What Her Underwear Style Says About Her Style In Bed

She’s almost naked — congratulations! Before you go any further, take a cue from her underwear to figure out what she’s in the mood for that night.

You know that saying that “shoes make the man?” Well, panties make the woman … at least, they do when we’re horny and are about to sleep with you for the first time. Fact is, we put a lot of thought into what underwear we’re wearing if we know you’re going to be seeing it at the end of the night. We even spend a significant amount of time in front of the mirror asking ourselves important questions like: Are these too slutty? Are these not slutty enough? Does this lace G-string demonstrate that I have girlfriend potential? Sure, maybe it’s crazy. But you benefit by seeing us in awesome lingerie.
So take it from me — whatever a girl is wearing when you two are first starting to hook up can reveal a lot about not only her personality in general, but about what she’s craving in bed that night. Consider this your cheat sheet.

Ruffles and Bows

When a woman has sex with you for the first time, she’s giving you a gift. Fine, go ahead and roll your eyes. I’ll wait. And get this: “When she wears underwear like this, she’s literally wrapped herself up like a gift,” says Jennifer Baumgartner, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book You Are What You Wear. That means she wants you to make her feel treasured and special. So the key to unleashing her wild side (and believe me, she has one) is to do stuff like light a few candles and pour her a glass of champagne. Cheesy? Maybe, but it’ll work. Oh, and one more thing: This chick likes it when you take control. She dresses extra girly because she’s turned on when you’re manly — so make out with her against the wall, gently tug her hair, etc.

G-string

I know you’re probably thinking, “Isn’t a G-string just a thong?” But that’d be like me asking if your tighty whities are the same thing as a jock strap. Whereas a thong is made of actual fabric, a G-string is a couple of inches of cloth held up by what amounts to dental floss. So when a girl wears a G-string, she’s not exactly sending the message that she only does it in the dark. “A woman who wears a G-string is secure in who she is, and she’s more uninhibited,” Baumgartner says. A woman on a G-string thrives on being on display, so she’ll be into positions like cowgirl and doggie style. And make sure you compliment her ass, too. After all, she’s not enduring a self-inflicted wedgie for you to stare meaningfully into her eyes.

Boyshorts

Personally, these are my favorite. (Sorry, is that TMI?) [Not at all.—Ed.] Not only are they universally flattering, they also have what I like to call to the perfect butt cheek to fabric ratio: It shows enough ass to make a guy hard in a single glance, but it also covers up just enough to make him curious about what’s underneath. “Boyshorts are all about the tease,” says Baumgartner. “A woman who wears them likes to play hard to get.” That means she craves lots of drawn-out, teasing foreplay. Spend lots of time kissing, stroking, dry humping, whatever, before you go below the belt, and she’ll think you’re the best sex ever (but don’t tell her I told you that).

White Cotton Panties

A woman who chooses (seductive) tighty whities is low maintenance. “She’s the no-frills type,” Baumgartner tells me. “She doesn’t need sexy fabric or prints to show you she’s hot.” Her preference also suggests that she’s comfortable around you and likes you enough to reveal her vulnerable side. “It’s the underwear equivalent of seeing her without her makeup on.” And when it comes to sex, she likes things simple (at least at first), so save Flying Anteaters positions for when you’ve hooked up a few times.

Retro Underwear

First of all, retro isn’t some euphemism for granny panties. Yeah, it’s high-waisted and pretty much covers all of her ass, but don’t underestimate its boner-inducing powers. (If the woman to the left sauntered into your bedroom, would you really be bummed out?) According to Baumgartner, this style of underwear is designed to exaggerate the female figure, so when a woman wears this she wants you to be mesmerized by her curves. “She’s the type of woman who feels powerful in her femininity — but she still wants you to make the first move.” Translation: She may want to start out in missionary, but there’s no telling where she’ll want to end up.

Statement Underwear

If you unzipped her jeans to find a helpful message bannered across her ass, she’s either hoping you’ll laugh or begging for a spanking. (If you’re unsure, however, I suggest erring on the side of caution.) “This is her way of breaking the ice,” Baumgartner says. “First-time sex can be awkward, and she’s the type of person who uses humor to make things more relaxed.” So take her bait and say something witty about whatever the message is; in the case of the pair at the left, it could be as simple as, “That’s French for ‘Take these off immediately,’ right?” Witty (and naughty) banter clearly turns her on, so using it really will make her want to drop her panties.