For a lot of couples in the swinging lifestyle, it all started out with the desire to have a threesome, specifically a 3way with another girl. Couples who wanted to find a second girl to fulfill either the man’s fantasy of having two women at the same time, or the woman to explore her bi-side.

This is not the easiest fantasy to have fulfilled – the chase of the elusive ‘unicorn’. It’s not a secret that the willing, single women couples fantasise about are a rarity but not an impossibility altogether. There are single women out there willing to do threesomes but not enough for all the couples wishing to have it happen to them. Or more important, the way they envisage the fantasy to happen. Too focused on their own needs, they forget to consider the third party wishes, desires, boundaries and expectations.

However, why are couples obsessing over a threesome that involves only a single woman? This is often leads to very good opportunities being cast aside. Are we looking at 3way all the wrong way?

For couples and women who are interested in experiencing sex with more than one person, maybe inviting a single man and changing the FFM to MFM threesome is what a lot of couples have been missing out on. Cultural attitudes toward sex, sexual identity and relationships changed, and therefore it is time to broaden the way we look at threesomes.

House of Cards, on Netflix, or the TV series made waves last year when Claire Underwood (Robin Wright) and her husband, Francis (Kevin Spacey), seduced a handsome young Secret Service agent. Propelling the move away from the traditional threesome to be typically as two women and a man. The trend has been set in motion, so let’s jump the bandwagon and enjoy what seems to be the easier ‘unicorn’ to catch.

Here are the top 7 reasons why a MFM threesome might just be the thing for you as a couple exploring your sexuality:

  1. A huge advantage with MFM type of threesomes are that women seem to suffer from less insecurities, such as comparing themselves to the other girl, or whether her man likes the new girl better. It allows the woman to learn to focus on her pleasure rather than on her insecurities. Too often women’s pleasures falls to the wayside on the priority list, but in a MFM her pleasure is at the center.
  2. Another advantage of MFM threesome is if your lady has a great sexual drive, two men might be more satisfying. She can consider new exciting possibilities that can only be achieved through having sex with two men, such as DP, hotwifing and cuckolding. Sure men can suffer from performance anxiety in front of other males. Realistically, today that barrier is not a big factor, in view of today’s more relaxed attitudes to sex and relationship dynamics. Couples in general are more liberal in their thinking and are not offended or shocked at some MM interaction.
  3. Which brings us to this point. There is a lot of curiosity with MM interaction and what better way to fulfill your guy’s bi-side. For many straight people, a threesome is the first place they experience same-sex erotic contact. This can be incredibly exciting and liberating.
  4. Most men would find it difficult to please two women at the same time. Unless you are a man with a great drive in which a FFM is ideal for you and also ideal for women in relationships that want to explore their bi-side. Women in general are capable of having several orgasms and each has a different sensation – clitoral, vaginal, multiple orgasms, squirting orgasm and g-spot orgasms, the many reasons why women can handle multiple men at once.
  5. The other great thing about a MFM threesome is that it’s waaaay  easier to put together than the other kind. Sure, you can run the risk of the boner proximity issue, but in today’s changed and relaxed sexual attitudes this isn’t an issue anymore.
  6. In many ways having threesomes that involve two men and one woman will teach the woman to find her pleasure, focus on her pleasure and also relax about issues of insecurities and jealousy. Experiencing  first hand what it truly means to share an experience with her partner that enriches their relationship. Maybe MFM for many women is a stepping stone to a FFM, as they learn that threesomes are nothing than a sexual explorations and not a threat to a well established relationship.
  7. Last, there’s something sexy about a confident, sensual woman who is capable of handling two men at the same time.

These are only a few good reason to try a MFM threesome, but there are probably many more that could be listed. If you have anymore to add let us know in the comments below