Threesomes are by far the most common sexual fantasy for both men and women. While this fantasy might be incredibly exciting, the dynamics of it can be a bit tricky. Threesome can be initially awkward as the dynamics changes from 2 to 3 and therefore it is really important to negotiate everyone’s terms, and to be clear about boundaries from the start. Keep in mind the following when having your choice of three-scoop combination:

1. Communication & Consent

Communication and consent are the key to any sexual activity. All affected parties need to have a talk so that no one crosses a boundary they didn’t know existed. Talk about what’s on and off the table, ensure everybody is on the same page including your special guest. It’s also a good idea to ask your special guest what s/he is comfortable with doing, this is about all of you after all.

2. Take it slow

You don’t have to go all the way the first time you hook up, take it easy. You can choose to have small breaks and gauge how everyone is feeling or just meet another time and continue what you started.However, if everything feels great from the beginning then let yourself just enjoy the ride.

3. Get everyone involved.

A common mistake for novices is thinking everyone needs to be involved at all times to feel included. Some of the hottest moments in a threesome can be when you are watching two people enjoying each other. If you have voyeuristic tendencies this is a huge turn on. This could also spike interest in cuckold and hotwife fantasies. However, everybody should have a bit of fun and not feel left out. So pay everybody equal amount of attention.

4. It doesn’t change you or your relationship.

Another hurdle is worrying too much about what a threesome means. If a threesome happens to figure out a new realm of both your sexuality, that’s great, but there’s no need to worry that a threesome says anything about who you are. Bringing another man into the equation doesn’t mean your boyfriend is gay or you are a slut, it only means you are both willing to explore and push your boundaries. Life’s too short to allow our antiquated ideas of sexuality to blind us, we live in more progressive times. It’s your sex life and you establish your sex rules with your partner. Sex is exciting when you mix things up a little.

5. Pick your three-scoop combination.

Finally, the type of threesome that suits you best depends on you as a couple. Whatever threesome you choose make sure you finish with expressing that you had ‘fun’. It does increase your chances of seeing your guest again, especially if you meshed well together.

Threesomes are a fun fantasy for committed and secure couples, a way to experiment sexually together. Affording couples an openness that brings them closer together and take their sex life to a whole new level. The important thing to remember is that threesomes or any other sexual activity will only work if all parties sexual and emotional needs are considered. Threesomes can be incredibly hot, memorable and arousing when they are successful. But remember for many people, the threesome is best as a fantasy alone.