such as:

• You might have heard about an American Apparel store in NYC who had mannequins sporting a ‘70’s style bush’. This caused quite a stir.

• Gwyneth Paltrow who on Ellen DeGeneres show admitted that she ‘rocks a 70s vibe down there’ and hence the reason why she had to shave before the premiere of the Iron Man3 as her dress was so sheer.

• Cameron Diaz also has a whole chapter in her book “THE BODY BOOK” entitled “In Praise of Pubes”. Diaz now a self-professed fan of the bush explains in her chapter that women should embrace their pubic hair rather than undergo laser hair removal.

• Lady Gaga, who is always on top of trends, has posed nude on the cover of the new issue of CANDY magazine baring her full-grown lady bush.

• The Times ran an article saying this look, ‘au natural’ just meshes better with “an organic lifestyle of cold press juices …”, and maybe they’re onto something here.

The following questions come to mind:

Is having ‘au naturel’ bush an act of rebellion?

Are we grossed out by ‘Mother Nature’s’ handiwork? Why?

Is shaving, plucking and waxing an act of succumbing to peer pressures?

Have we fallen victims to fashion and accepted ‘bald’ to be the norm?

Is it all too much of a hassle? Maybe you have grown tired of the costly and tortuous battle of constantly trying to keep your fuzz at bay and stuck to what is easy, simple and comfortable to you. What would that be?

Would you change your look down there based on popular culture? What do you think is the ideal look for our fuzz down there?

Starring Cate Blanchett as a cosseted Manhattanite pitched headfirst into the post-meltdown realities of working-class America — realities she is hopelessly ill-equipped to deal with — this isn’t merely vintage Woody, it’s evidence of a whole new Woody. Expanding on the introspection that has crept into his more conventional dramas as he has aged, it also has room for biting satire, deftly skewering the heedless mores of the ‘one percenters’ who carry on regardless while the rest of the country stumbles in the wreckage.

Blanchett plays Jasmine, an icy New York socialite (one of the “social X-rays”, as Tom Wolfe called them in The Bonfire Of The Vanities) whose pampered bubble bursts when husband Hal (Alec Baldwin, terrific) is exposed as a Bernie Madoff-style conman and she flees to San Francisco to seek refuge with her adoptive sister Ginger (Sally Hawkins). Her subsequent attempts to rebuild her life without practical skills, any concept of work and little education are painfully well-observed.

Featuring a powerhouse performance from Blanchett, Jasmine is a work of such incisive brilliance it gives the lie to any notion that Allen is a spent force, suggesting, moreover, that even at the age of 77, he still has the power to surprise us.

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The paired openers here, “Cycle” and “Morning,” set the tone. The first is a daybreak-conjuring string overture, conducted by Beck’s father, David Campbell, which introduces the LP’s musical themes. The second is a great early-hours song in the tradition of the Velvet Underground’s kindred album opener “Sunday Morning.” Around bright acoustic guitar and chiming percussion, ripples of reverb and synthesizers blur Beck’s layered vocals and Stanley Clarke’s acoustic bass into a gorgeous watercolor-hangover haze. It echoes a lot of what Beck’s been up to lately – the lean formalism of his sheet-music Song Reader, the psychedelia of 2008’s Modern Guilt, the crate-digging of his online Record Club covers project, and the orchestral experiments of Rework, his Philip Glass collaboration.

At its core, Morning Phase is a record about what to do when the world seems totally fucked. Irony doesn’t cut it anymore; truth, beauty and resolve are the best weapons. “Looked up this morning/Saw the roses full of thorns/Mountains are falling,” Beck croons with falsetto swoops on “Morning,” then asks, “Can we start it all over again?” He could be referring to a crashed relationship, or a trashed ecosystem. On “Heart Is a Drum,” which radiates the cocooned warmth of Nick Drake’s Bryter Layter, he asks, “Why does it hurt this way?/To come so far to find they’ve closed the gates.” Coming in the wake of a back injury so severe Beck couldn’t pick up a guitar for a number of years, Morning Phase’s struggle toward the light feels as personal as it does universal.

Beck remains a master of pastiche, and trainspotters can have a field day mapping reference points: “Blue Moon” shares a name with the Rodgers-Hart and Alex Chilton songs, but more closely resembles Bob Seger’s “Mainstreet” getting abstracted by Brian Eno in a Laurel Canyon time share. The strings from “Cycle” resurface in “Wave,” a lovely voice-and-orchestra meditation that could almost be a Björk cover. On “Country Down,” reminiscent of Harvest-era Neil Young, he sings about a man in a lifeboat while Greg Leisz’s pedal steel draws chem trails across the sky.

The album ends with another aching morning song, “Waking Light.” But the line that persists comes a few tracks earlier, on “Don’t Let It Go.” “In the crossfire, there’s a story,” Beck offers, “how it ends, we do not know.” With lyrical nods to Bob Dylan’s “I’ll Keep It With Mine” and the crossfi rehurricane birth in the Stones’ “Jumpin’ Jack Flash,” the song is in effect about how musical storytelling helps us push through terrible times. Morning Phase aspires to no less.

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