Along with your favourite attractions, Sexpo this year will showcase technology and products that will dominate the world of sex in the future.

RedHotPie is a big part of Sexpo, being one of the major sponsors. Come and meet the team, hang out and take photos with the RHP party girls, and hook up with other sexy RHPers using the nearby feature in our APP.

As always, SEXPO is the place to shop for all your naughty outfits, lingerie and sex toys to get ready for this big weekend.

There’s a host of after parties on all three days of Sexpo, check them out here.

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Heck, some women sometimes want something different. Secretly, many women want ….

Rough sex

Rough sex or forceful sex, has been around since the dawn of time and it’s a definite game-changer. At the right time, with the right partner, it can be a lot of fun.

Rough sex is intense, passionate and a complete relinquish and acceptance of someone’s powerful desire over you. This type of sex, is a incredible mental experience that is unequal to ordinary sex.

Experts say there are valid psychological explanations for our love of spanking, hair pulling, pushing round, manhandling and for some women this is a real turn-on.

How is rough sex a turn on?

Think back on the occasions you were bitten, scratched, or spanked, your blood pressure goes up and your heart races in response to that pain. If these happen during sex, say you are being spanked; you interpret it as sexual excitement.

As it turns out the pleasure and pain areas in our brain overlap. This overlap tricks your brain and causes it to confuse pain and pleasure when you’re experiencing them at the same time. Explaining why rough sex can be a real turn on.

If this sounds interesting, then this is probably something for you. Before getting down discuss your limits and boundaries and have a ‘safe word’ to stop anytime you feel in doubt or need a break.

Here are four ways to try rough sex. Start slow or go all out, entirely up to you but have fun with it.

SPANKING

Start with a medium spank and work up to a harder spank if you enjoy it. Spank with an open palm on the fleshier, lower part of her ass closest to her vagina. It sends vibrations through her clitoris and her whole body that lights a sexual fire.

Don’t be afraid to spank him, too. You might be surprised how much he likes it.

HAIR PULLING

Some women like having their hair pulled during sex. Just be sure he grabs your hair near the scalp, grabbing your hair by the ends is often too painful to be pleasurable. Reverse it on him when he is pleasuring you, it’s a great way to tell him how hard and where you want him.

SENSUAL BITING

Biting is raw and sensual. But if sensual biting is new terrain for you, start with the nape of the neck. The secret to keeping real pain out of the sensual biting equation is to keep it quick. But for those who like a little bit of pain in the mix go a bit harder for a bit longer. Ensure you find out beforehand where you partner likes to be bitten.

TAKING CONTROL

Being picked up, thrown over a man’s shoulder, and tossed on a bed can bring out the primal side in a man. Simply push her against the wall can do the trick too.

Sometimes, it’s nice not be in charge. It’s a form of just switching off the thinking side of sex and simply experiencing the pleasure. Sex is about losing inhibitions and surrendering, and sometimes it’s easiest to surrender when somebody is totally pushing you around.

If you want to experience crazy sex – where you going to have sex all over the place complete with hair pulling and ass slapping – it’s only going to happen if you specifically ask.

Is rough sex a turn on for you? Share your thoughts with us…

You see, the owners of OSS, Lawrence and Jess, have just celebrated the club’s third birthday, and as you can imagine, parties don’t come much sexier than a swinger’s club birthday party.

Celebrated not just at home, but internationally, OSS has been responsible for smashing the stuffy myths around swinging, dragging the lifestyle kicking and errr, moaning into the new millennium. We’re talking elite premises, inviting décor, group spa, sex swings, orgy rooms… and nary a bowl or set of car keys in sight!

What Lawrence and Jess have built is nothing short of sensational, catering for swingers, exhibitionists, BDSM aficionados, voyeurs and all in between. The club has been featured regularly in the media, from iTunes podcasts, TV and publications. It is one of the most well known and upmarket venues in the country, a definite on every adventurous couple’s sexual bucket list.

This year’s birthday bash exceeded all expectations; the night was insane, but as always, it was accommodating on every level, for every guest. Whilst some simply chatted away, taking in the sites around them, others lit it up, with threesomes, foursomes, moresomes and other electric sexual adventures taking place. You could not see the walls for hot, naked bodies writhing in sexual bliss.

We could go on, believe us, we want to, but instead we’ll leave you with this short video on OSS, a little inside view of what goes on in one of the planet’s coolest swinger’s clubs.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADkfm2-LlZI

It’s a huge turn on for most of us, it’s about pushing your limits and crossing things off your sex bucket list. Whether it’s double penetration fantasy, or a full on no holes bared gangbang with 5-10 guys, you’re sure to have a wild time doing it.

The reality is that many women love gangbangs, it’ anonymous, it’s indulgent and is filled with powerful and consecutive orgasms.

Although many women have this on their to do list very few actually go through with it for a variety of reasons.
It’s an evening filled without constrains, without taboos, just egotistical, selfish pleasure and uninhibited sexuality.

So how do you organise a gang bang?

Here are a few steps to consider if you are going to organise one, followed with a video with your favourite porn star describing one, as well as share their experiences performing in one.

What is a gang bang?

It’s a sex session where four or maybe more people “Bangers” have sex with one person “Center”.

All the attention is on the center, the whole night is about her pleasure.

Takes some planning

Organise the bangers and tell them exactly what is expected. Organise a venue and drinks, nibbles and towels. Remember when you’re dealing with more than two people, finding a date that suits everybody can be tricky. So don’t leave things to last minute.

Finding Bangers

This should be the easiest part right? Especially when you have an awesome App like RHP

It turns out it can be a challenge, despite the huge number of guys you see claiming they’d be right there for a gang bang, but some will chicken out.

Word of advice, cast a slightly wider net in the event that one or even two of these guys will be no shows.

Be physically & mentally ready for a huge sex session

Make sure that you are ready for a night where you are going to push boundaries and your sexuality.

Look seductive

This will get things started real quick, half the bangers are bursting to get things rolling as much as you do. Really there’s no need to discuss anything, it’s understood it’s all about you.

At the end it’s all worth it

Gang bangs will leave you fulfilled and bring you to understand the meaning of ‘ getting fucked out of your brains’. Being gang banged can be an intense, incredible, and empowering experience if it’s conducted and carried out in a well-organized manner, and if you’re in the right place mentally for it.

Here is the video that the people at WoodRocket’s YouTube decided to put together. They asked some of our favourite adult film stars to both describe one, as well as share their experiences performing in one.

Yeah sounds pretty intense, but hey, maybe it’s something you might be into. If not, it’s always fun to hear about it.

Fantasized about a gang bang? Participated in one? Would you do it again?
What did you enjoy most about it

Mardi Gras weekend is probably one of the best party weekends in Australia. It’s big, and it’s loud and is for everyone. With every passing year it gets better, it captivates the nation and resonates around the world.

Our Secret Spot club is hosting one of the biggest events of the year

THE MARDI GRAS AFTER PARTY @ OSS

If you’re looking where go for an after party, after the parade, head to Our Secret Spot, because in their own words “the party need not end with the parade”. Judging by the great success of their Pendulum party a few weeks ago, this one is sure to be packed out by hot couples and select sexy bi-singles.

Whether you live in Sydney or are making your way there watching or being part of this energetic and all- inclusive celebration of Australia’s LGBTQI culture is an experience you’re sure to remember.

If you haven’t planned where to go, or if you’re not in Sydney get yourself a plane ticket because this is a party you do not want to miss.

The element of excitement, of novelty and exploration will be a driving force throughout anyone’s life journey; the only difference is where we find it.

With some couples they find it in the playground of the swinger’s world or the lifestyle.

Opening your relationship to this lifestyle will bring along challenges, one such challenge is learning how jealousy fits into this kind of relationship.
If you’re going to be in the lifestyle, you have to figure out how you’re going to deal with this strong emotion out in the open. Once you learn how to deal with it, it will make your connection stronger.

Everyone deals with it differently, but the most important and freeing factor about dealing with this emotion is the evolution it allows you to experience. From jealous, turbulent feelings you progress into compersion.

Below are the 6 steps of this development.

1.  Almost everyone gets jealous in various degrees – It’s really ok!

Jealousy is that heavy feeling that grabs you when you think about your partner getting frisky or sharing a connection with someone else other than you. It’s an emotion not strange to the majority of us. There are some people who claim to not feeling jealousy, but for the majority of us, jealousy is an emotion we are all too familiar with.

Jealousy is good. Jealousy means you care. It’s not about whether you feel jealous, but how you channel that feeling.
Some channel it into anger, some feel resentful, and some lucky ones feel excited.
To keep this emotion in check, you first need to recognise and admit that you feel jealous, so it doesn’t sneak up on you at the worst time.
Ironically, a small part of jealousy sits comfortably with feelings of excitement. It reiterates those feelings you had before you settled down, the sweat-bitter feeling that you might lose your love interest to another. The driving force to keep you on your toes and try your best to prove you are the ‘better choice’. In a nutshell, the conquest game all over again, hence the appeal of the lifestyle.

2.  Darker side of jealousy is often hiding other bigger issues

Take time to assess why you are feeling jealous. The problem with jealousy is that it masks other feelings and attitudes that are even more hurtful to us and those closest to us. Jealousy can be shielding deep-seated feelings of possessiveness, insecurity or shame formed by bad experiences in the past.
Being able to recognise these in yourself can help you work through feelings of jealousy when they do arise. Understanding the roots, triggers and reasons for our feelings of jealousy is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship, monogamous or not.

We can act against the thoughts that tell us to be suspicious, mistrusting and accusatory and in the long run it will strengthen you as an individual and improve your trust and communication with your partner.
3. Do you get turned-on by watching your partner with someone else?

    Apparently, there’s a term for it, it’s called COMPERSION.

Compersion is such a new concept, that it needs explaining…

Compersion means the feeling of being turned-on or excited for your partner when they have a good time with someone else other than you.

Yep, it’s a real thing!

Most people don’t feel compersion automatically, because we are just not conditioned for it, it’s not something we’re socialized to feel. We are taught that jealousy is a natural response of loving someone and possession is an expression of passion.

Compersion is contrary to how we view relationships and expect to operate in them. We are raised to believe that when we are one half of a couple, we should derive all our happiness and pleasure from that single partner and only experience it together with that partner. Compersion challenges this ideology.

Compersion is about acknowledging your partner’s separate needs, desires and sexual experiences. This will strengthen your relationship. Prehaps, a vast majority of you have experienced compersion many times and it’s a great feeling. This amazing feeling could possibly explain why so many couples are into hotwife and cuckold fantasies.

4.   Can anyone attain compersion?

It’s not for everyone, but most people can have that feeling if they communicate properly.

It’s a gradual process, with lots of honest and open communication with your partner.

First identify why you feel jealous. What are its roots and triggers. Once you identified them you can stop them from taking control. Most importantly, keep communicating with each other. Express your feelings and tell them when you are feeling jealous. Expressing your feeling of jealousy early is better than letting them fester. An understanding partner knows that compersion is achieved through time and lots of talk. By giving it a go, you could open your heart to many happy and interesting possibilities.

5.    Expect a fluctuation between Jealousy and compersion

Just because you felt compersion once, it doesn’t mean you have melted away feelings of jealousy forever. It takes time; you need to feel confident in yourself and your relationship. It’s important to remember that this is a journey and not a race.

It’s important to remember this, if you are feeling something that means it’s real, it doesn’t mean you’re allowed to act however you want. Bursts of jealous rage, or any other unacceptable behaviour in front of other people who are not at fault is not acceptable.

6.    Communication invalidates jealousy

Communication is the premise of non-monogamous relationships, in part because if there isn’t transparency in these relationships it will head to collision.
If you start feeling jealous communicate this to your partner so it doesn’t fester into bigger emotions of resentment and anger.
Also in conjunction to expressing yourself in a relationship is listening, actively and openly, without judgement or interruption.

How do you deal with your feelings of jealousy? Please share with us in the comments section below.

…and we couldn’t be happier to hear it!

She says “I think the idea of marriage is very romantic; it’s a beautiful idea, and the practice of it can be a very beautiful thing,”

“I don’t think it’s natural to be a monogamous person. I might be skewered for that, but I think it’s work. It’s a lot of work. And the fact that it is such work for so many people — for everyone — the fact of that proves that it is not a natural thing. It’s something I have a lot of respect for and have participated in, but I think it definitely goes against some instinct to look beyond.”   Source: news.com.au

Johansson, goes on to discuss her views on marriage, feminism and pregnancy – but we won’t bore you with all that. Instead, feast your eyes on the natural beauty while letting the news that she isn’t into monogamy sink in…

Here are our favourite Scar Jo gif moments:

That moment when she shared a steamy kiss with Penelope Cruz in Vicki Cristina Barcelona:

That moment when her bouncing bosom stole the show in He’s Just Not That Into You:

That moment when we all wished we were Bradley Cooper:

That moment that we all realised this was our ultimate fantasy…

…close followed by this ending:

And my personal favourite? This moment from We Bought A Zoo:

What are your thoughts on what Scar Jo has to say about monogamy? Share your opinion with us below!

You have invested hours shopping to find the ideal gift and the sexiest outfit for your Valentine’s Day date. You plan to look amazing head to toe. Your make up will be perfect, you’ll smell good and you are going to look sexy as hell – mood is set and you are the ideal model. Time for some Valentine’s photo session.

This is the perfect opportunity to take some sexy photos and freshen up your personal photo repertoire.

And guess what …  You can use these photos to finally update your RHP profile.

Here are some suggestion…..

1.    Dress for success

You got that one covered because you have already done that part, as you were getting ready to go out on your Valentine’s date. Bring extra outfits, at least three, hey you’re in the mood might as well roll with the flow.

2.    Practice poses

Before you start, practice a couple of poses and facial expressions. Use what’s around you creatively.

For example use mirrors to do some trick-photography.

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Use a chairs, window sills or the bed for some of your poses.

Play with a strand of pearls…..

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Obligatory butt shot is 100% necessary. You’re getting the picture, let your imagination flow.

The power of the wet t-shirt….

3.  Bad to the bone

Why the heck not add some flare to your photo shoot, bring on the bad girl image and use some props that show you are a sexy vixen. Whips and chains will add a bit of naughty seduction.

4.  Have fun

Turn on the music, grab a glass of wine and let go of your inner goddess.

Better yet, look over a favourite model of yours and learn a few of her signature poses. Focus on your best assets, boobs, legs, booty, or your sexy smile and face.
Taking sexy photos and looking at your lover through the lenses of your camera is sure to heat things up for you. The posing and the constant snapping is your foreplay for the night. Both of you will be pretty worked up for what is to come next – lust and steamy sex. If you are game continue to snap away and capture yourselves in the some passionate pics.
Later, go over your new pics and upload them to your profile, they will certainly be a hit.

That’s Valentine’s Day giving all year long.
Happy Valentine’s Day

image credit: Instagram & Google images

With 50 Shades returning to the cinemas, you must admit that kink has entered your mind a couple of times.

Time to get your kink on, why not explore your freak side? And put your kinky bucket list ’50 shades’ style into play.

Whether it’s a soft or more full on fantasy where you use bondage ropes, a blindfold or whips – we’ve got something for every, ahem, taste level.

There’s another world of edgy fun to be had outside the vanilla plain.

Here are the top 10 activities to help you get your kink on.

1.  Ravishment/ forced sex

A lot of women fantasise about this forceful kind of sex. Why? Women, like men, are at times too shy to express their fantasies and desires. When a man tells her what to do, the woman is able to give herself permission to do the naughty and risqué fantasies she feels a little embarrassed about to admit she wants, but deep down really wants to try it.
Does the Fifty Shades Of Grey frenzy make more sense to you now?

2. Fetishes & Kinks

If you like high heels, leather, latex, silk, girdles, fur, or spandex – the list is endless – now is the chance to play with it. Put on your sexiest heels and have sex just in them. If your partner gets excited when he sees you wearing latex, rubber, vinyl or other shiny and tight materials indulge them.

3.   Sex with strangers

There is something sexy, kinky and mysterious about sex with a stranger. Pretend you don’t know each other and meet at the bar. Or really meet a stranger to have that one filled night of passion.

4. Threesome

Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy for both men and women. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to watch your partner have sex with someone else, or wanted them to watch you get with someone else. Maybe you want to experience having two partners at the same time, or to have a sexual experience with whatever gender you usually don’t hook up with. For tips on how to have a successful three way read –  5 tips for a successful threesome.

5.  Try new sex toys

Try the hottest sex toy in the world – womanizer she’ll be pleased. If you want to try out some pegging then get a good strap-on and let the games begin. Want to know more about Pegging: What The Heck Is It?
Toys are a great way to heat things up and you can have hours of fun.

6.  Domination/Submissive role-play

Power is a rush. Many women dream about having a man obey their every wish, so why not unleash your inner dominatrix and try it out in the bedroom? Call all the shots or make commands with whips, handcuffs and blindfolds. Blindfolding is a simple way to incorporate sensory deprivation into your play, and it adds a fun power dynamic:

Many women also fantasize about being submissive and losing control to their partner.

7. Role Play

From doctor/patient to French maid, role-playing is the perfect way to step out of your norms and turn your night into hours of eroticism. Bring imagination into your sexual encounters as an adult by engaging in some role-play.
Love a man in uniform? Play boss and secretary. No matter what you choose, role-play is a fun way to start experimenting with being in a different head space. It’s a great stepping-stone as you get into the Dom/ Sub roles.

8. Erotic spanking

Go ahead! Smack that ass! Feel the sweet sting of your partner’s hand.
One great trick is to be light and sensual with some caressing in between slaps.

The main reason people enjoy spanking is that it taps on two major aspects – sensation play and the sub play. At times your body isn’t going to respond to the ‘traditional’ stimuli for sex and a great way to initiate sex is to trick and surprise your brain – remember your brain is your major sex organ. The arousal is almost instant.

9. Orgy/Group sex

Certainly not everyone’s fantasy, but if you enjoy threesomes and are curious about bringing more partners into the bedroom, this might be one thrilling and liberating one to explore.

10. Worship

Love a particular area of your partner’s body? Then spend some extra time lavishing attention on it.  Kiss and suck those toes, if that gets your juices going. If you love breasts, spend an hour massaging them with oil. Indulge in some great bouncy boob gifs. If you love her butt give it the attention it deserves. Have a look at our butt gifs Sexy Ass Tuesday.
Your partner will love it, because you are giving them the biggest compliment by loving their body, even if it’s one particle part of your body.

Want to throw routine right out of the window, then adding some kink into your sex life might just be the thing. We all benefit in learning new ways to enjoy sex. You never know if you like it until you try it.

Related: 10 Fetishes You Didn’t Know You Had

What actually happens in a swingers club?

Our friends and super-cool, naughty couple Lawrence and Jess who own the Sydney swingers club “Our Secret Spot’. Spoke with The Triple M Grill Team recently and discussed how the swinging lifestyle actually works.

It should go without saying, these guys know what they are talking about. They have become a bit of a swinging celebrity in Australia, and have traveled the world and visited the biggest and best swingers clubs in Europe, the US and Canada.

Check out the interview podcast below:

Whether you’re a Sydney resident or visiting Sydney, don’t miss the opportunity to go down to Our Secret Spot swingers club in Sydney and meet Lawrence & Jess in person, and experience the hottest swingers club in Australia.